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lastclaire4:
I wanted to comment but as soon as I saw the paragraph about bathroom and then I saw a link. To me, it was one of those stories.

Dear Jzhane,

I am tired of the situation in my marriage and I need wisdom on how to go about it. My marriage is about a year and three months. Not too long ago,my husband’s younger brother came to live with us. This is because the family has decided that since he is not serious with his schooling (he has been wasting time in the polytechnic,always failing his exams),he should come to learn a trade in Lagos.

His brother my husband is a business man and he is hardly at home. So,most times,its me and this his younger brother at home. My issue is that this boy because he found out that I am his age mate (I am 24),he stopped calling me sister Grace (not real name) but now,its Grace. I find that truly disrespectful and I told him to stop that but he said I should be the one calling him brother or uncle cos he is my husband’s brother. Mind you,his brother is senior to two people before him.

Of a truth,men from their area is seen as the head even if they are junior. But that tradition is long dead. These days,civilization has stopped all that nonsense. But he will still be calling me by my name. I reported him to my husband and he says I should ignore him but this guy is doing this to spite me.

Secondly,I was bathing the other day,I felt someone by the door and I thought it was my husband. I asked who is there,no sound. I opened the door and I saw this guy walking away. I queried him about what he was doing by my bathroom door,he said....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/my-husbands-brother-disrespects-me-in-my-own-home/

Good day lively stones,

Please don’t judge me. I need advice. I have been praying to God to help me find a way and show me what to do. I saw your page on Facebook. I read your stories. I want to share mine and ask for advice too. I met a man last year in my church. But things did not start well.

I was invited by someone so I attended a church program last year and after the program,I started going to the church fully. I liked the environment and the people there. It is a popular church and I was happy to be accepted quickly. I was made to undergo a training for new members of the church,that’s how I met Mr K. He was very kind to me. He was also checking on me anytime I did not come to work.

I had no idea Mr K was married until a few weeks later. I had already been slightly attracted to him by then but I had to let my crush disappear when I found out he was married. But later on,it was Mr. K who started coming for me. I was surprised but maybe my crush for him was not totally gone.

I tried my best not to fall in love with Mr. K but he was so sweet to me. He was a perfect gentleman. Always caring,calling,texting me prayers and bible verses to read. He was just like an angel. Sometime he would give money too. I invited him for my birthday. He came. After the party ,he stayed behind and...more


https://livelystones.com.ng/did-she-die-from-depression-after-learning-of-our-affair/

offer in Fidelity Bank gradually inching up...

Dear Jzhane,

My name is Hina. My parents are from Nigeria but I was born and raised in the Kenya. My parents however got divorced when I was 17 years old. I do not blame them for getting a divorce but they sometimes use their divorce experience to judge my relationships.

It is a well known fact that Nigerians do not like divorce. I do not think anyone likes divorce either but sh*t happens. To them,it is like a stigma is placed on you when you are divorced. Like it was your fault that your marriage failed.

As a result of what I saw in my parents divorce process,I made up my mind that being married is not what determines how successful your relationship would be. So my partner and I have been together for four years. We love each other so much. He also does not believe in marriage. He gave me a commitment ring and we live together.

My parents are against my relationship because we do not want to get married. My mother in particular has expressed her dislike for him just because of that. But I find my parents attitude hypocritical. Their marriage did not work,they got divorced. Does that not say that marriage is not the ultimate to make one happy or fulfilled in life.

