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Gerrard59:
See, I have to be very honest with you o. You should let her sort her life by herself. The last thing you should do as a man is stalling your progress for an irresponsible person. Let me paraphrase for you: Never take responsibility or become responsible for an irresponsible person. Your sister is very irresponsible, and she should be allowed to sort herself out. You could have done so if you were financially buoyant, but as it is, such is not possible.

Most importantly, you are a man in your mid-30s while she is a woman in her mid-20s. She can get a sugar daddy or man willing to marry her or do high-class hook-up esp if she is beautiful, package and advertise herself very well. On the other hand, you are a 34-year-old man who is yet to establish himself strongly. As a man, you are judged by your financial power not by brawn or the pen!s in between your legs. I bet you that if your sister enters the hook-up industry in Lagos as a fine lady, she would make so much money and become well respected in your family than you. That is the reason you should focus squarely on your financial upliftment. This is because should you become responsible for an irresponsible lady, you would regret it as such a lady can still do hook-up and later become very ungrateful. So, it is better you allow her to sort it herself so that when she becomes a five-star general on Codedruns, you would be at rest that your efforts were not wasted.

Again, never become responsible for an irresponsible person. Allow irresponsible people to face the consequences of their irresponsibility. Remember, she is an adult, and you warned her.

Best advice here.

Zonefree:


SIMP.

You cried with a manipulator


Once a woman starts crying, be on guard, she's on a manipulating mood.

If you're accusing your girlfriend or wife of something and she started crying, she's guilty. No woman will cry for something she didn't do.

Lastly, never take marriage or relationship advice from a woman.

Facts.

Arda1000:
I hope you don’t confuse being dark skin with Africa,you can be dark skinned without being an African vice versa.
Though I do believe that the dark skinned Indians has been living their for aeons of ages before mixing with lighter groups they encountered e.g the inhabitants of sentinel island are blacks they aren’t Africans and they have lived in India as far as anyone can recall.

Good perspective.

Lol..
These Tinubu bots are funny.
Don't they realise they're making a mockery of themselves.

JmyNigaa:
I tolerated a couple of stuffs from females and did a lot of things that I'm not proud of, now I've guzzled up the red pill.
Thing is to clear my mind off my fuckups I just cut things with the ladies who saw me in my blue pill state. Now most of them have noticed the gap and are now trying to come back but I'm not allowing it.
whenever I remember the things I tolerated and practiced, I get pissed at myself all over. How do one forgive himself for past actions and is it wise to let these ladies come back around me?

Lol
Many of us here were once terrible, disastrous simps.

You've just got to let go of your past misdemeanours.
Shit happens all the time. No one has it all figured out.
The most important thing is that you have found the light.

Now you must commit to not heigh played or manipulated by women ever again.
You must now commit to the Redpill and continue to seek out knowledge. To learn and grow in the Redpill.
Trust me, the Redpill is a rabbit hole, the knowledge therein are enormous and endless.
To stay at the top of your game, it is important to keep learning about the Redpill and to practice it everyday if your life.

It is totally your prerogative to accept those girls back or not. The most important thing is not to let yourself ever be played by women again.
I'd personally say you continue to give them space.
Once women feel they have demystified you enough, it is hard to get them to find you mysterious again.
In plain English, once see finish enter, e dey hard for them to find you interesting again.

So it's better you give them space.

Thank God you've learnt your lessons.

Women are always scheming, always manipulative. They hide all these under the facade of their innocent looks and appearance.

Only a fool loves women ideally.
Women never love ideally and are always scheming to make the most out of you, for their interests alone.

Useless man.
Allow that woman to go in peace and leave those children to be trained by their father.

You are plotting to destroy another person's marriage. Your life will be wrecked.

This is how single mothers train most badly behaved idiots we have in the society today.

The father must train those children in the way they should grow.
We can't allow the proliferation of simps as a result of disgusting single mothers we have everywhere.

