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Exactly like impregnating them before knowing their real character

dre11: finished reading ur story.....
Anyway, just to ask...... have u talked with the family of the girl as she wished.
And what u feel for her is it genuie or just out of lustfull desire....

Although i would say she is young but, she is not too young to understand what she is doing because going by 9ja constitution a 18yr old girl is consider an adult.
But, do allow her to mature at her pace and don't force it on her because it might backfire
and
lastly do not make thesame mistake u did made with ur wife by allowing your women to be pregnant before doing the marriage rites

Coco you too you are agbaya.if a 40 year old man comes to your house with his people that they want to marry your 17+ year old daughter you no go land the person slap



nothing like talking to her about her future like studying for gce, jamb etc.na marriage be her next priority.


Ok let me even take a 17 year old girl as an adult even though she's not. At 17 her priority is different from a 40year old man's priority. Hers is or should be planning on getting into the university and if she doesn't want help her get a job or learn a skill



does it mean a parent cannot leave a little girl in a man's house and be sure she's safe and untouched. I am trying so hard to resist the temptation of calling op a paedo.a man that should be the one guiding, advising and seeing her as his daughter is bedding her. Even if it's with her consent is it right? Which parent will be happy knowing that a man old enough to be her father is bedding her when she's only going there to lighten his domestic burdens

cococandy: Oh I see.

So the only problem you have is how to tell the world that you're in love with an 18yr old huh?
Tough luck.

Talk to her mom like she suggested. If you get her mother's support,getting her father on your side won't be hard.

I still think you should give her a little time.
Girls that age can change their minds like underwear. If you can wait for some time before starting the marriage rites maybe At least until she's 20 it would be better (IMO) but now you don rush go take her virginity

Well just swallow shame or whatever it is that's holding you back and go see her parents.
It may be easier than you think.

Igbayi laro ni arugbo nskun koste

The point is does op know her well enough beyond her cooking and cleaning. So that it's not when she enters university and meet some "big boys and girls" and then she says I have seen one bigger boy and ditch the guy. I hope you understand what am saying

aisha2: There is no one size fits all to these issues, some marry early and the marriage succeeds, some marry and it fails, some marry late and well exposed and the marriage fails
The important thing is that both ADULTs are aware of their actions and its consequence

Lobatan.aisha has said it all . curtains closed

aisha2: Okay, but remember the girl as a maid and as a wife are two different people. She seems to want you too from what you have said, talk with her is marriage is what she wants then see her parents and talk with yours, Lots of ladies marry early, keep their homes and careers, Kanu married his wife while she was 18 and they are still happy to date, same with Omotola.

However, I hope you love her beyond cooking and cleaning because when you marry her taste will change and standard will upgrade, I also hope she is not using you as a stepping stone and "Prince Charming" to rescue her from all her problems.

That being said Love and Life is a risk, you are both consenting adults, if you both are happy then I wish you both the best

A 17 plus girl hasn't yet started her life.shr still be pikin na.is cooking, cleaning aand taking care of a child all there is to marriage or being a wife?



That's so unreasonable. She hasn't even gotten into the university. I bet if she gets there and her eyes open she'll start to realise the man took advantage of her vulnerability. How can a girl even help you and the next thing you are bedding her. Na so matured women scarce reach



smh.no self control of any sort. That's looseness na.hiaannn

cococandy: Yea the age barrier is much.
But we can't just rule it as something that will fail.
They have a chance to succeed.
I blame him for sleeping with her already when she's yet to cross the 18th line

But it's good he's not trying to use and discard her.
Once she's past 18,she's of age so she has the right to marry who she wishes to.

I admit the sweetness of the union lies in the fact that she's so pliant and malleable for him now.

Still they have a chance to suceed.

Gbam

aisha2: Was the se-x consensual or did she feel intimidated into giving in as per her Boss

Have you spoken to her after that and addressed what happened? I am imagining how after taking away her virginity you guys will carry like business as usual

Does she feel the same way about you?

