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fluid26: True. Smart talk.

Well done. Continue looking for trouble with me oo.

Probably nothing. Sometimes, it's really just black and white. Haven't you dropped her off at the shop before? Because she's expecting a visitor, she must have figured out the best way to hang out with you, since she won't be able to later on. It's killing two birds with a stone.
Besides, accepting money from another, doesn't always mean that the other, is a contender na. It can come from a sibling or even her own purse. Keeping an unkempt hair can be quite annoying sometimes.

IZUKWU: he that is without sin ,let him cast the first stone ! BE A SINNER AND SIN BOLDLY.

Hmmn...nor be me and you oo

Yeah....the witch doctor that my saintliness chased away.

Says who? Were you at my birth?

[quote author=Mynd_44]actually he is only assured of living longer if he stays single.[/quote]Yeah. With aids and all abi?

IZUKWU: confession for whetin , whetin i no say if they allow me ,i fit do 5 times a week,21 times a month , it kills the aim of the excerise .

Kai!...Sinner.

Andrew, staying single forever doesn't lead to hell you know. Hell, making heaven is even easier that way.

Good girl
Don't you go for confessions?

You berra be consistent in church-going. I no de oo!

If he loves you, he'll never leave you. That's a classic. Even if he strings another woman along for the joy ride na, abi? I hear.

Something may not be off now but oh gal, we cannot afford to wait until lerra. Let him know right away, that you're onto him and want him to stop already. Finito. No need for plenty tori. If he wasn't guilty of impure intents, (however minimal they are now), he wouldn't be concealing the truth in the first place anyway.

Acidtalk don finally find hin calling. Pidgin yarns thruout today.

Mistake!
You shouldn't have given in so easily. You should've found a way to twist it around forgiveness. Forgiveness covers the larger half of the catholic faith. Thank me when you try it out next time and find out that it works

Pray tell, how exactly can we make you joyous? Support the view you share or what? You gave yours, others did theirs. Deal with it. A public forum never gets better than this.

I wasn't in the country myself as at the time i posted this. And as the date indicates, the exercise i was talking about, happened last year. That was the fourth in the long line of exercises that have been going on and i can't tell if it's the last.

I believe that Nigeria as a whole, will be aware, if/when anything serious begins to happen, so don't bother your head too much...#Self-Motivation#

I have a thing for happy endings.
Is this a happy ending

Okay, rewind. You're seeking how to bridge the gap between royalty and the common man. Okay.
Didn't you listen to 'Hitch'? Any man can sweep any woman off her feet. You just need the right broom . It's a pity that you have to find that right broom by yourself.

pendo89: Sexkillz wow! you have fought a good fight.

Hmnnnnph, na small fight? Congrats jor.

maclatunji: Why are you going round in circles? I am tired of this sort of selfish and irresponsible people. They are eager to sleep around but not willing to bear the consequences. It is the lady's burden, let her carry it. SMH...

I was treading with caution actually. Making her see her options and pick for herself. One wrong advice can make someone responsible for another's misfortunes, on the morrow.

Since we've only a little idea of the situation on ground and how badly confused she is about it, a lot of us will advice her against abortion. Talk is cheap after all. I mean, it's morally right, right?
But then again, how exactly is giving birth to a child that you're not very sure of being able to cater to its needs, morally acceptable? Someone may remind me of life's intrinsic values now, but is its sustenance not included in those values?

In this case however, the lesser of the two evils (as she must have judged and as we have), is what she should do. Which is keep the babe. Talk is cheap, after all.

Okay then, don't ask for her parents' numbers no more. Tell her that you've specified a future date (that shouldn't be more than a week from when you're giving it), that you intend to go see her folks about your 'marriage plans', and see how she takes it. This should help you clarify and achieve the outcomes that are eluding you. If it won't be convenient (for good reasons), she'd reschedule to a date that's not far from the one you're giving....if she's really down with you. Goodluck oo.

Is that how they do it in our Nigeria, these days? Change facebook statuses and then ring the parents about it? Hell, even Americans throw engagement parties almost every time. So why sidestep the customary 'introduction', that you know our people are keen about, even when it can be low-keyed?
Did you even give her a ring? Are you very sure that you're set to settle down?

Shy, she is not. She just lacks the stomach to relay a carnard to her folks. How in the world, did you miss that?

Respect is reciprocal. You don't go about disrespecting a group of people (like the Nigerian women you enjoy taunting) in the name of sharing views, and then expect to get lollipops thrown at you, now do you?

Hmmn...she sure does not seem like her moniker...

^^^I really hope it's our Nigerian brother that's still making you happy, Mrs. Eve.

@Poster-
1. Understand that you enjoyed being together, for the while it lasted.
2. Encourage your heart that even though it did not work out this time, there will be a next time.
3. Be around compassionate and supportive people that makes you feel good about yourself.
4. Permit time to do the rest. There will be nothing more to do really, than just sticking it out.

And Yes it will be hard, we know. But that's what life, which must continue is - hard.

Whatever happened to MOBO444? I miss him soooo

clementcro: So I always tell the girl, that this is not true love, it is infatuation, loving a guy cos he was there when you were sick is not true love.

Well, not being there for her when she was sick, isn't true love either. So what exactly is your forte?

@OP--Not that I wish this for you, but I feel like sharing it with you.
I used to know a man that lived together with his 'wife' and kids just like you're doing now, without the dowry ish and all. Well, she took sick and died in the 8th year of their 'marriage'. But he was forced anyway by the wife's family and townsmen, to still go through with the rites of marriage, before he was allowed to bury her. He bought everything that a normal bride would need for a traditional marriage; the fineries, complete box full of expensive wrappers (abada and all), walking stick for the father, rice, meat and even printed IV cards and sent out...And she was ibo. Of cos, you know how expensive ibo marriages can be. He married the corpse properly before going ahead with the burial rites, which took another huge sum to carry out.

Like I said, I don't wish you bad, but nobody knows what tomorrow holds. There might be something that she'd need her family or people from her town to be involved in, and they can deny her over a mere bride price and treat her like a renegade. Go by your strength and do it anyhow that it can carry you. For the sake of respect, if nothing else.

Well, he's prolly trying to figure out whether it's love he feels for you, or just intense likeness. Have you thought of it that way? Lol. Most of us sometimes, are quick to tell ourselves and others that we love them when infact, we just feel strongly attracted to them, which isn't always love....or is it? I wonder. Your definition of love mightn't be his and as long as he's still with you and shows that he cares, even without the vocal expression, you should have nothing to worry about. You know we're faster in quantifying our feelings than they are so.......

.......did i just say all that? Two years on and he still can't tell whether he loves you? Oh my. Was he trying to be unruly to you or what? I mean, it doesn't take anything out of boyfriends and girlfriends in these times to tell each other, 'i love you', like every freaking two minutes, even when they both can tell that the both of them do not mean it! Now i'm confused. What is his deal?

Hmmmph....anyhoo, don't hurt too much, he wouldn't be with you, if he doesn't care at least...i think. And if he doesn't care, he prolly respects you for still sticking with you. And respect still breeds care and care, love. See?....win-win situation all around for you, i tell you.

What you should do? Exhibit patience. It is well.
..........................i think................................