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carefreewannabe: It's up to you if you want a woman to be with you for the sake of your money.
Or who has some sort of a father complex ...

If women are not with men for the sake of money to some extent, trust me, the agbero boys in Lagos will be the most desirable hunks in the country with their muscle and physique.

Father complex? ......When I get to that age, as long as you are hot, you can call me Daddy all day.

2sexy: You should be ashamed of yourself for saying this, sleeping with another man's wife.

KARMA... will visit you when you least expect it.

Honestly, that is the wife's problem, not his.

He owes no one nothing.

fellis: How is more beneficial for me?

I am the one with the jobs of earning money for the family and bearing kids and taking care of the house/kids. How is it more beneficial for me?

You want the company more.

You want the attention more.

You want the monogamy more.

You have a biological disadvantage that might hinder your financial security.

You have a shorter mating attraction shelf-life, hence it benefits you more to legally have someone that promises to stay.

And, finally, if you are in the West, you have better odds of getting assets you did not work but get after divorce purely based on being married.

The way you expect a man to work hard to woo you, is the way the table turns that you have to work had to keep him keen on the marriage.

carefreewannabe: Modern opinions are not necessarily right, neither some traditional or "natural" views.
I never said everyone has to have my taste or choices.
A woman around the age of 30 can have a hotter body than a young girl.
My father's brother is married to a woman who is 40 + and when you see her body, you won't believe she is that old.
Apart from that, women like hot bodies too. Don't want a grandpa in my bed.

I never said some older women cannot be hotter than younger women. Actually, I am thinking of opening a thread on hot older women. But generally, on average, younger girls are hotter.

Secondly, natural views is right on this.

You might not want a grandpa in your bed, but there are several young women that will happily share their beds to successful, caring and well groomed older men. It is common and not perverted.

carefreewannabe: As we live in a post-modern world, I have my post-modern notions.

I am not going for the richest of all men, so why would a man go for a woman who is young enough to be his daughter?

Apart from that, dear Saga, many men prefer mature women to girls.

Well you will be surprised, as I have drummed on everly on NL, modern opinions are not necessarily right.

Some of the post modern notions are disney and Mills & Boons distorted rubbish.

Secondly, everyone does not have to have your taste and choices. Especially when they are modern.

Many men prefer "mature-minded" women. Majority of men want her to be mature-minded in a hot body.

https://www.nairaland.com/1012348/parents-how-teach-daughters-self-esteem/4#11752694

carefreewannabe: You are free to have your own opinion. And I am free to have mine. I don't consider it natural and I find it disgusting.

I would cry my eyes out if my daughter turned up with a man who could be her father.

Hope, your daughter won't show up with a granddaddy

You might be disgusted based on your modern programming but that does not make it perversion.

A natural and common thing is not perversion.

Men would keep on being attracted to the most desirable women possible over women of lower desirability. Adult women in their youth are at their aesthetic peak and more desirable. A women at her aesthetic peak being found desirable and wanted by an older man is perfectly natural and not perversion.

Women would keep looking for emotional, physical and financial security. That is perfectly natural. If she finds it in an older man, it is not perverted.

Long live my role model: George Clooney!

carefreewannabe: Do men really think that they look sexy when they get old?
Concerning the photos chosen for the initial post. A very bad choice.
The "good" photo of Pamela is partly fake. She didn't look like that even when she was young. But you people believe what different media show you and that's why you have no sense for natural beauty anymore. The "bad" photo of Pamela is her without make-up. Even many young girls don't have the sking you have when you apply some make-up. Wake up!

Naomi is still gorgeous.

When I read that some here suggest taking a second wife when the first one gets older, I wanna throw up. Sorry. What is she a thing that is no longer in use? Expired milk? Would you like your fathers to treat your mothers like that? Or did they actually do so?

When a person is beautiful, the person is also beautiful when she or he gets some wrinkles. The most important thing to do is to take care of yourself. Don't get too fat, do some work out, dress well etc.

I have seen mature women being more attractive than young girls.

