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Cardealer2021:
Hanty na story you dey find.
Na only small girls dey run follow iPhones Sha,
But without money no girl go ever look your face

I have few broke guys as friends, though they are not rich but they are neat, smart and very likeable, I almost dated one of them but I found out he was a playboy. Personally, I can fall in love with a guy just because I find him interest but I will first weigh the pros and cons before I decide to date him.

okoroemeka:
if you have a great personality and standing sweating on the bustop under March sunlight,while another guy with great personality is cruising in a clean Camry or accord with AC dropping water ,guess which one has a higher probability of taking a girl home?a man that has money has confidence and women with their feral instincts can sniff it out.

You are referring to prostitutes right? Did you really mean taking a girl home, like he is buying a commodity in the market? Some guys are not so rich but they attract ladies easily because they are just confident and they have a likeable character.

Fiscus105:
At last u started liking him back, on the long run you will still end up in his bed. All the shakara will now die permanently.


.........the only way man will not be able to get woman is if she completely avoid him from conversation, this is reason why woman cannot be bestie with guy.

Though if you and the guy not in relationship yet, not bad if you end up as lover , temporary or permanent.

Let me advise you, stop watching so many soap opera, it is affecting the way you think. I am too mature to be stupid, I have avoided him completely. I don't smell things I don't want to eat. I never said he is my neighbour, we only met during a program and he doesn't even know my house address. It is possible you are commenting on the wrong post.

mardis:
You better take this advice whoever is seeking for advice.

Let me add, advicee you must be an ingrate fellow, yes you're a big ingrate. So because of yanki, yoy want to leave the person who truly loves you even with your unwanted pregnancy and follow the person that abandoned you with his pregnancy. Something is definitely wrong with your head i swear. Your eyes go clear soon.

Why not read my comment properly before quoting me? I advised her not to go with the guy that abandoned her and her baby.

You can decide not to marry a guy you don't love but if you marry a guy that doesn't love you, it is worst, infact you will be making the biggest mistake of your life. For that guy to deny you and the baby at first he might not love you. What are you trying to do to yourself? His family doesn't like you and you want to marry him. Are you not suppose to even be a close friend to your mother-in-law to be?

I am not scared anymore because I trust my partner and I have studied him properly but it is normally to be anxious because marriage is a commitment that last forever.

I will go out in the night and also visit my male friends at their houses.

Healthy

badboyTee:
am trying to correct your wicked attitude here but you seem stupid if you know you're not interested in someone tell him beforehand which Kain yeye thing be that after collecting gifts and money calling me friend mycheeeeew

The wicked one here is you, you are insulting and accusing someone you don't even know. I respect myself a lot. I would properly even pay his bills rather than rely on him for money. The highest thing a guy has ever done for me is pay for my uber fare (which is not even up to #2,000) and I did not forget to reciprocate by buying him food but after this incident, I stopped accepting even the smallest gifts from guys.

badboyTee:
[s]no sense here

You won't accuse someone else of something you can't do, so stop denying the obvious.

badboyTee:
[s] I wish I know this guy personally I for teach am something's that even you would reason why did I turn him down........is it not this same naija bitchs of nowadays who can fvck anything for money

The fact that you worship money, doesn't mean everybody does the same.

badboyTee:
[s] I wish I know this guy personally I for teach am something's that even you would reason why did I turn him down........is it not this same naija bitchs of nowadays who can fvck anything for money

Are you talking about your sisters?

badboyTee:
and one more thing fvck you

I wish you the same.

badboyTee:
have modified my post but you have duped the guy emotionally, materially and mentally

Sorry, I am financially independent, I don't demand money or gifts from guys. I have not even collected anything from my boyfriend or demanded anything from him.

badboyTee:
by the time you reach 39 and no husband your head will reset to factory default

You don't have to worry about me, God is in control of my life and I am already in a serious relationship. It is better for you to divert this advice to your sisters, nieces, cousins or even your aunts.

Nat404:
Do you feel good when men are chasing you?

I thought I was deeply in love with a particular guy and I felt he had the same feelings for me because he was very nice to me but when I later realised he had a girlfriend and he was just being a gentleman, I did not chase him or force my love on him. I hate to be seen as desperate and I don't like when people act desperate either.

MadeINchenzen2:
The truth is that when you love someone truly and deeply, you become clingy, addicted and insecure... especially if you've not worked on yourself in that regard.

A person who loves deeply can as well hate to kill... they can be blind to reason and logic and can even hurt the one they love If the one they love fails to keep simple relationship assurances.