I am a little uncomfortable it would be different if you had a defined relationship, I am worried at the point when you had intercouse with her and what happened after. A girl of 18 hardly knows what she wants, some do, but what if in a few years she comes and says you manipulated her into the marriage or she grows up and realises you may not be what she wants?

Before talking with anyone talk with her first, dont get carried away she was doing her job, if at any time the relationship wanted to change it should be by mutual consent.

Godmystrength: small market still dey o.

una don conclude the matter na

una Don bash unaselves taya

Op as for your wife why didn't you study her or befriend her well enough before you started impregnating her.you no try.as for the smallie that is taking care of your home she's just a house help and a young girl, you shouldn't have done that abi if it was a 50 something or 60 something year old helping you with your daughter and cooking, you go dress go her side?



because you see say na pikin.do you even realise men your age have kids that are your girl friends age and even older . imagine going for pta meeting. What will you stand as.man friend, father or uncle?



you f'd up really

Haaaaaa coco see you encouraging the man . first of all 40-18=22 years. Meaning the girl was born when he was 22 years.i can't even say he's like a big brother but a father to her.ahaaaannnn.not 5,8 or maximum maximum 10 years 22 freaking years ahaaaaaannnnn




op fear God na.slippers get size. Why take advantage of the girl because she's the only one around you. So because she's domesticated and takes care of your daughter =she's a good wife. She never show you her colour




agbaya ni e why you no go find 29 years-35 why a teenager? A secondary school pikin for that matter. It would have even been manageable if she was in the university like 25years.you no try.truth be told and as for you coco aka soyoyo I'll be back to your matter later

cococandy: First thing you should finalize your divorce with you wife.
has the custody of your daughter been decided? You guys need to agree on that so that whoever you marry next won't have problems about that.
Close one chapter before opening the other.


True the girl is too young. All the goodness you're seeing may be as result of carried over master-servant mindset that she's been relating to you with. She's yet to discover herself,so how are you sure she's the ideal wife you've been longing for?
I fault you for taking the virginity of an 18yr old girl. What were you thinking?

Anyway the deed is done. If you want to marry her and if she and her family agrees,then sort things out with your first wife and move on with your life.

The age barrier can work in your favour because some women relate better with guys much older than them.
It can also work against you if you become too domineering and controlling.

Just know that if you marry her now,you'll also play the role of daddy in her life because her higher education will be on you.
Between now and when she grows into a full woman say 23-28yrs,you'll notice HUGE changes. She's still growing.

Just thread carefully.

Nawa o.market dey sell here



it's rather unfortunate I came when the show was over




I see all the grammar wey una blow


*Bye.zooming off*


driver oya next bustop

See how many nigerians pay evil with good.


Now if a genuine person comes for help tomorrow it wouldn't be rendered because of someone else's misbehaviour



no wonder its so difficult or almost impossible for a nigerian to go to a friend for loan etc.na nigerians dey teach fellow nigerians wickedness

my own policy is I don't lend money to people even if i can afford to neither do I get myself involved in anything money with people before we start speaking grammar.


In fact if anybody comes to me to borrow money I'll make up one story right there why I don't have. But if you say please give me 100 naira,even if i can afford to give the person, I'll rather give him 30 naira just to fulfill all righteousness. One lesson I have learnt through experience is that no matter how close you are with a person, never ever engage in any thing finances with the person

Nawa o.you better waka go front. How will you come to nl and say you are looking for husband. You better don't let them scam you before you come back here to write stories that touch

Kanwulia: The reason ALL MAJOR DISEASES CAN LIKE EBOLA AND HIV can find permanent homes in AFRICA!
More religion AKA SUPERSTITION. . .LESS SCIENCE.

it's sad that there's no hope for Africa going by the enormous rate of illiteracy, stoopeedity, superstition and ingrained ignorance. There are somethings that require prayers and there are also somethings that require basic Common sense

luvablesam: Kulyie when did u become Sam too

I am not sam I am sambarry or better still call mr somebody

how are you and how is berneett

Lol kim turned what was meant to emnarass her to her fame.i give it to her for that
...where is the so called ray jay feeling like badooo.imfact anytime I see him on tv, I don't see a man, I see a low life lousy jerk.sometimes I wonder if he is actually brandy's brother

