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Beaucoup beaucoup la problem.

Shylock done enter Nigeria.

Abuja people refused to fully comply with the lock down so I see an extension coming here too.

Go see them with your family first, take responsibility and tell them your plans.

Maybe your family can contribute for bride price for you.

Collect list for bride price, pay it in a small ceremony strictly between both families, go to the registry and seal the deal. O tan.

Amumaigwe:
Read the disclaimer please. This thread is not for your type. Wasn't it written in black and white?

Even the original poster was civil and welcoming of the opinion of others, something you can learn from.

Adios.

Do you sell?

It's like it is not the same Covid 19 that's hitting America and Italy that is in Nigeria o.

bukatyne:
@Romanoff:

Welldone.

I award you the most quoted moniker on this thread.

Invite us to your wedding o!

My dear sis, I stand on what I believe in till I have course to change my beliefs, none of the men here have been able to shift my beliefs.

I'll look out for more of your posts, you're very civil.

DeRay98:
Don't waste your energy trying to educate further of convince Romanoff.
Your piece is explicit enough for those willing to learn and know.
Her type is the ITK, who 'll deliberately explore what she knows has the capacity to derail her but she'll pretend until she ends up there only to resort to pointing fingers elsewhere.

Na you gan gan be ITK. You done psycho analyse person wey you no know. Shrink general of the federation.

Carry on o.

pryme:
if the one you want to setle with is not your best friend, then it will be hard for you to remain faithful when your relationship goes through hard times, cos you will only confide in your bestie, if he is a male it will only be a matter of time before you become very comfortable and alive around him, next sex comes naturally.
CHI59 is way ahead of you about this. if your future partner is not your best friend, do him a favor - QUIT.

He's my best friend.

I just weep for the level of ignorance in this country.

Yearly we dish out graduates in thousands, millions I'll dare to say and this is what we are arguing on social media?

That 5G causes Covid 19?

So advanced countries in the world that has been using it, that's why they have Covid 19?

The 4G we have currently, person no even fit do proper WhatsApp video calls without distortions.

When countries of the world are using WebEx for meetings and newsroom reporting, our 4G can't even let us use it conveniently, we are hawking rumours of 5G causing Corona Virus.

God go help us o.

Chi59:
OK. When you do get married, I'd like to know probably in a year's time if you still hold to your conviction. God will keep us till then.

Amin, l'oruko Jesu.

Chi59:
It's not the issue of perverse world. I'd like to know, "how is your relationship faring?"

I'll be getting married in a few weeks.

Chi59:
Generally, I avoid anyone who thinks it's relatively cool to have a bestie of the opposite sex whilst having a boyfriend /girlfriend /fiance(e) or spouse.
I'd rather watch to see how successful such a relationship is /will be. Because in relationships so many people talk, but very few people are very successful at it.

Haven't you you heard of besties of the same sex who are sexually involved?

You do know that over time, priorities change, right?

I mean marriage makes people busy. Even besties of the same sex don't have the kind of time they do to hang out once one or both are married.

I just tire for this perverse world.

ideykwum:
I didn't mean to offend you, although the fact that you were offended or saw my text as an insult underlines the "inexperience" I was talking of.

You mentioned fiancee?? ROTFL!! Trust me, a fiancee really doesn't count... yet. A husband does. Many people have several fiancees before they marry. But that is beside the point.

I can talk about your inexperience because I went through your phase several years ago. Many of my close friends also did. Now, married and in retrospect, we realize a lot of naivety played in the past.

The point I'm underlining is that there should be only one person in your life that should hold all your emotion at this age... the person you're dating or in your case, your fiancee. If it doesn't work, transfer that devotion to the next person.

You projected yourself as a Christian here... Ask someone older and wiser in church (if you attend a balanced church) and you'd validate what I'm telling you.

Many women go into marriage with this bestie mindset and almost all have regretted it. Not saying it hasn't worked for some, but it generally fails.

Just so you know, like does not attract likes. The best marriages are of two different people who admire the differences in each other and are willing to merge to potentate their performance. Try having two meticulous people in one house and see how it would be over time... or two hotheads... or two romantics. You may have similar interests, but interests change. What keeps people in long relationships is not similarity or likes. It is the temperance to tolerate excesses. I won't say anymore.

You think I'm in a relationship cause we have similar interest?

I don't ever take advice from people online. I know where my advisers are.

