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Higher cadre civil servants are different from lower cadre civil servants my dear. We all know the difference

oromitope26:
Thanks everybody.
Sambarry. My parents are civil servants too but they don't and will never do this. Thanks for your input.

Whocarex. You just spoke out my fears, so that at the end of it all it won't be like back stabbed her. She is not trying to use me to get money o, she wants me to borrow her and I'll never do such. She loves and treat me like her daughter but this habit is a big problem to me.

Marvellousgod. Thanks dear, how do I sit him down and start telling him is my problem. Won't he pour the anger on his mum?

Grow up na.

what award do you receive for being a hater

PRINCENWAEZE:
Tonto shut up we all know what the dog alway do with u, yeye dey smell, dog wey dey always leak ur puna abeg go jaRri


I no go dey suprise if u born dog mchwwweee

Wulfruna:
That was an epically stupid comment though.

but the fan wasn't patronizing and stupid

smh

sltn:
and she's planning to be a housewife! :-/ damnn her! slut

ok so it's housewives that anybody can insult anyhow and all they do is stare like an African emotionless bimbo

wonders

What agency or sector doesn't need immediate and urgent attention in nigeria

Many are mad, few are roaming

the painful part of it is that those useless women who don't know how to take of children are the ones that get pregnant easily. Just one romp, belle Don enter ..na them dey give birth frafrafra.they're as fertile as a pig but the ones that desperately need children and have everything it takes to mother a child, na them their eggs dey strong pass. E strong pass olumo rock.

What a pity

There's no how he won't get to know eventually one way or another so you better tell him so that he won't find out elsewhere and another ejo wewe of my mother in law is a witch because I didn't borrow her money crops up. Now is the time for him to deal with the issue now and forever more

to the issue make sure you don't start what you won't be able to stop. If you borrow her money each time she comes to you she will think she has seen atm machine and when things are tough for you in your marriage financially and you are funtable to meet up with her financial expectations she'll think you are the one that made her son not to give her money again or you were pretending for her just to marry her son

As per her returning the money just forget about it. I don't know about other climes though but in Nigeria civil servants are notorious for borrowing. All their life is borrowing. They will borrow to pay debt and borrow again to return debt and they don't feel shame about it because it is part of their lifestyle

they are the ones that will borrow the money they can't afford to meet up with the joneses.

na them dey earn 100,000 naira and na them go put their pikin for 500, ooo naira school

na them dey collect 70,000 as salary na them go borrow to live in a house of 2 million per annum.

Before their salary comes sef dey Don use am pay debt finish

I know these people well like my palm. In fact I've borrowed one money when she came lamenting that amosun hasn't paid them their salary for 6 months now and I borrowed her something that will sustain her. Till today she hasn't returned it and I don't expect her to because that's just how they are. In fact from the moment of giving her I just knew I'm dashing her because she can't pay

meanwhile are you sure somebody is not somewhere deceiving your mil to collect money from her. Let her son investigate well o because nigerians are not nice when it comes to money

oromitope26:
Thanks bro.
She is not a widow, she is teacher in a goverment school. she has 5 children just two are working now and fiance is the only son.

I dont know because she is not even the asoebi and owanbe type at all. Telling him is the problem because I know this will break him down as he tries his best for his mum and siblings.

Father-in-law to be is a missionary but all the same its not an excuse for this, I can't even tell my mum about this issue. Thanks.

Return her parents before you turn into one of those women who use hot pressing iron on other people's children

save that shouting energy for your children. Besides there's a limit you can correct other people s children. If it's becoming too much it becomes isolenu

wonyi:
@ SAMBARRY thanks. I only told her to live with me for some time without promises. I am a teacher in children's church. I am trying to make her comfortable. I never lured her. If I had known she stays late in school till 6pm I would have given it a second thought. Her absence made me stronger.i told her the person I know in church is different from the person living with me. Thanks.
You are right.i am considering returning her today or tomorrow. Living with me would have changed her future. Though I am not God but would have tried my best.
Since I am not a fan of using cane on wards, I will return her before she pushes ME . THANKS. Really learning

