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luxy44:
So you will now print the chat, laminate it and hang it somewhere in your room. Seriously, you need to get busy

You probably still use Nokia torch, this is why u don't know that on a good smartphone, u can set all your chats to automatically save on the cloud (iPhone) or drive (Google).

teemotee:
Everyone has heard of the word. the problem is that this one claims to be a king lesbian when she is not. Apparently she is bisexual but killed her girlfriend in order to remain a popular lesbian

Cococandy will always manage to skid right past the point to type something unrelated

Rozz:
xx

Blawdy hell you're definitely a smartie. Now I am crushing.

Rozz:
lol,photo dairy?like just posting photos?its somehow at least it should be followed by events happening in your life

Lol, if you're not up for it, it's fine. What course did u study?
I saw a 500level pic, that's why I'm asking

Rozz:
Im not good at writing,i really like that diary section but I really don't know how to put up a good writing

Photo diary dear, doesn't have to be about writing. I know u love photos,don't ask me how. You've been on my radar for a while

MoodyQueen:
We will keep dragging every fúcking rapist on social media until you lot stop raping women.

No wonder u arr always moody. How can u get peace & justice for what that guy did if you don't take him to court?

Rozz:
All pics taken down.Thanks bukatyne and others

Na wa, why would u let what people think disturb u
You can open a diary and do what u want to do with your photos, people can view but no one can comment.

Have fun if u want.

Rozz:
the others

Hmmm,so you're a virgin. Okay then

annex1:
[s]It is what intelligent people do. They read to understand. Not going to baba ijebu to collect numbers and juxtapose them on stupid generalizations.
Your reply dropped my IQ a bit.
You by your baba ijebu self came up with NBS poverty level statistics as basis for your unintelligent and now infamous "8 out of 10". Oh you can use it as yardstick to measure females "gold digging for NORTH American husband" but a bad yardstick for Men. You are the S.I unit of confused.
As for the claim that many women are gainfully employed. I dont know what hole you've been in but It is glaring, public offices, sensitive positions they are there. I dont need to remind you how most organisations now enforce diversity and inclusion especially in employment. So for every 6 men employed, at least 4 are women. Something baba ijebu wouldn't let you know.

No I dont need baba ijebu quantitative researcher like you to conjure fake numbers.



And no, I am not the one confused about marriage and ladies "penchant for feigning love to north american husband". It is mirror guy and you clearly. You should be his spouse. [/s]

Many are gainfully employed and effing comfortable out of over 90million females in nigeria = those found in multinationals, public offices, and sensitive positions.

You are the best statistician ever

Rozz:
wrong on the last one

So which one did it for you?

Ariza:
You likely want me to argue the bolded but I won't here is why:
You are probably surrounded by money gulping bunch of women who would rather choose money over sanity. Women who are dependent , lazy, unambitious, self absorbed and materialistic. No it would be unfair of me to try to impose personalities of women around me on you. You won't even comprehend.

So dude, you are entitled to your opinion, let me have mine. Thanks.

STORY

annex1:
[s]Mr NBS statistics. Sorry NBS hasnt carried out such jobless baba ijebu statistic of "8 out of 10 girls will fall for abroad based man" and men wouldn't (reversed)

However, sensible statistics that has been carried out as I've seen in NBS is for example unemployment statistics by gender and that was last done 2018 third quarter.
That also piqued my interest considering someone likely and I hope as educated as yourself can call this Lies?



[url]https://nigerianstat.gov.ng/elibrary?queries[search]=unemployment[/url]

As per females 26% unemployed while 25.9% under-employed. You cant tell a dullard the remaining 48% wont or cant be living comfortably. And that itself is a substantial amount for mirror guy to find skilled set to trade off.

Let me again quickly employ your baba ijebu expert mode of statistics. You are likening unemployment and poverty rate of females as sole reason for your baba ijebu "8 out of 10 will fall face flat". So in what order should baba ijebu rate men who have unemployment rate of 20.3% and 15.4 under-employment?

Does this make sense to you? How does it relate? Even both gainfully employed members of both sexes would still fancy an abroad based spouse.
Oga NBS has no time for such jobless statistic.
Petition baba ijebu to carry one out for you.[/s]

Took you a while to finish browsing NBS. And still at the end, you still didn't understand what living effing comfortably means. Perhaps being able to eat food and pay rent of 200/300k a year is what living comfortably reach for you, not my fault. As u also don't know the population of females in nigeria for you to claim that many work in multinationals, still not my fault.

