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Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 2:13pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
@Pharoh Dude, theres no question on the leadership role. Problem is, a lot of terms have to be redefined with wisdom. A leader is to lead and not to dictate. Think about that. If society knew what was best, explain to me why society hasnt solved nigeria's problems. Or does it only apply to man/woman issues? Society knows best, and thats why women are so unhappy? My friend, society is made up of people and if youre telling me I should allow people who dont know me or my wants and needs to define them, then Im telling you youre wrong. You people seem to have a warped mindset of the so called 'our mothers' who are happy to get married bla bla bla. You people never hear women discuss their husbands and so that facade a mother puts up of being happy is for her children. Because she knows her happiness is theirs and so she cant appear discontent. So dont think those women were happy. Many of them put up acts out of love for their children. But if asked, you'l be shocked at what those women have to say about their men And thats the difference. Today, a girl no longer wants to have to swallow everything and make the man feel like he can make her unhappy and still be called a man. It is also his duty to see to her well being. And with that, I dont mean paying bride price or buying bread. If your argument is only the monetary aspect, then I'l tell you, I can fend for myself and four others. What else are you bringing to the table?? You people tend to think as long as youre spending money, you can demand all you want and have a right to get it. WRONG! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 1:37pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
lorebobo:Ah toh. LOL. Abi should I be carrying an 18month old child up and down the wilds of Australia ?lol |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 1:33pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
erico2k2:We all know getting married is not playing basket ball. Youre talking as a man who doesnt have as much responsibility as a woman when married. How many nigerian men will get married to a woman and want to wait three years before having children because she says whe wants to see the world? You people fall very easily under peer pressure and once your drinking buddies at the beer parlour at the end of the street have laughed at you, you come home and tell the woman she should sit down and 'be a wife'. Abi I lie?? Getting married and having children changes your life forever and for a woman the change is way more cos now, she has to put herself last. Everyone els comes before her. I dont mind it, cos I think a woman has the strength to do it all, but getting married requires you get that. And Im not ready to relegate my wishes to the back seat for anyone. Cute children or fine man. I no want! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 1:28pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
erico2k2:Sir, its not a gender equality issue. Its a freedon of rights issue. A woman should be allowed, as a man, to make her dicisions without being cowered into feeling because theres no man at her side, she's wrong. A woman should not be brought up to think she has to stand or walk behind a man. A woman should be treated right. Thats all. But because people dont get the simple logic behind that, the fighters for these rights have called it: gender equality. What the man can do, the woman should also be allowed to do. But thats an argument for another day. Im not into the whole gender equality thing. I just want that women are not treated as second class citizens! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 1:22pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Pharoh: Well this our so called intelligence you refer to is what brought you into this world and has kept you alive. Go check the role of the women in your life and come back and tell me. Abi you havnt heard a man who doesnt have a praying woman behind him is lost? And at the same time, when a great man falls deep, he has either ignored the good advice from the 'intelligent' women in his life or he has married an evil one. As to the 'role' subscribed to us by 'society'. Society is not a ghost or a tree, it is made of people. And people made these roles to suit them. Thats my point. And these roles have been happily preserved by men and sustained by ignorant women. That time is fast coming to an end, I can tell you. Society cant decide anymore for an educated woman what path she takes (and I thank GOD for that), because education makes a woman realise she is a person and not a tool or a glorified house maid or whatever else it was society made her believe she was. Women are waking up to realising that they are important too, cos we make it happen. I will never argue about whether or not its a mans world, but wise men before you have found the truth: it IS mans world, but it wont even exist without woman! A man may be a great big ship, glorious on the high seas and magnificient, but without a compass - woman, he will float into darkness. The Lord has set us both on earth and the man is to go fort to conquer and woman is to be his guiding light. So let the man who thinks less carry on. Experience never lies. So sir when you do get married, better bring up your girl children to be free of societal prejudices, and bring up your boys to realise that the worth a man lays on a woman is what he eventaully is worth. |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 12:39pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
