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coogar:
and lady gaga is a virgin!

davidylan:
Of course, how could you be single?  

You guys are too wicked.

We just need to find out if she has redeemable features.

ronkebp:
It does not matter what Mr Ngozi will be doing at home, a good woman will always want to know how her husband and family is fairing in every aspect even if she is the president of the Nation. am sure she would have made provisions of what the family will eat even before going for the tv broadcast or wherever.

Wa'shere! (You go do well!)

coogar:
her stinking vomitus!

Give her a break a little. She is getting a hard time from all corners (men and women). Lets wait for her to answer that simple question to see if she has redeemable features.

queensmith:
makes sense, what is a man without a cook or cleaner. To be exclusive with of course.

*vomit* just have a penchant for making me sick here. eurgh!

I have not stuck the value a man seeks to one item, what I asked you was what is the value proposition you bring as a potential wife.

What do you think you will bring to a potential partner's life that you think makes you a reasonable catch?

Explain.

debrief08:
A man who loves his wife so much as Christ loved the church that he makes it his sole purpose to see her very happy and in peace, a man who wont spent all his free time frivilously, drinking and chasing dirty girls, [s]a man who will train his sons to treat women as queens cos he leads by example[/s]. A man who will not talk down at his wife but will help her grow spiritually intellectually and physically, a man who wont defile his marriage bed, a man who will never do her bodily harm by raising his hand on her. A man whose wife, calls him husband without panic, whose kids call him father proudly without doubt or insecurity
A woman who respects and submits to her husband, a woman whose will met a man driving tukunbo car and in a few years the man will be a landlord, a woman who is industrious whose hands are blessed, give her 150k she wont spend it buying aseobi for wedding when you cant afford it but will turn 150k to 1 million by wisely investing in profitable things, a woman whose joy doesnt come from buying the latest everything but from spending wisely and making sure she has something stored for the rainy day. A woman whose day is not spent gossiping and watching nollywood, who will hold her husbands shirt at home and in public. A woman whose husband, relatives and kids call blessed. A woman who would find out what her husband wants rather than what she thinks he should want. A woman who knows she has to do all she can to please her husband.

I have edited it to reflect me.

No way I am raising my sons to treat women as Queens, I am training them to treat each woman the way she deserves to be treated. That is one thing I was not taught early enough.

If I have to go to Life in Prison, I am going to a good prison.

[quote author=Missy_B link=topic=870887.msg10202667#msg10202667 date=1329321374]I'll be home in a few hours, unless you do the cooking before I return, I'll be too tired to set my yansh for you. And please, little quantity of oil and salt.  [/quote]We will get take-away, then you will set that yansh!

ronkebp:
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Never u buy d idea of employn a cook because öne day u myt end up losing ur sit as d first lady, u knw wot i min. Dey is always a sayn dat says "d way 2 man's heart is tru his stomach" 4rm ma observation i cud tell dat u neva did any form of domestic chores in yo adolescence age and dats y are findin it difficult nw. I hope u know dat bein a career woman does not only justifies dat u're industrious, dey are more 2 it dat u don't knw. As d case may be For the fact dat dis is a case study b4 me i must contribute my own quota in order 2 help u put ur home in shape. [1] first n foremost map out a daily duty routine 4 ursef wif stipulated time intervals. Make it a daily tradition 4 ur self, believe me u with in a short space of tyme u won't have any problem this again. [2] Try hard 2 close 4rm work at d official tyme and device a means 2 beat lagos traffic, every lagos road has a specific tyme 4 mad traffic and zero or less traffic. Always rememba to eat, take ur bath and hav a gud one hour sleep b4 u jump into other fin. This helps 2 kip body n soul 2geda because stress dey say is d greatest disease on earth nw, buh u can beat d stress if u deem fit. Moreover always rememba dat early 2 bed early 2 rise matters alot. [3] don't dissipate ur precious tyme on irrelevant fins lyk gossippin buh am nah sayin u shud bcome an introvert overnyt, sleepn n snorin all day when u're suppose 2 use dat tyme 2 reduce ur dosmestic task is not gud at all. [4] 4rm wot u've said since ur marriage is still young n no kids yet i believe dis is a gud ground 4 u multi-task n get accustomed 2 dis chores b4 d family gets bigger numerically. A gud hubby dat luvs u will always help u out when his tru wit wot he is doing. I have so many tips 2 lend u buh tyme won't permit me, try hard 2 put dis tips in to practice and u shall c dat d lord is gud. Or holla 4 more tips 08061368891.[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] [/b]

