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Culture / Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Rosabelle(f): 6:38pm On Nov 17, 2009 |
bebrief:Bro, this is not the religion section. But I'l answer you. Im tired of people using their books of faith to shut people up, especially when they misquote (I didnt say you did) from them. If the Bible is Holy to you, fine, but I doubt anyone's values or guidance can be judged by YOUR book of faith. After all if it were so, Nigeria would be paradise, considering how many churches we have and how many of them call the Bible 'Holy' and dont go by a SINGLE word of it. All those thieves in Senate and in government should be saints since they too read the Bible and Quaran. Everytime a Nigerian runs out of arguments, he tries to shut his competitor up with words from the Bible or Quaran, quoting them as Holy word. But he only remembers these 'Holy words' when he pleases, and doesnt use these words to check his own behaviour! Please lets leave faith and books of faith out of this. 1 Like 1 Share |
Culture / Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Rosabelle(f): 6:17pm On Nov 17, 2009 |
stillwater:Se you know. |
Culture / Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Rosabelle(f): 6:10pm On Nov 17, 2009 |
Wait oh Poster. . . . please tell me your grief. What is wrong with a woman deciding to bear her father's name into marriage? As long as her children bear only their father's (her husband's) name, where is the problem? We live in times where women no longer marry at 20. And so a girl is known for 25 yrs of her life as Nike Sola, if she married Tunji Debo and bore Nike Debo, non of her friends or people who used to know her as Nike S[b][/b]ola would know just from seeing her name. However, Nike Sola-Debo would make more sense. Women are now achievers and we recognise that we 'come from somewhere'. You men need to stop this whole 'wanting to own a woman completely'. Thats what makes women go on this whole 'independent woman' trip. If a woman says she loves you and agrees to marry you, please, what and where is the problem with her carrying her father's name along. Slow down now 1 Like 1 Share |
TV/Movies / Re: Your Favourite Prison Break Character by Rosabelle(f): 1:04pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
mohawkchic:No he wont be the same. And thats what really makes me sad . . . . Micheal Scofield has gone from us for good lol But he stared in Law and Order SVU on the 23rd of September, . . .the premier for the 11th season . . . He was super cool. A snob cop. Look it up. |
Family / Re: Coping With A Pushy Neighbour by Rosabelle(f): 2:38pm On Oct 30, 2009 |
@upuphim. . . . .that thing youre advising her to do, you should only advice if you know the situation and you see it as harmless. This situation cant be harmless. Did you read what wrote? Its more serious than a few words of peace oh my friend. The woman constantly invades her privacy and wont let the young lady into her own house proper (kitchen for example) and youre advicing her to sit the woman down and talk to her? ? ? Im sorry, but I dont dig it. The woman doesnt wish her well, finish. Theres somethign fishy going on, and this is the life of a child at stake . . . .she needs to flee. Not out of fear, but out of caution. The world is dark!!! |
Family / Re: Coping With A Pushy Neighbour by Rosabelle(f): 10:32am On Oct 30, 2009 |
My dear you cant be confused oh. No body has a right walking into your bedroom. Thats your inner sanctum. You and your husband sleep there, plus your baby. Youre the woman, you should protect your home. From the sound of this woman, she's up to no good if she always wants to know whats happening with you and doesnt allow you go past her living room . . . . She's up to no good. If you openely confront her, it might get ugly. Pray and move out. Inbetween, avoid her at all costs. LOCK YOUR DOOR! Pray oh my dear. The Lord Almighty has given you a child and you are to see to his wellbeing, spiritually and physically. This woman is up to no good. Dont explain anything to her. Keep her quiet and avoid her, cos if she's diabolical and you confront her, you are at risk. If on the other hand, you pray and work in silence (please move out), she wont know what youre up to , and thats what you need right now. I wish you well |
Romance / Re: What Do You Hate Most About Naija Ladies? by Rosabelle(f): 8:41pm On Oct 28, 2009 |
POSAKOSA1:Ehen. Doh. Welcome sir. Please sir, dont change the thread koh? Your point is good and well recieved, but the thread is titled : 'what you hate most about naija ladies', not :'should I tell her its over'. The poster is seeking help; if you read previous comments on the thread, you'l see he's from a broken home and obviously has problems with the opposite sex. Now I dont know if he'l come out and let us know he has decided to date men or be homosexual . . . we're all waiting to hear. As it is on this NL, by page 6 or 8, the truth will reveal itself. So please lets stay on track aight? |
Romance / Re: What Do You Hate Most About Naija Ladies? by Rosabelle(f): 6:26pm On Oct 28, 2009 |
@Post: 1. I hate that they give birth to mad men . . . . . e.g the poster! 1 Like |
Culture / Re: Why Are The Men On NL (or In Nigeria) So Abusive? by Rosabelle(f): 12:37pm On Oct 28, 2009 |
iice:LOL, oh I have him on my wall lol |
Culture / Re: Why Are The Men On NL (or In Nigeria) So Abusive? by Rosabelle(f): 6:49pm On Oct 27, 2009 |
iice:I tire. Ive never seen where men and women will be haggling when theyre not int he market place |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 6:47pm On Oct 27, 2009 |
okeyz:LOOOLL . Me ma, I wonder lol |
