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InfinixMine:
Just here to learn.... what a favour!!! 3 jobs for at the same time... God knows best.

It would definitely happen at some point in time. My case is quite similar though, just that it was two at the same time, same state and quite different too. I didn't take me long to choose. It doesn't really take long after the excitement has faded

First off: DON'T DREAM OF WORKING FOR THESE PEOPLE; LEBANESE, CHINESE and INDIANS. Regardless of how nice they are to you today, you'd be treated as a piece of dirt with time.

For me, I'd advice you go with the first. Although it might be challenging, considering the fact that your family is in Lagos and all, I'm sure you'd do well to move them to the East with time, when you're fully settled that is.

Also, you have an existing relationship with the said man before now and he trusts you to a reasonable degree, which most employees deal with in the first few months of landing a new job. Life in the East isn't all that bad as I am there myself, even though I still consider myself new here and still trying to shake off the Lagos effect that I am used to.

For the private company, we all pray to get higher salaries as we look out for the next job but there are certain things you might need to consider here;

1. It does not align with your field, hence a possible issue with job satisfaction. It happens a lot, trust me.

2. A possible scenario of deviation might pop up, particularly if you choose to consider your resumè and intend trending as an auditor.

3. Private companies... (Well... *shrugs)

For me, all directions point to the East. If arrangements have been made with the man on the other side, as you claimed and he is looking for an accommodation already, then sit back and relax. Congratulations bro

Typical of some guys. Ideally he should have just introduced himself with some few words and lay back. A lady who is interested in chatting with you would so afterwards. When you start begging with horrible shorthands such as 'pls, pls, pls', you give the impression that you're desperate, immature and lack courtesy. What am I doing here sef

eightsin:
I heard those cows belong to the governor. I even saw them entering government house.

Please tell me this is a lie!

Funjosh:
This is one https://www.nairaland.com/1999911/pls-peepshelp-me-out-bad/4

After reading everything on the thread, all I can say is 'It is well'. My major concern is why she promised to bridge the gap between her mother and her siblings two years ago and nothing has been done till this very moment. It's awfully surprising.

pacino26:
Fayose should come on loan to 042 abeg.

I'm telling you! You needed to see how cows littered Presidential Road ,shortly before you get to Roban stores two days ago.

Onegai:
Has anyone bothered to read up MojAyo and Suzzy16's previous comments on Nairaland? You guys have been petting and petting and indulging this girl's destructive behaviour for some years and she does not believe she has any problems. And now you want to continue petting her? Okay o

Kindly share links to them, please?

moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me, and thorpido tanx vry much for d help u render to me, I pray u see someone too as a helper in life, my God will continue to bless u and ur family and never forget u, thorpido, thank u once again

This just about sums up who you are. While I believe every human is capable of change, you come off as someone that is irredeemable. I'm no God though but man has a way of telling certain things.

Let me be frank with you more than ever, the ONLY person that has been very plain and direct about your issue on here is Onegai. You think she hates you? Please think again. Regardless of how much your tab is worth, you ought to have sold it before now to sustain the child you have. You claim you haven't been eating and have been starving, yet, you stay online with a tablet, which means you either subscribe on the device or you directly use your airtime which is a bit expensive.

Your false sense of entitlement, coupled with the petty pride you have pushed you to this point. You have just proven Mynd44 right. What you have is a very big problem, which could staunt your growth in life. You might not have asked Onegai for money directly but you indirectly asked her the moment you stressed you needed help. Those hovering on the thread and calling out Onegai just to fan their egos would only get you into trouble if you think they're right. We make certain mistakes in life but when we make a mistake twice, it becomes _stupidity and Onegai has been right to point that to your face.

No one is interested in why you made these mistakes. You have made them and everyone is taking the time they don't have to help you and you think you're entitled to them? My dear, you're not. As a young lady and as a mother, you have not been making sacrifices to show you're really serious about forging ahead, that has been the subtle message of Onegai to you ever since.

Thorpido, a million thanks to you for your help here. Even without meeting the mother yet, why she's mad and tired of her is quite glaring at this point.

I pray we all arrive at a conclusion that would impact her positively for life and live what is left correcting what has been done. Regardless, she has to see a psychologist and a counsellor, that is after the frosty relationship with her mother has been defrosted.

