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Lies. This is what they say to console themselves. Do you have a vagina to know that what you're saying is factual? Nothing wrong with a small joystick, just find someone who prefers it.

Lordkylie:
Learning a handwork is not compulsory abeg. I think the emphasis should be on self sufficiency, not everyone will be a business owner and even business owners need employees. The point is find something to do and excel at it whether you're male or female. And @op please remove the age restriction, it all depends on the path you're taking in life e.g if you intend to become a doctor you'll most likely not be done with medical school at 22. Be a badass employer, professional, blogger etc just stop relying on the little hole tween your legs

Exactly my point.

valkaka:
lol, this is absurd, utter balderdash, i am a very comfortable working-class dude and my best friend is a girl.SHE IS ONE OF THE BEST PEOPLE IVE MET SO U SEXIST PERSON LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE WITH UR STEREOTYPICAL ATTITUDES TOWARD FRIENDSHIP.i may be single still but she is in a loving relationship, in fact, i gave her the consent to accept the dudes request, we have been best friends since our first degree and right through our masters program together and still on.We help each other through hard times, we swim together and sleeps together in the same bed even and there is never a time we feel passion towards another despite loving each other like madt.We act stupid around each other, we tell secrets, we know everything about each other. We may get jealous, but that is only because we care and we don't want each other getting hurt. What is wrong with falling in love with your best friend that's a girl NOTHING it just means you will be by his side until the end even if he gets his own boyfriend you will support him. You won't hold higher standards you just want someone like her to understand you know your deepest secrets to stay by you.iam very happy she is dating and i am certainly cool with it, till today she still confides me.

with the way you're typing, i think you're in denial. You're battling with secret feelings that you have for her.

SgtKisswhere:
what could be the cause of that, if I may ask? could it be the feeling that a man should provide for d basic needs of life (don't get me wrong boyfriend/girlfriend, it shldnt be that way but in marriage I have no qualms providing even her underwears while she makes her own money at the side) or just plain laziness?

thanks

A part of it has to do with laziness. Some women feel an automatic entitlement to a man's money just because she's a woman. Some equate their pussy to money. Some, its just the way they've been brought up. It could also be peer influences. I just feel like in Nigeria, it's a traditional society. Everything falls back on it, so it's traditionally believed that a man is supposed to do everything for his wife. Outside of Nigeria, it's definitely not like that. Thank God that a growing number of women in naija believe in financial independence.

SgtKisswhere:
cool ways of making money but are the ladies making the effort to learn all these? it ain't even about learning a trade, it could be a skill.....hell ladies shld just have something bringing money in for them. it is high time ladies realise you re too awesome to wait on a guy to feed or cloth you!!!

Yeah true. Some of the blame can be put on us as well. Nice dp btw.

IamAirforce1:
Mumu ..

Money miss road.


Not even a house of his own to boast of..

Just shoes .. No sense.

Is it your money? Ah ahn

Saintsammurai:
There is actually longetivity in it... stop using taking care of kids as an excuse. A good wife must always find a balance...And yeah i know a lady that dropped as a bank manager to focus on her cathering bussiness and today she is a multi millionaire.

What will work for A will not work for B. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with learning a trade. But to make it a criteria that ALL women must do, to be " wife material " it doesn't make any fuckkingg sense and I will not agree with that. Learning a trade is not for everybody. You're telling me not use excuses, but you gave me excuses when i pointed out various ways to make money. Stop contradicting yourself and think about what you type before you post it.

Saintsammurai:
True i understand your point, but do you know that what is yours can never be taken? Ok how many people from poor homes can make investing in companies or online trading? You mentioned teaching, but what happens when teaching stops, can the savings cater for her needs for years? The beauty of having a handwork is that you can never ever go broke, nobody can sack you, because you are your own boss and recession dont affect you.

and you don't have to be rich to invest in companies. You don't have to have a lot of money. I wish people would just learn to educate themselves instead of just talking. It's not impossible.

Saintsammurai:
True i understand your point, but do you know that what is yours can never be taken? Ok how many people from poor homes can make investing in companies or online trading? You mentioned teaching, but what happens when teaching stops, can the savings cater for her needs for years? The beauty of having a handwork is that you can never ever go broke, nobody can sack you, because you are your own boss and recession dont affect you.

Darling, everything in this life has its pros and cons. Nothing will ever be 100% guaranteed. Even with making hair, baking etc When will you have the energy and time to do all these things when you're married with kids and have a permanent job that you're doing? Is there longevity in it? Its not like it's something you can do from your bed. So change your mentality, and stop acting like it's a must, because it's not.

Blackhawk01:
Not everyone wants to be a wife material, you know?

Exactly.

