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sharone21:
Your child can wear her brother's clothes, it doesn't matter.

Come ooo, u can't afford kid's clothes, and u get 4 kids already? I don't understand why poor men will be competing with rich folks on the number of kids they will have...

If u can't afford kid's clothes, is it school fees u will afford?

I sure say even after each birth, u may not even properly nurse your wife to full health before mounting on her again... Some things are legal basis for divorce especially when the woman has tolerated enough.... Why take someone from her parents only to suffer them- constant sex, constant cooking , constant care for so called family and little care for herself.... Women sacrifices their l8fe that is why it is good to marry a HUSBAND.


How person go marry still be like widow?

Bro go for counselling.

Probz:
Clothes have literally no gender, and there was a time when pink was considered masculine and blue feminine. Do whatever you want, OP.

BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

EngrKemp:
How r u sure uti is gsy?
Any evidence or guy coming out to say so ?
Or u just wanna say it as it looks cliche?

Nsogbu001:
I'm from Ebonyi state and it has been from hand to mouth. No long stories. This picture shows how God transformed my life

spiceadole:
Big blow for May.

Anambra man don use his son do money rituals.
Smart guy..He knew he was going to lose a child ,so he got a second wife to bear another child in an attempt to replace the one he will sacrifice.

Poor boy...May his soul RIP

Fut9ure:
Let me ask you a question


What is keeping you alive today?

Please answer me

Fut9ure:
Religion and Christianity is an embarrassing human practice of convincing the mind to ignore common sense, logic, reason and evidence while blindly believing in ancient fairy tales. It encourages its followers to value faith over facts and reality. It makes its followers proud instead of being ashamed of thier ignorance

Fut9ure:
Ogbeni shut up

Mod should please always delete this guys comments

Not only Africans comes to nairaland
Foreigners also do

It is a shame when they read this Righteousness2 comments thinking the whole Nigerians are myopic, ignorant and archaic
Seun do something fast
We are in a technology era were our kids are to learn alot about tech not being frightened with end time and all other religion bullshit

seanwilliam:
You’re on point 100%. God bless u.

@ForG, Besides at that your age, I don’t think it’s that bad being policed by an elderly woman. Me and you know say na because of pussy exploration na why u go rent that house , take this from me, there’s no big deed there. Carrying girl or girls while you’re still finding your feet is you stabbing yourself on the back .

This is coming from a guy who’s fhucked nothing less down 100 girls in my career
You’re still young my brother , don’t take decision they’ll mar your future.





However , if you still insist on exploring , disguising with “ wanting privacy “ then next time don’t rent apartment where the landlord/landlady lives. Also dress and speak in a very mature manner ( no be by speaking grammar) but trust me the way you carry yourself is the way you’ll be addressed.
Be respectful , be ready to unlearn and relearn, don’t be too forward because you get small change for acct, trust me, na change. If you’re rich you’ll get your own house


This is Africa, kill that ‘woke’ mentality, it’ll do you no good.




And finally , try to create physical - offline business and attribute your money to it. You know why ? This is Nigeria , you still have to conform in some ways with society ‘standard ‘.


You can attack me that I’m a local bush man, trust me, I woke pass u

I wish you success brotherly

Shhh

Promotions:
The problem is the landlady needs a matured man or a decent young man as a tenant but op on the other hand is a young man trying to explore life.. best you get another apartment that approves of your life style cos such apartment will be no fun for you.

Ehinjuola:
My name is Dimeji (not real name tho), I'm in my final lap in one of the prestigious uni in Nigeria.

It happens my fiancee and I have been dating for long now, recently she discovered that she missed her period (though I'm not happy with it and at the same time I don't want ab*rtion) and couple the fact that I really love this lady and I want future with her.

I want to quickly do her introduction before the bump is visible n I have taken a bold step by taken my parents to hers for unofficial intro before the real intro which has been set for next two months.

But recently I do observe that she do post on her status about praying not to choose wrongly in term of relationship, (she has once asked me whether I don't feel we are rushing things in one of our conversation one time like that) plus the fact that whenever I called her recently the vibe is not there any longer, this is the person we are both serious with the relationship oo Infact she's the one that's pushing thing initially.

My question now is that, Is it anxiousness or marriage phobia or early pregnancy symptoms or she's just confuse or the feeling of not been ready that's worrying her? (She will be 26 next month)

Yedidea:
I'm Solomon an Ibgo from my father's side,and my mom is a Ghanaian, My mom took me from Nigeria to Ghana ( UNAWARE ) of my father as I was a baby so I have never seen my own biological father ever since Born, and I have tried all humanly possible means to find him but not avail, my mom have declined to tell me every Truth about my father, after all my pressure on her to tell me where my dad is until now no good answer from her, but I'm desperately want to see my dad.

