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Mrlekan07034617:
Hello Ma'am I see no wrong with what op did, for crying out loud those guys are graduate and this mathematics question is damn to cheap for 4 of them to Bleep up.

We all did mathematics in school @least to 'o' level stage. Forget it when it comes to job interview u expect anything, and besides the Op too needs not to confirm people of poor/low reasoning which might tarnish his records.

We understand the terrible situation out there when it comes to Job hunting but still the Op just did what he had to do.

I concur with this.
Most people are simply venting their frustration of not having a job on marxxx. The question was simple enough.

sisisioge:
Sweetheart, I think men cheat for several reasons.

There are the incorrigible ones who fit perfectly into your outlined description. They are wired like that. They are polygamous in nature. Its their fate. This ones are somewhat better to handle than the other kinds. Theirs is usually a clean bill...the chick at home is respected(that's what they say) to a certain degree. The side chicks are second class citizens. They are shown the doted lines that must not be crossed. Their presence is just to satisfy a urge...nothing more.

The other category is the deadly one. The men who cheat because they need emotional feeding, a woman to talk to, a good company... Haaa chick at home is in trouble!

I think we should marry our friends so that even when the initial gragra wears off, we would still be able to settle in in bliss. Look at him and know that bobo's got plenty to talk about or sisi needs her hands held...

Hmm.
I would think it would be the second category that would be easier to handle. Fill the emotional void and they are back on track. To them cheating is not a habit, more of a means to an end. The first group however have no self control and are more apt to bring home veneral diseases.

Tearoses
She sounds like she could be one. Or maybe knows one. Apologies if am wrong.
Also mizmycoli

Invite the boyfriend over for introduction and dinner.
Take him aside and thank him for inadvertently saving my daughter. Then show him my gun.

bukatyne:
@Bold, so so on point!

You actually read it
Wow.

Abeg no. 3 and 5 is very false!

Vikky014:
but op what if your wife is a Nairalander LMAO

It will be a good way for her to know there's a problem. You'll be surprised the wife doesn't even realise this is a big deal for him.

@poster above me.

Sorry dear.Take it easy.
Men have many reasons to cheat actually. Just that they are not usually good/acceptable reasons.

Kro1:
A friend of mine travelled abroad leaving behind his wife and two kids. One day, his wife started a chat with me on WhatsApp that she was missing her husband and she felt like having sex. We ended up chatting explicitly and I stupidly sent her a picture of a dick ( not mine ). Unfortunately, the husband got to know about the incident and all hell went loose. He has never asked me about the issue but he has not been talking to me for some time now. I'm confused and at the same time ashamed of myself....I betrayed my friend's trust. What do I do? Please note that there was no sexual affair between me and his wife.

I'd appreciate if this makes it to the front page. I need sincere advice and suggestions

You effed up big time! Your guy's wife? Bad move!
Well, for guys the friendship is most likely ended. Apologise via text or call or whatever, learn your lesson and move on.

On second thought, is she on the lightweight side? You can be the one to be positioning her like a doll while u do your business. She gets to remain like a log while u position the log front back and sideways. Win-win.

pdppower:
I want you to please advise me on this issue. I married my wife about five years ago and we have been blessed with kids. The problem is that whenever we want to have sex my wife always sleeps like a dead person. No amount of pre-intimacy or touching will make her respond. She doesn't touch nor feel moved. You might say that I should talk to her about this. I have so many times but she remains the same.
Î am a virtuous person and don't want to 'look outside'. Please, wise one in the house, what else should I do ?

Do nothing. It is your cross to bear. Bear it well.

This pic is extremely old na, about a woman that caught her maid sleeping with her husband. Like 5-6yrs old news.
Na wa for una o.

Its like many people don't understand the emotion that goes with suicide. The man was destraught. He has been described as a kind and honest person. He probably never stole the money. Have u ever been accused of stealing when u know u r innocent? Do you know how painful it feels? I'm not talking to hardened criminals who have hardened their minds and hearts but for someone who was trying to follow God with as much honestly as possible. Then the people he looked up to accuses him of stealing God's money. God himself will judge them if indeed this man was innocent. His blood is on their hands.

If the police know its suicide then why arrest the wife and son
He even wrote a note
His neighbors even attest to the fact that he andnwife had a good relationship, so why is the police arresting them?
Stupidity is high in this country oh.

Leriebloom:
I went to a relationship program today and we were asked to write questions that we wanted to be answered and when the questions started popping up , an intresting topic caught my attention which was about a woman who was raped by 6 men and who unkowingly married one of the men who raped her, the funny thing here is that this guy was aware that he was involved in the rape before he married her, yet he didnt tell her. He claims he raped her when he was still in the world and gave his life to christ before he married her. The problem here is that anytime his wife remembers the incident she reigns curses on the rapists and he feels guilty about it, he doesn't know how to tell her about his ugly past and if it would scatter the marriage.

