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chineloSA:
No lolo, I am not single. I got married.

As I said in my previous post, some woman don't mind a man with a child or children. Personally since I experienced it, I would not advice any single childless woman to enter such union. They are draining to the one with no kids.

Sorry to hear of your ordeal. It will come to pass.

not my loss but hers(i never lose in love cuz i always give my all)...my whole family was behind her..for once,i enjoyed a sister-girlfriend union...guaranteed she wont have had my family probs...my children would av stayed with my mum temporarily...i heard all women are the same....when they eventually get what they want,they start showing their true colors....news flash!im never scared to get rid of anyone causing me pain....thankfully,divorce aint something so serious anymore...its like a breakup now..even parents are so eager to have their child back..
congrats on ur own success..for me,im back to my original plan....to have a child in every continent....and we would be a "we are the world" family...
Asia....here i come!

chineloSA:
True love is hard to find when you are single and childless and even more harder to fin when you have baggage.

I am glad your ex girlfriend bounced. It is not the wisest decision for someone who doesn't have kids. I am glad her mom made sense to her.
For someone in your position, a person with kids from previous relationship I bet would be the best match for you. You just blend your families from your past and add more.

I learnt the hard way myself. When babymama drama started rearing it's ugly head, all started to make sense. He was a good man, but long term, my happiness was gonna be at stake because of constant compromise to accommodate his other family.

I am not saying single mother/father should not find love. Some man/ woman have no problem with that. But from my past experience ,given another opportunity to choose again, I would go for a single childless man.

Right now, I have no babymama drama and no compromise to make. Our families are just embracing us and instead putting us under pressure to procreate as I said. And that is absolutely bliss. We are just focusing on ourselves before kids come.

Don't take it to heart, I bet you wouldn't want your daughter (without kids) to marry a man with kids from previous marriage or relationships.

All the best bro. you will definitely find what God has in store for you.

but ur still single?....just cuz it dint work for u..doesnt men it cant work for ohers...all these single guys out there are presently enjoying the good life and want none of that wife bullshit...i neva used to be a "1 girl" guy(only 1 woman no fit chop all these dangote sugar...na pile be that) until i met her..i never even wanted to marry(i just wanted the fruits of marriage without a binding contract"..she made me believe in marriage..in fact i started sleeping in the same room wit a woman...WHAO!she kept pressurizing me abt the future of the relationship..i swear,i almost tore my world apart but i never thought the children would play a major part in a decision so hard..no way i wld leave my children with my baby mama..my children must grow with my close supervision.....
guess its true what they say:many talk the talk,only a few are up for the moment"..and she backed out in my fight for custody of the kids......
so if tomorrow she never finds another undying love....what wld be her excuse?she is 33 already....
i met a good woman once unprepared and accidentally in the worst circumstances..for once,a woman made me think,made me believe...i was just willing to finally give marriage a good shot.....but she bounced!wat was she expecting....the highest pride of a woman just handed over to her freely....hell no!love shd be able to handle competition..and thats what most sane gals aint prepared for or wont accept...
i aint looking for love anymore cuz av blown the chance to.....right now there are just too many fine lady to choose 1....funny,its even cheap....(check the rate on BADOO if u are in doubt)

tivta:
lol, I swear most Nigerian girls are so jealous of Beyonce, they keep saying its a business marriage, yet she, her daughter and Jay-Z are currently on vacation. Girls of this generation are just too gullible.

leave them,we self we they here for them.....na them go tire...i already av my rolls royce i drive only on SUNDAYS...ounpe if we drive the benz,ferraris,toyotas(the new gals) +the 35yr old land rovers(lindas,rita dominics) as daily official cars...

Sexyolori:
so her life should be put on hold because she's unmarried, I think we need to change our mentality. Marriage isn't something to kill yourself about. Live your life, be impactful if it comes along flow with the ride but don't sit down and set up a PITY PARTY simply because you are unmarried...

she can still be sombodys "sexyolori" the 8th wife.....thats smart tinking

favourlove1:
n how is dat meant to be ur business? Her life her business drink panadol for ur headache n not anothers. U wey don marry are u not still struggling? Ode! U should be ashamed of urself!

atleast if he is struggling in marriage is way beta than still struggling to av a bf talkless a fiance,then husband....at 35?can u now imagine the miles to husband(bf--->fiance--->husband)..now thats the real struggle..

tivta:
Menopause oooooh, I pity the girls who think of her as a role model, if only they knew what she feels in her heart...

its true....even beyonce wey be their role model with the songs "independent woman", "irreplaceable".....scope them-she don marry....