guys came across the bolded in another post, i guess it is his message to the poster on this thread, who knows maybe her husband, i find it interesting except for his abbreviations.

I don't read such junk.

Let the foool go and learn how to write in English first.

[quote author=Missy_B link=topic=870887.msg10202380#msg10202380 date=1329319144]Abeg, bible wife/bible husband means?[/quote]You don't need to know.

Just make sure you set your yansh in the kitchen the way it is on that self-vignette on your profile.

jennykadry:
I think a couple should be able to balance their lives. I grew up with a strict mother who made sure she taught me how to cook, growing up I thought she was cruel, I said to myself . . .  . why would this woman wake me up when I am enjoying my sleep and trying to relax? why did she have a nice long cane in her hand sitting on a little stool in the kitchen watching me cook?why would she tell me to wash the bathroom and clean the toilets, why did I have to sweep and mop floors?. . . .  I never knew she was preparing me for whenever time I find myself alone. I began to appreciate her after I turned 15, fresh from high school and st8 into the UNI in a strange land? I thought I was going to die, and that was when I realized that I was truly and really alone and had to cook for myself, clean my little room, make my bed, sweep my floor and go to school.

I enjoy cooking all thanks to my mum who made that possible, there are times i leave work at 5pm and there are times when on call I come home at 11pm. Do I come home to cook for me? do my family members go hungry cos I am not home to cook? nope, cos I married a man a very sensible man who also loves cooking and does the cooking to give me a break. Do I appreciate him for cooking? a lot cos I have seen women struggle without any help from their husbands and to have a man that actually does that and even more? come onnnnnnnn he deserves a good servicing and a submissive wife(only when necessary) .

I am not a feminist but people are beginning to turn these feminism into something else, like a woman refusing to cook cos she wants the table turned and the man doing the cook, truth is no matter how much we try to be modernized, women have always been known to be the stay at home cooks and the men the large bacon home bringers but thank God some of our mothers taught our men how to cook and made them realise that "hey it is not a crime to be in the kitchen sweating with spoon in your hand and maggi in the other" ,same way women are thought by their fathers that "hey, it's okay to change your flat tyre, it's okay to check the oil and water in your car every morning before you drive out, it is okay to change your cigarette lighter fuse yourself when necessary"

But truth is sometimes we deviate, men love to be pampered hence their lazyness sometimes, women on the other hand can get very lazy and its one of the reasons why we leave the car issues to our men to deal with, if the TV goes off and there is an electrical problem we call our husbands at work to report it, sometimes beg them to come home and fix it for us just so we can watch our african magic

Yes we have days like these, but at the end of the day, we all need to realize that we cannot function without the other and it is very important we get off our pampering moods and put on our work jackets.

snthesis, you see why I mentioned her as one of the ones you should use as your example?

You think I am not intelligent enough to know a good wife when I see one? Why do you think I have been trying to snatch her from her husband all this while?

Unfortunately, in the West and amongst some women that have an insatiable appetite to copy anything Western without using their brain because they think it is "cool", the prevailing paradigm women are being indoctrinated with is to do a lot less but expect a lot more. Basically, fight for equality by demanding men drop all their advantages but at the same time demand women keep their advantages and even get more. A men should fall at your feet and then put you on a pedestal for doing absolutely nada. That is EQUALITY in the modern woman's sense. And a lot of "real" men, "metrosexual" men feel funky when they show they have fallen in line.