Kanwulia: You are deviating from the topic.
Perversion is not the topic here o.
This is not about invading privacy.
We are talking about sexuuual communication between NORMAL ADULTS.
I don't think you read the article properly. . . which was meant to be EDUCATIVE TO NORMAL ADULTS. . . .[b]NOT FOR THE PARA-NORMAL/PSYCHOTIC [size=20pt]PRUDES OR PERVS[/size] ON OR OFF NL. . . both unhealthy extremes of sexuality.[/b]


It has nothing to do with 'respecting' yourself as a woman. . . BUT EXERCISING A CHOICE BETWEEN MUTUALLY CONSENTING ADULTS!

If someone decides to invade your privacy. . .GROW SOME BALLS AND SHOUT TO THE WORLD. . . 'HECK YEAH. . . DO YA PHOCKIING WORST"!

If you like LOCK YOURSELF INSIDE YOUR BEDROOM. . . AND HAVE SEXXX IN THE DARK BY YOURSELF. . .anyone that decides to invade your privacy will do just that!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmxToZBAGD4


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGLaRQAj3mM


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGQ51OoGvfg


HA! SHE WHO LAUGHS LAST LAUGHS BEST!!!! WHO CARES? ONLY JUVENILES AND THE JOBLESS OF COURSE!!!

Lol lollllzzzzz I get you

Kanwulia: You are deviating from the topic.
Perversion is not the topic here o.
This is not about invading privacy.
We are talking about sexuuual communication between NORMAL ADULTS.
I don't think you read the article properly. . . which was meant to be EDUCATIVE TO NORMAL ADULTS. . . .[b]NOT FOR THE PARA-NORMAL/PSYCHOTIC [size=20pt]PRUDES OR PERVS[/size] ON OR OFF NL. . . both unhealthy extremes of sexuality.[/b]


It has nothing to do with 'respecting' yourself as a woman. . . BUT EXERCISING A CHOICE BETWEEN MUTUALLY CONSENTING ADULTS!

If someone decides to invade your privacy. . .GROW SOME BALLS AND SHOUT TO THE WORLD. . . 'HECK YEAH. . . DO YA PHOCKIING WORST"!

If you like LOCK YOURSELF INSIDE YOUR BEDROOM. . . AND HAVE SEXXX IN THE DARK BY YOURSELF. . .anyone that decides to invade your privacy will do just that!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmxToZBAGD4


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGLaRQAj3mM


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGQ51OoGvfg


HA! SHE WHO LAUGHS LAST LAUGHS BEST!!!! WHO CARES? ONLY JUVENILES AND THE JOBLESS OF COURSE!!!

That's where littering nl with pictures of nakid men and women mastorbatin and feengareen themselves started including sending sexting messages to the internet by phone repairers.women need to respect themselves. Like my mom will say no one can invade your privacy without your consent. Am just not a fan of such but to each their own

Kanwulia: Sending amorous messages. . .sexuaaally explicit messages. . . a form of FORE--PLAY!
It gives you an insight to how sexxxual a person can be before YOU HIT THE BED!



When a man touches me. . .without talking to me.
I feel a total disconnection!
When he talks to me. . . MY LANGUAGE, I send him IMAGES(NEVER NU-DE IMAGES). . . HIS LANGUAGE!

On my way to work. I'll be right back. Meanwhile haven't we had enough of all this gender war issh on nl you are about fuelling

Then what is sexting @ the red bolded

Kanwulia: Na so gay-bashing take start o.
The fact you don't understand it, does not mean you should castigate or denigrate!
It is called 'flirting' or 'heavy petting' via text SMS!
Not everyone is into PHYSICAL ACTS OF SEXUUALITY.
I for one find SEXXXUAL ACTS LESS AMOROUS AND INTIMATE.
Too animalistic.

It is called alternative lifestyle in sexuality.
I loooooooooooooooooooooove DIRTY TALK!
It PUMPS ME UP!!!!!