Jochebed7:
How u no go defend her when today na ur 30th bufdai with no husband too..


actually dear, am married. been married for a while too. just think its sad that a woman has achieved so much and on her day instead of celebrating her some decide to make an issue of she not be married.

its what the society expects of u.....what really means success..my ex once told me:"i went to a party with my colleagues and she decided to introduce me to the celebrants friends....she said,im MRS ****,meet MISS(she referred to my ex as miss)"..it really hurt her..
faith,as its being defined is to believe in what u cant see.....peple shd make a bold 1st step instead of wasting time assessing suitors.
are u trying to say she has never met atleast one serious guy in her life that would av loved to settled down with her?
even the society is warming up greatly into accepting single mum,lesbians,gays but nt single gals....na lie,options dey,u just av to fit in somewer.
at weddings now,if the bride has to throw bouquet...they address the friends waiting to catch as "all the single ladies and single mamas"
even beyonce is tinking abt the remix

chineloSA:
As someone who has been in a relationship with someone with baggage, I can never advice even my enemy to marry a man with baggage.

I moved on, and I cannot express it in words how happy I am now. It feels good to have both our families putting pressure on both of us to procreate. Knowing both families can't wait for our baby, "priceless"

That was the best decision I have ever taken in my whole dating history.Funny I brought it to Nairaland for dissection and NLers hammered sense into my brain. I am grateful for that.

Being an instant mom is not easy. The only people that a woman should listen to are widowers only. Why should I suffer for a man's past mistakes when I was not there. It was a man choice to have kids before marriage and a man/woman should be ready to bear the consequences.

as i always say:when it comes to matters of the heart,there are no rules....moreso,to find true love is hard and even harder to keep.....it takes guts and grace..
only the 2pple involved would know the pain,,,not nlers or anybody else..pple just seem to make things hard that it totally confuses the mind...
if u cant live or suffer for my past mistakes then wats the beauty abt love......instead its a contract....but u want me to put up wit ur own present condition(lets say u cant av a child)may arising from ur own past mistakes(infection,abortion)..
also,are u saying all the baby mamas out there dont deserve to re-marry cuz |Why should I suffer for a man's past mistakes when I was not there...
as my mum says:mariage is an institution where u dont pass or fail....so dont make high expectations,just keep doing what u have to do..
i love my kids and maybe thats all the love i need for now..i wont trade them for all the happiness in the world...if u wan join the party fine..else,bounce....the show must definately go on...

Pidggin:
Lol u are quite funny, to people like you there's only one standard reason for each circumstance a person finds him/herself in, but guess what? Life is sometimes more complicated

no matter ow complicated,if ur willing-u will find a way....else make excuses
to love is to suffer

Cvesta:
My Pc suddenly shows this..started when I connected a phone n flash drive to it..all keys stop working when it displays it..happened a second time after few minutes of turning on laptop..what could be wrong

thats a BSOD(blue screen of death)..
caused by a malfuntion harware or upgrade or invalid entries referencing nowhere in your system registry...
u can start troubleshooting by entering safe mode to either uninstall new app
or
u activate a restore point up to where the the system last functioned

Olarewajub:
Please i need help on this. Any time i tether my phone with my PC, i always get limited Wi-Fi network. How can i make it unlimited? P. S windows 8.1

right click on the connection icon the hit troubleshoot problems...then make a screenshot of the report and lets see

gohamburg:
HBD Linda.
Marriage while very key, is not to be rushed into. Carefully, choosing your God-given man is very important.
There are so many unhappy marriages, so much unfaithfulness in marriages, so much heartaches, so much regrets, so much divorces.
Why rush in, only to rush out? I detest the idea of mocking a girl because she is not married!
Linda you are a successful young woman. Insomuch, as time is of essence, be careful who you choose to spend the rest of your life with. Your spouse can either make you or break you. Be wise!
HBD once again.

as its said:|u think long,u tink wrong"......u can never know something unless u av tried....our parents had alll the excuses(probs) u mentioned above yet mine are still together...cuz they both decided to make it work at any cost....i urge u to read the stories of alex akinyele and its late wife esp the part where he was assigned to live somwer remote in ondo state...the wife didnt like it but she said if this is what u want and wan to do,they im wit u....he later gave up the assignment to relocate back to lagos(thats loyalty and understanding working together)...its different from a woman saying i cant live here and shoing her disgust immediately or eventually leave him...
women nowadays expect to much and easily get disappointed....
my mother once advised.....when a woman starts to live alone,do things alone.....men would be scared and run...in other words,wen a woman is used to eating shawarma...no amount of garri with milk would be appealing to her

chineloSA:
Yes, you are right one has to pray and ask for God's guidance meanwhile avoiding longer delays. The longer she delays, the harder it will be for her to find a good man with no baggage.
There is no perfect man,if one delays longer, waiting for perfection to appear on our morden day men, you are on a long thing.