Saintsammurai:
so what other ways are there to make money?

online trading, selling goods and services, online surveys, reviewing websites, teaching, investments in multiple small companies, heck you can even get paid if you have a large following on instagram. So many ways, its just that people don't educate themselves properly. Its not a necessity to learn a trade, especially in this day and age. Although it may be helpful, dont act like its a criteria for marriage. The easiest and fastest ways are to make money online. Open your eyes.

Saintsammurai:
True, i have a female friend in school that makes the hairs of her fellow student right in our lodge, she makes lots of money like everyweek, that is one of the benefit of being good at something.... All i am saying is that, it could even be how to make beads, just learn something.. though it cut across both gender, like i for example, can never depend on my school certificate..

I get what you're saying. Not everybody wants to make hair, bake cakes and sew clothes. Thats not everybodys cup of tea. And it doesn't make them non marriage material. I think you should change the topic to ' ladies should have more than one source of income' That would make more sense, and be more practical.

Saintsammurai:
you still dont understand me, this is not about putting an age limit to success, it cut across both gender, what i meant is that, atleast have a handwork, learn something, be perfect at something that you can fall back to, when the chips are down.

Okay thats fantastic. But how does that make someone marriage material? So if i don't learn a trade, simply because it's not of my interest, what is the problem? They're so many ways to make money, i just think you're narrow minded, no offence.

Let the emphasis be on both genders. If you're a man above 25, still living with your mum, no investments or assets to your name, you're not marriage material. Smh.

At the end of the day, everybody's journey is different. Some gain success young, whilst others it may take longer and to some it wont happen at all. Putting an age limit to success is stupid. It would make more sense if you focus on the persons work ethic, vision and goals.

Its good to be naturally fine.

Team peanut boobs.

When a man loves hard, its very deep. It almost becomes scary.

comradespade:
This is life....I'm okay with the marble bathroom, blowing mi kush with lots of Irish babes with Kim k ass scrubbing mi forehead to my groin and licking mi chest and make me feel paradise on earth. Lighting an incense with the fragrance of a Japanese sakura and a rose. Feeling a cold tongue on mi "poron". While thrusting in every chance I get.


Someone should wake me up.

this one is delusional

Very soon

Adaumunocha:
Yea well, many men are not interested in a lady's account. Nothing stops a guy from improving her life financially. Afteralk guys dey marry students without kobo in their account. Having 50k or 1m or 2b won't keep a marriage.

Yeah. I agree with what the Op is saying, but in real life its not practical. Most guys just don't really care, when it comes down to it. Thats why successful women tend to be single and slayers tend to be married. Men care more about physical appearance more than anything else, and i just wish they would admit that. Instead of being in denial and practising what they don't preach.

BBLOOD:
Starve ke.

So far I've dashed you, I'd still have enough to eat.


Honestly, There's not much 50k can do as of today.

As far back as 10 years ago, I used to keep 50k in my pocket just for spend.

Yes. But do not act like its not money. It's annoying.

BBLOOD:
Is 50k now money?

No its leaves. Can you dash someone 50k without starving yourself?

hairstylist:
Thanks for the compliment. Which country pls?

United kingdom.

realjidejamal:
How can I possible dm you on here. I just need to talk to someone

will respond.

K.

The fact that she willingly reduced 10k just like that, shows the the seller is a scammer. God doesn't bless greedy people.

realjidejamal:
Are you there?

Yes.

They look nice.

Do you ship outside of nigeria?

SingleDaddy:
Did Mary marry Joseph? . So why should they also get married.

What a stupid analogy.

The advice on this thread is deep. Romance section is not like this anymore. Just full of immature pre teens who think they're important. Smh.

kowema:
O.p, this is really sad mehn! And I feel ur pain. This is how u shud confront her:, find a way to invite her over and treat her to a very romantic dinner that u cooked your self at ur place. Don't give her the slightest indication dat smtn is wrong, just keep looking into her eyes while u play, tease her etc..She may be uneasy at first knowing she has strings with someone else but later she wud get comfortable. At the climax of the dinner, hold her hands gently, loook into her eyes and ask her "why"?, she will be all dramatic but keep ur cool, den tell her she has been cheating on u and u know. Let her confess, allow her to talk even if she gets defensive, after she talks, let her know how much u love her and also make her know u won't hold her against u and that she is free and then ask her is that what u wan?"...she may be all crying at this pointt. At that point, tell her to make up her mind that what ever decision she takes is fine but u still love her. Don't shout oh. Then leave her and go to bed. You wud kill her if u do this smoothly and she wud remember for the rest of her life. Now if she comes back crying and begging, you can nowget angry, and then warn her Neva eva to try that with u again. Give her instructions like call him now and tell him its over, delete his number etc. Then go on and love her dis time with plenty adventure.
Her kind of person loves adventure and attention, the moment u take ur eyes off them, they cud fall for someone else weda good or bad.
Goodluck winning ur love back

Best advice I've seen on this forum. You're amazing.