A guy killed his partner because he caught her pants down with her employer making out in his office.

A lady silently drugged and killed her fiancee for cheating.

Love is a lot of work. It is not easy to say you love someone... be careful the type of love you allow to lead u into any relationship or marriage.

If a guy loves u too much as to be clingy, insecure, addicted to you, you must be careful. Same applies with the ladies too.

There is something called, the other side of love.

I once felt I was deeply in love with a particular guy but when I realised he was already in a relationship and he did not have the same feelings for me. I did not throw myself at him or try to force my love on him. The feeling you are describing is obsession not love, love doesn't hurt and love is not toxic.

Nat404:
LOL, you crack me up here. Why don't you feel good about it?

Most guys act desperate when they are chasing a lady. My boyfriend approached me in a mature manner, he did not say you are so beautiful, I love you hair, I love your shape, I love this, I love that. I did not even know he was interested in me, I could have refused if he asked me out straight away. I met him during a program, he told me that he has been seen me for a while, he chatted with me a bit and asked me for my phone number. After he collected my number, he did not bother me with calls, we just usually bump into each other during the program. Though he was nice but I did not notice he had feelings for me because I was use to people being nice to me. He stays in USA, after the program has ended and he was about leaving Nigeria, he called me and told me about his feelings.

Nat404:
Do you feel good when men are chasing you?

No

Nat404:
I never said that. My keyword here was "chase."

Okay

Nat404:
Not a big deal. Women also chase me.

Did you read the post before commenting? Are you saying there is no big deal in a guy lying that he had sexual affairs with me?

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I had one I didn't know he was a stalker until recently , he started becoming more aggressive physically , like me and you no get anything you want dey grab my wrist for outside as per couples feud , I've reported the person to my family , literally had to slap him , the last time I slapped anyone (guy ) was in ss2 and I didn't like it , but even after slapping this one. It's like he apologized to himself on my behalf and forgived me on my behalf and continued stalking me

Unlike you, I was very free with guys, I didn't see any wrong with relating with a guy but after that incident I became very careful. I have a lot of male friends, some of them asked me out but when I refused they accepted to just be friends. The only time I got angry and hit a guy was when he was trying to touch me in a sensitive part of my body.

Nonexisting:
I am very sure that if we hear the other side of same story from that alleged stalker of yours, everybody in this thread will modify their comments. Keep lying to yourself. I have no further comment.

Next time think before you comment. If I was even in a relationship with the guy like you are assuming. If I am no longer interested I would have simply broken up with him and moved on. Do I even need to hide it from my bf or a lady can't breakup and have a new bf?

Nonexisting:
I used to believe in this stalking nonsense until I heard directly from one of the alleged stalkers. This complainant here won't say she never ate the guy's money and gave him false hope at that short course. She led the guy on, gave everyone around him the impression that she was his girlfriend thereby scaring off potential girlfriends the guy could've had. She went as far as using her mother's phone to call him which pointed to the same direction. The man is a fool though but this vaginarian here should not be complaining about the monster she gave birth to. She knew quite well what the man wanted and yet she was still encouraging him. My guess is that she has now found a better boyfriend and she either doesn't want this guy to destroy her newly found relationship or the new guy is complaining of the simp's nuisance around her.

Poor you, you are properly describing those your chewing gum ex-girlfriends, sorry about your hurt.

SurvivorM:
Forget what that dude said, the world is full of people with mental problems, you think you have problems now wait until you start dating someone and this dude start harassing the person and spreading vicious lies about you, he is already telling guys that he has slept with you to push them away.
The only way is to show him you are not scared of him or putting his craziness out there.

Okay, I will that. Thank you.

TheSourcerer:
The universe has always been thereso does not need creation.


We humans like seeing patterns in everything hence we seeking how and why the universe was made , even though it is an unnesesary question , but yeah we still seek

This is just your opinion, not the fact.

toujurs:
You sounded like a lady, that has been in a very rough relationship, before this dude came in.

The guy is actually a fool, to feel that attached, attachment is a ladies thing.

Please call him to order again, for the last time and warn him to desist from anything regarding you. Some guys can be so stupid. And he is definitely one of them. Very toxic.

I don't want to call him out on instagram again, not everybody will understand, some people might just find it funny or childish. When I called him out on instagram, one guy I met during the program told me that I shouldn't have done that because of my own reputation.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Rosement pls that thing is a stalker..get rid of him as soon as possible..those kinda persons are not usually mentally stable..don't get yourself hurt.. cut em off..