r231:Me ma, Im looking for the poster. As to him spending money on a flat, I still dont believe that story. Very typical story of : my ship is on the high seas! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 12:12pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Deep Soul:LOOLLL |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 12:04pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Pharoh:No no. Im not offended. I just feel its not right that its such a huge topic. You say our african society is not comfortable with single women and I'l tell you why. : It is fear. The african society is dominated by men and men want to beable to talk to men, cos that way, they feel a certain level of security . . safety. And so people want to see young intelligent girls 'married off' so that she's under the control of a man. A fellow man. Thats what it is. Ive noticed how uncomfortable men are when women call them out on the things they say and do, and Ive noticed they dont like it when that woman is young and intelligent and single. Because it cranks their pride that she's talking to them eye to eye. It pisses them off that she has the audacity to tell them theyre not as smart as they think. Theyre annoyed that theres no one they can call to make her 'check her mouth' and that really really riles up african men. And so you get this retort all the time when arguing with a man, that 'your mates are married and having children and you are here running up and down'. Its an attempt by them to belittle a young woman and to tell her that without those things others have, she is nothing, meanwhile, theyre just angry that a woman is comfortable opening her mouth to talk EVEN THOUGH she has none of those things. It is bullying, emotional bullying men are very good at. And I fight it wherever I see it. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 11:24am On Oct 26, 2009 |
Pharoh:You can discuss it with your girlfriend and have a 'stake' in the side she takes, but not with perfect strangers. Its a very personal matter. Theres nothing wrong with a woman deciding she would rather wait until 'menopause' before getting married, or not at all. These are highly personal issues and I find it disturbing to see how eager people are to talk one out of making personal dicisions. Its my decision and my life and no one has any business or 'stake' in it. |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 10:48am On Oct 26, 2009 |
Ujujoan:Thank you oh. I say the thing sounds wishy washy. Real wuruu wuruu |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 10:43am On Oct 26, 2009 |
jay bee:Oh please. Thats EXACTLY what some men want. A responsible girl to shag cos they know the possibility of her sleeping around is low. So they play around and then move on when theyre done, knowing that theyre 'pride' is still in tact cos they were the only ones's shagging the girl at the time. And about our people not wanting to disappoint, . . . story. That he met her through a sister or cousin or aunt or whomever doesnt mean nada for many men! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 10:29am On Oct 26, 2009 |
Ebonyeyes:Ah toh. I just didnt want to fire him. I dont understand oh. Which one is a man's business with menopause?? |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 10:23am On Oct 26, 2009 |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 10:19am On Oct 26, 2009 |
All this one about paying or not paying, me I dont think its about the money. We nigerians have a way of watering everything down to money. It seems the moral aspect is no longer the argument with us. A girl has never met a man before. They live in seperate cities. Culture, tradition and morals DEMAND that the man make the first move. This should not be a 'should-she- pay-or-should-he-pay-matter'. It should be 'who should go'. @Poster . . .Im sorry madame, but the question raises another question of your desperation. Cos a girls honour should be kept. After he has visited you, you can go see him whenever and when that happens, YOU are the one to pay your fare, cos it would be a relationship that two people are trying to make work, and so it is also your duty to finance yourself. But in the first place, the man should make the move on coming to see the woman. Right now, he sounds like he wants you to come over for a shag, and after that, nothing else! |
Romance / Re: Share Your Pranks ?! by Rosabelle(f): 10:11am On Oct 26, 2009 |
POSAKOSA1:And how did you see them? Abi you were stalking your ex? All these your stories sound so far-fetched. Like before, you said something about a can of margots? ? ? ? How did you get that? Cos I know usually only children have the time to find margots or worms that'l fill a can. Bros how far now? |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 10:08am On Oct 26, 2009 |