Just apply for wife position so the OP can consider u and stop pouring saliva on my mentions.

Your ass growth, is it food, genetics, workouts, or sex?

Ariza:
LOL. Once a guy has that "she may be after my money" or "she is probably pretending" mindset it takes lots of work to change his mind that's if it's possible self because at the end,it is either the woman lose her true nature or she stop giving a hoot. It's very stressful dealing with people who are likely to misunderstand little actions because they "have something to protect" .

Op should go back to option 3, let him build things from scratch but heaven help him if the lady he finds isn't interested in relocating to the country he's based only then will he realize that things aren't set in stones anymore. Ladies are no longer eggs you can pick and go "hatch" wherever you want. They demand more than just money from Marriage these days.

Story for the Hindu gods

saucecode:
My dear,you love lying and talking abt your life on nl, this is why you can't keep up with your lies and stories anymore

Always resist the urge to SHALAYE.

annex1:
Youve said so many things without any tangible construct toward solving his issue. Every generalization he has made or is making is impeding him from solving the problem. I dont generalize subjects because I haven't carried out quantitative analysis of the 8 of 10 that you speak of. If you have, give us real statistical data and stop calling numbers like we are playing baba ijebu. Let me even play baba ijebu like you, if 8 out of 10 girls will fall face down, I'm sure 9 out 10 guys will fall face flat at having an abroad based girlfriend. And will also feign love and attitude likewise. So it cuts through both sexes.

And I think you may be near sighted if you think there aren't substantial gainfully employed and comfortable ladies in Nigeria. Please when you have an idea that mirror guy can key into so he can find iyawo, say it so that we can discuss instead of carrying out bedroom research and generalizations.

NBS agrees with me. Go and argue with them about their nearsighted poverty statistics in nigeria. Generalizations are always formed from majority, full stop!

I already told the guy to follow unnerve's suggestion,that was actually the only thing I read from someone also in diaspora. The rest of you are simply filling the thread up with your emotions.

Rozz:
Never,not at all but I think most men don't understand what consent is,hence the reason why you see ladies coming out to claim been raped several years ago and most of these men didn't know it was rape

They should sue the men to court then.

Like I described above about how I chat with females I had sex with in the past and talk about the sex, that kind of women can never sue me for rape because I will simply provide chats that show it was all consensual and this is what I think Dbanj might have to use against that girl.

Also, for those who patronize runs girls on the internet, it is also very necessary to conduct the business (price, location, type of sex) via chat. And also afterwards, also chat and tell her thank you for coming and ask her when next she will make her sweet punni available to you. They always respond in a way that shows they gave consent.

Rozz:
most of you don't know what rape is because you don't understand the detailed meaning of consent

Have you been raped before? If so, sue the motherfvcker to court and prove it beyond all reasonable doubt. Full stop.

ObaKlaz:
Men need to be more wary of these lying, vendetta-pursuing, money-hungry, attention-craving ladies. DON'T RAPE! However, be smarter around them.

Be on the safe side, keep every evidence you can in your dealings with them, it may save your head when they decide to be used by the devil. Then sue them - let's see if their sensational tales and tears with no surefire evidence can get them anywhere in court. Neymar's case is a prime example.

What hurts me most is that D'banj's mom & wife would beg on the hungry girl's behalf & prevail on him. The wife would be like, "If you love me, please withdraw the lawsuit", & the mother would say, "If you acknowledge me as truly your mother, forgive her & leave her to God" ...and every other stupid emotional blackmail tactics.

This

My brother, I started doing this a long time ago. Every time I had sex with someone I'm not dating, I make sure we talk casually about the sex afterwards during our chats. I tell her how much I enjoyed her and all that, then watch how they always start responding abt how they loved it too or how I ejaculated too early or how I wasn't good enough and was just making mouth.

Either way, no matter how they respond to the chat, there is always a sign to show they were never forced to have that sex against their wish.

annex1:
Another man missing the point. So when you finally meet this remaining two, wont your current fixed mindset also judge them as that - only being interested in his North America?

Having an open mindset is the best thing you can gift yourself. Besides what is bad in a lady wanting to be engaged with someone abroad? Even boboz will be ecstatic at this prospect.