Let us not discriminate against age. It's a natural process. Let's not follow the Hollywood hype "forever young" and one surgery after the other.
Elders can be beautiful or handsome too. Don't be stupi.d. You will ALL grow older.
An old man with a young girl who could be his daughter is a pervert. That's my opinion.
Thank you.

Bullshit!

Perfectly natural.

kingi777: pls I need advice on this issue cuz its what I am battling with now. I am 33 & met a lady of 32 yrs few months ago. I like her character but her age is scaring me making me indecisive concerning marriage cuz I really want to settle down soonest. Medically, some women that are above 30 do have complications & moreover this lady is not beautiful though people say beuty should not be considered 4 marriage. Marrying some one below 25 is my desire. Pls shd I go ahead & marry this good lady?

Marry who you are attracted to and want to be with.

dealslip: And d woman should take a second husband if she equally find U̶̲̥̅̊ unattractive and doesn't want †̥ cheat on U̶̲̥̅̊. As U̶̲̥̅̊ said U̶̲̥̅̊ can't keep eating d samething everyday. Don't U̶̲̥̅̊ think what I̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊ gud for d goose I̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊ gud for d gander.

She would if she can.

fellis: All these marriage threads never fail to depress me.
Look at all the sad lessons people are learning. . .
(Try not to change your spouse but change yourself, the annoying habit of your spouse makes them special and different, all that glitters is not gold, be patient and long suffering.)

When you start realising you are more likely to benefit from marriage than your spouse, you will start learning.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]u wish![/quote]I know.

Bond008: abeg @op, you dont love because of looks. Love covereth all things. so aging does not matter.

Speak for yourself.

[quote author=Mrs..Chima]i am all for people having their perceptions and opinions regardless if it is ignorant or not.that's what make the world go around. However that is the good thing about personal opinions...it is not factual for all

Negative perceptions of Nigerian men didn't stop some non-Nigerian women from marrying, dating, and breeding with Nigerian men.
Negative perceptions of Kim Kardashian and Courtney Stodden didn't stop some non-Black men from putting those that looks like them on a higher pedestal as if their shit don't stank.
Negative perceptions of Black American women didn't stop[b] some[/b] Black American women from flooding universities and colleges. It sure didn't stop a Black American woman with a doctoral degree from being third in power.
Negative perceptions of Nigerian women didn't stop some Nigerian men from leaving their non-Nigerian/non-Black wives and girlfriends to go home and marry Nigerian women in their home land.

Bottom line....no matter how negative perception one has for a certain group, person, thing, place, and notion it is not going to stop the world from spinning and if people worry about what someone thinks of them....they will never be free to live their life because they are too busy living someone's opinion or perception of them.

It is okay to have opinions and perceptions...the only person it affects is you. No matter what a person do....there would always be perception and opinion even after we are dead and gone.[/quote]People's opinions affect you.

We are social animals.

It affects your aspirations, where you live, how you are treated etc.

kundul: Mchewwwwwww amebor dino c d kind house u carry dey blow biggle 4, u tink ur any better dan him? We kn its because ur no longer a honourable member dts y u wranting, tell me if u were a member wuld u still say d same tin? Kai tk ur tym oh because we kn typ of una wella

Moronic person!

Another story.

One of my closest buddies was having a house party a few months ago.

I took this same Masters friend. When we got there, as we entered the sitting room, it had some mix of 4 black and 4 white girls.

3 of the black girls are Naija girls I have known for at least 4 years. They are close to some of my wider circle of friends and are at 90% of the events these guys organise or we go to. After the first few times of meeting, I noticed they were actually girls that would wait for me to say "Hi" before they say "Hi" despite knowing me. Some childish BS!!! They think because they are still a bit fine, they can have their heads up their arsse. I am Sagamite na. Omo Sagamu! Crazy dude! a.k.a Mo ni issues (I have issues)!