iykedare:Well sorry mr. man, but I go by myy clock and no one else's. So I dont know why youre worried about menopause? Abi were you once a woman? Besides, not everyone wants to get married and have children. So maintain, ok! |
Romance / Re: 5 Reason Why Some Men Prefer Ashawo To Homely Babes by Rosabelle(f): 2:57am On Oct 26, 2009 |
muffins:As in . . . . . I thought I was the only one who thought that. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 2:49pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
Godmother:I have the same problem. Fortunately, my friends are all happily married, so I also see mariages that work, but above all, it shows me one has to be ready to accomodate a lot of rubbish lol to be married. So its a whole package you have to be ready to commit to .The good and bad. And so sometimes, those bad marriages you see are caused for soo many other reasons apart from the people being irresponsible or bad. Sometimes the time just wasnt right and so the marriage collapses under pressure of expectations. martin1:Ive met a few. But these days we're all getting jaded |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 2:25pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
loolll |
Romance / Re: Share Your Pranks ?! by Rosabelle(f): 2:10pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
r231:'We' here means my friend (the one he cheated on too) and other girlfriends. We all toasted to the vandalisation of his car lol |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 2:08pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
finemocha:Originally from Delta, born lagosian, native of Zurich lol . Why? |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 1:13pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
naijacutee:My dear Nigerian men dont know what independent women look like. If you dont ask him for money for petty stuff like taxi pay and the oh-so-famous making your hair, he'd think youre a fool. Ive experienced it and the dude owes me 2000euros today. Stupid fool of a nigger. lol I dont know how a man can meet a woman, see that she doesnt ask him for money and instead of being proud he doesnt have a beggar, he himself turns into a gold digger So even though Id advice her, like you want to, to pay her own fare, as it is more respectable, . . . .in the first place I dont think she should go there at all. The man should come look for her if she's that important to him. Thats how we women will be doing independence there and we shortchange ourselves. A man ought to work for a woman. So dont encourage women (I didnt say you did, Im speaking hypothetically) to throw themselves at men in the name of indepence or self respect. Besides many nigerian men cant function if their woman is not a pian in the ass. If you dont push him, he'd take you for granted. So she should push him. If he is broke, then he should come visit when he has money or he should borrow if Im important. I can even refund him. But he should make the move, not the woman. |
Travel / Re: Safe To Travel To Nigeria This Christmas? by Rosabelle(f): 12:58pm On Oct 25, 2009 |
@Poster Im sorry if I sounded harsh. Not my intention. I dont want you thinking Im dissing you, but I live in switzerland and because my father worked out, we havnt lived in nigeria since I was 11. He was posted all over, but my folks made sure we went to secondary school in nigeria. So Im not ignorant about your worries. Im very aware of them and I know what precautions my father took each time we were going home (even though the kidnapping wasnt on). And I guess its different for me cos Im lagosian (though from Delta). It just irritates me when I come accross Nigerians who act like theres something special about living in a safe country and not having this same security in nigeria (again no offence meant) when you go home on holidays. Im just like, if you have such doubt, then stay safe and stay away. Its how it is, bad as that is. Deal with it, or dont go back. My folks have lived in Italy, canada, austria and now switzerland and the US cant compare in safety to any of these countries. So Im a little impatient with your hesitation. I dont feel unsafe in Nigeria (maybe its a personal thing) , I feel right at home and welcome. Looking like an african or not has nothing to do with it. After all various people live in nigeria, from white to grey. And though they are cautious, they dont feel 'endangered'. Drawing attention in nigeria is normal as long as youre good looking, . . . or ugly. People will notice you. So you might not be used to the outspoken nature of the street person or locals who immediately voice their opinions on how you look. Its the norm in nigeria. I have heard of the kidnappings and a friend was kidnapped recently because of who his dad is (actually theyre from your state, and the ransom was hell), and I get it. I called you ignorant cos I was a little pissed as your attitude reminded me of my very american uncle who sounds just like you. Thats probably what I was reacting to. I find it a little ignorant of people who live in the US to think theyre not safe anywhere but in the US (pls dont deny it). It kind of vexes me, cos I was there once, and didnt feel at all safe. No matter who your folks are, there are wealthier people in nigeria and they live there. Some of them get kidnapped and the majority dont. So my point is same (just not harsh or personal). If you were there in summer and felt ok (maybe cos you were in a city), but at the same time, if you have all this background info, like your dad telling you not to come and your cousins saying its fine, its kind of clumsy coming to a blog to ask the question of strangers And dont try the inteligence of nigerians when it comes to finding out who people are. Whether your name is Ada or not. |
