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Nasri100:
Hi! you said nothing wrong. Having a family or child or children is when you are ready financially and mentally. It’s not an easy job. Developed countries (not Nigeria) these days are restricting it to one or two kids and both parents must be working and stuff.

You need to ignore people like Ublight & Okine4real (They are probably trapped)

These ones are condemned. They are the bunch of illiterates that populate more kids in the poverty capital of the world, Nigeria.

They are created & fully made for Nigeria madness. Nigerianist.

These are the people that will battle to make N30,000 a month salary then manage it with 5 kids and a frustrated wife, in a face me I face you apartment in Ikorodu. He has fully arrived in his goal as a responsible suffering man.

I said frustrated wife cause he Ublight wrote a post recently about his girlfriend choosing to ignore him when he had a cult related problem. Who wants to identify with a man still struggling? If you were in your car, will those boys you had a problem with have the guts to threaten you and your girlfriend? I am talking to you Ublight. Baba sey he jump enter Keke


These Homo sapiens like Ublight and his friend Okine4real are tailor made for suffer related activities and the exposed Nigerian leaders love them so much. Exploit and rinse.

Instead of brainstorming how to improve their poverty related state, all in that tiny cranium is to find one innocent girl and bring her into his suffering.

If these lots pay things like child support in working countries, these idiots would understand how much of a responsibility raising a child is especially in the right environment but of course it’s all about them.

Selfish reasons:

“Who will take care of me when I am old and lonely and didn’t brainstorm ways to make money and have my own retirement funds?”

Nigerians from top to bottom.

Hahaha

You are really dealing with those niggars.

razible5384:
you are very right bruv. Am always of the believe that early marriages are for rich kids that had everything all figured out for them while growing up , an not for those from humble backgrounds who had to navigate through life themselves thereby taking long to find their footings. However, I think most people hop into early marriages due to fear of the unknown. I mean, with the way Nigeria is today, there is no guarantee that a man will hit it big at age 40 and settle down even while working hard...


Nah only God go help us

You are very correct bro. And I don't really know how someone would be so comfortable having children that constantly disturbs him for their needs.

For me, it's being a serious fight with poverty and I'm not ready for anything that's going to set me back and erase all the efforts I've made to live a good life.

I don't really see what I can offer a child when I can't take care of myself comfortably. It's not this self-contain room that I'm living today I'll like to stay and raise a child. Make I wait small abeg.

ublight:
You are a certified punk. Let us all subscribe to your school of thought and live according to your dictates and how you are pleased.

You are our pharaoh

Because I say you shouldn't bring children you can't raise to the world? I know you are one of those "god gives children and he will take care of them" crew. Please, avoid me.

Go pound on your baby machine let her make children for you, tomorrow you send them to the street to become a problem to the society. Most likely, you are in a mess already with children or cohabiting with your potential baby machine.

razible5384:
ur words are so powerful an filled with wisdom.....is been long I came across such piece in nl

Thanks so much for finding wisdom in my comment even though some have chosen to condemn it.

I may sound arrogant but I love everyone and most times, I talk in a manner that'd make you feel bad at first, and later you realize that what I said was the blunt truth. And I also talk the same way regardless whether we are meeting on- or off-line.

I'm in my middle thirties and still single and it's not as if I wouldn't have loved to be married but considering the background that I'm coming from, I've chosen to wait a little longer so I don't end up reinforcing poverty that I came to see in my family.

I feel if that's the sacrifice I'd have to make for my unborn children, then so be it. I've tasted poverty and I hate it with everything within me. I don't wish my children experience it. But glory be to God because I'm winning the battle.

I don't see any sense when people in my age bracket say they want to get married early so they can still be strong to take care of their children. And I ask, what's wrong in having your first child at 40? Won't that child be 30 when you turn 70? Can't a 30-year-old comfortablly take care of his or herself even if I die at 70? BTW, a 70-year-old can still be very strong if he takes good care of himself, especially if he keeps to his fitness routines.

You'd agree with me that even an 18-year-old can take care of his or herself alone having received the right the right parenting and having everything needed to navigate through life. What's the point of jumping into marriage and ending up giving birth to children you can barely take care of and eventually losing them to the society? You end up suffering for nothing. And the you lose your children to the society, you are automatically a failure. I can go on and on but let me stop here.