Something happened however that shook me. I have been with my partner for four years and all these years,he always said he would never get married. To my greatest surprise however is the fact that my partner of four years....more



https://livelystones.com.ng/my-parents-divorce-is-affecting-my-love-life-what-do-i-do/

adamsoghene:
Pls share the complete story here instead linking us to another . What is worth starting is also worth ending u know, so feel free to shared. God bless u

on point. Na dem go dey cry foul is their man is under performing

mysticwarrior:
Madam na better man you marry jare, u should thank God for giving you an active and a faithful husband, would you have preferred to be married to a man with a very weak libido? Try and eat food that would boost your sexual desires to match his own, and there wouldn't be a problem, its a shame for you to be complaining about your husband's matrimonial right, and from your writeup your husband is not even
a hypersexual, at least he does it only in the midnight, there are man who can be ontop of you for 1hr and 30munites and would still go for more and more just after a short rest, you never see anything just this small tin you dey complain, there are ladies out there looking for such men, if you are doubting me put your husband's phone number here and come back and tell us what you will notice in two weeks time.

Story From A NLander This Morning


Good evening ma,

I am excited to be able to contact you. I have been trying to reach you for some days now. Ma,I am not happy. I am in a relationship but I am sad. My fiance says that I have trust issues and he is getting tired of it. And he is right. I have trust issues but I do not know how to deal with it.

Trust was a major issue in my last relationship before this too. I even told my fiance when we met so he is aware I have a problem but he has been trying to help me but I cannot seem to get over it. I question and suspect every little thing. He ,my fiance tries his best to be open and transparent to me but ma,I am struggling.

Here is my story,this is why I am struggling:

I come from a family of three:2 girls and 1 boy. I am the last child. My elder sister got married at the age of 29. I was 22 at that time and I was in my 300 level at Unical. I went to stay with my sister when we were on holiday. Something happened during my visit. I was very fond of her husband like he is my elder brother,I mean,he was my sister’s husband. I was like his little sister too. He was fond of me too. So,I was free with him and I did not see anything wrong about that.

That fateful day.....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/i-built-a-wall-of-trust-issues-after-my-family-betrayed-me/

on points my dear

MPESA:
Good that she has earlier informed you about this said guy, for me that's all I needed but going contrary to their discussion you need to draw her attention to your worries. You should know her better than I do because 2yrs no bi beans.
Don't lose grip on her because most woman can be easily be carried away and be manipulated especially those who don't know how to say No.

most women desires

Good Morning Jzhane,

Please your advice is needed. My fiancee and I have been together for two years. She is schooling in Accra while I stay in Kumasi as a part time worker and Student. I love her and she loves me. The plan is for us to get married as soon as she is done with school,that is in two years time.But I am worried about her behavior recently.

A few months ago,she traveled by road and met some guy on the trip. They exchanged phone numbers and ever since that time,they have been in touch. My fiancee told me about the guy so I had no reason to suspect anything. She said that they are just friends and they just like talking.

Now,this guy also lives in Accra. And the things they discuss makes me worry but my girlfriend says that they are just friends nothing more. That the guy always asks of me. But I was still not comfortable with their conversations.

They talked to the extent that.....more



https://livelystones.com.ng/ask-jzhane-please-helpmy-long-distance-relationship-is-under-threat/

Thanks n God bless u

DavidEsq:
See more of wat? The depth of ur stupidity?

Dear Jzhane,

Odinaka my husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have three lovely children. We moved to Canada four years ago and things are going very well. Last year,Odinaka’s father passed and we came down to Nigeria in August for his burial.

It was at the burial that I noticed that Odinaka’s father’s young wife son whom he married after Odinaka’s mother died years ago looks so much like my husband. This boy is 9 years old. He is the striking image of my husband and everyone drew my attention to that. I even jokingly told my husband that their family gene is very strong as to how,his young step brother would look so much like him.

Papa was 86 when he died. So he must have been like 77 when his wife gave birth to that boy. I also laughed at how strong papa’s sperm was for him to be able to give birth to a son at that age. Papa’s burial made us stay in Nigeria for like two weeks. It was a fun time for my children too. After the burial,I decided to take my children to see my parents in Port Harcourt before we headed back to Canada.

Unfortunately,our flight from Enugu to Port Harcourt was cancelled after we waited hours. Last minuted,we decided to go by road and we chattered a car. It was like God....

