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OMG
But seriously I saw nothing wrong with any of those pics!

Read every post in this thread. Very interesting topic. It would have been a nice discussion without all the heckling. Una dey try.

greatgod2012:
50 million naira to get a grave
Na wa o!
I'm not hating, envious nor jealous but as for me, I'll rather wish such amount of money
be used to better people's lives, especially the less privilege ones. That's if I'm the owner o and my remains buried in a less expensive grave or even cremated.

No vex o.......lol.....

Not vexing, lol
I was stunned when I heard the price but apparently they put into account security, serenity and sentimental value. The fact that you are assured your loved one is safe for all time and you can visit them in a calm environment, also the upkeep and maintanence of the gravesite etc.

Also interested in cremation. Any idea how.much it costs? I heard its expensive.

emilyone:
Vicrtoria Garden cemetary

Thanks. Any idea how much it costs?

A friend of mine got buried at the vaults and gardens and I heard it costs N50million to get a grave there. Looking for something cheaper.

Apart from the Vaults and Garden cemetary in Lagos, does anyone know of any private cemeteries in Nigeria, especially the south, and how much it would cost to bury someone there? Thanks.

Localamos:
Nice one!

Thanks

mineANDurs:
Z

Z for Zeeworld

I found this submission a lady made on her husband interesting. Pls read and enjoy.

"My husband is not the same person I married. He's grown into my dream man and he continues to get better and better with each day. If I would have written him off in the beginning because he wasn't my perfect whatever, then I would have never seen the man that God called him to be. So if you are single or courting, make sure your deal breakers are in place (like salvation) and then give your guy a break. Stop pushing him to be something that he hasn't developed into yet. If you are patient , loving, kind while praying over nagging, you will give God a chance to go in and change him. Whenever I had a problem with Cornelius, I would report him to God. Then, God would show me where I was wrong so as God was changing me...he was also changing him. Now I look up and we've come so far. Most people like how far you have come but they don't want to do the work that comes with it. So if you want to get married, get ready to get to work.
-Heather Lindsey | @heatherllove

I liked this post. I don't know why. But I did.

jnrbayano:
Never said his behaviour shouldn't get molded by correcting him whenever he "errs".

It isn't right to view behaviours of adult and children through the same lens.

That mother who spanked him misjudged the situation.

So u agree the child should have been corrected then. Your problem is with how the correction took place. But that is what I said in my first response. We r going round in circles.

I think op is just upset that the "fine" "handsome" boy that was giving him joy in mass was well and brutally wallopped

jnrbayano:
What you emboldened from the Op is not wrong as you summarily put it.

That child is a toddler and to a great extent must be allowed to make some mistakes brought about by nature.

Nuture must never override nature.

Lol
And how will the child know its a mistake if u don't correct him?

Onegai:
Foolishness on the part of the boy's parents. Your child is running up and down in church, distracting everyone and you let him. Then he wants another child's toy and rather than you step up and teach your son how to politely ask for the toy (we taught all the kids in our family "please" and if they don't give you, let go), you let him get into a fight. And you are there forming angry because another parent did YOUR job and put your kid in place?



If you don't want someone else to parent your child, you better do so.

I took my baby to the clinic and another mother was there with an older child. That one walked up to our diaper bag and picked out the toy my child puts in her mouth, to play with and rub on the dusty floor. The other child's just sat down and ignored as if it was her child's right to take whatever she wanted. If I was a slapping mother, someone for chop slap that day. And I truly should have taken the toy back and loudly said "if you take things without asking, people will accuse you of stealing", so that mother will get up and parent her child.

But you didn't , did you?
You actually should have done so, it would have corrected the parents (most parents don't know any better about raising kids) and also cautioned them against a next occurrence with another kid.

It is a pity we no longer believe in the social upbringing of the child anymore. In our particular society it would have been very advantageous in teaching children respect for authority and elders and also helped imbibe responsibility in them. Sadly we would rather copy western society in this regard and get the same results of recalcitrance they are getting.

jnrbayano:
It was with great delight I watched a young handsome energetic boy child play for a good part of the 2hour mass(church) I attended this morning.

Looking around I realised I was not alone in the lookry business. He indeed has got the smiles that made participating actively in the mass celebration a distant 2nd option. Forgive me Lord.

The boy quickly picked out playmates, integrated well with them and wouldn't wanna go back to his parents that kept calling him to return to them.

Suddenly, the boy's smiles quickly turned to tears. He desired the toy another child was having, went after it, soon, a little fight broke out between the toy owner and him and the boy got a spank from the other child's mother who apparently has lept in defence of her child.

I remember Jean Piaget, a foremost psychologist taught that at 2-7years, a child is egocentric. The child at this stage is unable to see situation from another person point of view.

This incident typified the little boy's behaviour and as such shouldn't get such treatment from anybody for that matter much less who is not his parent.

Why won't that "so called mother" (defender) just take her "golden" child away from that situation in other to protect her? Why spank off the ebullience in that little boy?

How will you react when such treatment or similar treatment is meted-out to your child?

What justification has that mother that spanked that little boy? Is there any?

Onye mee ya nwa m, mmee ya alu.

Have your say.....

Lalasticlala, let people see, answer and learn to save some people from arrest and retribution.

@bolded, wrong pls.
Yes the child is at that stage but it behoves on the parent to correct the child so as to mould his or her character to view things from other people's point of view. It may be done either via corporal or cooperative correctioning depending on what part of the divide your belief falls in. Otherwise the child remains in this stage and grows up to be selfish or a sociopath. Even the cartoons and children's programs they show nowadays attempt to teach little children to share toys and play in a productive manner. If you don't teach them they won't learn.