Op don't judge or criticise what you don't understand or believe in

You had to much expectations from her because you thought she was intelligent and now she didn't meet up to your expectations you feel disappointed and angry

on her own part she might think you lured her with the promise of paying her school fees, giving her money and gifts and now she has realised you took advantage of her background and turned her to house help

solution return her back to her parents. If she now rethinks and decides she wants to live with you then you accept her on your own terms and conditions, if she can't then she should stay with her parents

yoruba says orisa tiole gbe mu, semi boshe bami applies to you both

Next

I no hide o

as them no invite me inside the fight na im I say make i dress go back and besides I didn't mean it the way efemena and tearoses are taking the matter

The point i was trying to make is that big chics rock and it's not only lepa that can look good to even the thick ladies

oya o efemena and tearoses oya hug yourselves

Chillisauce:
Efemenaxy and tearoses. All I can say Is wow . This is clearly misunderstanding.
At tearoses, You analysed Efe's post based on that sentence she made. She and sambarry had been cracking skinny and fatty jokes from that healthy thread. Too bad sambarry bright the joke to this place.
EfemenaXY you come vex join. Pls take it easy and calm down . Both of you should apologise to each other jare. This is not worth it. And both of you should not near your church until you make up. This is unchristainlike.
At sambarry, you come quiet like petit escargot come hide for your shell. You just dey paste random pics. When casala burst you hide.

Anyway, Efe and Cc. ..I manage type this post with the long false nails I fix. Took me 15mins . So please don't let it waste.

Go and drop the baby with his mom, dust your body and move on

fantazia:
AND SHE EXPECT A SENSIBLE AND A WELL BROUGHT UP MAN TO PROPOSE MARRIAGE TO HER AFTER READING THIS. "SMH 4 HER.

na her type dey marry good guys pass

Every body sha wants to be famous for something


hope you saw abacha in heaven too

She should quit self pity and hit the gym very fast

cococandy:
Sambarry for the last time I'm not yellow pawpaw.

I'm just mildly light skinned.
Mildly.

You know like erm I dunno omotola or maybe she's even lighter. I don't know a good example to use that you can relate to.

I like that kain family circle. The parents from both husband and wife side too will be ci parents. See full house

cococandy:
So who's the baby daddy and does he know?
Before una abort the pikin make sure he's not after getting his baby from her or you'll have a bigger mess than what you already have.

As for what to do, get your family together. One person has to move to join the other. Distance is bad for any marriage no matter how much love you guys have between you.
Or Else both of you'll continue sleeping around.
If you don't mind having those extra partners then the pregnancies that come from them shouldn't bother you. The ones from your mistresses should also be welcome since she's bringing hers from her side bobo to una house.

Just gather the pikins under one roof and raise them all as yours.

ronald4lif:
If I were you I'd divorce her straight away, like right now. She couldn't even insist on condom while fvcking about. What a shame of a wife.

but it is not a shame for the husband

he got a taste of his own medicine

Yomieluv:
do you still need advice for this?


till she kills you before you know you have to send her packing.


either male or female,no excuse for infidelity.

are they not birds of the same feather? Like husband like wife.the husband is as guilty as the wife so which one be send her packing?

edwife:
Both of you are pathetic.

you are becoming so harsh this days


who is sharpening your teeth?

It's the work of the devil. Forgive and forget so that your prayers can be answered after all its for better for worse till death do you part

kayjasper:
Sisi Sambarry, do you sell clothes? As in lace and stuff?

You got so many lovely pix.

I should follow you here to know the latest styles o. Very nice.

no I don't but I love combining clothes for different sizes and statures and accessorize just as a hobby and give them to tailors to turn my description into reality

taryour:
professional ke, am still a learner o. lol

is a lie joor.youre a professional. With all those fine fine cakes and small chops I saw you wan still dey lie give me at my age

she's a guru o.dont let her deceive you

Onisolenu ni e

I don't do ijogbon as long as you don't press the trigger buttons

as per the lace selling, I'll think abourit

Idowuogbo:
Sell ke? She'll wear all the clothes in her store to owanbe. The yuppy mummy no dey use eye see fashion at all...

But wait o,this na business idea ke....Sambarry you know if you dey sell clothes,you can advertise it here and orders will fly in from all over. Especially this family section wey we don know you for ijogbon and party business go blow walai. Thinkabourrit# but as you dey collect order,you must market boash cakes o

The yellow pawpaws I know are not dog friendly. The moment theyu see dog what comes to their mind is how they will dismember its part for soups and barbecue

so zeus is not safe with them because if royal Roy come back from work he will eat his dog unknowingly not knowing that his wife has killed the thing for lunch. It is after he finishes eating he will know he just ate his best friend with semo

tearoses:
Sambarry where do you always get these oyibo peppers from?