After I noticed that was the norm, I stopped saying "Hi" to them first after the first 2 years, I ignore them until they say "Hi" and if they don't, I just ignore them all day, all night even if they are sat next to me or walked past me. Most times after about 2 hours at the event, they come and say "hi" and give me a hug. No be the "Bermuda Triangle" type of hug fine girls give to say "I will not let you tap current". They give me a FULL hug letting me feel the milky way, with the n ipples all over me, so they weaken my resolve. ...................."Mba! I am stronger than that with the help of Jesus! Holy spirit resides inside me, I shall not get hard and lose my senses! The Lord is my saviour!"

Anyway, as I entered sitting room, my friends went into hype mode as they were saying hi. I shook them all round, the 3 black girls were talking to each other and pretending they were busy and did not notice someone new was there. I ignored them. One of the white girls got up and gave me a hug. She had only met me once before then, but she seem excited to see me and hugged me like if she had known me for years. The other white girls looked up and said hi with a smile. The 4th black girl (who I did not know) was in conversation with one of the white girls and was sitting behind the girl that hugged me so I did not really see her but I was like "fck it, she is black. I would not go out of my way to greet her. Most likely she is a shythead". Because of experience, I have developed that personality for every black woman that is young and/or unmarried. If she is older, mid 30s and above, I would give benefit of doubt and be freer. The young ones are normally shytheads!

After a while, I went with my friend to another corner of the house and we were chatting. And I reminded him about what I told him about UK black girls and he should see those girls that have known me for years. While I was talking to him, my friend was at the other side of same corridor and the 4th black girl came to talk to him. She then turned and looked our way and said out loud to him: "Oh, I don't believe I have met these your friends yet", approached us with a genuine smile, stretched out her hand and said "Hi, I am 'Joanna'".

HAAA! Honestly, I think I needed help to get my jaw off the ground. I almost had a heart attack. I was saying in my head "THIS IS A BLACK GIRL"?

I shook her hand and introduced myself. We chatted for about 2 mins like CIVILISED people chat at parties (black girls take notes). I noticed an accent and asked her where she was from. She laughed and asked "why", I said "you have a tinge of an accent like if she was carribbean". She laughed and said she was not carribbean. Somehow, the discussion was interrupted and we moved on.

My host friend had some food, so after a while me and my guest friend went to the kitchen to get some food. Joanna was there and was like "what do you guys want" and started getting plates. I was shocked because I knew she was definitely not his girlfriend because although he is Nigerian he does not do black girls and I knew one of the white girls there was his girl. At this point, I had to be honest with Joanna and I looked at her and told her "You surely don't behave like a normal black girl", she said "what do I mean by that", I said "She was way too classy, that her friendly demeanor is not normal with black girls from the UK or Nigeria and where is she from". She laughed and said "What was I talking about that she was from the UK". I repeated she has an accent but she just laughed.

We got interrupted and the conversation changed to the quality of food. After a while, while we were trying to reload on the food, one Naija guy called her name and said he felt like pulling her hair {weave on}. That was his own ridiculous sense of game to get her attention as the girl was very fine. I forgot to say that. Anyway, she shocked me again and turned and said in a soft way "Please don't do that. I beg you don't pull my hair". I just started laughing hard and said "Look, you are too classy a black chic. I don't believe you are from the UK. Where in the carribeans are you from?". She was laughing and was like "What are you on a about. I am not from the carribbeans. I am Ghanaian". I was still not satisfied. I said, "Okay, where did you grow up?". She said "Denmark". I was like "Ding-dong!!! That is why you are so classy and have a unique accent when speaking English. UK black girls are not normally this classy. They will almost spit at a him [gently signalling to hair puller]".

She confirmed my hypothesis that I have said severally on NL. The best black girls, on average, are those raised in continental Europe and Southern/Eastern African girls.

She somehow always had a smile on he face. She was chatty despite being hot and a great conversationist. She and the Oyinbo girl that hugged me were hanging with me and dancing with me all night in a platonic way.

Later, while me, her and one other white girl were standing at the door of the kitchen having a casual chat. The same hair-puller guy shouted from the kitchen where he was sitting "Joanna, come here!".