Hmm!

E mi!

E mi Sagamite?

I am not a real man o, I am baba nla Cave man. O ri won o pe! (Dem head no correct)

I have no problem with such Western women, I have the liberty to hit-and-run! I go chop and I will go.

Don't impress me and think I will stay with you. Anuofia!

Honestly, this is easy to solve.

Just get 1 or 2 students wanting an extra income to come in and cook for you for 2 hours a day and pay them N200.

There are many people in Lagos that will appreciate that opportunity. Two people can work on a roster system if you want it to be a reliable process with back-ups.

You can either get someone unemployed, a student finding things tough or even a buka girl that needs extra work.

There is no point having a wife that is not happy because of unreasonable things. That is one of the last things I want in life.

queensmith:
Proper training is nothing to do with your household hobbies? If the world was properly trained according to you we will have no einsteins, no astronauts, no doctors no nurses no lawyers no policemen no soilders no judges. The proof of this is the number of women doing the above jobs being very limited, all because of people like you that believe a womans proper training is in the kitchen.
Proper training is raising your child to be upstanding at home and in the community, giving your child ambitions and making sure he/she can be independant. None of these things are determined from cleaning. Unless of course your raising a maidservant = slave = Mutters example of a properly trained individual.

Just because you love doing house chores doesnt mean everyone does, thats why they are called chores, nobody loves to do it but it has to be done. I wasnt raised to be a housewife- I was raised to become a doctor. I wasnt even required in the kitchen until I went to university, then again cooking isnt rocket science so theres no loss there. I clean up after myself and cook for myself when I'm hungry. I redecorate the house when I'm bored and move the furniture around when I want a change of surroundings. I can go on till tommorow mentioning what I do without your military styled kitchen training. and when I marry I expect nothing to change. When I have kids there' will be two of us, tis not difficult washing extra clothes and changing diapers provided your partner helps.
If both Hbabe and her husband cleaned up after themselves and shared the chores together she won't have a problem. He problem isnt lack of training, her problem is the excessive responsibility. Unless one  is to turn herself into subservant of the year like taryour theres no reason the husband canot take care of himself. Esp if the wife has a career just like him.

On a serious note, explain to me what you think you can bring to a man's life that would make him cherish being with you exclusively forever.

sauer:
While this may seem rather away from popular opinion, I feel I must just say it. The thing is, "Why marry?"
Did you think you'd be able to combine the work of a regular home wife and that of a white-collar lady? Aren't there greater chances of failing at either one? The deal is to always choose one thing and stick with it. To want the best of both worlds suggest there is something intimately wrong with your decisions as a woman.
Don't get it wrong, baby. I'm not recommending staying a dormant, clueless housewife. On the contrary, I recommend going out, getting a job and busying yourself. But why not find an acceptable way to combine such an engagement with romantic life? What stops such white-collar, careerlady from engaging in some sort of "partnership" with a man of open mind, who would be romantically available while giving you the freedom you desire to practice your profession?
Now, am not saying become a sugar mummy, though it's quite apparent this could be totally misunderstood. Rather I enjoin you to examine the relationship between Oprah & her man, Merkel & her man, Rice & her man, and draw one or two straws from that!

This is tosh, mate.

In the same Nigeria where a man can leave her and leave her with nothing, you question her choice of working?

snthesis:
u completely missed my point, the so called modern woman a.k.a career woman alias queensmith is completely self-conceited. if you make all d money in d world and offer her to quit her job- she wud find a reason to complain.

Don't use queensmith as an example, she still struggles to state what she offers in a relationship.

Use Jenny or Debrief!

Just to make it clear to all of you: I am an Ifa Husband looking for a Glamour Model Wife!

Bible? Nah!

snthesis:
on a serious note.
if a man doesnt make enough money for the family- women complain,
if a man after a hard and tiring day's work cant do his wife ryt- she go complain.
if a man after a hard, tiring day's work want do his women for some succour- she wud say its always about sex
if a man doesnt help out in d kitchen- the woman says he is selfish and uncaring.

this potrays the modern woman as lazy and self-conceited bigots- stick to ur traditional roles as "home makers" and stop whining

If you can get your arse to make enough money so she does not have to work, then you can make such remarks.

