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I have been on my own for a while now, never been married but still hopeful I will meet my lifetime partner someday, having said that, I am terribly independent and have been like this for as long as I can remember, I love it but it gets lonely sometimes, there are times when one longs for intimacy, pillow talk and sharing bills  but the rest of the time, it's cool, on the flip side, being in a relationship does not have to feel like prison at all, couples must learn to give each other space to be who they are, then they will be happier to be together as a couple,

I am single now because I have not found the right one for me YET    I refuse to be in a relationship just for the hell of it, my happiness comes first and I find a lot of men/women try to mould their partner to be what they want, I have huge problems with this, If I change who I am for someone else, I will end up being unhappy for life while the other person carries on being his/her happy self, I am open to compromising in a relationship but just don't change me to a point where I hardly know who I am anymore, to me that sounds like a lot of misery and frown lines, who needs that   

What is the break for, you are either together or you are not, I just don't get this whole break thing!

I must say there is just something I can't explain about bad boys, we know they are bad but we still find them irrisistable, it defies logic really but such is life. If a girl is still chasing bad boys when she is older and mature, then something is wrong, we need to grow up and move away from that which is not good for us,

Okaaaaaaaayyy, but I don't think what I am saying is hard to understand, nothing personal!

I am sorry but I am not comfortable with that, is there no option for private messages here? I am just wondering what could be so important, I won't give out my email address to hostile strangers, sorry girl!

I am waiting Amara!

I am not sure what it is that you want to say to me in private Amara, I don't want to fight with you, I come in peace but you showed me no love, I am cool with that. Can you send me a private message, I will see if I want to respond to it!

What about? Can't you say it here?

MzDarkSkin (f) - hey girl, how are you doing today? Just read your responses that I didn't get a chance to read the day weapons of mass destruction were being thrown at me by you know who Anyway, nice to know I am not the only "foreigner" here, worry not, cyber bullies don't scare me one bit, we chat with those that want to chat and ignore the rest,

Very sad indeed, I guess people can always come down South after the WC, prices should be back to normal after that,

Oh, I forgot we agreed a cyber proposal would be just as good (I choose the lady like smiley as opposed to that toothy one!

Greed my brother, they are just trying to cash in, not realising they might actually make a loss and people would rather watch WC on TV than pay these inflated prices, everybody is trying to make a quick buck! Pity because I was looking forward to my marriage proposal at the stadium, oh well, there will be another major event I guess

Now get yourself a ticket and get down here before the WC is up

That's just sad and painful justwise bus driver was a crook, wicked! I do hope you have a better experience the next time you come to SA, not everyone is crooked like that, there are a lot of wonderful people here!

That's hectic, was your stuff stolen here (SA) or in Naija? That must have been painful for you man,

SA is going to rock in the next 4 months, we were marking a 100 days to the event and people are really excited!

You are a romantic, proposing at the stadium, that would be quite something By the way, are you coming to the WC? THe WC fever hasn't hit me yet but I wait patiently!

Hard labour is how you would pay your dues, if you are unemployed, at least show my daddy you are a hard working man

You would have paid your dues

Don't we just love technology, everyone is equal in cyber space now get that job A.S.A.P, my fam wants a truck full of cattle (dowry) and that is just for my nyash alone, heheheheeheheheheheh, LOL!

A cyber proposal will do just fine thanks

I thank you sir, I just think sometimes we forget what's important and just place too much value on material things and we all know earthly possessions don't mean absolute happiness, can have them all and still be as miserable as hell,

NOW my hand is up for a marriage proposal kidding hey!

With unconditional love comes compromise/understanding and I definitely would marry my Prince if even if he made less money than me, as long we both remember that it's not money that brought us together but love, I should never throw it in his face that I make more money though as this could lead to fights and disrespect in the relationship, money is nice to have for what it can get but it's not everything!

I would marry him if he worked and contributed something to the household, he can't make way less than what I am making because a man is a man and would hate to feel emasculated, whether it is real or imagined!

It's really difficult dating a man without a job because it means the woman has to carry all the bills, I am sure this would be fine for a couple of months or so just not indefinitely, ultimately this would place a huge strain on the relationship, I am talking from experience here, it's not easy at all! I just wouldn't marry a jobless man, he would first have to sort himself out then we can talk marriage!

LOL Pappilo, it's genetics dude, the juicy bum is specifically found in the Southern region of Africa or on women who originate from the region, we are still thanking our mamas for the junk of course the load differs from person to person but it's there alright!

Ebonyeyes - I told the cyber bully I will not be intimidated by her and her rudeness, just imagine co-ck blocking in cyber space, SMH, too damn ridiculous I say but anyway, I will chat away with those that are open to chatting to me!

LOL, I am staying here, I kinda like it Is it so hard for you to ignore me, do you own the site? If NOT, then leave me alone,

Yeah, that's the kind of stuff they talk about with their friends and think it's funny but for him to say that to your face, ridiculous!

I got a not-so nice reception on the forum last week and I asked about your location because you seem to be a cool person, here to chat like everyone else instead of being territorial because there is a "foreighner" among "us"

I want to change my name to remove the SA part, how do I go about it? Went into "change profile" but it still wouldn't allow me,

Where are you based girl?

as if you have to open your legs to keep him, thing is, he still would have left whether you gave it up on not, SMH! You see, for me that sounds like just some village boy talking, if nothing else the thinking process is that of a non-thinker!

Certainly, no need to put your own down just to get lucky,

It's crazy what mental slavery has done to mankind, why can't we be free to play with/date whoever we fancy, surely there is enough to go around   

Very true that, a man will say anything to get nookie, it's been happening since the beginning of time and if the woman is smart enough, she will know that the same line has been used a thousand times before but should she decide to give it up, she will, making the man believe his silly lines have been believed, The games people play