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Hence someone said "never assume the responsibility of a parent" to your partner, she is your girlfriend, not your wife or mother/father, so I say it is wise not to get the lines blurred. . . . . . . .guy is crying for recharge cards and getting the girl's hair done every two weeks

Lesson: When you help someone out financially, do it out of the goodness of your heart not because you expect something back. SOunds to me like you were used and now that the family is done with you, they have kicked you to the curb. . . . cut your loses and find someone worthy of your love but hopefully you have learnt your lesson re: giving something, expecting something back. . . . .in an ideal situation, it would work but not always the case!

Some women have taken the fakeness to the extreme, I think that is what the issue is. . .  .by natural, I don't think we are talking NO make up at all but it must be kept to a minimal and be clean, not be looking like a circus performer, know what colours go with your complexion and so on. . . . . .  .

Amya:
you said it all, if being "real" suits you, go right ahead with it, if you love to be "fake" go right ahead with it,

. . .and people, stop judging!

I am real but if people want to be fake and they can live with it, let them.

@ OP, "Fake is the new real" these days. . . . . .but to each his own!!!

LOL, I got nothing to do with Lasgidi

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SA Lady:
I suppose its great when change is voluntary, not when its forced in order to fit into ones little idiosyncrasies all in the name of "I love you".

I have lost one or two guys because of this, I will change what I think I am no longer comfortable with but will not move an inch for what I am happy with, . . . . . .no regrets. There is nothing worse than changing for someone else, what a life that would be!

ebila:
@Topic,
Anyone who'd rather have you be fake isn't worth having you at all,and for those who fake to keep someone,they are blantantly abusing themselves.No matter how effed up,stand up,silly,senseless,blunt,stubborn,confident,annoying,talkative,playful,childish,quite,loud etc you are,there's someone who'd love and appreciate you that way and all you need do is locate such one.However,it doesn't mean cos you are yourself you shouldn't try to adjust your 'bad' self to unveil a better you.

I totally agree with you, there is always room for improvement, be it looking better, changing bad habits and so forth, I like how you worded the line in italics!!!

Beync:
Because media puts out that that what beautiful is when there are many different sizes and qaulities of beautiful.so guys want to date the girls that look like girls on TV.

True hey. . . . . . real women should stay true to themselves through it all, I just can't imagine one being someone that they are not. . . . .

Inked_Nerd:

Yupp, its astonishing

It's madness. . . . .

Keep it real

Inked_Nerd:

loooooooooooooool

Its funny that you mention girls wanting to emulate the Beyoncé and Ciara looks, my mom was having a conversation with a co-worker and mentioned that she's never had a weave, acrylic nails, or fake eyelashes and this was the co-workers reaction >>>

lol, when I see fake eyelashes its makes me laugh because its basically weave on your eyes

@ weave on eyelashes, never thought of it like that the lengths people will go to for beauty!!!

Beync:
@op, true, looks hav always been important and will always be. unfortunately, people take this idea and become obsessed with it. some men wud say i'l rather be with someone dat is cute than never and that is why their image of body become more important than their own true desires. sure when they meet the real person, they wud admit you are nice and sweet but they would rather be with the fake girl cos they are afraid of what family and friends wuld say.

I get you. . . . . . .LOL@ the last part of your post, the bolded part makes it seem like "authentic" girls have given up on life and themselves and don't really care about their look. I guess what I was referring to in the original post is the barbie look on black women as opposed to the more clean and natural look with just enough make up to enhance what one already has without having to go plastic with long weaves (chemically processed hair is still a natural look to me), claws for nails, fake eye lashes and the likes. . . . . . . . . .that is what seems to be in these days but I guess that is the younger women who look up to Ciara and Beyonce's lace fronts that reach the bum and can be flicked off the face. . . . . . . . BTW, I am not old, just grounded

LesbianBoy:
[size=30pt]Stop calling [b]my mistress a bad influence[/size][/b]

WTF, is that all I am good for?

Cork, is that you?

kay-money:
@Sa Goddess you are fuelling the situation here
God is your witness

   

I swear I am not trying to cause trouble but "Operation Rescue" is doomed before it even begins by the look of things but like everybody else, I believe love overcomes all      

Nelbless:
You are Blessed Kay Money, That is exactly what i'm pinpointing, i've always struggled to limit her from knowing some of my friends, yes she've got all the elegant and poise but, communication is one big huddle (i mean in accurate english) she's having, but i must confess, " i love this girl so dearly" but she ain't learning not even with all my efforts. i wouldn't want to see my future disapear b4 my very eyes, plz comment more Naira landers

Just make sure you teach her the right things dude, otherwise you two will have problems!  