If you read my posts, I spoke about mirror guy making TRADE OFFs because he cant have it all.

A. So yes he feels if he marries some Nigerian girl he is going to offer her North America (good trade)
Now look for what she is also good at and going to offer him and the marriage. Many ladies in Nigeria are gainfully employed in multi-nationals, single, industrious and living effing comfortably. At the same time they'll still fancy the option of relocating. Appreciate the fact that in difficult Nigeria she is doing well, consider how elevating her to your North America will benefit you and the marriage. As for attitude, as a sound young man and "christian" that you claim, at some point you will always know if someone's attitude is off - by discussing various diverse topics and situations.
So tell me how will he give those remaining two a chance when he already has a fixed mindset?

B. Marry someone in North America that dont care about where you are. He is considering this option and this option eliminates his fear of Nigerian girls feigning love because of his "being in North America"
But NO, he wont because they are feminists and not under 26. Worst of all they like divorce.
So again why dont you make a TRADE OFF by accepting and appreciating the profits of equality in gender, marriage and household duties. Some men would jump at this. AGAIN, if you truly uphold respect and equality in marriage, why would you be afraid of her divorcing you if arent bent on frustrating her like you may or would have with no repercussion if yall were in Nigeria?

My Brother, you cant cut your cake and have it. This is marriage, you must make trade offs.

I'm not interested in all this story. I only quoted you to tell you that Nigerian girls falling face down for abroad guys is not a stereotype. It is a fact. Look around you and stop existing on alternate made-up internet reality

Many ladies in Nigeria are gainfully employed in multinationals, living effing comfortably. LIES

You're preaching about having an open mindset as if you don't know how generalizations work. That 8 out of 10 girls will fall face down, is enough to form a valid opinion and no realistic person will want to gamble on the minority without having suspicions

Unnerve:
Bro I live in the UK and I suggest you go for option 1 at this time, see what comes of it while still keeping option 3 open just in case whatever relationship you start now does not work out.

For now, just look out for Nigerian ladies who are FOB for study purposes (maximum of five years total in-country). They are usually still very grounded in Nigerian family life and at the same time have been exposed to a western way of life but have not yet fully imbibed it. So you have a chance to grow & decide together what you both like about Nigerian culture, what you like about western culture and how you can combine it together. Best of both worlds.

Depending on your exact location in the states, it might be difficult running into Nigerians, so my suggestion is a more general one. You could also go on road trips to the city nearest to you that has a larger Nigerian community to meet Nigerians.

Please be aware that whomever you start something with now, you should be honest with her about your citizenship status. You don't want to make a FOB Nigerian girl believe you're already a citizen, she may get close to you on that account to secure her own.

Cheers mate

OP,this seems very realistic. Start from your present location

annex1:
And for you stereotyping by suggesting that most Nigerian ladies would fall face down because your home is now North America is an all time low. This is possibly what is subconsciously not allowing you give any of the Nigerian ladies in Nigeria a chance. So that mirror you were looking at while creating your username, look deeply into it, see the problem. Attack the problem.

And also stay calm. There are ladies with typically good - wife attributes around you. You are in a diverse environment now so be open minded. That's what you wanted. Except you are in dire need of a Nigerian woman and in that case refer to the 5th paragraph.

This is not a stereotype, 8 out of 10 times it is true. The remaining 2 women who won't fall face down, have wealthy parents and are not excited by the idea of an abroad based guy.

GuyInTheMirror:
Madamme..
This is not a man bashing woman thread like we have all littered around this forum.
My intention is to have a civil and objective discussion, you would notice that so far I have tried to keep things sane so please try and lets respect that.

BOSS

pocohantas:
[s]Seems anyone that doesn’t cuddle you is bashing you, but you were being objective by stereotyping women.

Mr Perfect, why is it so hard finding a perfect woman? Are you the last of your kind?

Look at the guy in the mirror and FIX yourself.[/s]

Guyinthemirror, this is why you must avoid Nigerian based girls who spend a big portion of their lives on the internet. This particular one is dating a sucre papito who is based abroad. She is a perfect stereotype for naija girls seeking abroad husband

Every guy who knows and is very sure he has been falsely accused of rape by one whoree of a woman, please sue her to court for her father's net worth.

https://www.nairaland.com/5930713/seyitan-babatayo-rape-accusation-dbanj

I like action and actionable people. If you're a woman who has been raped, take your rapist to court and prove it beyond all reasonable doubt that he raped you. If you don't do that but only chose to go about announcing it to everyone but a lawyer, then that is your cup of tea.

