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misspicy:
all this story you are writing and your point is ?

did you notice nobody is commenting,lemme help your ministry by bringing my pple,i can see you are new here.....mister goodytwoshoes


punkyveer....help me out

Yea im new..

Aju

I noticed a trend on facebook. Young girls expressing how much they won't take 'Shit' from their husbands. Expressing how they won't pet him or sweetly apologise to him when they are wrong.

See! If you're a young girl reading this. Let me advice you.
You see all this arrogance and rebellion towards the headship of a man in marriage? Its the devil's trick.
If you wrong your husband, It is due that you ask him for mercy.
See, if he 'Forms'
There's no option than to pet him, Do the things he like, Cook the food he loves..
You are not being a fool please.
In as much as you were wrong, You are obliged to do anything possible to appease him.

As a man do same to your wife when you offend her.
It must be mutual.
This little things keeps people together..

When I hear ladies say they're not gonna do all these things to appease their husbands, I just laugh.
This is marriage, Find a strategy to make it work. Learn to be sacrificial.
If you feel cold and relaxed to settle a conflict between you and your spouse, It'll keep propagating till it becomes unbearable.
Treat an issue while its bearable.

Also. This issue of men forming for their wives tho...
Sha, let's Say they want to feel wanted and they wanna see the depth of their spouse's remorse.
But I don't support much of it.
Because your spouse wronged you, doesn't mean you should 'form' forever. Don't take advantage of their mistakes and then become so impossible.

Back to the matter.
Lady, you are reading this..
I'm not a chauvinist or profeminist.
But believe me, You must acknowledge a man's headship in marriage.
I'm not in any way in support of abusing women, But a man was made the leader in marriage.

Any lady that goes about on social media shouting and threatening the headship of men in marriage, that lady hardly gets married.
Even if she does, She'll not last in marriage.

These people that call themselves 'Feminist'. Watch their lives, Most of them are unmarried or divorced.
Only few of them understands that feminism isn't about rebelliousness towards the leadership of a man in marriage.
Most feminist are just stranded and if you run to them for advice in your marriage, they'll help you tear it down.

This radical feminism is sweet on Facebook, its easy to say it, Trying it in your marriage will finish your marriage.
I dey tells you wetin I sabi

A man was made the leader in marriage. That doesn't make a woman insignificant.

IamSARANG.

The bitter truth is that as a married person, If you cheat on your partner, No matter your prayers, Believe me, You can't be forgiven without letting your partner know.

Marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend that you can hide anything. Marriage is a covenant. it makes two to become one.
So Why will you hide anything from yourself?

If you have ever cheated on your partner, You need to tell them. What matters is your approach. that's where wisdom is needed.

Marriage is not just between you and God, Its between you and your partner. and when you cheat, You've wronged your partner, You must ask for their forgiveness too. Believe me if you don't, You Will lose heaven.

This is the true Gospel.
I know a Pastor, who once cheated on his wife years ago, After like twenty years, God reminded him and told him that he would never be forgiven if he doesn't tell his wife. it was quite a challenge but he later told his wife, And She forgave him. Simple.

If you think it's difficult to report yourself to your spouse after cheating, then don't cheat.
Your body is not your own, you can't do anything and go and meet God, Go and meet your spouse.

Thank You.

IamSARANG.

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Abi

Shameless men publicly humiliate their wives. I'll never correct my wife, or criticise her in the presence of a visitor, or my friends.
Some men make public jest of their wife's weakness, This is ruthless and ill mannered.
I have learnt the principle of never bitterly correcting a loved one in public, you can never figure out what's wrong between me and a loved one through our public conduct. Cos publicly I'll always paint a better figure of her.
And it's the best.

Indiscriminately assassinating your wife's character before your friends doesn't add to your ego as a man, It makes you a fool. It reveals your foolishness in choosing a wise and respectable partner.

You no dey think, Why don't your friends also talk of their wives to you?
Abi na only you get mouth?
Gossiping your wife is a symptom that you are a bigger problem sef.
Even if your wife is mannerless, no be only you get bad wife, Shut up and endure the consequences of marrying her.

Your wife is not your boy boy, Give her respect even when she's wrong. Don't scold her in public. Stop being chauvinistic!!
Not even God treats us like a nobody, when we're wrong.