Savageman:
The problem is how can i say this and not appear rude or like a person who just "used and dumped her"

Do you actually have a father?
Because I don't want to believe that someone raised by his father would be this spineless, cowardly and stupid.

Meanwhile, she is the one using you.
She bills you all the time while offering nothing substantial (pussy ain't payment).

When she's done draining you of money and making you derail from your life goals, she'll leave you.
It is then that you'll understand the meaning of use and dump.

Keep on giving her money, since you are a pathetic fool without any common sense.

kelspinall:
i hope it was your sis,i will know weda you will refer me as simp...mdf

Simp relationship is not a do or die affair.
The guy is in his right to back out whenever he wishes.
He owes you no damn explanation.

It is simps like you that are manipulated into loving out of pity and end up getting burnt, used and dumped.

Silly simp.

kelspinall:
nigga what's ur probz? someone you said that she's loyal to you and you dated her for 3 years and now you're dropping her like nothing..

where's your conscience man?

if i had a loyal partner that i can say shes faithful in all aspects of our relationship I won't be tough on gals today...

better make peace with her

Simp.

TheGidRedpiller:
Men, Learn To Put Yourself First Before Considering Women In Anyway!

Facts.

MallamChukwudi:
If you want to raise responsible children, then you can't deny the kids' mum a proper home. It is not a coincidence that kids raised in a single home are disadvantaged in every way compared to those raised in a two-parents home.


Personally I can attribute my success in life to the fact that I grew up in a two-parent home filled with love, care and intention. I think what you fear is not being with a good woman. Not marriage in itself.

By all means, don't get married if you don't want kids, but please don't raise one outside it. A woman sacrifices her life to birth a kid, and her body undergoes irreversible changes.

Then labour, and to care for a child saddled to her for decades to come, multiplied by two, three or four children. Because women may not contribute financially as much as men doesn't mean they are not paying their own dues.


Supporting a family you confess to love should not be a big deal, unless you do not see her as part of you, to become one, united under one surname and promise. Also life is lived immaterially.

Your life will become wholesome through channels like family, to be loved, purpose, emotions, career, meaning, etc. Money is only a vehicle to the actualisation of the above, and should not be the end.

People learn these lessons as they grow older, and it is immature to discard old cultural practices that have stood the test of time due to modern ideologies. Marriage is not the problem, it's good women and and of course, good men.

If you want her to give her best, you must give her the best. You should love her and give her a home, because that's what she will give to your child. If you deprive her of care, you deprived your child also and you will pay dearly for it.

Lots of people have kids that hate them, also that women have a huge influence on their kids, don't be that kind of father. The energy and strategy you devise in sustaining a baby mama is less compared to one needed to look for a good woman and marry her.

You are capping nonsense here Oga.
Go and sit down.
See the thrash you posted

Nyascobar1414:
How does having a babymama not better than the so called ,odern marriages...
Abi you no sabi as dem dey knack married women, even for their workplace?



Just to find one woman wey don satisfy your standards small, make she gv you kids... Your only business is the child, anyhow she wan fvk up and down no concern me.. If she ain't taking care of the child, then I take custody of the child.

Surrogacy still dope shaa...

Than for a sane man to commit to repented ex wh0res...

Past is my past,old things have pass away fire una deir..



NO Hymen...
No Marriage.

Well said.

Maverick777:
wedding ceremony 'FOR'??, since when is wedding now a one person affair? is it birthday?
its as much my day and how I chose to make it memorable, for MYSELF with MY MONEY is all within my prerogative.

it will serve you really well to sell your 'range rover' and go to school(its never too late),so you don't have to embarrass yourself in public intermittently... or you rather just wake up from your dream and go open the gate for your boss....

Alright chief, suit yourself.