Cc
Jaybee3
Mynd44
Mizmycoli

MizMyColi:
She needs to reconcile with her mother.
Even if everyone on this thread turns benefactor, we can only do so for a while.

She needs her mother's forgiveness.
Whether she is at fault or not.

She needs to humble herself.

However the woman has become to her, it is out of frustration.

TV01 touched up on some of the points that made me say I'm weak earlier.
I really appreciate his input even though he harsh.

Well, I haven't spoken with her indepth to draw my own conclusions. I have made my silent judgements based on ear/eyewitness reports which is not too cool.

I should reach out to her myself and try to see if I can do what I do best when I have recuperated properly.

You're absolutely right. There's an obvious broken fence between mother and daughter, and pride seems to be responsible here, coupled with the fact that she is used to the good, easy life. You have just about mentioned everything there is to say.

I guess there is a need to mend the sour relationship between them and make the lady in question know she is wrong in every sense and has wronged the mother. This should be a reconciliatory mission now, as opposed to what she painted at first. I trust Thorpido and others to find out the whole truth from the mother. This way, a possible way forward would be looked into.

I just couldn't get myself to compose my thoughts coherently because I was in the hospital for a lab test that involved those courteous lab attendants drawing my blood bi-hourly.

Sorry about this. It is strong folks that tend to see needles suck out blood from them. Hope you stay strong.

MizMyColi:
I wish she will be more receptive to adopting the hustling spirit.

This best sums up everything. If she is not willing to work, whatever assistance is rendered would be temporary, which worries me.

Onegai:
Sanchez01 there's food in the house, she's fighting her mum and came here to drop that line and the other line about Suicide. If we give her a bottle of Sniper, she ain't drinking it.

Did she confirm the food part? How did you find out, please? I was thinking her major problem is feeding the child at hand and herself. The suicide part, I know she wouldn't even try.

Th.orpido, thanks for this. But what do they mean, "follow any stranger anywhere"?

I think this is a result of her past. Perhaps her neighbours know she is in the habit of having people coming to pick her from the house before it got to this point. This goes on to prove that it's a pretty messy situation for neighbours to call her mother that she was going out with a 'stranger'.

MizMyColi:
I'm weak

Just stay strong. Empathy is only natural at this point. Jaybee3 made some valid points. Focusing on a way to taking out the underlying problem is paramount right now.

jaybee3:
Business according to her

What sort of business can someone who doesn't appear to have basic skills nor experience do?

What level of investment is needed to set her up so it doesn't go down the drain? (probably a million a two considering she will potentially feed 3 people)

Who in this current economic climate would be willing to invest in her considering her history of making wrong choices?

How easy is it to approach people to contribute towards any business investment when it will simply mean they are validating her poor choices without consequences whatsoever

I just can't see how she can be helped without tackling her core underlying problems


PS: Thorpido has done the right thing by initiating a resolution through her mum. I think that has to be followed up as a matter of urgency before deciding method of approach

Did she tell you what kind of business she would like to venture into? Just like you rightly pointed out, she has no skill set, no prior background knowledge and I'm quite sure she hasn't ventured into one before. A possible scenario of mismanagement could surface.

Business won't solve her psychological problem. As a matter of fact, the latter would impact her terrible if one overlooks it to help her with her 'dream business'. It's actually unbelievable that an educated lady would find herself in this mess.

Mynd44:
I told someone yesterday (off NL) that the OP can be likened to a drug addict looking for a quick fix instead of a long lasting solution.

She has not shown any commitment to moving forward with her life as she just wants to have a solition right now. No doubt she mentioned a miscarriage(abortion) for this same man.

I doubt she mentioned that the reason her mum is like this is cos she gave up on her. Her mum was even begged before she brougt her back from SA.

Her problems need a well drawn out solution which will ensure she does not go back to her past life.

If you have had any discussion with anyone who has sold his/her body for money, they see a normal hustle as too tasking as the money from sex is all too easy.

PS: I wouldn't rule out a drug addiction. Think about it

You're right, and at the bolded, it just about confirms everything. I've been thinking about this since yesterday and my theory was able to sum up the fact that she loves life and she's very reckless at the same time. She's unconsciously proud of working but would rather choose to beg.

