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Sprints3:
most important is love a d teach your children respect, values, discipline and less extravagance, I might be a terrible dad than my own dad but will try not to be strict at all... Though am vicious but no strict, I don't ground children

Please in all you do remember that if you spare the rod you spoil the child and this rod must not be a stick or belt, this rod has to be something that would give them something to think about when they want to go astray. A father or mother must be strict, that way they will understand one very important rule in life, which is action and consequences. A child is not guaranteed to be good in life because the parents are strict or were strict but when the child is in prison or in a dark place foe his actions, there is hope of redemption because he would remember his parents. Above all children need spiritual guidance.

Sprints3:
there is no strict parent who show open affection. Thank God I was brought up by a strict parent but broke his rules... Me I have non chalant attitude b4 if everyone dey go right I will left..till now we still dey get issues..

So would not raise ur own kids with love and the same time being strict, given your experience? I was raised by a strict father with affectionate mother, who would explain my fathers actions and that gave me balance.

LauraClasikVibe:
Do Strict parents raise the best children., Lets discuss

Every strict action must be backed up with love, if it's just being strict all the time, may be traumatic for the child. In all, being strict gives you the best kind of kids. No overly pampered child becomes a good person, check it.

essentialone:
Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

Your 3years old son gets angry whenever you give him food he doesn't want and throws it on you, you laugh and say "😃😃 children ehh".

Baby boy will lift his hands and slap you when he wants you to drop him...All you'd say is "you're beating mummy 😃"

No other child in that area messes with him...And you're calling him "A no- nonsense boy"

He picks up things from the ground and hits people whenever he's stopped from doing something...You smile and call him "action boy😃🤾🏿‍♂️🤸🏽‍♂️"

You expose him to all manner of violence and say "He's a man, man suppose get mind"

Few years down the line the teenage boy bullies his sisters, commands them around, shares slaps as souvenirs to anyone that dares to challenge him.
You call him "man of the house"😃

He grew up having his way all through. Now he's a full grown man in the society. And it's not funny anymore.

Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

*IT'S EASIER TO TRAIN A SON THAN TO CORRECT A HUSBAND.*

We could address a lot from the root.

Sorry if you’ve been hurt with this post ?

But! This is just the Fact 👌🤷‍♀️

May Almighty God make it easy for us all AmennN 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

If I tell u women are more abusive these days, would you believe that the table has turned?

Mille:
I came across this post on Reddit and it's triggering.

Women know how to destroy, well maybe some of them. They give what they can't take and blow everything out of proportion. A patient calm woman ehh is worth more than GOLD. A selfish woman is worse than a witch guys beware.

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YidxEM7XBXU

Pastor spotted praying for a YahooBoy. The pastor was heard praying against any stubborn "client" refusing to pay him money

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv

Na benin pastor be this

GetMeRight:
Yes, but to some extent. No matter how rich you are, a person with can still trash you. That's where power edges money. Dangote rich, Tinubu has power. I don't have to tell you the Oga between the two.

Don't take away Dan's money even with tinubu power nothing dey happen. Remember they must both av these attributes.

DaveHarry:
Between power and money which one is greater. For the deep thinkers!

If u av power nd no money u will live in pain and regret. Money can console ur lack of power. These are practical life answers no too much thinking.

stewiepeter:
Oga no talk that one ohh, the strike reach my side for abuja. Nepa switch off light from Tuesday morning till now no light. My area which is Maitama have light for about 23 hours average in a day.

That's part of d government plan. Think bro. The strike is staged

References1:
https://community.thenationonlineng.net/forum/just-in-nlc-ends-warning-strike-directs-members-to-resume-work?xg_source=twitter

The strike is staged. This country is in some deep shit

thesilentman:
Yes,this is a carbon copy of what am going through now!

Please if u find a solution let me know, this person has been going through this 4 years and no solution. It's even worse now nd the guy is dieing slowly. Did u date her long b4 marraige?

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

I know someone who is in the same shoes now, seriously what is the reason for these things. The disrespect and insult is the worst. They would not listen yo anything u say, once u react they start to cry and change the narrative and play victim. Seriously what do one really do? Divorce is not something I really want for anyone. All because of the children. It's very difficult.

Mynd44:
https://pmnewsnigeria.com/2023/09/04/lagos-civil-servants-pull-out-of-nlcs-warning-strike/?utm_source=&utm_medium=twitter

This strike is fake, the strike has something to do with the election verdict tomorrow, Nigeria is just a big scam. Lagos pulling out now is part of the act

Lamasta:

The offside on that ish was a fine line.

The comments here are scary. It shows alot about who we are as Nigerians, God save us, I hope it all ends well. The truth us, aside politics and all, have you noticed that people no longer tell the truth anymore, no dignity, nothing just pure wickedness, people don't care as long as that's what they want it does not matter if it's bad. God go help us.

Pakute:
Na simple matter na, no be so?. You talk am say Fashola been write judgement for PEPT, Fashola come report to police, police enter your house carry your brother. Na una talk am for X say Fashola write judgement, as you don talk am, dey ginger obidients to dey insult Fashola plus the judiciary join, make Nnamdi go report himself to the police and drop evidence, then police go release your brother. I no know why people who dey bear Nnamdi too dey get coconut head, there is another Nnamdi inside kuje who still dey chop aboki beans since 2years ago.

It's this what is obtainable in a normal world? Should things be this way?

LoveUdie:
Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

100% wrong. Please

puremaker7:
Any man who can tame his penis have 95% of his problems solved.