If she is doing your "traditional" job of financial provision, then who are you to call her lazy?

jennykadry:
My post is based on research. . By the time he is done cooking, we are left with less than 10 pieces of meat. Not a good husband material .

Ashewo buruku

You are still my No 1 jor.

Shinor:
@Sagamite. Let's hook up and do that hand wash deal again.
Remember the guy that was featured in the news who CLAIMED he lived without physical cash and cards?

We too will be on yahoo news lol lol.

Or maybe we should do winter without Jackets as we are against exploitation of child workers in all those factories in the Far East

You are on your own mate.

The freeze wey catch my yansh in the last week in London is enough warning.

Gaddamit, the pond near my house was partially frozen to the point the ducks were actually standing on it, instead of floating.

maki:
Before i explain what i go through i want to tell u i have 2 jobs.
1. as a debit control mngr in a logistics company
2. as a fahion designer ( my personal company)

everyday i wake up at about 5:30 get dressed and go to work with my husband and close d same because our offices r in d same area (lekki phase 1).
after beating the traffic back home(onike-yaba) i must prepare dinner for him before i go to my workshop and do some little fashion designing work before going to bed.
i only do my cooking once a month, e.g prepare like 3 different types of stew and 3 different types of soup, then dish them into those little freezer rubber bowls with covers for easy warming, my husband do not like micro wave so i have to warm it with water in a pot, i label them to know excalt which types of stew or soup in dat bowl. so within d week all i do is to either boil, rice,yam, ripe or unripe plantain bake either eba,amala,semovita or poundo or make pasta or anytin that wont take me more than 15-30mins to prepare.
then as for cleaning of the house is only on weekends. i do my house cleaning on saturday after coming back from d gym, sweeping, dusting, removal of cobwebs, washing of d tiolets and bathroom before going into my workshop for my fashion designing through out d weekend.

and all these,i think its making me to lose my mind bit by bit, if i dont get someone to help me soon. it is not easy ONE BIT.

As far as I am concerned, if you are working the same hours, you are doing extra hours on the side as a fashion designer and you have cooked the hard to make meals for freezing in advance, the least he can do is to do the bolded himself. Freaking 10-30 minutes most of which is just to check if it is done.

jennykadry:
You are not a husband material, missy beware

That is what even got me laughing. Your idiosyncratic assessment basis.

Don't worry, Missy will be half the time in the Kitchen, the other half in the bedroom. The only time I will be in the Kitchen is when I go there to stand behind her and my crotch is set in the rigth place teasing.

r231:
wash cloth with hand ke

bross that one no easy o

Bruv, I tried that shyt last year men.

I refuse to use satnav, calculators, andriod phones, dishwasher etc because I think it would make people mentally and physically lazy. I remember some NL people I dropped off in out first BBQ meet-up, laughing at me using AtoZ. Them no understand!

But the washing of clothes with hand when you wear one clothe item a day and bedding over to wash pass me sha. Washing machine was back up in a month doing what it was made to do.

jennykadry:
Guilty are you?

I for don eat my share before the food is served.

jennykadry:
Enough of men testing women during courtship. I am advising every single lady to make sure their fiancés pass cooking tests before you say "yea" to him. Make sure you watch him cook from the scratch and produce a fantastic dish at the end. Watch the way he cuts his onions, atarodo and tatashe . But please don't say yes to a man that eats more than 3 pieces of meat whilst cooking, not a good husband material

debrief08:
My hubby says the same thing. Some Nigerian men will make thier wives age from cokking, cleaning child birth, contraceptives, school runs, etc. She is busy forming superwoman and virtous woman while they get someone to keep them young, virile and alive. You want a sexy, attractive and happy wife then learn to share in the work or at least pay someone to help her out. Learn to enjoy the company of madam, Have a weekly date, just you and her, a movie night, one for u and madam and one for the whole family, game day at least twice a month, keep each other happy and comfortable instead of spending all your free time " hanging with the boys" drinking beer or being with some over bleached, over made up fake brazillian hair wearing money drainer.
Happy wife, happy home, sexy wife sexy home, stressed up wife stressed up home

It is like getting myself a nice red Ferrari and spinning my wheels everyday, struggling for road with danfo drivers everday, driving it in pot-holes everyday. Do you know how it would look in 5 years? Do you know how much it will take to restore it?