All she needs is a long term counsellor, someone to talk several senses into her head and the need to sit up as her chances are gradually thinning out.

She has equally not shown any commitment towards living a good life. I wouldn't blame the mum though.

For the pregnancy, well, I'm too morally strict to advise she aborts it, and would rather not say a thing about it. However, I'd suggest the contraceptive thing for her. Perhaps she was thinking she could 'trap' the men with pregnancies.

@Thorpido, God bless you for taking time out of your busy schedule.

ifyalways:
Nothing but laziness, vain ego and sense of entitlement is wrong with the OP.
She emailed me threatening to kill herself if we don't give her money today which I promptly told her to go ahead please as I'm sure I owe her nothing.
Her mom will definitely take care of the baby when and if she puts to bed. She got her a nanny, she won't turn her back on her when she delivers.
OP, prolly needs money to flex, buy new stuff or travel out of the country.
She just have to grow up and take charge of her life. She doesn't need money nor is starving.

The bolded is very annoying. No one owes her a thing her. Everyone is trying to help her and she should get that into her head. A blackmail as this does not really work with someone like me.

I believe Mynd's assertion on the work theory is true afterall. She is pretty much too lazy to work.

@Thorpido, one final request please. Could you get her something to eat for this morning, and also help fix the child? Most importantly, please have a conversation with the mother. I feel there's more to this. If she's indeed lazy, the mother would tell. That way, we would know what she has in mind with whatever she gets from those of us willing to help. I wouldn't want her to come back here again after this episode. I'm tired of this already.

This rift would be the very undoing of Buhari and the APC in 2019. While Oyegun's sudden bravery can be ascribed to some invisible Northern hands who clearly understands that Tinubu is a force and the need to cut him to size is a must, it must also be noted that he wields some unexplainable power the likes of Obasanjo cannot explain.

For all I know, the Northern elites might be getting into a futuristic trouble with BAT. Buhari was a nonenity until Tinubu looked his way. This might be a lost cause to some Northern elites who wants to cut Tinubu to size at all cost.

Chinachriss:
Serve the lord your God eith all your heart, with all your strength and with all your might.

Don't misquote the Bible, please. What you see above is madness in the name of God, and that isn't right. You cannot be sitting in murky waters in your right senses all in the name of serving God. God didn't ask you to.

Images as these is what make lot of persons believe that Christianity is about formatting and brainwashing.

MizMyColi:
She may be genuine, she may not be.
It is my earnest desire that she gets help.
When I get to the office and settled, I will try her number again.

Please kindly mention me when you have verified what needs to be. Would love to help.

thorpido:
It could be a lie but it could also be true.
A lot of girls get themselves into bad shapes especially when it comes to pregnancies with the 'pregnator' nowhere to be found.I know because every week,there's a girl asking to have an abortion.

The Problem isn't about her past but about how a one time life-loving lady with an average command of the English language would suddenly become one who cannot string sentences and know her tenses. Maybe I'm the one seeing things from this angle.

moji26:
thank u for seeing all these o, I put everything in d hands of God, if I die, dats how God want it to be, life is nt to be stressed bt ive suffered in life, may God bless u

I'm naturally soft but this won't work. It's not like you've taken poison and you needed an ambulance to come pick you up. You won't die just yet. Let people find out the truth. They deserve it.

Onegai:
okay so let's stop playing here

Not again... Just one genuinely wants to help, you find out they're all fraud.

No matter how much she tries to defend whatever, it's obvious she's a fraud. The other moniker reveals she's learned and understand syntax. This moniker is a total opposite. Perhaps to get more pity. I see no reason why anyone would want to defraud others just because they want to live the good life.

ogwumgbe:
Give examples from the scriptures where women baptized, the names of such women will be helpful

I don't need to give you a name. Perhaps your denomination shush women in the church and ask them to keep quiet like Paul, who is not Christ commanded. Question is, how many people actually baptized people? Dominantly John the Baptist.

Also know that the Jewish tradition considered women inconsequential and Paul didn't hide this fact. What it used to be then is not what it is now.

jmoore:
What makes it wrong? Are the females n@ked?