Tame all you want, your problems are still 200% axtive especially with the woman in your life... it's madness, it's crazy. Men put your selves first, and believe in God and your problem is 95 % solved

Noneroone:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2023/08/afrobeats-is-nothing-lacks-substance-burna-boy/amp/

Rest music nor be 9 o clock news. As long as we vibe to it we are already.... this is just about too much Maggi for soup. I saw and belived u when no one did, if you know I was the first to identify that u will blow but I hate mouth making.

Tosin67:
Two of them combine cannot win councilorship election in their wards.

Let's see then what happens, after all this is an election and probably the best LP is going to come up with.

naptu2:
Olumide Akpata @OlumideAkpata



https://twitter.com/OlumideAkpata/status/1694762878463554042

You will be deputy to pastor azeme azena

Klass99:
I was busy most of the day and didn't have time to respond to you till now. Read my post above, the one in response to femmoy.

You should be believed because you are a man but because I am a woman, I am making assumptions, abi? It's funny how you guys think you know it all and you know better, and when a woman talks from her reality/experience it is jargons.

FYI none of those divorced men I mentioned has found love again or remarried, three to five years after their divorce (if I recall the number of years correctly sef, for some this should be the 6th or 7th year) Newsflash......good women don't want damaged goods either, so that narrative of yours that men move on quickly and do better is a false and inaccurate one, most of you tell yourselves as consolation or a pissing contest with women.

EOD.

Are you a divorcee? My point is that doing better after a divorce is all relative, fact check. A woman who divorced at 40 and a man who divorced at 40 what are thier odds. Well, let's leave it at that. Once again your generalization makes your statements an assumption not because of you are a woman. Have a good day.

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=125293098]Your so-called bigger picture is culled from a delusion that stems from a low level of social intelligence. The moment you tackle that problem, you will probably begin to see that the gender world, particularly where women are concerned are in fact not as black and white as you pretend. You cannot speak for anything except for yourself in your delusion. [/quote

Please stop the social one thing, who ever told u a man is different from a woman. Good night Please. Enjoy ur stand. The literature has changed. If a woman wants to be a man ok the man and woman relationship is actually in black and white. U really upcoming

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Kobojunkie:
That post is meant for you to address your hangups with women that have led you to pretend you have them all figured out when you have no clue at all.

Enjoy. Good night. No one has figured out anything except u. U seem to be the only one who already figured it all, I repeat am standing on a bigger picture, u alone wants to narrow, in ur bid to expatriate, u continue to rope urself. No man should beat a woman, u did not read that but continue to show u av a very good woman. May it continue to be that way for u. For people or men who re good, I speak for them and wish someone would hear thier story before they become monsters

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any sense to me. In fact, you are beginning to remind me so much of a guy, on some other thread, who claims that Ifa invented a binary system from which he then derived the Yoruba language and cultural laws. That guy also claimed he was a physicist even though none of his populations made sense.

Y would u make sense when ur references are already out of point. Ifa? I don't get. Good night, u are an upcoming, u made my evening

Kobojunkie:
Read this as it more than explains why you think all humans are implicated in the particular delusions you are hooked to.
https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/584/mental_health_social_intelligence

If that submission by ur reference is correct they would never be disagreement with people or nations. Social behavior is unpredictable but there is a standard. And that standard always changes. Hurt no one and let no one hurt u. Never let anyone hurt u, I repeat that, violence against a woman or man is never acceptable but never give what u don't want.

Kobojunkie:
Read this as it more than explains why you think all humans are implicated in the particular delusions you are hooked to.
https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/584/mental_health_social_intelligence

Wow, now I see u are textbook av u gotten a post masters degree.? That write up is relative. I scanned through and all o say is social intelligence is not about agreeing and getting along even if it's inclusive, u av to know the side to go despite u getting along

Kobojunkie:
NOnsense submission from a story teller!

Normal, from ur likes who are not unbaias. Sentiments is a killer of vision. Open ur eyes

Kobojunkie:
Osinachi happens to be the ultimate reason why any and any Nigerian woman out there should avoid any man who uses her as a punching bag. That example more than reveals all the Don'ts in the case of violence in marriage.

2. There is absolutely no justification or excuse for violence in relationships. Comprende?

U seem to av the vocals to argue don't make u right, u trying to narrow ur take but I have a bigger picture.. " comprehend"

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=125292194]Osinachi happens to be the ultimate reason why any and any Nigerian woman out there should avoid any man who uses her as a punching bag. That example more than reveals all the Don'ts in the case of violence in marriage.

2. There is absolutely no justification or excuse for violence in relationships. Comprende? [/quote

Yes and yes, no violence, but I assure u that the violence starts from the women but the man always comes out top in that stupid game of violence hence he is the monster. The man is already a punching bag years before u see the real damage by the man which should not be so nevertheless women should remain women to avoid the natural war like nature of a man

Kobojunkie:
Stop rambling already! There is absolutely no excuse or justification for violence even in marriage. Simple! If you have poor social intelligence and are hence unable to relate to women as they are, then avoid them at all costs. In fact, marry a man if you must so you can have peace of men.

Nobody is selling violence against women as a matter of fact it should never happen. Social intelligence? I laff, what do u know about that or u think ur social intelligence is a standard? Well, I don't have it, all I have is fairness

Kobojunkie:
Stop with the inane deviations. You asked of Osinachi, and here again....

2. Which heaven? Na you open the door to this heaven for her abi wetin? The woman is there in her grave rotting away with worms abeg! All her singing, prayer, and fasting no comot pass her pastor roof sef.

God gave her a brain to use, but she refused to use it in saving herself from a man that used her as a punching bag for many years. Do you think God is some kind of mumu who would accept even the foolish into His own abode?

Follow through, I never asked for osinachi, he or u are the using osinachi as ultimate example. Once again if osinachi husband is wrong let him die by hanging, I repeat if he is wrong. U don't know what's going on. Most of us can't be fooled again.