I was so taken aback by the rude way he called her, I had to turn and look at "Who the fck was that"? I then looked at her. Her face was briefly like "What the fck"? But she quickly composed herself and returned her smile but with some assertion like "I will just ignore him". So I teased her and said "He is calling you". She and the white girl started laughing. She said "Really? Was it me he was calling". The foolish guy now wailed again "Come here". She just laughed and said classily "When you learn how to call someone respectfully, maybe I would respond". I was laughing.

She now asked me that is that how I call girls too. I said "Hell No! I am better at calling them". I now gave my own parody of the guy but changed my normal accent to a strong Sagamu Yoruba-accent and said "Woman, come here! I dey call you, you no answer, you dey crase? I said come here before I count 4" staring at an imaginary woman. The girls were laughing hard.

After a few hours Joanna was going and she went round saying good night to every single person. PURE CLASS! I know some of my guys. At least 5 were trying to hit on her and I saw one asking for her number. Joanna, with her indefatigable smile, just said she can't, that she was sorry. When he asked why, she continued smiling and said jokingly, "it is kind of complicated". She excused herself after a while and said she really had to go.

She came up to me and said goodbye. Gave me kisses on both cheeks and left. She is 100% my type but I did not ask for her number because:

1) Out of respect. Don't want to spoil the friendship bonding of the night. She hanged with me 50% of her time there.

2) Secondly, she gave no obvious signal she was interested, so I thought best leave it as friends. I didn't want to look like another of the 5 hungry niggers asking for her number.

She was fine and had a great personality. That is my type of girl.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Na wa o, see ranking! Oga Saga, you're one crazy dude!! [/quote]I have the a certificate from professionals telling me that.


[quote author=Efemena_xy]er...'cos that's reality, perhaps?? [/quote]My reality will be different in the name of Jesus!

I put holy FFFFFIRE on that prayer!!!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Organic food ko, GM modified ke!

Re: the bolded, be a bit more specific abeg....I take it you mean black girls abi?

If so, then all isn't lost then [/quote]Let me start with some few stories.

One of my friends came over from Naija recently to start his Masters in a UK university. He was crashing at my pad until he heads out of town to the town his university is in.

During our conversation, because he made it obvious he was mainly interested in black girls, I was making it clear to him that black girls in the UK are different when toasting them o. I blatantly told him that they were extremely rude and disrespectful if he does not know how to play the game of managing the interaction relationship with them, that they take some sick pleasure in humiliating guys that try to woo them.

A few days later, I took him to a town centre slash shopping centre at the biggest town near my end. While we were strolling through the pedestrian-only street, some chuggers were parading there and approaching people. One black or mulatto girl approached us. She would have been about 18-20. She was seriously hot. Absolutely stunning, everything was set, she was at her peak.

She came over and I could say from her body language and tone of talking that in her head she was confident that "I know because I am fine, you will stop and listen to what I had to say". She was not frowning but she definitely was not smiling like chuggers do. I try to read women when talking to them.

After her quick first line introduction, I told her politely and assertively that "No, thanks, that I was not interested". We both moved on.

I told my friend what I read, he agreed she was hot.

When we moved further, we got blocked by another chugger again. This time another fine black girl. She was working for Mencap and was asking me if I knew who they were, I said "Yes". And she jokingly challenged me to say what I know. So I told her and she was like "oh, you actually know". I could sense her accent and asked her if she was Southern African, she said "Yes" and asked me to guess where. By this time, I was switching into my flirt mode: Stare her direct in the eyes, watch the tone of delivery, repertiores, banter, slightly kind of "I am naughty" smile on the face etc.

I asked if she was Zimbabwean, she said "No". So I said Zambian, she said "Yes". So I told her "I am Zambian too", she laughed and said "I was not" and "what is my name". I know Zambians, and better still I know their footballers, so I formulated a name with a smirk on my face. She was laughing and asked me where in Zambia was I from. Now she got me, I only know the capital, so I said Lusaka. She started laughing and said the name I mentioned was not a Lusakan name. I laughed. By this time, her body language was fidgety because of the flirt mode. She was prancing around one spot, giggling, clutching her noteboard and the occasional body contact where she touched my upper hand. I knew she was enjoying the situation. I just stood on one spot and let my eyes follow her with the game smile.