Politics / Re: Yar'adua Threatens To Shut Down AIT by Rosabelle(f): 1:10pm On Oct 27, 2009 |
Boboribo:I tire oh. So he is alive at all? I dont understand anymore oh. These people called government. Hm! And I thought we had turned "democratic". Even if AIT was in fact spreading malicious stories, you cant call the owner of the TV station to Aso Rock. Doesnt that man have work? He should file a law suite. So all that his education nko? Im tired oh. |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 12:40pm On Oct 27, 2009 |
POSAKOSA1:looolll market place this NL lol |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 12:30pm On Oct 27, 2009 |
ezinne1212:Im telling you. Im getting a completely different picture of Nigeria on this Nairaland than I had before. The men here are always fighting and abusing. They cant just say what they want to say. Its so strange. Always haggling like people say women do. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 11:50am On Oct 27, 2009 |
1. Abusive men. African men cant use their mouths to formulate normal arguments, they must first abuse you before they start. Ive never seen soo much complex in one continent. Macho macho everywhere. Say what you have to say without abusing a woman ohhhh you these men! Haba! |
Family / Re: Who Knows Better,the Mother Or The Wife by Rosabelle(f): 11:48am On Oct 27, 2009 |
!amebo no1:They didnt ask who knows more. . . . they asked who knows better. Meaning him. His personality. His character and not characteristics. PS. - I dont think the mother knows him better either. |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 11:33am On Oct 27, 2009 |
POSAKOSA1:This dude ehn lol . Wont you just ask Aisha2 for her email so you can hook up, cos this one youre stalking her, looks to me liek youre looking for attention. What on earth does her "yarning dust" (in your opinion) have to do with her still being single biko kwanu this nigerian man eh? lol This place is like. . . . I dont know |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 11:24pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
ezinne1212:My dear did you notice when I dropped my pen (in this case, stayed off my keyboard) ? Theres no agument anymore, but the dude wants to go on. |
TV/Movies / Re: Your Favourite Prison Break Character by Rosabelle(f): 9:40pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Oh yes girl. . . Drool on this: hehe
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Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 9:36pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
@Pharoh . . . . and again about what we're bringing to the table, Im flipping the script, cos its what I asked you in the first place when you people didnt have anymore arguments and you started tot alk about paying bride price etc. I said you people always bring in the money aspect to make girls shut up and that aside from that, you'd have nothign to offer. The man I eventually choose (if at all) will know what I have to offer. I dont owe you any explanations. So you and your friends can be waiting for a list or a 500page dosier, its not going to come from me. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 9:31pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
ezinne1212:Heywoh. In fact, this thread has just been adjusted another notch. lol. Before, I was pouring kerosine everywhere, but with this conment, you just set the house on fire proper lol. People wont sleep this night oh. All them Mr Pharoh and co will go and bring re-enforcement. NL will be upon us shortly @Pharoh sorry oh, but as I said, we're runnig round in circles. Ive made my point and you cant get me to think otherwise. I dont have to prove anything to you. I maintain. A young girl should not be crucified because she chooses not to get married, or chooses to have children two years after getting married and not immediately. A woman should be allowed to breath and have the choice of making decisions that make her happy, even whilst being a wife and mother who most times has to put everyone before herself. And men should mind their business when they hear a woman say: Im not getting married until Ive seen Australia and Equador. It is the girls business and she shoudnt be bullied into thinking menopause is the reason why she should go marry anything that runs accross her path and calls itself a man. Fullstop! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 8:19pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
In fact, I cant believe your arguments Mr. Marfarland. Do you think our forefathers drove cars? Or did they spend their saturdays in front of the TV watching formular 1 or football? When it suits you people, you come and be preaching what it means to be 'an african woman'. When it suits you, you use your african man status to shut us up. Do you think watching formular 1 or football is african? This is oyinbo rubbish and it only makes our children bad. Blah blah blah. Our forefathers played in the moonlight and went to farm with thier hoes and axes, and we MUST do the same otherwise we would have lost our values as africans. I cant even believe you. Is it not education that made you have money to buy your TV set at home. Is it not the same you people who will save to buy flat screen TV's. We are africans, and africans are from the bush. As a result, we dont move with the times we're in. Se you hear. Since we want to stick with our values, we should wear wraper to the farm and buy no Italian Armani suits to work in a building, sen gbo? |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 7:53pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