The only information I have about Him is- my mom told me that His name is Paul Peter She said she has forgotten the sir name of my Dad, and she has also forgot the Nigeria state my dad comes from , My Dad was then a mechanical engineer in Lagos in assembling excavators ect..there was a pictures proofing that but she seized it, and she failed to tell me.

The Company name, I have my father's very old picture with me, posted with my mom, I'm now at age but I sincerely want everyone who will come across my massage join the searching help till I find my real family, my mom name is Grace , that was the name my Dad was aware of.

Please my precious reader help me found my dad and my home back in Nigeria, this is my Ghanaian number for call and WhatsApp -+233553121901 , God bless you and your family for helping me Amen.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Let's allow the court to do their job peacefully, no need for all these . We trust our judiciary to carry out their work effectively and if there was any stolen mandate, then let it be returned and if there's non then let everyone rest and go about their normal lives.

Lyfdiscvry91:
It's God that will judge him for bringing kids the this world and abandoning them .

We went through hell growing up,there's noting like anyone poisoning our minds we saw the true definition of suffering and he he was some where leaving well.

Whatever happened btw him and my mum shouldn't stop him from reaching out to his kids knowing fully well that we are his, any man who doesn't take responsibility of his children is not worthy to be called a father.

virginprincess:
Go on,there is nothing you would say here that your gender hasn't said to me before on this forum.

virginprincess:
Good for her,marriage with a Nigeria man is like being in bondage,thank God she was wise enough to leave that hell called marriage,never take bullshit from any Nigeria man in the name of marriage.

EngrKemp:
Gbam..

LP won clean clear.

Like if u agree with me and share if u don't..

Obi must reclaim his mandate from tinubu.

It's also good that power did not go back to the north.
Instead of atiku ,tinubu should continue to be the place holder till Obi gets his mandate back.


Igbo and Yoruba fight is a big challenge to us in the south

We the Niger deltans can work with any of them but they v refused to work together and the Yorubas v shown to disregard even us the Niger deltans because they just dive into hatred and tribalism over sensitive and issues that require equity and justice.

For me, Igbo should v it for justice,equity and fairness sake.

Tinubu did not win .

Obi won

factcheckmmm:
At naira land mod I have gone through most post of recent all I do see is threat by some groups concerning the election

My observation clearly have seen that none of these people has being ban for threat relating to election

Please help the people, anyone threatening anybody not to come out and vote should be ban till after the election

As for you all,go out there and vote.

Vote for your choice candidate without fear

Any state you find yourself, go out there and vote for who you want

fareed69:
God does not know Politics.
Stop joining Politics with Jesus.

fareed69:
Because you are a looser

fareed69:
So that they can reimburse him back for his loss?
Ewu.
Madateeeeee k*ll you there .
Obi and Obidient have laboured in vain

fareed69:
Narrative of what?
That you are a failure

Karlifate:
Except it's a forced arranged marriage, you're the one to take responsibility for your regret.

Sometimes I feel I made a serious mistake going to the tertiary institution.
I had my OND degree about 8 years ago after several months of job searching I realised I couldn't get a job with it and the OND is just as useless as ssce I decided to get a better degree I wrote jamb I got admitted to the university 5 years ago to study engineering.
Now in a few months to my graduation (if ASUU call off the strike) I feel I made a great mistake going back to school.
I feel all the efforts, time and money is be wasted.
I feel going back to school was a mirage cus after school will I still go back to the street as usual.
Do you ever regret going to school?

fareed69:
Him wan Lord over them?
Are they not adults.
Is he the party chairman.
Una no Sabi
Come make we teach una

lhordspy:
You can keep up with the super story to your people in the southEast there. But hear me and hear me loud; You will never, i repeat never rule this nation.

The hard reality is that in 2027, You Mr. Peter Obi will still contest against Tinubu once again. The entire North will still never vote for you, you will still not be able to win a single state there nor get 25%

The Southwest will still never vote for you except your brothers in Lagos, you will still fail in 5 out of the 6 states that make up the region because the people already know you are leading and championing your tribal people to takeover Southwest in disguise of running for political post.

You will still lose states like Kogi, Niger, Kwara in the northcentral.

Even if you decamp to PDP, your image is already battered over here in the North. We all see you as nothing more but a Religious divider, the man who hates muslims so much that he paid general overseers billions of dollars to preach hate against muslims on the altar. No heavyweight politician here in the North will be bold enough to campaign for you .

You are done for, Mr Obi. No pathway to victory for you now, next four years or next 3millions years. That name Gregory Obi will forever be a rejected name in Nigeria political space.

sukkot:
this crazy ass nigga yo ass too old to be wailing. pete shut yo ol patriachal misogynistic archaic ass up mane

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!