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On point my dear

frozen70:
First of all, thank your God that you guys excaped having a sickle cell child, had it been you had one as a son you will remain in pains and regret until of course you know that he Wil definitely die from the sickness.
Be grateful to God that your hubby loves and adores his daughters, he knows that you people excaped by I wisk not to have a stickler among them.
If you never had a child in your marriage what would have been your fate.
Before happy and forget about your husband family, let them do the worst, all you need do is love and respect your husband and with that he won't fall for their plans.

The future not far....And you know what? it ALWAYS get back

Bluezy13:
I have never created a thread on Nairaland.
I don't intend to start now because I don't have a problem

hero! why dont you go to front page and post full stories there?

Bluezy13:
Don't mind the OP, here is the continuation



...used to beg my husband to ignore her. We didn’t have much but we sure were very happy until this year when I got diagnosed of fibroid. I had collapsed at work and rushed to the hospital. I was bleeding so much I was unconscious for four hours. Later on,it was discovered that the fibroid was such a huge one that was stopping me from being pregnant.
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The doctors told me that I had to do surgery immediately. By this time,I was already admitted in the hospital. They needed N2.7Million for the cost of the surgery. Between my husband and I,there was no way we could have raised that money. I had like N280k. My husband had like N170k. We started going around looking for help. Some gave us 20,40,50k..but we were only hardly able to raise about N600k put together. I had to be discharged cos we couldn’t raise the money. That didn’t sit well with my mother. She rained all sorts of abuses on my husband for his inability to raise the required funds.She threatened fire if anything happened to me.
A week or so later,my mom gave us N2Million. She said she borrowed it from her town’s people’s meeting. I didn’t believe her but we took it and promised to pay back after the surgery. So I had my surgery and praise God it was successful. When I was discharged weeks later,my mum opened up and told me that it was my ex that gave her the money for the surgery. I was livid. I was angry but I saw that she was desperate and afraid of loosing me so she made that decision even though she knew I would not support it. I made her promise that we would not tell my husband and promise to refund the money no matter how long it took. I didn’t want to tell my husband cos my mother already made his life hell by mocking him for his financial status already. I didn’t want him feeling worse if he discovers who paid for my medical bills when he couldn’t.
All was going well until last month. I was not at home when it happened but apparently,my mom was in our house for a visit and whatever happened,she was attacking my husband again when he lost his cool and asked her to leave our him and never come back. It was then my mother mocked him and told him he was not man enough,that it took the help of my ex to save my life, To make matters worse,my mother told him I knew about it and I was feeling sorry for him that is why I didn’t tell him. When I discovered what my mother had done,I tried to explain to my husband why I didn’t tell him. But Andrew was so bitter that I didn’t tell him. He even said he was not sure that I was still not seeing my ex cos I kept the secret from him and embarrassed him. I tried and tried to explain but my husband was too bitter. He took his bag and left our house since three weeks ago. He said he cannot live with me if I cannot be honest with him. I have been begging and crying and telling him I didn’t know anything before my mother did what she did. But he says that when I knew,I should have told him...

Bluezy13:
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... But he says that when I knew,I should have told him.
Yes,now I know better. I should have told him but I was scared. And I am very sorry. But now,my husband has refused to come back home. I don’t even know where he is staying. My mom who has a way of making things worse says I should leave the marriage and go back to my ex. She believed that Andrew is through with our marriage. She is even angry,saying that my husband is supposed to go and thank my ex for saving my life. That really pissed my husband off. I really hate my mother for what she has done but all I want to do now is focus on my marriage but how do I get Andrew to listen to me and forgive me? I know he is hurt but is this enough reason for him to abandon me? Am almost thinking he actually is just tired of this marriage cos of my mom.Is my marriage truly over? His family is also supporting him. Please help me ma. What do I do?

The End

PLs teach him

ednut1:
u cant make it in blogging like this. Sorry

Lol!Before nko? e get any woman wey dey old?

coolestofall:
38 years old young lady!

It possible

ezugegere:
Something in me tells me Dorathy is just trying to get back at him for dumping her. The guy might have truly changed. It's possible

You need the help of God in this case

Beke2020:
Editor’s Note:

This is a long post but I encourage you to read to the end. The writer is someone who believes in us and is depending on us for help. SO please read and drop your advice for a dear lady. Someone else might also be in a similar situation.God bless.


Good day admin

I came across your blog on facebook and i like the way you handle issues and your advice to people on their problem that’s why am sharing mine.