Thank you tho.

lefulefu:
u better have problem with it o

Not all of us are like you o. All of us go dey alright las las

After now, they will be over crowding Romance section with their book of lamentation posts.

Peacefullove:
A case of keeping blood in the mouth but spitting saliva... U can't deceive us here.
Keep Trying to save face

This is a faceless forum, so you don't know me. I'm the realest and laid back person you'll ever know. I have no cause to think negatively about people till they've given me cause to.

Dyonne:
There are different kinds of besties. Some male besties are harmless. The problem is you usually dont know so to avoid problems, it's better to discourage such a bestie.

Also, how can you have 4 besties? By definition theres only one. Are you sure we are talking about the same thing here?

They are the only friends I've got and I love them equally, asides my fiancé sha. I love him scatter.

I have only three friends cause I don't make friends easily.

My friends must have sense and we must share similar values. We don't club, drink, smoke or engage in social vices. We have jobs and businesses and we all meet at least, once a month, unless in rare cases but we catch up on WhatsApp and over calls.

Peacefullove:
I Hope the bold is not the usual double standard . , Are you cool with your man having a fine female bestie ?

I've got no problem with it o.

Newmanluckyman:
... O ga emeghi vum na anya one day.

A o ni ri ojo ibi l'oruko Jesu.

Newmanluckyman:
...don't worry UNAWARE can beat even the strongest. Keep swimming in pride.

Keep swimming in your over confidence of what you think you know.

ideykwum:
More so, forget this bestie crap. It will help you as you grow into a woman. Believe it or not. That's all I can tell you... I won't try to convince you or give you reasons, neither would I abuse you as some are doing. I understand that it is inexperience and perspective that is your limitation.

Stay focused on one guy. Emotion sharing is as good as cheating, no matter how you couch it.

Wish you the best!!

Inexperience?

Rotfl. Kindly keep your advice to yourself cause it ended in insults. My fiancé has become my best friend even though he knows my bestie. My bestie is also engaged to be married.

I might not see my bestie every day, I haven't even seen him in months but we are still very close and it has been platonic all these three years.

I know the crowd I roll with, they are like minded people like me. We don't go about thinking of how to sleep with each other but how to elevate each other spiritually, in our careers and business and psychologically.

Likes attract likes.

Bye.

GreatResearcher:
ok.
I have been people without Bertie cheat with random people. it all depend on the person.

That's what I'm saying. Everyone is different.

ideykwum:
You must be living with angels or very insincere people.
Or you are not their spec.

Men go for what they want, whether it is available or not. If they are not going for you, then they don't want you.

Don't worry, there are some things only time can teach. You'd remember what the OP wrote someday.

You people use your own yardstick to judge that of others. My standard is not that of the world. I refuse to succumb to worldly standards that believes a man and woman can't just be friends. I strongly refuse to believe.

Like you said, let's see what time tells.

xrayj:
We men don't need your fvcking trust
Only your partner deserves your trust!
Why the fvck would u wanna keep male bestie when u have a partner?? Is female bestie not enough? Like op clearly stated, male friend is different from male bestie, don't mix it up!

I still maintain there's nothing wrong with it and my partner trusts me very plenty.

UwaMmebii:
Chai women. U left ur baby and go clubbing while ur hubby is away, God knows I can't tolerate such woman. Some men sha

My dear, the marriage has packed up o. The guy done tire.

Kawabonga:
And what will be your take if your guy has a female bestie?

I'll be okay with it until I have cause to not be.

lefulefu:
are there not pastors who sleep with their female members who are born again christians and most times their married members? nothing new under the sun

Just cause someone is a pastor doesn't make them Christians. One is not a Christian cause they profess it, they are Christians cause their behaviour shows it.

Kingjebba:
we know people like you... cheats

We also know people like you, always showing their machismo.

xrayj:
Till male bestie show u something...be shouting male bestie up & down! What happens to female bestie?? I pity u!

Pity yourself first sir with this thinking that all men, yourself inclusive, can't be trusted.

xrayj:
Thank u my brother
Don't mind that of a senseless thing!
You didn't see female bestie, it is male bestie u want? It obviously means there are certain qualities lacking in her boyfriend or hubby she wants to complement with d male bestie. This is a good thread by op. Male & female bestie nonsense shouldn't be encourage, it doesn't usually end well.

Birds of a feather obviously flock together. The fact that you're unable to contribute without insults shows you lack the ability to communicate in a civil manner.