Let's paint a scenario; what happens to a wet attire on a woman? Obviously it becomes so wet that it remains glued to her body, more like it was craved just as her body. Within that split seconds that it happens during baptism by immersion, a lot could run through a man's head, man of God or not. Worst still, her frontals are staring directly at him. It's just similar to a pastor counselling a lady or woman alone in his office. It wouldn't take long before he gets into trouble.

And before you say 'he is a man of God', remember that he is, first, a human, before being a man of God. Again, scroll to those pictures and take a look at the attires and imagine what would happen should they go wet.

Baptizing a female by a male minister is awfully wrong. This is where female ministers comes in.

Heaven knows I hate Hilary Clinton just as I hate Trump. Her email scandal is still fresh just in case she's trying to look all too desperate to become the President. While I'd commend her for the lying face she wore during the debate, I pray Americans get Trump as their President because the country itself is purely hypocritical. The whites hate blacks, while their blacks consider themselves more superior than Africans.

I pray Trump triumphs so that the country can go ahead and break all diplomatic ties with the rest of the world. The video isn't fresh, regardless. It happened a long time ago and he already apologized. Obama+Clinton+Hilary can play throw as many oils as possible, eventually, Americans would vote. Reminds me of Jonathan's direct attacks on Buhari. Politicians don't learn.

This is by far the worst candidates in the US Presidential election. Both of them aren't really what one would expect from typical American leaders. Unfortunately for Hilary, lots and lots of people hate her family and she's only trying to get herself out of murky waters. It won't fly.

aaronson:
Your understanding of the babble is broad, Psalm 139:7 |
"How blessed will be the one who seizes and dashes your
little ones against the rock.".

Guess what? It's the same bible we pulling out yours and my absurdity.

First off, the passage is Psalm 137:9 and not what you quoted above. The funniest thing is, atheists think they know a lot and are capable of reasoning things out when in reality it's clearly the opposite. What you quoted is off topic because you would have seen that the passage is about warfare and not about what you think it is, particularly if you read from verse 5 down.

- Happy shall he be, that taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the stones; i.e. that brings on thee the worst calamities of war (see 2 Kings 8:12; Isaiah 12:16-18; Hosea 10:14; Hosea 13:16; Nahum 3:10).

http://biblehub.com/commentaries/psalms/137-9.htm

aaronson:
Stank thread like bad breath, Spits on ignorance of the op and people with like minds.

Why not educated christians against social division and whatever happened to that christiandom saying of "love thy neighbour as thyself".

Interesting. Your own understanding of the Bible is purely tiny. 2Cor 6:14 clearly projects the OP's message. 'DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH AN UNBELIEVER'.

Tonymic4life:
Anybody doing phone review is a marketer,even if it is gionee,Samsung, iPhone,infinix,techno,etc. Wat a country

Nah... The best to knowing them is 'unboxing' prior the price release date or availability of the device itself.

akintom:
Your God lied here. He said one thing on the subject of sin, right in the same old testament, God changed it.

The question is, why should you trust this erratic God?

I understand that you're coming off as an atheist, but the passage you held on to, which also serves as your main argument on the thread is obviously not clear to you. Take your time to read and understand what I posted above.

akintom:
Before Esau and Jacob were born, God HATED Isau and LOVED Jacob.

Esau had not committed any SIN against God to warrant his HATRED, and neither had Jacob done any RIGHTEOUSNESS to warrant his LOVE.

In answering this question, Paul the Apostle says God behaves as he (God) wishes, and God can't be questioned on what he does.

Now, what if when you die as a born again Christian, and you get to heaven's gate, and God says to you that he has changed his mind, that you're going to hell, HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT GOD THEN?

In answering, please remember that it's the same God that said the soul that sin shall die. This same God turned around to say he (God) shall avenge the sin of the father on the children till fourth generations.

Malachi 1:2-3 declares, “’I have loved you,’” says the LORD. But you ask, 'How have you loved us?' ‘Was not Esau Jacob's brother?’ the LORD says. ‘Yet I have loved Jacob, but Esau I have hated, and I have turned his mountains into a wasteland and left his inheritance to the desert jackals.’” Malachi 1:3 is quoted in Romans 9:10-13, “Not only that, but Rebekah's children had one and the same father, our father Isaac. Yet, before the twins were born or had done anything good or bad—in order that God's purpose in election might stand: not by works but by him who calls—she was told, ‘The older will serve the younger.’ Just as it is written: ‘Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.’” Why did God love Jacob and hate Esau? If God is love (1 John 4:, how could He hate anyone?