The youths just need to sit up because the beginner is not always the finisher.

Orgym:
Am not in the mood to type much. However, I will prefer we talk as man to man. You can send a mail to me.

But I'm not the one having troubles. Or you just want to hear my voice on phone?

drmuchin:
IT MEANS HER VIRAL LOAD IS SO REDUCED THAT THE ANTIBODY TEST IS NOT ABLE TO DETECT THE VIRUS IN HER BLOOD SAMPLE.
HOWEVER IF SHE WAS TO DO AN ANTIGEN TEST OR PCR TEST, IT WILL CONFIRM HER HIV STATUS AS POSITIVE.

Additionally, it doesn't mean she should stop her ART or start engaging in risky behaviors.

Some of these guys, once they see that their VL has dropped and the test trip can't really show positive, they go for testimony and stop taking their drugs. And before you know what's happening, the virus rise again in a manner that appears to be unbearable.

romeo411:
I honestly want to switch to programming as in carrier change, considering that I am 40, can I still make it giving every input I put in.

Hello, did you later do this? How is going? Can you guide me a little?

xandy84:
I do not blaming you and I saw firsthand how poverty progressively destroy lives. Growing up, I have a neighbor who was living fine while single. He got married and had first Son, bought him the best and by the time he got to 5th kid, he could not afford 50 naira to get card for general hospital. He almost killed his wife cos he want her to have the baby at home. I believe marriage makes most people better but what they do in marriage that fu$k them up real good like too much kids or lack of spacing in having kids.

Poor people like having too many children because they see sex as a consolation to their troubles. And most times, they intentionally ignore contraceptives.

ben2rhymes:
How can I give u 100 likes for this comment
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Sometimes I don’t allow such write up to get into my emotions… such a learned guy should have course mates, hostel mates, church members, can’t these people offer helping hands or idea if truly he’s genuine
Mehn, if we strangers get close to this writer, I’d definitely regret it

We eating with a trouble-maker, you hold a long spoon. I can't get trapped. Once I sense he's not ready, I'd walk away.

xandy84:
You sound little harsh but I agreed with most things you said but you can't go by 100k benchmark before getting married. It is never how much you make but what you spend your money on. I went to Unilag on my mother's level 02 federal worker"s salary, grad and left abroad for Masters while some of her bosses in level 14 struggles to send their kids to university. Reliable source of income is necessary before marriage but no naira amount will ever be enough or people will never get marry...

Don't blame me pls. I just hate poverty. Let these guys sit, work before they start thinking about marriage. And in your case, you clearly said it was was mom and I know women can manage money better than men.

I sense conflict: Your story doesn't reflect you. You sound like an intelligent person but tell a story of a foolish person.

You can't sound the way you do, and be messing things up with your life. I don't see any correlation and as such I don't believe your story.

But if at all you think you are right, let the woman go so you can face your life as a single person. She's doing you a favor. Don't use someone's child to console your present circumstances. I can understand how hustlers can pound on a woman like they are the source of their troubles. Let her go so you can save, pay your debts, and improve your life.

Everyone has a right to association and they can choose to leave when they want the moment they find out the relationship isn't serving their interest. Let her go. She has every right to stay or leave.

No tangible means of livelihood, but you got married. Now, the chips are down and you are wailing. Is that how to plan to succeed or you were planning to fail? So, what exactly do you want? Manner from heaven? No!

Look, no man has any right to get married when they're earning below 100k naira. Stop inviting poverty into your life. It's easy to fall in life but hard to rise. Right now, you must accept your situation and stop this self-pity.

Sit down and plan your life. Disregard your age and gain some stamina before looking for another woman because this one is probably leaving and may not return.

I see you like an intelligent chap. Get in touch let's work out something. But I have a feeling you are not sincere. If ever you are, let's talk. I can promise it's going to make sense to you. Every big thing starts small. Don't be afraid to start all over again.

Tflex01:
Lol if you were on this forum prior to 2015 and 2019 elections you will understand better.

PDP likes to APC likes was always around ratio of 10 to 2.

You are the one living in folly.

