₦airaland Forum

pickabeau1:
You know i respect you too bro.. Thanks for the hailing

You still dont get the point

This is the fundamental issue here

You are talking of sentiments and what sounds good
I am talking of what is logical

afterall modern marriage is not about what is nice but based on logic

You are saying a working woman should still be placed on crutches because she had the fortune of marrying you
She is equal to you

That is insulting to our empowered ladies

Except you now say you believe in male headship in marriage
Then i support you

The bolded is what your entire engagement with Fhemmy is about. What is logical is different from what is good or sentimentally correct.

pickabeau1:
At the bolded.. i rest my case
She does not see the kids as hers' but the man's

Simple

I love the way you make your points man.

Chillisauce:
If you dont want to part with your small money. Don't get married or sign a pre-nup. It's that simple.

Then you agree with me women see marriage as a business investment.

Fhemmmy:
Always in your statement is not true, you could say MOST and we wont argue, but I dont even have to argue sef, cos you said "girl" a girl is too young to understand marriage, try and say "lady" then we could talk of many that dont need your money cos they just want a happy home

So definition of girls and ladies matters...lol

Chai! I think this guy is wired like a lady.

I love your mentality sha. It is perfect for the big marriage scam ladies are trying to run.

You will live and die a happy man.

Men like me, Pickabeau1, Coogar that apply logic are only looking for a life long of worries. It will never make sense to you and the women involved.

bukatyne:
How many 'established' guys do we have around

What is your definition of 'established'?

He already has his house, car and job before you marry him right from under your parents in most cases with nothing. Yes, that is what is in the majority.


Most ladies are deliberately ignoring the age factor that gave men the advantage.

They marry men 5yrs,6yrs, 7yrs sometimes 15yrs older than them. Unless a man lacks ambition, that age difference would probably have given him an advantage from start in the relationship in terms of what each party brought to the table.

Chillisauce:
This man you fuuny sha.

LMAO @being joyful spending all your life taking care the kids that when they turn 18yrs, will find their way. Continue being joyful, when you spend all you career peak and tomorrow, sent packing by one of your joys (husband) who practically takes everything in divorce, because you were so joyful in taking care of the kids that you forgot that joy will be your paycheck later in the yr.


You go fear reasoning na!
Things bringing joy indeed. When dem pursue you for house, we go know how far the joy go last.

You completely missed my point.

Make your own money. If you feel having a husband and babies will prevent or limit your ability to make it, do not go into marriage or have babies.

Asking to be compensated for being married and having kids is what I do not understand. Build your own house, buy your own car....forcing a man to part with his wealth because of marriage or kids is extortion in disguise.

It is quite simple.

Fhemmmy:
Here is a scenario for you...
Ada and John are fresh graduate, got a job, married and start life together from nothing, Ada making 100k Naira a month while John making 150K Naira a month.... they have 2 kinkids ages 2 and 3.... yawa gas and have to go separate ways......they have buildbuilt a nice house...
Ada gets home before John daily and cooks while getting kids ready for bed.

Who should take the house
Who should take the kids to take care?

You can not use the exception as the norm.

The norm is girls always want to marry established guys. And that is a fact.

pickabeau1:
Ok

So you build your auto empire then u marry a chic and things don't work out after a while

So Your ex is entitled to half of what u had built pre marriage because what she was your ex


What happened to her own skills

Are both parties not equal anymore

Why should one party use marriage as a means of enrichment

Stop trying to convince Fhemmy.

Women want equality with men, but they always approach all issues with men from a position of weakness.

They wait for the men to approach,they prefer older men, richer men, stronger men. They also want to profit by dating or marrying men. Even the biological role of mothers that they all crave, men must be made to pay.

I still do not understand the twisted logic!

Make your own damn money and do not see your relationship/marriage as a get away ticket away from poverty and everyone will be happy.