Romance / Re: Share Your Pranks ?! by Rosabelle(f): 9:23am On Oct 25, 2009 |
OYINBOGOJU:I could care less whether or not you agree my friend. The important thing is, he spent a LOAD of money repairing that car. He was so busy fixing it, he didnt have time to 'juggle babes' for a while. And as for feeling bad, nope I didnt. After distroying his car, we opened a bottle of wine with friends and celebrated. Dont know if youre a man or woman, but after youve been cheated twice, there are no better ways to do things than to make the nigger pay. |
Romance / Re: 6 Signs Your Guy Is Cheating! by Rosabelle(f): 9:10am On Oct 25, 2009 |
MrPrsdent:Meaning men have to be more sensitive to their women and not assume everything is fine simply because she's not complaining . . . . . . .yet! |
Family / Re: Who Is More Important; Your Husband Or Children? by Rosabelle(f): 9:06am On Oct 25, 2009 |
Theres no argument here. Havnt you ever heard the saying that a woman has the emotional strength of 10 full growm men? Its not for nothing it is the woman and not the man who carries a child. She has it in her to unite all. A woman can balance it out and she simply would need the cooperation of her husband to understand that theres no competition. The children are a couples priority in life. You people should stop splitting it into woman/man discussion. PS. On a lighter note. If a woman asked her husband for 450euros to buy a bag, he'd say no. But he would cough out the 3000 euros for the childrens achools fees. So who is the man's priority there? lol |
Romance / Re: 6 Signs Your Guy Is Cheating! by Rosabelle(f): 8:43am On Oct 25, 2009 |
Signs your woman is cheating 1. Her schedule suddenly shifts. We women love order in our lives, even when we're chaotic. We have a list of things to do, and as long as you have a life, these thigns are usually the same week in , week out. So if your woman suddenly has to be somewhere else suddenly . . . . red flag. She's probably cheating or is on her way to the man she'l cheat on you with 2. She suddenly starts to dress out of the ordniary We women again, love order in our lives and all human beings are creatures of habit. SO if your girl, whom you know always dresses in a certain way suddenly starts to look extra-sexy (not like its bad), then be careful 3. She doesnt call like before. That one can be your fault sha, cos its either she doesnt have credit, or youre annoying her lately. Check yourself, you man,, cos its the easist way to loose your girl. We women LOVE attention, just like you men, and if its not coming, we go find it. And all the rest the poster just said. The signs for women and men are the same, cos we're human beings It just manifests differently, according to male or female characteristics. |
Romance / Re: Share Your Pranks ?! by Rosabelle(f): 8:13am On Oct 25, 2009 |
r231:Well if he cheated with a girl I didnt know, it'l have been different. I would have just counted him as 'another' one. But his girlfriend was my friend. Som guys dont know where smart ends and foolish starts. |
Romance / Re: Share Your Pranks ?! by Rosabelle(f): 7:57am On Oct 25, 2009 |
Well I dated this guy for a month and I really liked him and then I got to find out he was dating a friend of mine and had been dating her for like a year. I didnt say a word. I ganged up with her and we vandalised his Land Rover. Took a log of wood, a hammer and thick nails (to crack the hard glass) and smashed all his car windows. ALL He knew it was me and her eventually, but couldnt proove it . . . . . . .everytime I think of that night, Im high! lol PS. . . .oh and my friend slept with his brother she had been checking out all along. That was soo mean. |
Travel / Re: Safe To Travel To Nigeria This Christmas? by Rosabelle(f): 7:51am On Oct 25, 2009 |
I dont get Nigerians who live abroad and think people in Nigeria are in a jungle or something. You just said you were there this summer koh? So what did you see when you went? Did they kidnapp you? Abi do you own Grima Mohammed Motors? Or what is scaring you? Dont they kidnapp people on a DAILY basis in the US? Yes police try to find them, but a good 50% are not found, so whats the whole hulabaloo. If you know you wont be safe, then dont come back. But stop acting illetrate. You 'heard' things are worse. Things ALWAYS get worse in Nigeria, abi havnt you noticed? Oh and by the way, announcing on the internet that youre from imo state and you live in the US and would be going to nigeria for christmas is not exactly 'wise'. Wake and up and stop acting like a dumb american my friend, youre a nigerian. Behave! |
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