Judging by her delays, she is likely to find divorcee, babydaddy's and all kinds of man that will bring all the unhappiness she doesn't desire.
You can never study a human being and conclude them. Knowing someone for a longer period does not determine the success of the marriage.

Besides she is 35, what has she been studying for the past 15yrs?

As for mocking, I never justified mocking. But it's good if a person gets a reminder, within or outside your family.

Remember when people mock you,they can lead you to blessings and push you to greatness. So don't only look at it from a negative perspective only.

im really feeling ur comments...when u said baggage,,,it reminded me of the 4yr relationship i lost a few months ago...at 33,she finally decides to leave the relationship cuz of my baggages(2kids)from pressure form her mum who is advising her not to start her life as a step mum....
love they say begins wen lovers decide to carry each others baggages...
gals think wen they search for a man to marry,it simply has to be just single guys....hello,wake up!the option includes,guys seeking a 2nd chance,baby daddies and the ones who u would find out the real truth abt them only wen ur deep wit them..
women are too choosy nowadays and as i have been told...its the quest for material tins that is ruining our generation..
mostof these young dudes dont want any of these is why they are scared...and thats the reason why married guys have becoming exceptionally loving and caring(they are experienced)
as my lecturer once defined...to the african man,marriage is procreation...its only oyinbos that can be happily married to themselves for yrs without a child or even wan av a child....they are contented even if it means living wit a pet....but are we like that..
women shd av a plan nowadays....the oversmart,paranoid ones....are the ones that are still single..
the ones that are smart.......are baby mamas,they get wat they want and move on with their carreers
then the ones that are blessed.....are the ones married...so know ur role...

Pidggin:
So in such cases beyond our control e.g. widowhood or vice versa the child will be screwed because one parent is missing? What of kids born in wedlock but into polygamous families? Or kids born into poverty where both parents can't feed them or cater for their needs? Or kids born into families where one or both parents are psycologically unstable? Leave and let live.

what cases are beyond control?ldont deviate from the point...she is not good enuf to be married-women nowadays av just lost their morals.....they worker harder than men nowadays and even love money more....for us guys,the sex has got so cheap we dont really have to put up wit the successful womens bullshit..its true tins av become harder nowadays and most guys want a working class gal but in truth,no guy wants a woman that wld question his authority.....
these women just cant be submissive..not to worry,most guys av become F1 drivers...no need owning the car....just test drive any car within ur contract be it ferrari,benz (linda,rita dominic)...cuz they are fast and furious...we self...we like the andrenaline!

what there to really celebrate....BLOGGING?
i know most of these women cant be happy....they come out putting a fake smile on.....but inside,they should be the saddest people...
what is she celebrating?no bf,...same with rita dominic....
and when u ask them,they tell u there is no man out there....really?lame excuse..
its simple,they aint good enough for the men to wan own them..as i ask most...u have to know if u wan be the man or u need a man?
the bible has predicted....there wld be 8women to 1 man...begging let us just bear ur name to save us this embarrassment...(unfortunately,even some of the few guys left are becoming gay)
i advice she faces what she does best....BLOGGING!

beey4u:
pls am having windows 10 software on my system but am sacred of installing it becos the last tym i installed the one recommended my Microsoft itsef that the link was sent to every laptops den.it makes my system to go blind so i have to go to computer village to return it back to windows 7 but i really like that windows 10.pls help.

most of the pple in computer village are wannabes...unfortunately u pple patronize too cuz its cheap..as i say:"just cuz it works,doesnt mean its right"
call me on 08061679732 for a hookup...but first state the configuration of ur system...ram.hdd,os version...

omisakint:
Thanks man. It worked

ur welcome ...trade secrets

omisakint:
I will do that now

i just realised there is that option missing "i understand the risk" so i guess u wont be able to bypass it with that option....
so i got u this useful link..(if u use mozilla like me)
https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/connection-untrusted-error-message

honharr:
i upgraded my pc to windows 10 frm 8.1..ever since den..pc shuts down automatically while I am working..what do i do?