You can imagine some listing sex and taking care of the baby as things they should be compensated for in marriage. So these things do not bring joy anymore the moment the male figure is out of it?

raumdeuter:
The 30k was part payment for owning the asset, which he would end up losing the entire 30k if the house is foreclosed

By the time he was kicked out, if he had sold the house, he would have 30k in his own bank account rather the greedy wife took it

I read all posts from page 1 and I am highly impressed at how you and Coogar apply logic to each scenerio.

Unfortunately, majority of the ladies on the thread lack capacity for logical reasoning and you can deduce their approach is from an emotional point of view always.

Respect!

Unfortunately, the masses do not understand this is demeaning. smh

BlaqCoffee109:
...erhm, i find myself educating you on some things what you should understand by now..how not to disrespect a people especially by your ignorance...i guess you haven 't been thought well and your insensitivity is appalling..

Sister,

You are the one that needs an education.

Your Portuguese ancestral linkage and examples given by you are ridiculous.

I just realised everyone on nairaland is a born again Christian that doesn't sin.

Interesting!

acidtalk:
I have NEVER said anything on people's post or my thread that it doesn't come to pass.

I don't just speak because others are doing so. I contribute because I have FACTS on ground.

NNPC, Shell, and other privately owned oil and gas firms will all be affected. The Hurricane is real don't let anyone deceive you. It will be disastrous if Jonathan returns. Mark my word. Nigeria is in a TERRIBLE ECONOMIC STATE.

Telecommunications firms (GSM) are already downsizing. And many more will be laid off in this industry in months ahead.

You are right Acidtalk.

Where is the power to power the vacuum cleaners?

In the absence of power, brooms become indispensable.

This ID card is fake. Photoshopped!

This picture used has been in circulation for long. That explains why both ears are not showing.

Stop creating fake ID's on behalf of the president.

franugo:
can't am in 4ool #hidesface.
I think, no i know i will definitely go 2 a computer school after this wastage of 4yrs. Chai! Delsu haff kill me eh!!

OMG!

Sad at the same time hilarious

customized13:
Let him come and tell us what he has to offer, this particular election is too critical for any aspirant to avoid any form of debate.

He did in 2011 and I assume if a neutral body are the organizers, he will participate. AIT and NTA have revealed they are media house for PDP.

Will GEJ attend a presidential debate organized by TVC?

This man took part in the last debate in which other aspirants except GEJ participated.

AIT and NTA has not been neutral so it is common sense for him to ignore media houses used to ridicule him.

Did we all shout illiterate when GEJ absconded in 2011?

Let a neutral body organize this debate then we can now judge objectively. In this case, Buhari has a point.

Is the Vacuum cleaner now PDP's logo?

The appropriate write up should have been '' The Umbrella or the Broom''

OLADD:
Friend, I am not here to launder the image of Mr. president or his party but as a citizen who tries as much as possible to uphold the truth(within the ambit of my human capacity), we owe it as a duty to hit issues on the nail with unambiguity. Sanusi as an astute economist and banker who prior to his appointment as the apex bank boss had held various managerial positions in the financial sector should not be caught in the web of unsubstantiated and ridiculous whistle blowing. It was disgraceful and appaling for a CBN governor( the no.1 banker of the nation) to accuse another government parastatal of unremitted funds without concrete figure and evidence to back up such claim. He did not only disgrace himself, he equally dented the image of the institution he governed. On the other hand, aside the oversight investigation carried out by a Committee of the Senate (made up of APC and PDP members) in which NNPC was exonerated of any financial impropriety, another internationally recognised Audit firm is currently undergoing a scrutiny of NNPC books. So, why not keep our fingers crossed and await the outcome of their audit. Be rest assured that GEJ will not sweep the truth under the carpet.

Doyin Okupe?

AmucheJane:
That's why I said they should divide this country because am not suppose to be in same country with fools like you and your kind. Even if is not in the constitution, why not allow someone else to rule, later they claim one Nigeria. One Nigeria my foot. Learn to comment, not waiting for someone to comment so that you will attack. GEJ till 2019.