Maverick777:
I understand poverty has ridden hard on your brain, I really don't blame you tho, its not your fault!
if you have a 9-digit acct balance, why can't you give yourself, your family, your friends and your friend's friends a good treat with a few millions?
what does sexuality or body count of a woman have to do with anything, or don't you know you can marry a virgin and she would end up frustrating you till death?
Thing with you broke and jobless folks is everything to you is all about sex sex sex! nobody has time for a ladies' vagina condition nowadays, just gimme peace of mind, and I'm good!

I really don't want to insult you, use your head guy...

Lol
This my man is a confirmed simp.

Bro, here in VI I live like a king.. My new Range doesn't have a number plate yet and I've been driving it like that for one month now.
That's levels.

But I'm not here to brag though. I'm not interested in a dick measuring contest with you.

The fact remains that marrying a non-virgin is a dumb action. A dumber action would be to spend more than a million naira in a wedding ceremony for a repented hoe.

My grand father and father paid lobola to marry their wives as virgins. Why should I pay more than a million to marry a used, post-wall hoe?
Women's standards have never changed - the man must be able to provide.
But weak, effeminate, desperate simps like you have watered done the standard for men.

You are a completely finished man.
Yeah, try to justify your slavery to feminine imperatives.

sulorog:
Oga, please forgive her of whatsoever she has done and accept her back. Nobody is perfect, try and visit her in the hospital. Please try and resolve anything that is causing this current problem between two of you. God Almighty will help understand her better, she is good wife material. It is better to marry the woman that love you more than you love her. A word is enough for wise. Remain bless my brother.

Mumu

Maverick777:
I really don't need any assistance
plus, I have a family full of women, so its not that straight forward

My man you sound like a simp sha.
But for the avoidance of doubt, any man spending such amount to marry a woman - who is not a virgin - is a cursed, eternal fool.

Savedday:
Hole wey anoda guyman don dig tire, throwaway. Na him this one want go waste him money put!

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

Truth.

Wickedfact:
Even those staying in Ajah, Ologolo, and Bogije are talking. I have people who own houses in Ikate and Phase 1 but live in Ogudu GRA.
After Lekki Phase 1, you don't have any proper hotel suitable for expatriates, Them plenty for Ikeja GRA. Sheraton, Marriott and Co.
After 3rd Roundabout, na slum remain.

Better to stay in Ajah than to stay in many places on the mainland.
Just Ikeja try. Others na scrab

Wickedfact:
Funny guy. Do you know how many senior managers of oil firms stay in Magodo, Omole, Ogudu, Ikeja, Gbagada?
When you have spent your entire life rolling with paupers like you, you can't appreciate the mainland because you are sentenced to living in slums.
Mainland is irritating. The rent of some houses in Ikeja GRA will buy your entire family and put them in nylon bag.

Guy mainland is very irritating. No cap.
The guy is right.

Thrash actually.
More efforts needed.
This is very subpar.

Tinubu is a criminal.

ublight abi na wetin
Whatever you do, keep your classmates far away from your line of business.
Its always better to help from afar than to take them in.
Those people never cared about you when they thought you were nothing, and even now they do not really care. They're only after what you can offer and some will envious folks amongst them will try to bring about your downfall, one way or another.

If you go from hero to zero, they'll mock you, they'll treat you with disdain and you'll be the biggest loser.

You certainly didn't learn much from your mentor. If you did, you would know that it is always necessary to keep friends away your direct source of living, except partners and really trusted friends.

That is, if your story is true.

descarado:
Inflation is everywhere.

As for Nigeria, we are our own problem.
We come here and lament and it ends there.
An agent will make monetary offer to us to vote for his candidate, we forget about the long term and accept the money and then another set of lamentation.
Do you think the money given to you is freebie?

It will be recouped 10 times or more.

We then remember to write essay about how bad the govt is.

It's only in Nigeria that poverty makes people very docile.
Complaining always.

Men only when it comes to insulting and denegerating their women.

You last paragraph makes you an Ode. Big Ode.
Mumu