Meanwhile RoyalRoy you are still putting us on "is coming" abi
. . . . . or are you waiting until a time when idowu learns how to bake wedding cakes
Do quick jare
Sambarry pls find a yellow pawpaw who likes dogs for RR
We must eat rice in the 1st quarter of next year
Olympics wedding
Honeymoon in Rio

edwife:
Then we could safely say that dressing is just one of the many cause of rape? No?

yes but a very minor reason not a major reason

Those ones na for real yellow pawpaws like cococandy o.no skin whitening or bleaching

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] Lol....no be my fault o!!!

Man ready, woman taking her time.....wetin man go do Na!!!!

But at least she don cross her last huddle today so the man can put his feet on the throttle now.

#Godwin

#TeamYellowPawPaws

#TeamSayNoToChinaMadeYellowPawPaws [/color]

that's nice


royal roy when the d day is set invite us o

I willwgladly supply you aso ebis and distribute it to your friends and loved ones however you will pay in cash for services. Nothing like tomorrow o

Idowuogbo:
Awwwwww.....Sambarry somebody shout hallelu oooooo... Oga Royim don get alert ooooo.....na Godwin!! and na me first get the gist,na Godwin ooooo!! Chei! *adjusts her lace front*

Idowuogbo:
Oh I see. There's a market for that package now, it's blown up sef. I might just drop 9 -5 and tap into the market,starting with you. At least e sure for me say i go sell well well with you and your squad as una dey rough am every weekend. E jaye ju

most definitely

Orekelewa is into make up and gele.she doesn't bake.

I'm referring to popular and established make up artist

Idowuogbo:
Orekelewa dey bake? or you mean gele classes? I'm thinking about this one o...but na time. I have just taken up a challenge in church to learn the drums, i want to be on drums for our next women's conference.I would get there by God's grace. Haba! No b all woman band Beyonce get? So y man go dey beat drum for us? Na all female band go feature next year by fire or force. I don tell iyawo pasito to start gongo lessons too. We are in this together. The woman thinks i'm possessed right about now cus i'm not he type that talks too much in their meetings but I provoke this time and told them change must happen ke.

I just finished reading the article and it was insightful. Therefore going by the article its obvious that Saudi Arabia is very similar to Nigeria except for the fact that sharia laws are more entrenched in the northern part of Nigeria.

Women in Nigeria are too ashamed to own up that they have been raped because they don't want to be divorced by their husbands, remain unmarried or be looked down on as pitiable and despicable by the society

even if the woman takes the matter to court if the family of the man can give the judge a fat brown envelope, even if the victim brings all the evidence to show she's been raped, oyo is her case

so there are many factors that come to play. I don't know if you remember a girl who was raped by a lecturer who the parents claimed was helping her process admission into the university he's a lecturer in


if you read that thread here on nl.the first poster was like what did she wear to the lecturers office that made him to rape her. People just like over emphasising on clothes alone.

I believe there's more to incessant rape than just clothes and strict sharia laws

edwife:
Okay.
You know why I chose to have this conversation with you? Because you can be both,sarcastic and reasonable.Please leave the sarcasm at the door or for the likes; i need a mature conversation and too bad some of the ladies i would have love to discuss with are busy.I am off today.

As you can see in my opening,i said why i think indecent dressing is and isn't but i wanted to focus more on the title itself and went on to give some facts.That's how i learned to discuss in my assignments .You said you saw valid points in my post but fail to talk about them?Why won't you allow a male to bath wura?After all she is a child innit?Nothing provocative about her,her unclothedness will not mean anything to a man.

Thank God MarvellousGod opening was it's one of the cause,i guess they didn't see that.... let blame,condemn and play the victim card after all it is always someone's fault.Nigerian mentality.

Please MarvellousGod i want you to expatiate on why you think indecent dressing is one of the cause of rape.Let's focus on that alone.

There is this article i find very educative as we want to focus more on those countries where men where born seeing women wearing pudah yet still rape the women.Here is someone who actually had a sound EDUCATION .




PLEASE READ

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Disclaimer:This is to show why in those countries where women covered up from head to toe still get raped.But is this applicable to countries like Nigeria and the west?
cc:kimoni