I met my biological father for the first time in my life in 2012 being in my early twenties. Both of them were still in secondary school when i was conceived. My mum never told me anything about my dad not even his name when i was growing up. She was married out when i was 4years old so i have to stay with my maternal grandmother. When i started school, my surname was my grandfather’s name. At the age of 8 my mummy came for me and i have to stay with her and my stepfather and that’s when my suffering started. I suffered several form of abuse except....., Read and leave comments on full story on the blog


https://livelystones.com.ng/all-i-wanted-was-my-fathers-love-but-i-received-abuse-pain/

Hubby to be relation are insisting the father must be involved. It's a situation i must tell you she is in

yabas:
Wow, some Men are terrible. Going back there is a NO, NO

hmnnn

Beke2020:
Law of sowing n reaping

Strong words

victorian:
It's either spiritual husband who turned his mind against her or effects of idols been worshiped by her families way back, many many years ago gunning out to frustrate her life, cos the idols were been neglected as Christianity ti take over.

Move on, go for proper counselling and deliverance. Complete the divorce proceedings and start life afresh.. At least thank God u have 5million Naira. Invest it wisely in business and be focused on God.
This period will pass away .. Be strong

You just have have to summon courage and leave that country, else you bear the consequency of your in action

z11111:
Sure !!

Pls move on with your life my dear

Thanks, but it doesn't change anything my friends. We are moving very fast with more & more people sending in their stories daily. We are over whelmed!

hnnn

Sorry

Good day Admin,

This is not a regular relationship story but I do need your help with my life right now.

For as long as I can remember,I have always wanted to travel abroad. Soon as I turned a teenager really. Back then,anyone who was anybody had someone abroad. It was like the elite thing to do. Many families in Benin then had at least one person abroad and they used to show off their wealth from abroad especially at celebrations like Easter and Christmas time. Many built gigantic houses from monies sent from relatives living abroad. The urge for me to travel abroad became so strong when my friend,Osemu traveled abroad when we were in SS1. Before long,her parents started to receive wealthy gifts from her.

Unfortunately,my parents didn’t have anyone abroad and my father wouldn’t allow me go with the pimps who signed bonds with the families that gave out their daughters to travel abroad. My mother argued a lot for my father to allow me but he wouldn’t listen. So I settled for looking for sugar daddies to spend on me. At least,if I couldn’t go abroad,I could have sugar daddies and rich boyfriends to spend on me. As early as 14 years,I was already having sugar daddies and rich boyfriends.

This lifestyle continued. It paid off sometimes. Most times actually. I began to save for my visa to travel abroad. Three times I was denied visa.Of course,the embassies could smell my desperation to travel so they kept on denying me. When I was 23,I met Kovie. I had just managed to finish my OND at Auchi and I was attached to the factory where Kovie was the Supervisor. I think Kovie fell in love with me for whatever reason I know not. I was just happy to have someone to spend money on me. He was trying to change me and tell me he loved me. He wanted us to get married. He was the nicest guy I ever met though. I tried to be faithful to him but Kovie was not....Read and leave comments on full story on the blog



https://livelystones.com.ng/the-dream-was-abroad-the-cost-was-losing-my-family-love/

i quite agree that its really seriously serious

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This is seriously serious

Hmnnn four girls! husband bringing another woman to your matrimonial bed! you need a miracle ma'am

Some women can be very funny. I don’t actually blame guys who use women and dump them. Back in school,my friend used to say that women are fish brain. I used to think that was uncool but now I think I actually believe him. I was raised by my parents to treat women nice. I have five sisters and I treat them like queens.

So two years ago,I met Doreen. We used to be class mates during our ND days. I met her on my way back from Kano from a business trip. She worked at the airport as a Cleaner. I couldn’t believe that this smart girl who I used to admire in school then was just an airport cleaner. I was elated when she called my name as I got out of the airport toilet where she was working that day. It took a while for me to recognize her. I took her no and called her later on. She told me how she dropped out of school cos she didn’t have the money then. She also got pregnant for some guy who ended up using her and dumping her once her baby was born.I was so sorry for her.

I didn’t plan to but I discovered that I still admired her and I kind of was happy when she said she wasn’t dating anyone. She and I reconnected over the next few months. I helped her financially. I helped her put her daughter who was three years old in a good school. I got her a better job as an admin assistant with a friend’s connection. We were talking about her returning back to school to complete her education. She got in school the following year and I helped her financially all the way. Though we were dating,we agreed no sx until marriage. She had suffered a lot from her baby daddy and wanted to wait until marriage before doing it again with any man. I was fine with that. It was hard I must admit cos Doreen is very pretty and sxy. We used to kiss and cuddle and most times it took a lot to stop me from going further.

In February this year,I started to notice some strange attitude from Doreen. I thought it was the pressure from school and having to work at the same time. I asked her to quit working and I promised to take care of her schooling and her daughter all through. I just wanted to make her happy. What I didn’t know was that.....Read and leave your comments on full story on the blog



https://livelystones.com.ng/are-women-really-fish-brain-or-am-i-obsessed-about-her/

Love forgive all things