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https://livelystones.com.ng/infidelity-apart-how-do-i-live-with-my-husband-after-this-incest/

Nice one!

madone:
Have ur self a project to do. Always load ur life with project. U ll be too busy to go. Get a job if u have one enrol in a fun class or something. Learn a skill.

Editor’s note:

This a question from a whatsapp member. What are your thoughts,how would you advise her? Drop your comments below.


Hello ma’am,

Please I am shy. I see how you are answering marriage questions on whatsapp. I have question please. I am newly married. I got married in May this year. I know I am still very young in this marriage thing but I this s*x thing is really disturbing me.

The thing is,my husband wants to have sx every day and sometimes I am too tired. I work on the island and sometimes due to traffic,I get home late. I rush to make dinner and I just want to sleep but my husband,once its around 12 mid night,he must wake me up for sx.

Yes,another thing is,why must it be in the mid night? I ask him,he say that is when his emotion is doing him. But me,that time,sleep,deep sleep is really catching me. The only person I complained to is my mother. She encourage me to bear it that it will reduce as we get older. Honestly,I am enduring o.I will just lie down there while he is on top…waiting for him to finish so I can sleep. And he will complain that I am not responding…it is not easy ma.

I try not to complain but its affecting me and I am beginning to feel he is not sensitive to my feelings.He will say that a married man must have s*x in his house regularly to avoid temptation outside. This is why I don;t complain but.....see more



https://livelystones.com.ng/my-husband-does-not-get-tired-he-bothers-me-everyday/

I reject it for her

Zither:
It is so right to tell a lady not to leave her matrimonial home so she continues the marital duty of being a punch bag, martial arts target practice, and eventually kicked out of the matrimonial home — in a casket.

GOFRONT:
After God, fear woman

hmnnnn

1StopRudeness:
All na recycle...continue ur parole.... We all snatch them from somebody....

But no let them use Yoruba demon move for you oooo, some sisters are more evil than their youruba demon brothers.....I remember those baddest days..my sister use to help me call my girl friends "our wife".... God forgive us

Dear Jzhane,

Please keep me anonymous. I need advice,objective advice. I already know that the situation is dice and I do not need people to judge me. I need advice in order to help me make things right. I have been thinking of what to do and I did not know who to confide in.

I met this man about a year ago. We met on Instagram. We first started chatting and flirting until we found out we had a lot in common and before you knew it,we were dating. He was a kind man. We would chat every day on whats app. He sent me money to assist with my schooling,,my part time business and my rent.

He is in Nairobi while I am in Mombasa. As we progressed in our discussion,he owned up to me that he was married but he was going to leave his wife for me. I was shocked but he told me his marriage was over because,his wife cheated on him.

At this time,he already introduced me to his sisters and they also started talking to me on phone. They also assured me that the wife will be divorced and that their brother will marry me.

Out of curiosity,I found out the wife’s name and tracked her on social media. I was surprised because,she turned out to be someone I knew while I was in high school. She was friends with a cousin of mine. She has a son for this man that I am dating.

I remember hearing that she got married. In fact,my younger sister gave me the gist of how she was......

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Note: The Story From One Of Us Here On Naira Land Who Join LS Whatsapp Group Yesterday


https://livelystones.com.ng/i-am-the-other-woman-but-i-am-in-love-with-a-man-with-issues/#comment-3081

hmnnn

Alero3Arubi:
In this part of the world we do not understand that sharing problems is a big deal in relieving ourselves of the burden they pose to our mind. A lot of people go into emotional melt down every now and then. It's very important to share your issues.
And this is a WhatsApp group link invite for anyone who wants to be listened to no judgements at all. All topics whatsoever.
Yes finally a place where you can be heard.
https:///DnBwTKNAfgR18Hr06BMkdb

hmnnnn

ollydee:
continue pls

Marriage is a blessing if understood by many who think otherwise