I don't think he should tell her. Rather he should talk her into forgiving those men. Holding resentment like that apart from being unchristian keeps her from healing and progressing emotionally. He should guide her into forgiving those men and letting go.
Telling her he was part of the rapists is a very bad idea. Imagine living in the same house with someone that raped you and remembering it everytime u see the person. Nothing positive can come out of it.It's something that should be left in the past. Even God wipes away sins and 'forgets' them. He should make her focus on forgiveness and self healing instead.

Adewunmi84:
ok thanks.she have been taking obron-6,vitamin c,folic acid,b co,ferrous sulphate and MIM blood tonic since she started ante natal very early this month.

But there is no bitter drug here na, lol. Maybe Vit Bco.
Pregnacare might be more convenient instead of all these.

Adewunmi84:
now I have gotten the gist now.thanks very much.may be I should ask her to take the milo just 3 times in a week.my baby must not be ugly and thin o..thanks very much.or can she take ordinary milk alone?like powdered milk or even youghurt or the condensed peak milk?

It depends on the drug she is taking. Milk and milk products inhibit iron absorption which might be one of the antenatal drugs your wife is taking. It also inhibits folic acid though not as much.

Let her learn to drink her drugs with plain water abeg. Or at worst she can use fruit juice to drink them. This will improve absorption and is better than taking milk. She can drink the Milo separately BUT IN MODERATION.

Pregnacare is another good drug if u can afford it. Its taken once a day and very convinient.

At four months I don't think your wife or the nurses should be worried about the weight of the baby yet. Let her enjoy her milk. She can start being cautious around six months when the baby will be essentially formed and just adding weight.

yetseyi:
Marxxx

Its the first time I am hearing a guy settles a girl with cash.

First time I heard of it was with a respected man of the church during my early marriage years. Apparently its a way to appease the girl for all the years she invested in the relationship. Bizzaire.

@adewunmi,
The reason the nurses told her to stop the Milo is probably because they don't want the baby to be too big to push out. Taking excessively sugary stuff during pregnancy is likely to make you have what they call a macrosomic(big) baby. And that could cause your wife to have a c/s instead of normal delivery.
However like someone else said, everything in moderation. Tea has more caffeine than cocoa/Milo, and apart from the fact that it might actually lead to an increase in your wife's blood pressure which would not be good for her or the baby, tea is more likely going to make your wife burn off more fat thus making the baby fine out thin and fugly. You won't like the look of the baby when it comes out. Stick with the Milo but in moderation.

You already wrote that u r an introvert and u don't trust anyone. How r u planning on building a trusting relationship with the next girl? How r u sure the next girl u pick won't be interested in you because of your money? This present lady already knows u inside out. Guy be patient with her. She'll come around eventually. I think u should go ahead and propose to her.

Also how is she supposed to know the best/latest clothes to buy if she's been unexposed all her life? You r the one that is supposed to upgrade her now that you are more exposed than she is. She won't learn it automatically.

Guy hold that girl o. Forget her crass behavior, in the end its two of you alone that will live in the same house. Stop thinking of what others will say. Don't make the mistake other guys have made by leaving that which has been tested and reliable over time for something shallow. Wife your girl.

#respectwitches

This would have been interesting thread.
But i doubt many people here will respond sincerely
Most of them will just say they will leave their partner.
Even though we know its not true.

Op I don't care if you take her as your best friend , you shouldn't marry your sister! That's incest and a taboo!













Just kidding I know what u mean. Happy married life

This thread was very insightful. Thanks op.

Bad start from a rude daughter in law.

I888:
that's because there are too many bitter women in this section. This is just a tip of what crawls around here. Others are still in their cave and would be out like vampires at night.

Only a few are matured and reason from all angles before they make a post.

Hmm
Well maybe I should continue reading first. The lady has added some new info. I honestly didn't see anything wrong in the girl's action, and its not like she's there all the time.

crackhaus:
Reading the bold text makes me cringe, but I can understand how things we see and hear around us can influence how we think.

However, I did not just see step-mum and jump into conclusion. I saw step-mum and I understood that before every other reason, the girl being her step-daughter contributed immensely to the way she's reacting and handling the situation.

As for those of you who still can't let your own 14year old daughter sleep on your bed because of the sexual undertone you draw from it, then all I can say type is wow! Just wow!

I'm amazed as well!
Was all the jealousy and vexation all this while coming from a sexual point of view? Surely they dont think the man is sleeping with his daughter? On the same bed while she is there??

softcara:
I wasn't telling stories I was abt proving a point before the guy who posted above made me reserve to my myself....nobody said literature section is the only place for stories sir..thnx

Do not reserve to yourself.
If you have something to unburden then an anonymous forum like nairaland is the best place to do it.
I wasn't trying to discourage u. On the contrary I understood how u felt. I just thought that the literature section would be a better place to appreciate and cultivate your budding talent.

@softcara
So what would u like us to do?
If u want to tell stories you can go to the literature section. They have good storytellers there and also people that will even review your work and make it better.
Goodluck

Well said.