So she asked where I was from, I said she should guess. She said "Nigeria". I dropped the smile and looked at her in horror and said "What?". She started laughing and touching my arm and then said "Sorry! Sorry! Ghana?". My friend started laughing and repeated "Ghana?". She looked confused and said "Where then". I was giggling and said she was right the first time. She giggled like "Oh! You pulled my leg".

I asked how old she was, she said I should guess. I honestly thought about 18-20 and told her 18, she looked at me and laughed and said she was 22. I asked for her name and she showed me her chugger badge with full name.

From there we chatted more about her and what she was doing when she was not a chugger. She said she was in beauty school and plan to open her own saloon.

After about 10 minutes of this chat, I said I would leave her now to continue her work. And I left.

After I left, my friend said "she seem into you, why did you not collect her number". I said "I know. She likes the man-in-control type of guy and I was giving her that. I did not collect her number because it would have just spoilt the chemistry as I was enjoying the subtle flirt too. Secondly, I don't want any girl to feel disrespected and that I am like all guys 'You smile at them and they think they have a chance'. Thirdly, she was at work, she might be forced to say "No" to maintain her professionalism and I would be putting her in an awkward situation. I am happy to walk away with only flirting sometimes, if I saw her again, then maybe I would get her number".

After a while, our shopping trip brought us back to where she was. My friend was shopping in a shop in front of her zone and I came to the door and was looking at her. She tried to chug some girls and they walked pass her without stopping and trying to avoid her. She then saw me and smiled and opened her hands in 'sighed' resignation. I walked up to her and said "If I was not in a rush, I would have just stayed with you here for just 30mins and you will see how the girls will start stopping for her, not only guys". She started laughing hard and said smirkly "Really?". I looked at her in a comedic way and said "they will be queueing up. Which girl does not like a fine boy". She laughed and said "I should stay then". I laughed and said "Nah, I am in a rush". I left as she was giggling.

That is just a teaser of the kind of girls I like to meet and roll with. A fun interaction that is respectful even if it does not amount to anything.

More to come.

[quote author=Gabriel_sylar]Both obama and mitt spent billions of dollars on election........when the country still has huge deficit...but once sahara see house it becomes photo news...[/quote]You are a person!

You are a cretinous product of a failed education system!

No 1, where did the 2 spend up to a billion, talkless of billions, bloody cretinous product?

No 2, they stole the money they spent?

This person is one of the kind of fucktards we need to round up in Nigeria, use a leg to pin their heads one by one by the open gutters we have a in Nigeria and use a shotgun to blow the useless contents in their head into the stinking gutter.

Jarus:

Iwo bobo yi, o ti wa kolo patapata

The kolomentality is confirmed by professionals.

If 10m Nigerians are doing what I listed there, corruption would reduce by at least 70%.

People are corrupt to get money to leave good quality and enviable lives. Eliminate the enviable and threaten the good quality of life and corruption would reduce.

But our cretinous baboons called Nigerians worship the corrupt and would kiss their arsse at every opportunity.

somalia6: they say ancient egyptians are black.


what is black?


Then tell me why you think they are black?


Then tell me why you care if they are black or not?

Its sad you have to go back more than 2,000 years to claim a people who are not black to justify pride being the color 'black', which you cant even define. The slavery continues.

You first tell us the achievements of Somalia and Somalis.

Explain to us what qualifies you as people with human brains and not less intelligent than monkeys.

ayanle456: Monkey boy; remember its only the grace of white people that you are not in bondage. Slavey monkey hiv boy

It is the grace of black and white people you are not starving.

Tell me the achievements of Somalia and Somalis.

sucad: my friend somalis and nigerians are not even on the same level.


somalis compete with ethiopians and non africans when it comes to beuty.

nigerians and other monkies compete with each other on who has the longest weave, the heaviest makeup and the wides lips and nose.

Obviously they are not on the same levels with Nigerians.

The compete on hunger and illiteracy with Ethiopians, and Nigeria and other African countries send food there so they don't die of starvation.