That's not true. APC got more acceptance than PDP - on&offline. I, as a person supported Buhari even as a southerner. Many southerners supported Buhari and not the PDP even when PDP was more closer to us than the APC. So, this whole thing is about the individual.

Tflex01:
Obi supporters rely on Social media likes so much.

What a motivation!

It's not a motivation. I'm an M&E specialist by profession. So, I know what I'm saying. Don't dismiss the support Obi is getting on social media. It's generated by real humans and not robots. Meanwhile, why is Tinubu and Atiku not getting support from social media? Abi their supporters no get access to internet? Stop living in folly dear. Accept the reality. Use the data to plan.

Villa12:
You will wail for Biafra after the election

I'm not an Igbo man and I'll never be but I just prefer Obi for obvious reasons.

Villa12:
I'm actually not a Yoruba but I've lived in Yoruba land, Lagos precisely for long

Any Yoruba, Hausa or fulani man and woman campaigning for Obi should have a rethink and retrace their step back. Though this isn't supposed to be so but you see those IGBOS have turned this election to tribalistic one. They have even turn it to religious one

I will support and vote for Tinubu. He has more achievements, antecedents and legacies to point at as a governor and when he left government than EVERY other contestants

Tinubu is very much accommodating and tolerance than other contestants. IGBOS are taking political position in Lagos. IGBOS are civil servants in Lagos and other South western states. IGBOS are doing businesses freely in Lagos and other south western region

Please go to any eastern state to see if you'd see any Yoruba or Hausa man as ordinary councillor. It is a TABOO to the Igbo

To them their igbo president in form of Obi is the best after bread and butter while others are nothing to write home about. Support Tinubu or Atiku and watch them curse, bash or threaten you. They accused you of being paid for supporting Tinubu or Atiku while them are doing it freely. They always insult the Fulani and Hausas and call them all sorts of names. They even call them cow, almajiri etc. They insult the Yorubas calling them fulani slaves. They condemned Nigeria as a country. Claiming Nigeria is a ZOO

ACHIEVEMENT- I WILL VOTE TINUBU
TOLERANCE & ACCOMMODATING- I WILL VOTE TINUBU

For the northerners who reside in the north you can ask any of your family or friends living in Lagos and other South western states they will tell you how Yoruba are so friendly, loving and accommodating. Go to the state headquarter at Alausa ikeja you'll see igbos holding top position without any discrimination

Go to east and see how all positions are occupied completely by all igbos.

An average IGBOS are resentful, spiteful, hateful, bittered et al. They literally see themselves better, superior and more sophisticated than other tribes.

PLEASE verify this my claim if you aren't aware of it and make a decision on who to campaign and vote for

I leave you to your conscience

After the long epistle, how many likes? So far, 62. Look at the other person quoting and correcting. How many likes? So far, 212.

Now, I understand that the likes don't really matter but it can be a very strong indicator of the majority of people's desire for Obi. You'd also agree with me that NL as a forum is a creation of a Yoruba man and it reigns in Lagos far more than any other state in Nigeria. Would you now say that all the likes to that guy's comment come from some Igbos? I guess no.

So, what's that telling you? The answer is one: Obi is far ahead of the other two guys, at least, as far as this forum is concerned. And if you want to do a simple survey, go to Lagos and ask random people who they'd like to vote, 7 out 10 would tell you Obi. Go to YouTube and check similar videos and you'll be shocked.

So, regardless of what you think or say about the man, he's far ahead of the BAT or AA. That's a fact.

Petyprincess:
Nigerian men need to learn how to be romantic to their wives, most of them just want to pound their wife like a mortal, they have forgotten women body works different.

If you want your wife to always in the mood, please her take her out, surprise her with gifts, buy her flowers, cook her favorite meal and lastly stop pounding your wives like they are the cause of Nigeria problems.

But they don't complain. Even you writing this won't complain. Again, I've noticed many women like sex that's like war.

TONY042:
'Under the sun and in the rain ....'

...with dedication and selflessness. Nigeria's ours, Nigeria, we serve

havenz:
Thanks for reading through, may your age be added more.

Same to you. Happy birthday everyday

havenz:
Thanks for reading through, may your age be added more.

Cheap scammer.

havenz:
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Say me a prayer.

