₦airaland Forum

KanwuliaJara:
True to a great extent.
Marriage is NEVER a game of team work for Nigerians or Africans.
Efrybarry go do as dem fit!

why do you all enter marriage like you are about entering a battle field or you're about entering bokoharam camp ready to face visible and invisible wars forever. Which Kain life be that

Kimoni:
Sambarry, you expertise is needed here ooo

you sef

One ones thousand Nair ke

Irk pati wo niyen ke?

The only thing that one can afford is a carton of 5naira carton of biscuit which shouldn't be more thanks 500naira and 5 plastic bottle of fantastic.lobatan

eyan ole wa ki tie maba.speaking of which.......infact never mind

abeg dress joor.

i havent seeked bill gates attention its a local nl champions attention i will seek.shiooorrr

and what is so special about your fingers or nails.the one that looks like chicken feet.shiorrr.oniranu

coogar:
you brought your pig-snout here when no one quoted you or needed your opinion. stop trying to attention-seek?



oh dear.....
unfortunately for you, i value my well-manicured fingers than to use it to touch your panties with holes & skid-marks on them.

the last person that washed your panties had whitlow on each of her 10 fingers. your panties was the primary source of the ebola epidermic.

coogar:
look at this yeye babymama o!
shouldn't you be brëastfeeding your child or fixing her pampers? why did you even quote me? just because i mentioned your name does not give you the effing rights to quote me. speak to me only when you have been spoken to.

do you understand?

i said fk off.dont you hear word.just go,leave,vamoose.


and if you dont have anything doing,you can come and help me wash my pants and make sure you wash it clean
when you are done washing them let me know,i will give you instructions on where to spread them

coogar:
we should be asking you that.....
how the word monica is involved in your rejoinder to me above simply tells me you are perhaps going through post traumatic stress disorder.

are you done ranting ?now take your own advise and fk off and please leave my M O N I C A out of your convo.stupid boy

coogar:
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IS EVERYTHING OK WITH YOU MENTALLY,PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY?

IM DONE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION WITH YOU

DEUCES

Generals03:
Lol you don vex.

Listen indecent exposure means the intentional exposure of the breats, buttocks, thigh and other sexually provocative flesh areas in public (in lands where this is not the cultural norm).


You can't do morals on your own. You have no knowledge or sufficiency to decide whats right or wrong, good or bad for your daughter on your own.
According to biblical morals, to wear a bum short exposing the laps of your daughter in public is a sin.
According to quranic standards it is a sin,
According to 99% of Nigerian cultural norms, it is wrong.

So how did you come up with your own morals that sees it as right?

You see the danger of raising kids without morals that you can point to or read in their ears is that it raises weak minded kids. Daughters who are confused at 14, when a boy talks love to them and snatches their virginity. Daughters who by the age of 15 have slept with men including their teacher who always stick his finger inside her at every opportunity.
Why do you think the society is collapsing? And marriages break here and there? And little girls start thinkinj sex, sex, sex while in Jss3?

My point; Train up your child in the way of the Lord....... Your daughter will not believe that allowing the handsome JSS2 science teacher manipulate her privates in secret places at school is wrong SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU HER MOTHER SAID SO. She has seen you made mistakes countless time and it is registered in her subconscious that you are not always right. Meanwhile what the teacher does feel sweet. Dilenma!

In order words sambarry, Im not only advising you but I'm also persuading you to stick to biblical standards as your morals/belief. (I believe you are a christain) Train your daughers with these morals. When she asks why is it wrong? Show it to her in the bible and tell her the consequencs. Ofcourse you also have to 1st embrace this way of life before you can hand it down to her. Hence.......# A unique call this minute to return to the Saviour and His standard. Years from now you will be glad you did.

coogar:
oh yea....
i will ask sambarry. she married a togolese man.



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WHAT IS MY MONICA DOING IN YOUR CONVO

Ezyp:
OK.... Do as you wished.. But thank God the story I shared with you wasn't THEM SAY THEM SAY STORY.

whatever!

Dead breasts

What kind of weird and hilarious tattoo is that on his arms

and what's up with the first picture? He's wearing a monostrap?

this guy really looked razz in his throw back pictures

Society is no longer anybodys yardstick for morals.i define my own morals

kennedyugo:
That's the issue.
Those that allow their children wear such equally don't see anything wrong with them.
Your view may also be according to way you were brought up.
But the truth is that there is something terribly wrong with those views in the light of our traditional societal morals. I define my own morals

It only gets worse and worse.
In fact, I have given up on this generation with regards to morals.

Everyone, you are on your own. What you sow you reap!