Nigerians for one are superiorly educated to the point they can spell "monkeys".

NRI PRIEST: But this house doesnt cost a fortune...Any rich Nigerian could build that house.

Explain to me what the house would cost that is not a fortune.

Then explain to me how you expect a minister to afford the 'un-fortuned' house on his salary.

I wait.

philips70: I hear you. Next time I get around the house he owned in PTI road Warri before he went into active politics I will snap it and post it here for all to see. Successful businessman indeed! Up till now the real road that leads to that house is not motor-able. I know what I am speaking, he was in my neighborhood before I moved. Even as corrupt as Italians look, ministers live in rented apartments with co-tenants. As long as we continue to feel our public servants deserve some kind of better living conditions than the ordinary people, solutions to our problems will remain a Utopian venture.

Well said!

Don't mind the person!

obailala: Nigeria is really in deep shit with the kind of reasoning we have as a people. No wonder our leaders will continue to take us for fools. I wonder why hardly anyone has bothered to comment on the bolded part of the message or am I the only one seeing it.

[size=14pt]A serving minister receives a house GIFT from a known government contractor[/size]; I would have expected the argument on this thread to be whether this piece of information is true or false but instead what do we get
"...that house is too small/trashy to be called a mansion,"
"...the man's salary is enough to build a house like that"
"...Dino Melaye again!. . Dino used to be a crook, so he must be fighting for his pocket"
"...Dino should go and take responsibility of his numerous unborn children"
"...Sahara reporters will not be happy until every govt official lives in HUTS"
Someone also foolishly says "my own house is even bigger than this BQ" etc.

Maybe I haven't searched the thread properly but I'm not sure anyone has asked the necessary questions that should be asked or is it that nobody read the article that followed the picture?. How petty can we possibly be as a people? talking about PEOPLE when we should be talking about ISSUES.

Anyway, how can you possibly blame Pst. Bakare when he said "it takes fools to be ruled by idiots"

You are seeing what you are seeing because Nigeria is prolific at producing fucktards.

Majority of them are fucktardious products of a failed education system which itself is a result of the corruption they can not deem fit to condemn.

Some of them have become worthless humans that need to be exterminated.

ROSSIKE: Sahara reporters will not be happy until every govt official lives in one of these:

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/cc/St_Fagans_Celtic_Village_the_main_hut.jpg

Explain to me why majority of people should live in that while government officials use the country's money to live like rockstars.

I wait.

CONJI: I know with his salary alone , he can put up something of this nature any where in the world. Let us stop back biring in this country, it did us no good. Please!

person please tell us what his salary is.

berem: So what should we do now? Burn down the house? I hate reading this kind of news because it stirs the anger in me!

Start stoking the fire.

Everywhere you go, instigate people to be angry and want to protest.

When you see suffering, especially by people like Almajiris, start letting people know it is because of our bad leaders and talk about people like this that have unexplained mansions.

Help build up extreme hate of the corrupt worthless leaders to the point people have deep-seated anger everytime they see these people, instead of worshipping them for money.

Let us stop producing fucktards like these OPs, their fellow baboon fucktards and their "likers" on the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/1056780/nairaland-prayer-network-patience-jonathan/5#12304909

https://www.nairaland.com/1077961/best-first-lady-nigeria-ever/2#12602860

Let their houses be the first to face being burned down in riots.

Let their families be the first to face kidnap and lynching.

Let them have insult and curses being rained on them even when they have faced misfortune and adversity.

Let them have money that is destroying their ability to live a happy life.

Aim to break their spirit, happiness and safety. Let them and their loved ones be scared for their lives.

That is how revolution of Great Countries were started, e.g. USA, UK and France.

Basically, be like Sagamite.

If we had 1m Sagamites in Nigeria, it would be an efficient and sane heaven.

Sagamite is not vile and vulgar, he is just way too intelligent which means he can see the bigger picture most people cannot see.

sucad: haters.


Waris and other somali models only talk about fgm.


am not somalia6 best believe that

No, you are not. You only coincidentally spell like an illiterate Somali person, just like him.

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Better distribution.