IamSARANG.

Hmm

Its never a sign of maturity to date or court a person for ten years, Its not really an achievement, Cos some of the marriages that had long courtship still end up in chaos. And relationships of months or few years still turn out to be blissful.
Why?

We must come to the realization that the quality of time is not dependant on its quantity. What do I mean?
Dating for Long years doesn't necessarily mean that you have known the person. its cool to court for years if you are graced to do so, but then what's the content of the long years?
If its just clubbing, Going to beach, Having sex, chatting everyday, writing love poems, fantasying, ETC, Then the long years is valueless.

No matter how short a relationship is, What matters is knowing the person, knowing their life aspirations, knowing their views on life, religion career, politics and all facets of life, And this can't be possible without Asking questions and spending VALUABLE TIME.

Chatting about how many kids you guys want is gibberish, That's fantasying when reality hasn't been settled.
You guys should be working on yourselves to see the marriage work out fine. if it sure does, then discussing about choice of children will be necessary.

And this is why a lot of marriages are suffering today. Their dating and courting period was only FUN filled. No asking of serious questions..
Questions like; If I provoke you to the peak, how would you react?
Would you allow me deny you sex cos I want to fast?
Why will you still hold onto me when my face is wrinkled, and my beauty faded?
What's your take on divorce?
I can keeping counting, I mean serious questions that will give you a direct and concise clue to who your significant other is.

And so after getting married with your ignorance and it leads to chaos, you start shouting and ranting of how you dated your partner for ten years, and blah blah blah.
But you haven't said what you both spent 10 years doing..

It would shock you how some relationships are managed, especially some long term relationships; They talk once in one month, whatever they're gonna say is all about how they feel and all those romantic sermons; "I wish you were here" "I can't stop thinking of marrying you" and all these blabs!
And they continue like this, for five years, so what makes it valuable?
Sending time talking feelings is a waste of time!

Maybe I'm derailing from my original subject. conclusively,
Dated for 6 years? it doesn't matter, what's the content of the years?
No matter how much you spend doing what Is irrelevant, it doesn't make it relevant.
And a little time spent doing what is valuable can yield powerful results.

How long you've known a person is not a determinant factor to How well you know them.

Ask questions, if you want to know.

#IamSARANG.

[quote author=AgentONE post=39645187]it keeps telling me,'You are attempting to upload a file that has a size of zero(0) byte(0bytes= no content).This may indicate a problem on how it was generated.Please check your file and try again'.
That's the pop-up I get using my phone to do it,I will try using a computer to see what .

verify the document you are trying to upload.
I think thats where the problem is from.

I did mine with phone too

Lol..



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IamSARANG.

Ara!

How you begin a relationship matters. Its just that most guys become so obsessive and emotional at that infatuation stage of an affair. They do many things to impress. These things they do are far away from what they really can do. Then as time goes on, When they can't continue pretending, The get fed up and show their real capacity.
And gbam, The woman flees away cos she loved him for who he pretended to be not who he really was.

So at the beginning of a relationship, My brother declare your asset.
Tell her where you actually work, show her your house, You must not tell her your exact income but give clues that you are average or even low :v :v

No be say, you'll invite her for a date, and when she's going, You'll give her 5k for transport, You keep forming big boy at your detriment. And when you totally suffocated and tired of impressing her, She gets frustrated, cos you built that foundation that her TP back home is 5K, whereby a drop na 100naira to her house. At most 500 is okay for her Tp. Even that 500 dey too much..

No dey do guy man wey you no be.
And one thing about most Nigerian women is that they don't care how much you've given them, whatever you do for them is past tense. All they value is what you are doing now!
These women don't ever reject money, Even if say na your school fees, They wish you'll just dash them. Lol.

So if you no get money, No start with money spending.

Inugo?

Thank you.

#IamSARANG.

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AgentONE:
Hello everyone,
For those applying to Mcgill,have u been able to upload ur merged transcript to ur minerva acct cos I av been trying all day to no avail. Please if u av successfully done this,kindly teach me hw u went about it... Cc: Chrisviral,Vickgirk,Vicmonzan,etc

Yap. What exactly is the problem?

No idea