Please guys i really want to spend my BIRTHDAY at the MOTHERLESS BABY'S HOME and HOSPITAL, PLEASE kindly help me to top up so to get some FOODSTUFFS FOR THEM, MAY GOD BLESS US ALL AS WE DO. THANKS IN ANTICIPATION.

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Is it by force to go to motherless babies home and hospital? Go find place siddon abeg.

Jennyclay:
- I'm well trained and well-mannered.
- I'm a graduate with a good job and I also do business.
- I cook so well.
- I'm God fearing
- I'm a lovely and happy person.
Etc.

Now do you expect me to settle for less? Do you?

You get serious wahala.

Seriously, I can only respect a graduate that earns well doing their own business.

When working for someone, you can't really say you have a job because that job may not be there tomorrow.

But when when you say you've got skills to create your own job, that gives me erection.

Lying here, God knows you can't cook better than me

Well, I like people who are intrinsically happy and not those whose happiness depends on circumstances around them.

If you people don't destroy this hustle completely for Nigerians, I'm not sure you'll give up. You are here talking about KDP like you're into it when you're not. You bought an ebook promising you millions in KDP and now that you can't make it, you've become an info marketer yourself.

donaldking100:
Atiku is losing South-South & South-East to Obi for sure.

What would especially make the 2023 election interesting is that it's not going to be like the usual two-party thing. However, the most interesting of it all is the fact that PO has edged these two guys out already.

Right now, the SS and SE is the bag for PO. The SW as well as the NC are certainly ready for him as well. Going to the North, there's going to be a scramble and PO would still grab a sizeable vote from there.

When people say PO can't win, I ask them how because it's very clear. There's nothing bad in politics like when your own supporters turn away from you.

So sad for BAT and AA!

Noted.

Bizzyliss:
look for liquimoly injector cleaner if u must use a cleaner

Alright. Thank you.

There's this injector cleaner that fuel attendants usually disturb me about. I want to ask if it's okay to pour that into my tank.

Malory:
Disgusting. I weep for your husband.

You're a very bitter person. And that's why you're trying to spread bitterness to everyone. A soup you've not tasted is what's disgusting to you and you're already weeping for her husband. What if her husband likes it? What if she's not married? Get a life, please.

IamAtikulate:
Tinubu introduced religion into 2023 election. I love how Peter Obi is busy visiting all the churches.

Datti should also start visiting mosques.

If Obi can get most of the Christian votes and Atiku, Tinubu and Kwankwanso kill themselves for moslem votes, the Obi will win the election before 2PM.

I'll chop Atiku money, clean mouth and still vote for Obi. The suffering don too much.

Even if they don't even divide Muslim votes, Muslims are not more than Christians in Nigeria. That's a fact.

"Your bastard is also a bastard" ~ Mummy G.O.

Francisanointed:
This is the result of what the present generation believe in. This generation believes that having money is equal to good character. Our parents who usually esteem good morals have started to esteem good money. Money is good,no doubt about it. But when one gets it at the expense of others,it becomes questionable. The next generation will be worse. Even if you raise your children with sound moral character,this generation will corrupt them at all cost. We need to take prayers seriously. Otherwise, this new generation children will kill for money and we will still say it say it doesn't matter because of money

The right word is extol. I hope you know the word in your comment that I'm talking about.

Omodua:
From your comments, you're a satisfied man. No worries. So,you don't know what's happening outside your comfort zone.

Nothing works in Nigeria. Government is frustrating handwork because necessary tools to kick start is not provided. Poor infrastructure. Electricity to generate power to aid the willing hand is absent. Small scale businesses is frustrated because Short term loans are not provided.

Now, tell me how the unemployed can cope with such seamy situation.

You now see why the youths cut corners to make it including abominable ritual killings

I understand all that stuff. But how far do you think you can go with unwholesome practices to make money? You see what I mean? So, at the end, you'll cut your life short instead of bearing with the times and ending up well.

dejavubobo1:
They ll use cream. Tonning injections and all sought to spoil their skin and immune system all bcoz they want to glow.
Enjoy ur glow.

You have a point here. You know the body can absorb all those chemicals in the cream. This cream issue may be unconnected to her problems.