I dedicate this song, to all the boys I have loved before *smiling while singing in my best Julio voice*

Aish Lady, making me teary now, I love that song AND all the boys it is dedicated to

justwise:
Education is not only about the paper qualification, its the whole 'you', that include the way you treat others and your view on things. Yes mistakes are bound to be made but i don't think he is the best person to teach the gf English language.

Kwawkakwakwakwak, stop it already, you are going to make me choke on my lunch          

Basildon1:
LMAO!

At the same time, bear in mind that there are many people that cant speak good english but are very well educated. But i get the point here, pot calling kettle black!

Very true but funny nonetheless

Don't talk about education and have tons of errors in your write up, it is funny!

SA Lady:
No, not me, I think I've loved every guy I've been with enough. I still know all the reasons why I had to end the relationships or why they ended it. The last main one that got away was in 2007 and funny thing is, everytime he crosses my mind I just know I could never be with him again as I am very clear in my head about why it ended.

Do I still love him? Yeah! (depends on one's definition of love). Do I still want to be with him? No! I have grown since then and I have learned enough, enough for me to see my tomorrow and I dont see how he may fit in.

I smile a lot whenever I think of him, fond memories is what I decided to take for myself when it ended and I have no doubt he continues to make somebody just as happy wherever he is. That's all I have for him now.

O bonolo Lady (easy)       falling inlove with "every-budy"        but I know what you mean about not going back, we are always evolving and what was good for us 5 years ago may not necessarily be what we want now    

Ms. Potato:
But have u found the one right now?

Not yet, but I am good. . . .dating!!!

Ms. Potato:
Was she more beautiful than before?



Awwwwwww. . . That is soo sweeet

It really was, pure and real, he even taught me how to cook My lesson from that break up was "I had to lose him to appreciate a good man", he made it easy! No regrets, life happens!

Uh, I was young and carefree    wasn't ready for what he was offering.  He had lived and was ready to settle down but I wasn't, I fell out of love and we parted ways but now I know he was the best. . . . .accepted me, understood me and never tried to mould me, that love was real and we had 5 happy years together!  I am not in love with him anymore but we are really good friends. . . . . .

Inked_Nerd:

Wow, that's good to hear .

kel2real:
LET ME ADVICE U ON WAT TO DO NEXT.
1. TAKE TWO BOTTLES OF BIG STOUT.
2. self-service THE FIRST ROUND SECRETLY
3. TAKE HER DOWN, I BET YOU ARE GONNA SPEND 20 MINUTES, AND THE SECOND ROUND,
UNENDING.
ITS NOT ABOUT THE BIG manliness, ITS ABOUT TOUCHING THE COROZ

Are you talking as a man or a woman? *Curious*

190:
[color=deeppink]I think the problem necessarily has be the lady

why do they succumb to changing their lives and adapting themselves just cos they

are interested in getting married 2 him or eating his money ( they do this all the time )

& years later they find themselves totally who they really are in the marriage, thats why i always

by the idea of dating someone for as long as possible cos not everyone would hold themselves for that long without

revealing a trait of who they are to their partner's [/color]

I agree, the ladies are setting themselves up for failure and a life of misery pretending to be who they are not, one can only pretend for so long before the real self surfaces. . . . .

I guess. . . . . . . . . .one man's delicacy is another's poison!

Some people are social smokers, don't think there is anything wrong with that. . . . .

No worriew

Spacecookies will be my first bake

Imari:
I taught myself.

As a teen I knew I didn't like canned biscuits so I followed the recipe on the flour bag, they came out some good so I started following some of the other recipes and off it went.

I've had a lot of trial and error with everything from cooking to baking but at least you know what not to do next time

If you don't mind, what are some of the baked sweets in Nigeria? and men who do cook do they also bake? as I see baking sweets for each other can be very romantic also, sweets for my sweet so to speak.

I guess if I got the home-made bread right, I can try the others too, trial and error is the way to go. . . . .

Naija people will answer your Q about baked goodies in Naija. . . . I am in South Africa!