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Acidosis:
No one can make me abandon my family, so I had to look closely before I choose my partner to avoid clashes & surprises.

About the insult, I personally won't take that. As regards those encouraging you to pamper her to avoid insults, they're only trying to be romantically theoretical. Do not accept such advice. A man or a woman with good manners, raised either from a bad or a good home, would never use such heavy words on her partner.

I don't know what to tell you since I have never dated such. However, you know your woman more than anyone here, so I think you need to do what's best for you.

Some women are psychologically allergic to romance and all the fairy novel tales on this thread. For a woman who feels total disgust and disrespect for her man, no amount of swimming, tennis, cinema, or shopping can permanently cure her. She needs to be threatened, or returned to her father's house to learn Basic Home Training.

Cutehector:
do what pls? And wat's wit all the again and again comments from u? Huh

Cutehector:
Awww, it is always at this point, most married women are vulnerable...

Why not seek the face of God like the women of old did? He will answer u

Cutehector:
I think ur wife is selfish.





No offense.

Buh allow her stay.

Cutehector:
She is really sex starved... u guys should just let her be.. get her some intimacy gadgets.

charix:
You're getting there.

SexyStrawberry:
This is the more reason why I will never work for anyone as soon as I'm married, if my husband can't support me in opening up my own business, den I'll rather stay at home ( personally with or without his help, I'll find a way out on being my own boss) coz I can't answer sir to any man out there when my husband is there. As for the insults, it comes naturally as long as ur bleeping yourselves, U've known yourselves in and out, married or not, it only takes an exceptionally matured minded woman not to insult at the slightest provocation.

yvelchstores:
Strategy...

lonelydora:
Except me. I am a married man with a difference. Chai...... I love my lovely wife too much and can never cheat on her. What am I looking for in other girls that she doesn't have times 10. Baby I love you.

OohMpa:
[color=#808000]Mama: Ooh Mpa, who be this? You bring house girl for me. My son is doing well

Ooh Mpa: Mama, no she's my wife

Mama: What did you say?

Ooh Mpa: I said she's my...

Mom: [/color]

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edwife:
There is a huge difference.This is my understanding of a good person.

[b]"Are you a good person?," who do you think is more likely to say, "I'm good"? The good one or the evil one?
The evil one! He could kick his own mother in the stomach and still think he's good. You say, "That's terrible! How could you do such a thing?" He rationalizes and says, "You don't understand. She asked me to take out the garbage. If I do it, who knows what else she'll ask for next? This could go on forever!"
As for the good person, he takes out the garbage. But if you would then tell him, "I see you're a good person," he says, "No, I'm really not so good. Didn't you notice that while I was taking out the garbage I kicked my mother in the stomach?"
"What are you talking about? I was watching and you didn't kick your mother in the stomach!"
"Well, I didn't actually kick her. But I was grumbling as I carried out the garbage. I wanted my mother to feel bad. I was in the middle of a good book, and if I don't register my protest, who knows – she might ask me to do it again tomorrow!"
Do you see the difference? The evil person will always say he's right. He doesn't bother trying to be good, so he never feels a struggle. He just assumes he's good.
Whereas the person who really tries to be "good" knows how tough the job is. And he's always striving for a higher level.
There's a third type: The fully righteous person, the Tzaddik. He takes out the garbage and says, "It's my pleasure, Mom. You work so hard to take care of us. So thank you for the opportunity to express my appreciation!"[/b]

I am not good to people because i want something from them,it is a ridiculous thing to say. My parents,siblings are good to me for the person I am and represent in their lives and not for what they can get from me. So if your kid is disrespectful will it stop you from being a good mother or a good person to him? I might cut down his allowances,be strict about many things but i won't STOP being a good person.

It is either you are good,bad or evil.
cc byvan03

allycat:
My advice is for you to take your mind off sex for a short while and get to know each other again. Maybe she feels all you want from her is sex. Take her out alone without the kids sometimes, for a movie or for dinner take a bat with her wit out inai sting it ends with sex. Play scrabble or whatever game the two of you once enjoyed. Talk to her, if she doesn't come to bed go and meet her and join her in whatever she is doing even if she says it's OK. Become her boyfriend again. Sometimes we get caught up in our roles as parents and forget our spouses matter. Sometimes it's small resentments that build up and snowball into big things.
Then again if your last child is less than two consider post part depression, it can turn the bubbles and most fun woman into a ghost of herself. Everything around them becomes hopeless and they cannot explain to themselves what's more to another person why they are acting the way they do.
Good luck!

ANANABA000:
Thanks for all the many admonition Guys.
You're all so very awesome.

However, we're missing out a few things here.
I never mentioned that I cheated anywhere in my post, neither was I caught doing that.
I give my kids all the attention they deserve and they love and appreciate me.
Of course I'm not a saint, but I'm better than 80% of Guys in my age range And in same situation.

It's odd to have a woman of the house act the way mine does and I doubt that it's due to hormonal changes.
I unfortunately have the responsibility of living with a woman who still walks the streets in tight jean trousers after two kids.
I've never met her mother after 5 years of wedlock all thanks to her parent's divorce some 20 something years ago.

You know, that category of women, who believe they still have "something to give to society" not just hubby.
Those who invest in sexy pants and lingerie yet don't have the urge for sex with hubby.