MEN ARE TURNED ON BY IMAGES. . . WOMEN ARE TURNED ON BY WORDS!

Bottom line:
[size=20pt]DON'T TEXT NU-DE PICTURES TO ANYONE. . . NO MATTER HOW INFATUATED!!!![/size]

Am telling you. Everything is always my pastor said this, our prophet said that, our imam said this as if they are the only one God gave brains.if that's how the western world behaved, there wouldn't have been scientific results that cure or help cope with certain diseases.just go to luth and see how decayed the hospitals are and instead of calling the ministries of health concerned to order they will say let us pray


while the people in charge of the health sector are globe trotting and marrying wives andconcubines with money meant for health reformation. Patients sleeping on mats on the ground still you are sprinkling holywater

Kanwulia: It is terrible oooooooooh
We have a long way to go sha.
The saddest part is that we have not even started the journey to redemption to salvation!
Even with all the churches and mosques disturbing the peace from SUNDAY to SATURDAY all over Africa!
There is no sacredness in human life or death.
So shallow! Zero spirituality.

Any time this people see threads that burst their bubbles they start getting angry, bitter and in secured



Every one knows what they want and go for it . people's definition of mr and Mrs perfect differs anyways

The answer is not far from you. There's hate every where including outside africa, Europe, asia etc but Africans own is more in depth and ingrained. The self hate and unbelievable wickedness isn't curbed by enforceable laws as opposed to other refined nations.in other nations you are free to hate but it becomes an issue when you express your hate through violence or any form of abuse against humanity. Autistic kids inclusive




I remember my early years in the university where I saw a little boy always sitting outside in front of a woman's shop and I asked around why this boy is here and not with his parents or in school. They said he's suffering from epilepsy and the prophet told the parents to chase him out otherwise he will infect his other siblings because he's drmonic.no food, no shelter, unfortunately born into poor, illiterate and superstitious family so you can imagine what autistic kids go through in families like that. It's better he wasn't born at all

years later when I had graduated and passed by there i asked about the boy, they said he's dead

Kanwulia: Hmmmmm!

I do not see how these types of children can survive such a condition in Africa.
Loving normal people is not even possible, not to mention unfortunate children with such conditions.

Why is it so difficult for AFRICANS TO FIND, GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE?
Just watched this documentary from a POVERTY-STRICKEN part of India.
It blew my mind away.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6JRFtDPt5w

Kanwulia: You nor dey appreciate 'psycho humor'?
Na wa for you o!
Efrytin cannot be serious business abi?

it's true sha.i get you




I think I need to be laid back as far as nl is concerned

Kanwulia: You are so right!

The only group left is the MGBEKE group!
They deserve each other!
Bush meat jam BUSHER MEAT!
Them go produce the BUSSSSSSSSSSHEST CHILDREN!!!

Muchechechechechecheche

lol k




Be positive sometimes na

Disgusting habit and actually for teenagers who aren't allowed to have girlfriends and boyfriends do they resort to sexting




any adult into that sh1t needs to get his or her head thoroughly examined

shizzle11: SAMUEL BARRY aka SAMBARRY aka kulyie, stop corrupting this thread I don't run leave you'o

common cleaaarr away and go and make money like your mates in oil in company

shizzle11: Haha..but that kind of sumptuous food is meant for straight, capable men like me na.

OK is it cos shes n.ude? why abt this one then, highway to heaven

ghen ghen so the topic has moved from men to women's nakid bodies. Abi?

If that's the case use this one take do short time

dorox: I know your solution to any problem; it is to pay tithe to you, or to sow seeds towards yor welfare

Adaodogwu: Lol God punish poverty!! See hustling.

dorox: The op is hoping to snare some mugu on naira land. Business must be very bad indeed to have come to this barren terrain to hunt for mugus.

*faints*
.

Zikdik: Your anointing has failed to cure people with Ebola but you come here to showcase e-anointing?
I've got one problem. Senile men like you shouldn't be roaming the streets. Do us all and your sorry self a favour and fix that.