a particular device driver has been upgraded and not working well or ur ram is not sufficient.....but most likely the former...
there are certain terms and conditions that need to be met before installing an os or upgrading it..a compactibility test may be conducted if the upgraded is performed from the working os...but if u perform a clean or upgrade from boot up....u forfeit the need-to-know basics of that..
the installation cd, i can prove has been wrong many times when on completin the installation...all the drivers seem ok....its just a mirage and simulation...
when i upgraded mine...it looked like that but my vga resolution wasnt as sharp as it once was...i even checked dell website and all they told me was my system "for now" cant support win 10 fully.....i even used my driver cd to upgrade it,it dint work and it was going into a bluescreen....then i decided to downgrade to the former vga driver(32 bit) from the current vga driver(64bit) running it in compactibility mode for win 7...and it just worked...i guess even microsoft/dell wont tell me that or simply dont know..
read between the lines and u may find ur solution there...
also state the ram size of ur pc

Richard2010:
My laptop displays hard disk error please help my project work is on it.

call me on 08061679732....and make sure nobody tries to format it....if u do,u reduce the chances of recovering the data onit..
and make sure u dont open it like someone that once called me from here....hard disks are assembled/dis-assembled in an air tight environment..

omisakint:
Guys, pls how can I fix this issue... I can't just browse on my laptop

its mostly caused by the system date....i tried to zoom into ur screen shot and i think its not current....
if it is,just click on technical details..u wld see...."i know what im doing....." and it wld allow u continue...
atimes,when u hit google...u get that error complaining about an expired certificate

AdeLaNa1:
Anyone ve any idea how to install an antivirus on windows 10?? I haven't been able to install my Kasperskey since i upgraded 3 weeks ago. And i still get over 300 days of subscription to go on it.

i initially had that problem when i first installed....kaspersky wasnt really ready for windows 10(kav/kis 2015 doesnt work on windows 10) but they av found a way around it...if u are using KaV and not kis ...then u wld av to install online as there is no offline installation yet for kav...and the version u will be installing is KAV 2016...and u will get updates regularly..
here is the problem u wld encounter...if u try to go straight to the website using nigerian ip...it wld take u to the official kaspersky website for africa in south africa...(kaspersky.co.za)..(wait i just checked it now....they now have kav2016)
u can use this link to download it straight from kaspersky headquarters...support.kaspersky.com
all kav 2016 are installed online and i suggest u install dotnet 4.5 ahead of that online installation else u will be stuck-up...
when down...use ur activation key to migrate to 2016 to enjoy the 300days u have...

FINgames:
thanks i saw it but each time i click download it reloads/redirect to my inbox.nd i dont know why.

let me resend it to u

FINgames:
ok

im sending it now

FINgames:
please have not seen it

I will send it wen I get home..pls hold on

FINgames:
PLS GURUS .I KNOW THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT
THREAD.BUT PLEASE CAN YOU ASSIST ME IN
GETTING A LINK TO DOWNLOAD A PDF FORMAT OF
THIS BOOK. [b] A MIND FOR NUMBERS:HOW TO
EXCEL IN MATHS AND SCIENCE.(EVEN IF YOU
FLUNKED ALGEBRA).[\b]

author:babara oakley

PLEASE. I REALLY NEED THIS BOOK.I DARE TO SAY I WOULD BE ETERNALLY GRATEFUL. THANKS

i found it as an e-book for u.....so i also included the reader u can install to read it..
unfortunately,nairaland upload limit has been exceeded..its a 9mb file....
send ur email

kodded:
nope

did u install dotnet framework 3.5 or 4.5 after u re-installed....?thats a possible cause too...install 4.5 to be on the safer side

kodded:
i have installed both directx 9 and directx 11 still nothing,


pls how can i update video drivers

Ur system or some components has not met the minimum requirements of the game u installed..check the requirements of the game

Nico4luv:
pls , I just updated my anti virus software in my PC, it prompted me to shut off and restarted. I did. but when I boot my PC , it never display anything but black blank screen.. this has continue ..... till now ..pls help.....

hard to tell what went wrong but u can hit f8 on restart and enter safe mode to do a restore point recovery.......atleast to a date before u had the update

jairusben:
Anyone with idea about Microsoft rt freezing at boot..

is it a microsoft surface RT,irf yes,just refresh the tablet....

chikason68:
From u guys reply, changing the keyboard is all i got to do right? if yes then am gonna budget for it asap.

definately true now....8keys needs an instant keyboard replacement

dotsdavidson:
Its a desktop not a laptop and how do I verify ownership?

ok....whats ur location