Story story . story . Once upon a time. Time time


this your super story reminds me of the stories I read in deeper life Christian women magazine. Fabricated stories

By the way the last time I checked decent and indecent is relative. What may be decent to you may be indecent to me and vice versae

Ezyp:
Let me tell you a true story...
.... Years back, on a faithful evening on my way to the school (university) for reading I saw guys all on blacks. I noticed two of the guys were walking slowly (sure they wanted a lady behind them to be at the same pace with them) then I heard one of them say: ABEG MAKE WE LEAVE HER THIS ONE NA DEEPER LIFE MEMEBER. The truth is they made that statement because of how she was dressed that evening.
Imagine she was on something a little provocative. I strongly believe that at little age that lady was taught how to dress decently. (it pays to cover up the body)

Generals03:
Its a damn shame if you ask me. Why not get her G-strings as well to wear underneath the bum shorts? Like mother like daughter.

if I can I would. Ode! Shame on you too . When you grow up, I mean grow up and have become a parent, come and trade words with me . till then get lost

So when your 11 year old child disobeys you e.g wash the dishes and she doesn't but is inside her room playing video game you will stab her to death or if she disrespects you, you'll throw her out?

wonyi:
You are right, that's the reason why after 3 weeks when things didn't fall in place I quietly returned her. It's easier said than done. May God give us the grace to raise our kids properly. I never used her for child slave labour. A girl child needs to b groomed properly otherwise she won't b able to keep her home. Maybe having a stable health would have helped. When a child says sorry, thank u n please easily, it pushes u to love more n b more patient. When my child dares me, he or she faces the consequences with love.

wonyi:
I returned her on saturday morning. Thanks

the better for both of you

Then do the needful

wonyi:
You are right, that's the reason why after 3 weeks when things didn't fall in place I quietly returned her. It's easier said than done. May God give us the grace to raise our kids properly. I never used her for child slave labour. A girl child needs to b groomed properly otherwise she won't b able to keep her home. Maybe having a stable health would have helped. When a child says sorry, thank u n please easily, it pushes u to love more n b more patient. When my child dares me, he or she faces the consequences with love.

glimpse:
what baffles me the most is the fact that one can't correct another's child in today's society. if you do,just wait for the insult that can last you a life time from the parent of that child.

lol . why should you correct another person's child. My dear you will regret not minding your business if you try correcting another person's child


Recently a 3 year old child ran towards the express because the mothers mind was carried away to God knows where while on the que at the atm stand and of course every one minded their business. Thank God the car the child ran into wasn't speeding.the annoying part of it is that it's the sweet he saw that attracted him and obviously people looked away

You don't train kids by force. You raise them with extreme patience and love. She's a child and not some child slave labourer. There's a difference between the both

wonyi:
@ SAMBARRY, it means these our young ones are loosing it.
Unfortunately I didn't have a younger one. At 11, I was already going to the market to buy my stuff,
washing plates neatly n sweeping. Also prepare little meal whenever the chance comes up. I spent weekends n vacations with relatives n friends n also took correction whenever the need arises. I see why we have more crimes now. She's not yet a teenager yet she can't be curb. If they can't b controlled now, is it when they get into the university we can control them? In fashola ' s voice E ko o ni baje o. I won't let her become ruined in my house.

Kanwuliajara o

you are right though

KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmmm

OP, you gave conditions for what?
A man has decided to abandon you and your children and you are giving conditions?

On what grounds?

I can NEVER be in your situation because I am ALWAYS gainfully employed.
Where I come from, WOMEN are bread and butter winners and can NEVER depend on ANY MAN for ANYTHING. . . . Husbands included!

All the best to you!

Miami11:
I will never stay in a polygamous marriage, never!!!!!

If my husband insists this, God forbid, we will be in court the next day dividing property, finances and visitation rights,

I will never let him and another beeech come eat my sweat.

Then I will set him free hence forth and raise my kids, then look for another divorcee man to warm my bed, but only when kids are grown.

You seem to be accepting of this situation because you are unemployed, please next time let a husband set you something before you drop babies

Hmnnn

example

cococandy:
This is all shades of wrong

when the child grows up to see this picture I'm sure he'll be so proud of his mother

Not all women are mothers. This is child abuse of the highest order

You're thrice her age, are you people doing competition? Please listen to tearoses a woman who is a mother of a 12 year old girl

so tell me when you were her age were you doing all the things you are imposing on her? No lies please

wonyi:
Thanks very much. She does all these things at home. I asked her what she can do n she told me. My anger is her disobedience n disrespect . I am thrice her age. The least thing I expect was respect. If u read my post, I spoke to her softly like a mother to her child. I realised that first week since I was always in bed, she does what ever she likes. When she served me food I was surprised when she gave me half fish n when I requested she said she said she shared it.
I understand she's a kid n could b naughty. My health is improving by the grace of God.
I will b visiting this section more to learn. Kids are different. Some needs tlc while some needs iron hand. That is left to her parents

I'm done with this thread because I can see nothing useful in doing back and forth argument. I have made my point therefore EOD!

lofty900:
but provocative dressing is also a major factor in the uprising cases of rape. Ladies should learn to dress decently

if provocative dressing as you call it is a major source of rape why don't you rape half naked women in broad daylight where everyone is watching

We hope so and we hope you will live up to your words

Choi

Hmnn