We are practising democracy now. Are we not?

My interpretation of allowing GEJ to rule now that election is approaching is you guys want him there unopposed in a democratic setting. Why?

Mind you, he has been president for 6yrs, so where is the born to rule? Democracy actually favored GEJ, but you guys are now changing the rules of system that clearly favoured him. There will be an election and the populace will decide. There is no born to rule anywhere.

If you want to rule, contest. No one can stop anyone from aspiring to be president of Nigeria.

siraj1402:
I smell politics.I hope the new owner banks are not those who donated the N20b for the re election?We will soon know the really truth.

Your intuition is right!

Tunde Ayeni is the majority share holder in skye bank. He acquired Nitel recently and has a stake in one of the power discos.

All because he was fully involved in helping to smuggle Alamesiha ( hope I'm correct) into Nigeria.

tempest01:
Is there steady electricity in Ghana?

Even calls to ghana is charged at 1 naira per second. But calls from GH to NG is charioteer.


We have the crowd and population to force down prices, but our regulatory bodies just know how to fine the companies and eat damages on our behalf.

Do the FG, State, LGA, NESREA, NCC, omo oniles, Terrorist etc hustle MTN for money in Ghana? Truth is they all do here.

Factor in vandals and lack of power you will realise, the average revenue per user in Ghana may be higher than that of Nigeria.

The concept is not just nice but brilliant.

It creates the impression the customer is unique and there is a personalised bottle for everyone.

Those criticising can say whatever but the reality is, if they are out there to buy a bottle of cocacola and there is one with their name on it on the shelf, that is the one they will pick. None of them will ignore it.

Whose face do you look out for first in a group photograph you are in it? YOURS. There is a little bit of narcissism is everyone of us, cocacola just keyed into it. I'm certain the sales of plastic bottled coke in Nigeria must have increased in the past few weeks.

Thinkr:
when she was gaining supporters you ans buharu didn't rebuke her or say such oooo. Now this is what you have to say Lmao*

Your initial comment does not make sense and now this.

RedBenson:
Little minds cant stand criticism and yet, they want to rule Nigeria.

1st potential of a leader:
- able to stand critics.

Is she the one contesting to be president?

Welrez:
And I think your weed has too much Alomo Bitters and Orijin for you to have said this. Instead of blaming and cautioning those who first beat the wardrums up north, you're here hallucinating. Let me tell you the bitter truth: the Ijaw are ready for Buhari and his minions like you. The future shall tell. Bet me. The day Buhari is declared a winner, which is quite impossible, Nigeria may not cease to exist, but the creeks will boil again. And to those who think it would only affect Ijawland, I think your uneducated and myopic brains would understand what is stake once the operation commences. I don't support violence but neither do I support injustice.

Injustice in an election GEJ took part and lost?

You better start the war now since only one outcome is acceptable to you. Because with the trend and what we are seeing in the build up, GEJ can't win.

Please start now! GEJ is going to lose so why delay the inevitable.

Rubbish!

kagari:
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Guy u no get sense abi, here be like chatting site.

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SailorXY:
I don't remember where I wrote that I'm an Ijaw man, besides this is not about tribe or whatnot. it has been the same story in this forced marriage, only selfish miscreants who has been in power & see it as birthright is benefiting from the nonsense.
all these noise about Sai Buhari is because of oil bloc allocations in 2015 & the general population census in 2016. it has nothing to do with the interest of Nigerians @ large.
GEJ must finish OR the country go the separate ways; take that to the mosque or church!

Your threats doesn't make sense.

If you have the power and resources to break up the country, the best time to do it is immediately Jonathan was voted in. You can not wait till when it is time for another election and threaten people to vote for GEJ or the country will break up.

It is democracy, if majority wants him there till 2019, fine. If otherwise, you have to accept the people's choice.

For me, no group of people have the power to break up Nigeria. It is all hogwash.