That category of women who spend all their time outdoors, while a nanny does all the hard work and have nothing to show for all the wasted time.
That category of women who leave home at 7am and return at 8pm yet their kids look like orphans.

How I got into this?
After two heartbreaks from two relationships. One due to genotype mismatch, the other due to not having family consent. I spun into action to salvage my situation.
I courted for 9 months, I was desperate to have kids then.
I had a string of girls and she was just one of them.

Apparently, she was the one who was desperate enough to endure being a foot mat.
It was all about the baby not the Mama.
I pushed and kicked, I bad mouthed and cursed but she stayed until the pregnancy came and that made me think twice.
Five years down the line I have a home I wish will break.
You need to really imagine my situation to understand what I'm going through.
I wonder why people find it hard to give it up when it's not yielding the desired love as designed by God.
I wonder why I have to live with trying for a happy home for the rest of my useful life when it doesn't seem possible.

So I'm not asking for how to make it right, I'm asking for how to put an end to this marriage.
I'm sure we have experts in the house including experienced members who know how to end a union.

cionon:
Where was it mentioned me and the neigbhour talked of juju? U pple shiuldnnot remix the version nau. Read and understand.
Nobody talked of juju with me. She was only telling me what she did to conceive. What my husband can take to boost our chances of conceiving. And I sawntge local thing as a risk to my husband's health and told her i dont want to be a widow.

If you had read through the thread, you will see I didn't gossip. I mean do I need to keep repeating how it went. I don't even tell of my marital issues to friends. I have been battling separation since and my best friend just knew of this on Tuesday and was surprised. Cos her first question was you can't just go through divorce you both must have been having issues

sonya4all:
@cionon you probably saw a lot of african magic movies a well as took most things you read on nairaland too serious and tried to experiment them in your marriage,which sadly resulted to this,judging by your previous threads over the years. so sorry.learn your lesson now

marshalcarter:
Women deceivin men since esau and jacob


That issue of blood group..I sumhw blame the man but lemme leave matter for op

LouisBERG:
She sat and watched my infact head when sleeping on a cradle bed, she sucked my catarrh with her mouth, she carried me on her back with wrappers, she fed me, she sang sweet melodies when i do cry. She guilded and protected me from sustaining injuries. Oh my!! Mama u'r d best. any person who won't use the brush is not proud of his/her mother.
#caLLmeBERG

zaynie:
It costs like $10,000-12000(N2m) to freeze eggs and $500-800 for subsequent years.
That is cheap for a serious 'career' woman.
This is someone that owns her own house, her state of art car, has more than enough in her account, earns like N2m monthly.
We are talking about your typical high profile, money hustling, target driven,super focused boss lady here.
Heck! You men buy cars that cost more than that.


Picture this:
A young lady in her early 20s has to make a choice between getting married and starting a family or going for this Graduate Trainee job. She goes for the job, gets thru and is paid like 200k monthly.
She's single and earning that. The job is time consuming and exhausting. It doesnt give her any chance to meet guys and the few times she hooks up, she can't follow through. Soon she is 30. She knows there is a clock ticking somewhere and she longs to have a family.
She talks to her Gyne and he tells her about this freezing of eggs that costs N2m. Even if it means saving up for it. She does.
Fast forward to 40. Fast forward to a full blown 'career woman'. No husband, No marriage. Tell me she won't remember her frozen eggs somewhere.
Some women will even take loan from their workplace to freeze the eggs and pay back over time.

@Crackhaus, do you mean a single supposedly smart woman with a good job or a thriving business will work for 10 good years and not be able to afford N2m?
Haba!


Dont get me wrong, I am very pro-marriage. But if a girl wants to hustle....good for her!

halfricanadian:
Criosly i kno its in d ovary but atleast in a laymans language nd pls do ur research well d amount of eggs u release as menses matters alot o in any cycle

Why do u think women freeze their eggs can u explain why if against my write up?

pinkiberry:
am a woman and am telling u now that your wife is cheating on u with another man .

Ujoan:


Is this a joke or what?

greatgod2012:
@op,
HAVE YOU EVER CHEATED ON YOUR WIFE AND SHE CAUGHT YOU

ANANABA000:
Wow!

Thanks for all the many comments and advice.
Contrary to what most of you Guys think though, I've not done anything that warrants this treatment.
Exhaustion is out of the possible causes because there's a house help that does all the hard work in the house.

Communication takes two to work, I've done my part in so many different ways.
From text messages to Whats app and BBM chat,late night discussion and even third party involvement.

I've threatened to bring in competition with a second Wife, I've threatened separation and all the other different methods you can think of.
She's young at 31 and married to me on a 7 year age difference.

We agreed to have two kids during courtship but other birth control methods between spouses should be considered instead of the condom.
On MouthAction, I wonder how many ladies on here have ever got a tongue lick down there.

Ujoan:


Don't mind @ Dyt

Me sef na learner where she dey

Dyt:
I wanna be like you when I grow up

Ujoan:
OF course, most men would act like they are all better than women . . . . if we let them!

I don't just sound like a troublesome woman, I AM a troublesome woman. I don't lay back and let men like you ride all over men . . . not when I know my worth as a person and as a human being.

I mean, here you are defending OP's husband and proudly comparing yourself to him. When you should be cautioning him and hiding your head in shame for your past mistakes.

Only a selfish man would 'not know it's a problem' not to call his family when he's far away from home. That's the point I'm trying to make, and I rest my case . . .