If I use her like that, do you know how much it will cost me for [i]b[/i]oob job, face injections for wrinkles, tummy tuck etc?

No, thank you. I will pay the N200 a day and keep my valued possession protected.

By the way, my brother is lazy now. A live-in child nanny and wife that do all his cooking. Wife is only backup as she works.

He only does child-care when the nanny is away, sharing it with wife.

I just go there and leave with bowls of food anytime I visit.

Shinor:
I didn't come to London to help chinko buy his house cash down.

LMAO!

Shinor:
If not that the water can be bitterly cold I would still be washing my clothes by hand ( just teasing)

I tried that shyt last year as part of my rebellion against modern technology (some NLers know I refuse to use SATNAV and still use AtoZ till today), but I got bored and started using my washing machine again.

vanitty:
It is absolutely impossible for a "career woman" do to ALL the chores around the house, cook etc and not resentful towards her other half. After a while, regardless of how "superwomaing" you are, you start to feel cheated and then that is where the problem starts

Imagine, so we both leave the house at 7am, come back home at 8pm and you still expect me to do ALL the chores, cooking while you do what exactly?? and you will use your mouth to eat the food I slaved over while you were watching TV or doing whatever you were doing.

Well said.

My mother merely worked 9-5 but she did not have to do any cooking stuff. My papa made us cook ourselves from the age of 10. The man was like Cook your own meals and even his, despite the fact that we had older relatives in the house most times.

But as the gangster and rebel of the house, I still always escape it. My brother as the nice sheep also liked me so much he would cook my meals while cooking for my dad (who came home everyday for lunch and to make sure we were doing our school work especially maths).

I remember my Mum always laughing that I was a spoiled brat when my brother used to make my meals. I even started asking him "where is my food" when hungry. The guy was just nice to me, he also covered my tracks when I left the house to go and play.

That said, I can cook o. I did it in boarding school when breaking rules & cooking illegally in the school complex and when I got to the UK.

jennykadry:
LMAO it is confirmed ,Saga is crazy

I admit, I have issues.  

[quote author=Missy_B link=topic=870887.msg10201289#msg10201289 date=1329310667]All thanks to me . . .Shows I've been doing a perfect work on him.  [/quote]You are good in both. Bedmatics and cooking.

I see the magic you do in the cooking section.

Sweetie, you will have to do it all o. You are not allowed to work.

jay bee:
Wow Wow Wow Wow
What got into you Saga?

You think I want a worn out wife?

When I sign my life away, I expect my unreplacable product to be shiny for 30 plus years of pure shagrathon.

She must keep fresh and beautiful, not stressed and used.

If you have to go to jail for life without even committing a crime, wouldn't you want your jail cell to be nice, full of decent humans, full of amenities and the jail food good?

I am a misogynist, a chauvinist, a sexist.

Speak to your husband ASAP.

If you are starting work at 8am and finishing at 6.30pm, it is unreasonable to expect you to cook or even do major childcare task after work.

You should both sit down together and see if you can hire someone to do the cooking. Even if it is someone that will come in for 2 hours a day Monday to Friday to cook you guys dinner and get paid anything from N200 - N1000 per day.

I bet there are thousands of people in Nigeria that will bite your hands off to do it and be employed. Maybe even University or Polytechnic students that need to supplement their schooling funds.

If you work that much, you should only cook in the weekend or on special occasions.