When studying the Bible, it is critically important to always study the context of a particular Bible verse or passage. In these instances, the prophet Malachi and the apostle Paul are using the name “Esau” to refer to the Edomites, who were the descendants of Esau. Isaac and Rebekah had two sons, Esau and Jacob.

God chose Jacob (whom He later renamed “Israel”) to be the father of His chosen people, the Israelites. God rejected Esau (who was also called “Edom”) and did not choose him to be the father of His chosen people. Esau and his descendants, the Edomites, were in many ways blessed by God (Genesis 33:9; Genesis chapter 36).

So, considering the context, God loving Jacob and hating Esau has nothing to do with the human emotions of love and hate. It has everything to do with God choosing one man and his descendants and rejecting another man and his descendants.

God chose Abraham out of all the men in the world. The Bible very well could say, “Abraham I loved, and every other man I hated.”

God chose Abraham’s son Isaac instead of Abraham’s son Ishmael. The Bible very well could say, “Isaac I loved, and Ishmael I hated.” Romans chapter 9 makes it abundantly clear that loving Jacob and hating Esau was entirely related to which of them God chose.

Hundreds of years after Jacob and Esau had died, the Israelites and Edomites became bitter enemies. The Edomites often aided Israel’s enemies in attacks on Israel. Esau’s descendants brought God’s curse upon themselves. Genesis 27:29 tells Israel, “May nations serve you and peoples bow down to you. Be lord over your brothers, and may the sons of your mother bow down to you. May those who curse you be cursed and those who bless you be blessed.”

cr7lomo:
How is he sounding silly...he just said the truth...y is it only techno customers that do this on nairaland...if u wanna market ur phone, b free to do so , not by deceiving people into thinking u just bought it... In Nigeria, we work with reputable names...even if techno decides to produce water resistant phones, Nigerians will still opt for the major players( Samsung iPhone and its likes) ... Anybody that has good cash will not b caught dead with a techno phone...its like marketing cherry vehicles to Nigerians... I wud rather buy Samsung s3 or iPhone 5 or Sony experia or huawei or Microsoft or google or Lenovo or LG or Nokia or blackberry sef instead of these glorified chinco phones


Modified... When u travel out with techno, that's when ud know u got rubbish.... The phone only sells in Nigeria...how is their global market like? Hv u ever seen their business structure on any reputable business station...are they even in the capital market...hu is their CEO, how long have they been in existence? How healthy is their phones? What's their global track record? ... I hv watched on CNN how I phone lunched so as Samsung, Microsoft, Nokia , blackberry, huawei , google just lunched pixel...but hv never watched techno or its likes... Nigeria is the usual dumping ground... And some nuke heads come here to compare those chincos with world class phones... They are certainly oblivious to the fact that they are highly delusional

My grouse is not the fact that Tecno exists only in Nigeria or not. Also, it has nothing to do with me not being able to buy the phone or not. I just hate it when people bring what not with the so many hypes, only to discover that it's not worth it. I pre-ordered a device from aliexpress and it's quite expensive now, considering the weakness of the Naira against the Dollar.

I have no issues with an initial low end maker striving to become a high end producer. Why not launch the device in Nigeria They launched it elsewhere and dumped it here as usual. Regardless, a low end device is only what it is, irrespective of how it is packaged.

spitfyer:
please how much did you get this phone?

I don't even have it. I use a different device entirely. It only sickens me to see these guys open multiple accounts to lure people into buying nothing but hypes.

Reminds me of the moment they made so much noise about ITEL Prime II, only to discover that the device is what you cannot get for a child.

ammyluv2002:
that your promise no dey finish ba?

I'm sorry nau. I was being considerate. You know I can't just be sending messages again. You should understand

ammyluv2002:
No dear, it's the culture. It has been there over the years. A lot of peeps got married in that way without stress tho it has some implications. I encourage you to marry from my place and enjoy life...i have someone for you as my personal person

Chai! Never dreamt of it though. I think I'd start thinking about it

I haven't forgotten you

I promise we'll chat very soon, hopefully at the weekend