But when the person you're accusing decides to take you to court for false accusations and defamation, be ready to appear and do not cry wolf.

We are tired of hoes using social media rape accusations to chase clout.

Watch how females who have falsely or plan to falsely accuse men of rape, will flood this thread to wail.

CanadaOrBust:
You know almost NOTHING about this. Why not just SHUT UP till u know the full story before u start offering your opinion - that is just common sense. It is very painful to be falsely accused of rape but it is equally painful to be raped but no one believes u.

You've been shouting full story here since. So because no one knows the full story, they should not comment?

Why aren't you wondering why the girl did not sue dbanj to court for rape. Instead she accused him on the internet where only quack and pseudo lawyers like cococandy exist. Then when dbanj decides to take her to court for defamation unless she pays 100M, you people are now looking for full story and who is lying.

If she can't pay up, then they go to court and she's the one that will be defending herself against a suit from dbanj for defamation. It's not a rape case anymore and it won't be a rape case until she sues him for rape which she never did.

cococandy:
So Dbanj is the defendant in his own case that he’s suing?

I leave you to your “logic”. Of course I’m emotional. As usual. When it’s a woman and a man having a debate, How could it possibly be that I the woman could be logical?

I would be lying to myself if for one minute I imagined that you’d come away from this interaction learning something. Even if to save your life.

Dbanj is the accuser is his case of defamation. He will have to prove she defamed him before the judge can pass judgement on her.
She’s the accuser in her own case of rape. She will have to prove he raped her before any judgement can be passed on him. Two cases. I’m loving how this simple concept is too complex for you. And on top of it, you’re trying to teach me too.
goodnight .

Did she take any legal action against him for his alleged rape act on her? NO, she accused him on the internet for clout as is usual of clout chasers like yourself.
The only case now that will get to court if she can't pay 100M is the one that dbanj brought against her.

It's simple, pay the money or go to court and tell the judge how, where, & when dbanj raped you. And guess what, I'm sure she won't be able to say because if she had any case, she would have taken him to court before now.

You're the only one confusing yourself

cococandy:
Read my subsequent posts.
Thanks

Previous, not subsequent. You dont know simple English and you're arguing law

cococandy:
[s]Mr smart. LOL Some education for you if you’re humble enough to learn.

Here’s how it works.

When she’s suing him for rape, she’s the accuser. She has to prove he did it. If she can’t prove it, the case gets thrown out. Does that automatically make her go to jail? No. The court will tell her her case has no merit because of lack of evidence and will be dismissed. He’s free to go. Case ended.

Then if he Dbanj decides to sue her, it will be a different case. With another bunch of hearings, a different jury, probably another judge. He’s the accuser in that case.
He’s accusing her of defamation.
Then, the onus lies on him to prove she defamed him. The facts of her case against him which had previously been ruled on won’t be used to judge his case against her. Her case against him is a different case.
His case against her is a different case. Albeit all based on the same premise. But each case will be judged at different times. Then he will provide evidence to say “when you said I was doing this, I was in fact doing something else and I have proof”. He will provide his proof and the judge will go “yes Dbanj your case against this person has merit because you have been able to prove beyond doubt that this person defamed you“. And the judge will rule based on what the accuser (Dbanj) is demanding or what he/she (the judge) feels is appropriate.

I like how many of you are cocky and arrogant in your ignorance. And then call your intellectual betters emotional whereas the only ignorant and illogical posts here have been yours. So beautiful to watch [/s]

the musician asked his accuser to make a payment of N100m within 48 hours or face legal action.

You don't know anything cococandy. If she had a case in the first place, she would have threatened Dbanj with legal action instead of announcing it on social media like you internet based commentators love to do.

Now the game has been turned around on her and you're crying wolf.

pocohantas:
I didn’t parboil AFTER washing severally with water. I parboiled because the rice is starchy and I didn’t get what I wanted when I didn’t parboil. It boils down to type of rice too.

You must argue sha.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I don't just know why, but I like this thread. I can't even explain it.

Apply mbok

His father does not condone rubbish. Correct Nigerian father.

I like him