Sit him down and talk to him reasonably.

dare2think:
'Annie Uwana Macauley has a daughther (Isabella)  for 2face. But before now, she was, in many people’s eyes, just another baby mama. Sunmbo Ajaba and Pero Adeniyi also have children for the musician – two each. And Pero, who’s now based in the US, is due to deliver her third Idibia baby in March'


2 known baby mamas
8 kids 5 kids, 1 on the way
? unknown number of baby mamas (Debatable)
? unknown number of unknown kids  (Debatable)

She better be ready for one hell of a ride.

Statement corrected.

Deep Soul:

*He could have atleast waited for the pregnant woman to have the baby. She's 8months gone. Imagine how she'd be feeling right now. This sort of news might even affect her health. There's something called Empathy!!

Well said. Exactly what I am thinking.

ifyalways:
And Nigerian ladies would swear with their lives that Polygamy is not an option.This one is not even an option kpa kpa,its a first class choice [/b]for annie cos she is walking in with the full knowledge that the man is an unrepentatnt polygamist.

I have seen moorons like Sefago here argue that women never choose polygamy, that they are forced into it.

lawma:
And who say's 2baba wont after getting married to Annie also propose and marries his other baby mama's? I don't know whats wrong with women, how can u take this? This woman will be acting like God sent, yet she allows herself to be treated like this! I know its because she has his baby, but common, [b]a woman should own her man, and not share him with every other woman out there! Even after the wedding, 2baba will still self-service other women out there, and Annie will do nothing about it because she has no say!!!

Because?

BasseyJ:
Sha, no be my real name i dey use, and i no be cross river pikin. Make person go first b4 i go paste my own lecturers name

So how is he going to know you are the one that named him?

My friend, your case is not different, you deserve what you get since you have no balls to even make an anonymous complaint and have some minute impact!

I guess God only made made a few Mandelas, Saro Wiwas, Wallaces, Fawehinmis, Luther Kings, Wilberforces etc

Your likes only like to talk about people like that.

You can't even do a smidgen of what these people did. It shows the fact only a few are born leaders or heroes, majority in life are followers and selfish.

Ball-less disgrace!

BasseyJ:
ermmm, in my case, that'll be a bad idea, cos they are sadly still my lecturers, and would(may) be for a year more, a year which i dont want to be extended indefinitely

Na your real name you dey use?

You be Akwa Ibom/Cross River pikin?

armyofone:
in your dream  when horses start flying and donkeys doing calculus 
i'm talking to Yu

No 1, there are unicorns! Those are horses that fly.

No 2, are you going to lie, TO LIE, you are not one of those coming here to hear what I have to say? To try to see if you have a chance at my bank account?

What is wrong with you people?

There are thousands of women that are visiting this thread everyday just to find out what Sagamite has to say on this issue and whether they have a chance for the fairytale future with me. And you are all derailing the thread, not giving them a smidgen of chance to find out what my opinions are.

All of you behave!

What is WRONG with you people?

When you complain about a lecturer, NAME THEM! State their name, university and department. Humiliate the pathetic muthafuckers.

Why are you all just saying "one lecturer", "there was this lecturer".

It seems most of you deserve what you got since you have no balls to even make an anonymous complaint have some minute impact!

Name the pathetic muthafuckers creating a generation of cretins I see daily on NL.

Wislet:
uncle SAGA, i neva see ur green light oo

After you made me miss road?

Its on amber, no worry, it will soon be very green.

Atigba:
Way back then in school, there is this lecturer of mine,every he does sucks it irritate me, mostly,he too de carry girls, imagine i woke up to his office one faithful day and caught him sucking one of my class mate bosom,to my surprise he even had a small robber that contain a liittle water,he use to wash any girls bosom that he want to sucks because sucking it?, it irritates me, i hate that men, i hate that?

He must have definitely been a bad teacher because this your grammar na champion gba.

Are people learning anything about technics to tackle and destroy structures in a Nigerian gang/group?

I am learning shitloads!

Psychology is a strong tool.