Your grouse should rather be wether it was proper for the mother of the other child to spank the boy or wetuer his own mother should have corrected him. But someone should correct him nonetheless.

ahnie:
When your brother was assistin his wife to serve food,and tyin yams for his wife's cousin,you complained that your bros has bn bewitched.that you wanted downloadin your jaguda mother about your findings...oyind17 i find you very disgusting,yu are multifaceted,its your type that,would call back your husbands brother to return the gifts,that he received from your husband....btw please come to my house,and verify that i still serve my husband's meal in stainlez plates.#flips boo.bs#

How on earth do you flip boobs

edwife:
You can say that again.

@Op goodluck hun, favour will be your portion.Amen

Now this is a supportive wife. Lol
Honestly this is like a breath of fresh air. It seems nairaland thrives on family feuds and fights, its good to see nice gestures like these once in a while.

This is an old story. Seen it a year ago on Facebook.

Now this is a supportive wife. Kudos.

Oyind17:
Yes Sir!
If men turn woman wrapper women will be submissive

Hahaha
Its not that simple my brother.
For a woman to be submissive to her husband there has to be love yes, but there also has to he dignity and authority.
However I get your point.

This story is most likely a fabrication like tpiar has said.

Even if its true then we should be pyschologically evaluating and addressing the woman's fears. She cannot condemn her husband to a lifetime of condom use especially when there are better alternatives. It is unfair and unjust and will definitely create friction in the marriage.

What sort of family planning did she do? Implants? Injectables, the coil? Surely there are more reassuring methods for her to engage in that will reassure her and be more efficient at preventing pregnancies. All non-surgical forms of contraception are less than a 100%, even the condom she is thrusting (no pun intended) on her husband.

When sorting out family problems it is best to remember that you are dealing with people who have feelings and desires as well.

Tufanja:
[s]
If this is the level of Nigerian doctors I pity the woman over there, they deserve way better care. You are talking like a textbook with no proper training in practice and no proper clinical reasoning skills. [/s]Just ask yourself what happens with a cycle that is under hormonal contraceptive? There is no cycle. When their is a failure in appliance of the used contra-ceptive you have no cycle to rely on and no control on defining the moment of ovulation.

Apart from that, many woman have a irregular cycle and defining the exact moment of ovulation aint that easy (that is where fertility clinics get their business from!). You also forgot to mention that you have to count the lifespan of sperm cells too. There are cases found in which spermcells survived 5 days in the female body. Which drastically reduces the available safe days.
[s]
#I am pretty shocked that you as a doctor (at least that is what your moniker pretends) are giving this faulty information on a public forum[/s]

You passed your message across in a very derogatory manner which was highly unnecessary. He wasn't rude to you.

khattab02:
And he hits the knockout blow!!!












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Marxxx:
Jeeeezzzz....dude seems like you know just what is in my head....i mean exactly how I feel...but you didn't put up any prescription....?hello

My prescription is in the last paragraph. Give it time before your next relationship. Be careful not to jump headlong into a new one. Wait for the emotional void you are experiencing to disappear (although it never fully does) before u start any "serious" relationship.

If u r waiting for a prescription to remove these emotions u r feeling right now, honestly I don't have an answer to that except for u to ride it out.

PresVA:
my dear oo.. .. when he was with the lady for many years, 'chopping' her money on top, he didn't know the lady was 'dull', not a go getter and not posh... He suddenly wants the lady to completely change into what he wants her to be without knowing it will take time and also a change of environment/lifestyle....
Or it's not just in the lady which isn't her fault afterall she has been herself from day 1 of d relationship not like she disguised herself so the op knew her kinda person from day 1... this life ehhh

Anyway, breakup happens. ... life must go on!

You're twisting the tale. No need for bad blood here, if he doesn't want he doesn't want. Let him be.

Breaking up is tough on sensitive guys esp when its with someone u truly loved. Nothing tastes good, everything tastes like newspaper. You flinch anytime you think of her and your heart skips a beat for no apparent reason. Its like you are in an emotional desert where nothing makes sense anymore and at the same time the smallest things reminds you of her and the good times you had. You begin to wonder why you broke up in the first place.

This is also a most vulnerable time, you are feeling emotionally starved and any lady that comes along will easily fill that void even if naturally you wouldn't find her attractive. It is at times like this that you can make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life. You might meet a girl that ordinarily isn't your specs but cos of the emotional void you take her in and make her fill the void. You close your eyes to her faults and think you can change her to fit the kind of person that you like, and if you are someone the girl desires as well she will pretend to go along with whatever u like. One day however she will revert to her true nature and by then you would have either impregnated her or married her.

So you have to guard yourself . Be very vigilant.

I was one of those against your breaking up with that girl, but its like u went ahead and did it. Well, its your life, only you know what you really want. If you can survive the next few months without her then by all means do so. Just make sure the next relationship you get into is not born out of a need to fill the void this one has created.
Cheers bro.

Nice one op but some women do take this priviledge to humiliate their husbands.

It has come to my notice that many nairalanders comment without reading first.

mattodunsi:
Lagos, Nigeria

Go to luth. See a urologist.


Erectile dysfunction can be caused by one or a combination of three factors:
Psychological
Physical
Illness.

Your issue could be one or a combination of these. Stop taking drugs and see the urologist there. It will be taken care of. Cheers.

lilmax:
bald head Watch

Lol
She dey talk her own na. Talk your own.

mattodunsi:
I appreciate ur contribution, is not as if i have not visited doctor, may be i can agree he‘s a quack, but how do i know a professional

What part of the country r u?