These kinda person are obsessive and highly narcissistic individuals...they are controlling and manipulative...most actually lack empathy..
All stalkers like that guy have personality disorders..

Secondly pls ignore the insultive comment that might come up..

Thank you so much for the advice, I will do just that.

I met a particular guy when I attended a short course. He was in a relationship with me in his mind, even after he asked me out and I told him we can only be friends. He was bothering me with frequent calls and complaining whenever I did not pick his calls.

I found out after the program ended that he told several people he was in a relationship with him and we are having sexual affairs. A male mate of mine was upset with me because of that but I did not try to prove myself to him. Several people started asking me about the relationship also. When I told him to stop pestering him, he started pestering my brother. He met my brother when my brother visited me during the short course. The guy is a stalker.

He even called my mum and told her he had something very important to discuss with her about her daughter, my mum was about to go and lecture her students that day but she had to wait to listen to his nonsense. I did not introduce him to my mum but he had my mum's number because one day I missed his call and I used my mum's phone to call him back, then I did not know he was a liar.

I unfollowed him on instagram and addressed a warning video to him. He sent me a DM asking me to delete the video and he promised to stop pestering me but he recently followed me back and started liking my pictures.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Doing the right thing is a choice without guarantee. Just do it because you fear God or because you have a conscience. Don't expect anything in return for your good heart. Without expectations you will definitely find happiness and satisfaction.

slickycee:
Bad girl , Bad boy, Good girl and good boy are just labels we put on people..

The person you think is a bad girl might just be daring and adventurous, but our olodo society might call such people bad. It's just a tag , don't let name decieve you.

That good girl you're thinking of , might just be a homely , shy and churchy girl.

All these traits don't make any one bad or good they're just different characters.

Good or bad is in the heart.
The more selfish a person is , the more likely vhe or she would do wicked things.

Secondly,
You need to remember life is not the same for all of us,
That girl did this and is enjoying life, doesn't mean you would do it and enjoy life too.

God would bless everyone according to his wisdom and time.

Don't envy people or compare, God sees the heart , me and you don't.

Thirdly.
You are not for everyone and everyone is not for you.
Even if you try to be a bad girl, the same guy that you think Is confused and always pick bad girls, would still ignore you.

You can't be for everyone !!!
It doesn't work like that.
Jesus Christ wasn't even accepted in his home town.
His own people asked for him to be crucified.

It's never personal, but everyone is not for you. And even if you do surgery to look like them , or change your name to theirs, they won't still accept you.

Just love yourself and be confident I yourself.
Don't let social media or Tv fool you.


Let me say this again,
A quiet person doesn't make them good.
A shy person doesn't mean a good person.
An emotional or cry baby is not always a good person.

Those are just traits, so don't mistake them for good and bad.
We know the personality types, sanguine, melancholy, phlegmatic and choleric.
None is good not is bad.
It's what people decides to do.


Lastly,
The grass always seem greener on the other side.
Humans are naturally ungrateful, and never know the value of what they have until they Lose it.

They're many people who think bad people are having life easy, but they feel cheated , being ungrateful for the peace and blessings they enjoy.
Like my role model , J Cole said.

There's no such thing as a life thats better than yours.

They would always be someone richer than you, finer than you, more talented than you.
Like your latest would always be someone outdated, your choice would be someone Godforbid.
But you would never be happy untill you learn to love yours.



So love yourself and the things you have and believe better days are surely ahead.
If you believe what you're doing Is right , and you feel it's something that doesn't compromise your peace , please keep at it

Don't let labels decieve you or make you question your beliefs.

Stay true to yourself.

You have said it all.

TheGidRedpiller:
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Hello FEMINISM! I coming for you again!

If i visited your home and your grandmother who is still alive and lives with you tells me that she was a strong and independent woman, i would readily accept it with all my heart. WHY? well because she didn't meet modern feminism and if that be the case then she is telling the truth!

In today's world, when some random biittch tells you that she is a "Strong And Independent Woman", my brother, there are a thousand and one totally different placements of what she meant by that! No woman in today's world has the balls, or should i say "MEATS", to create something from scratch, she is just riding something that was already provided for her by men, but then she would hide the men BEHIND THE CURTAIN to take all glory!

Call it misogynistic or whatever i have 3 FACTS to prove my points here!

1.Is Mrs "Strong And Independent" Really The Owner Of That Business??...

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Ignorance