@marcfarland . . . What you call african and what I call african are two different things. 1. What if a woman had fibroid (as african women are prone to due to our diets), . .in extreme cases, a womans womb might have to be removed, or it is infected and she becomes baren. If this woman gets married and cant have children (as is the case sometimes), are you telling me she's not an african?? Giving birth or not should be a persons personal opinion based on their experiences. And this is where you and I will not agree, cos you feel a woman shouldnt even think such simply because she's an african. I never said I didnt want to have children if I eventually got married, so theres no switzerland to it. And a girl choosing whether or not she wants to have children has NOTHING to do with our values. You men have a way of mudling everythign up and calling it tradition. What if a woman feels she is emotionally unable to carry a pregnancy through? And these are the things that have been swept under the carpet that women of today no longer want to keep quiet to. We are also human beings, and just as a man decides : oh, we should have only 4 children so we can educate them well, so also should the woman beable to decide, oh, when we get married, I think I'd like to wait two years before we start having children. Women should be allowed to have a CHOICE. Im tired of the excuse of : we are african being used to blackmail women into not realising themselves For those girls who think they have arrived and as a result can talk to their husbands anyhow, I dont subscribe to it. And in non of my comments have I said an educated womans role is to be disrespectful to her husband. Being educated doesnt mean loosing manners as a person. My argument is, that this respect a woman gives her husband should not be taken for granted , simply because we are africans. There should be a balance. He should respect her as his partner, not his maid! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 7:28pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
cvibe:The person who said that should be jailed for lying and you should be questioned for further diseminating false information. But I'l come back to that later. @Pharoh . . . . What we bring to the table. I can speak for myself. Nothing less than I'd expect . . . . . and thats A LOT This conversation is going round in circles. No one is changing terms without you people's input. You men cant be reasoned with, so we're running ahead and asking you to catch up. The status quo has changed brother. So instead of being scared, catch up! |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 6:29pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
ceysaga:LOL. So youre still there ehn. Well since you think you should go, I think you should. Nothing clears foolishness from our eyes like experience, and so Im all for people expeiencing. Doh oh. When you come back, report here for clossing remarks, cos many of us have grown close ove this your case lol |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 3:04pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
joshymere:Oh boy, are'nt you hearing all we're saying. For two days now, this thread has been running and we havnt heard from the poster. No more advice for her till she returns and tells us where she's been. We suspect she has bailed and run to the guy inspite of all the advice and english we've been speaking. Two days long, we bought over this case. Very rude oh poster! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 3:02pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
redsky1:O jare better person. Where have you been. Tell 'em |
Romance / Re: If A Reliable Pastor Prophesied Dat Most Women Will B 2nd Wives,what Will U Do? by Rosabelle(f): 2:57pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Ebonyeyes: Ben-10:LOOLL. You people wont kill me |
Romance / Re: He's Asking Me To Pay For My Trip by Rosabelle(f): 2:40pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Ujujoan:Ah toh. This one we've bought over another womans case and are fighting it. Typical nigerians we all are lol Meanwhile the owner of the story has left us to be arguing. For all you know, she's there with him now All this good advice, gone to naught lol |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 2:37pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
Ebonyeyes:My dear, I tire. Its like chatting with people from the mid 16th century when you hear some nigerian men and their opinions. LOL. On a lighter note, its funny to see how some people just walk into the thread, answer the question and leave. Not like us, staying back to fight the fight of something completely different ) lol |
Romance / Re: Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married? by Rosabelle(f): 2:19pm On Oct 26, 2009 |
erico2k2:And as usual when arguing with men, you people have watered down the argument to a monetary one. Of allll the things spoken of, no woman mentioned money, but you people seem to be holding on by a string and so you throw in the money argument to see if that'l shut us up. WRONG. Thats why my father sent me to school. So that no man will come one day and say: shut up, Im paying the bills. If I got married to a man and the wedding arrangments cos 2m, we'l split it. Im not a beggar and I am also getting married. I dont think its just the mans responsibility. And face it, you people have accepted to take on this monetary role so that you can talk. Cos otherwise, you know the woman will defeat you,. At least this way you can continue to shout at her that you alone paid the 2m (money that would have expired since oh) so she should not argue when you talk. |
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