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TrapQueen77:
I asked first ooo...

lol you know what, just go n call your bae then imagine all wa d op said n put it into practice then snap n look at it

TrapQueen77:
Pishure or idonbelievit

post pictures of yours first and then op will follow suite

@florblu when am i getting mine

TrapQueen77:


Shudnt be the men are more likely to cheat?

They have gf but still they flirt back to back as if they are still single... they wud rather stay online coz their flirtmates are online than talking to their gf and spend quality time...


Men and their wahala...

the ladies they are flirting with, don't they have boyfriends? pls madam swerve if you don't know how to defend your kind

am here to read comments on guys deceiving themselves

nma24:
God loves a cheerful giver

and what are you giving back in return cus the bible also said, give and it shall be given unto you

Florblu:
You shouldn't have generalized it.
See how you are sweating upon 2k

read again, he didn't generalize

YOLO1:
Even though I have heard this saying b4, But I just confirmed the truth in this saying today. There are some ladies that bring shame and insults to other ladies through their acts and action. This is the reason some guys find it difficult to help / assist some ladies. 
There is this female friend of mine that I met back then in school, we are both graduate now. We have been keeping up through whatsapp and calls. Our friendship is solely on platonic relationship as we are not engaged in any form of sexual activity. 
She texted me last month that she is in need of 2k which I told her outrightly that I can't afford as am not working yet. As a matter of fact, she is more buoyant financially than me. Ever since then, I realised that our chatting changed as we hardly chat again. After some weeks, she inboxed me again and we started chatting but after our chat each day, she will remind me not to forget about her demand. I felt like blocking and deleting her initially but on the second thought, I felt like let me give it to her, She may be in dire need of it. To cut the whole story short, I sent her the money last week through my bank mobile app, was even charged extra #105 for transferring to another bank. She texted me via whatsapp to acknowledge the receipt of the money and ever since then, we have not chatted. 
Received the shocking part of my life when she called me just now that I should transfer #100 to that money again that her bank deducted #100 from the money. I was mad on phone. I shouted on her and I told her that am not a maga. I only sent her the initial request on compassionate ground and that am not her atm. I cut the phone immediately. Now I am determined that I will either lose any other female  friend than send them money if they request.

you have my support on that part and if they do anyhow just hola me

Benita27:
He doesn't look at me that way, that i knw of.

You're just assuming.

don't blame me cus life has taught me to always prepare for the worst situation you can check my siggy for more knowledge

Twaci:
Really?

Go through the OP's post very well and tell me if that was pretence

lol i wasn't talking about the op post, i was talking about your own post

Benita27:
If i did, i would have said so, no one will spank me right?, the relationship i have with the cousin is Godly, and most times wen we have issues he reports me to the cousin, the cousin was just a mediator and can't do that poo of betraying him with the cousin, there are guys out there you knw.

i don't know o but all i know is that the cousin is wooing you in godly way

Benita27:
I will try to make this as explicit as possible.

My bf and i have been having episodic misunderstanding, we've been dating for 2yrs now which was serious at some point, i knw he loves me, but all these while i have come to realize that he's an unstable person and whenever life happens he shuts me out, no matter how much i plead to be let into wat's happening.

He moved late last year to his state after he was given a job offer there, Imo State to be precise, and was suppose to be working with a company that's into movies production in Onitsha, though have never followed him up, i suppose he knws wat's good for him.

He kept asking me to pay him a visit at Owerri, and knowing the kind of family i'm born into, going where i will have to spend days isn't possible, without their consent, so i kept telling him why which he understood, then last month he transfered money into my account after he said he need to see me, even if it's one day, i was free so i headed for Owerri.

He picked me up in company of his friend, who dropped us off in his house, on our way there he said, " his friend's car was bashed by a keke driver and it piques him", while they were on their way to pick me up, i jst waved the subject, because i didn't see any damage.

We got to his place, he went out and came back smelling alcohol, i asked and he said he had a bottle, he asked of a friend of mine he knew and while i was talking i noticed he was glued to his laptop and stopped responding, i enquired why and he suddenly said he's business just crashed, i asked him to fill me in, but said i won't understand, the question i had in mind was, what kind of business will crash online, at abt 9pm.

He stopped talking to me, went to bed early, i felt neglected and blamed myself for going to see him, sincerely because i'm extremely emotional, i wept that nyt. as early as 6:00 i was ready to leave, he walked me out, gave me some money and started apologising, i jst told him everything was ok, though!, he could sense the anger facially, i got home, he never called to knw if i was home.

I ignored for a month plus, weighed my options, called him he didn't pick, then dropped a message on his inbox and ended the relationship since it was pending.

He has been apologising on watsapp, since i don't take his calls, but this is where my worries are: he has a cousin that likes me alot, who told me that dis my bf who jst got a job that's barely a year old bought a car, i went to his facebook account and confirmed it, i don't think he earns upto a 100k on that his movie job(guess work), i never asked him his salary cos i felt i will be asking too much, just got an apartment, and suddenly bought a car, although is fairly used, which he claims the source of the income is legitimate, i called a friend to knw wat his opinion might be, and he said my bf could be into yahoo business, i don't have the intentions of going back to him, even though he won't stop bothering me with love, but i sense he's into something bad.

Since then have been feeling uneasy towards him, and feel badly for his widow mother, though i'm not sure.

What do you think?.

the points I tool note of
1.you broke up with him
2.you thinking of the cousin that have feelings for you
3.you have moved on since he is now your ex
4.you are worried if he is yahoo guy cus of the source of his recent wealth.
5.you are confuse and thinking of going back

my advice; pls kindly move on with your life like you already did and there are other guys out there ok..my only worry is why did you have to bring up the cousin talk, seems you have feelings for him.

Twaci:

in sumarry ladies can pretend till they get what they want or see a better guy...

Twaci:
Oh no dear. Once u have been in a relationship where your feelings are not ENTIRELY reciprocated, a little attention from another guy would seem like bliss.

Now this is the reason ladies break off from a relationship and run into another quickly with hope and promises. They believe the next person would offer better.




To the OP, permit me to say u weren't worth her love.

I have been in this case before. Gave a guy all I had and all he could do was look for loopholes. Test and test and test......till I couldn't take it anymore.
When he finally concluded we were meant for each other, I had lost interest and yearned for a break.

I found the tiniest problem and broke off. Still don't regret it.

You all keep saying we don't love with all we have got....OP you are one of those that made it so.

Lick ur wounds and move on. Then, go look for that "perfect" one.

this is what they all say and at the end, they still prove he same by deceiving we guys.

ekanDamie:
U seem versed my bro, i cant disagree with u more on that, she has been in tonnes of relationshipz she says every of her exes always wanted her back.
She does know how to get to that heart.
But as regards d mistake u said i made, i just wanted to be sure that whether or not she was older than i am, i had a say in the relationship like i had my manly authorithy over her cos i was not ready to be anyones puppet.
Your last statememt howver seems to be profound, ignoring her is hardddd, yes with d feelings now attached. But its sometin i just have to do

point1; if everyone of her exes wants her back and they all broke up with her then its obvious she is the problem and need to fix that part right.
point2; if you want to make this work then just do as I say, ignore her and be yourself also bear in mind that no girl wants or would continue to date a guy that's not wanted by other girls(use your head).
point3;pls get yourself a side bae cus u will soon need it, with the way u v fallen hard, that's the only thing that will keep you sane when the truth eventually unveil itself.
point4;NEVER YOU PROMISE ANY LADY MARRIAGE or talk about future kids if you know you are not ready,barely know each other or don't pan on settling down anytime soon, all because you think it will make the relationship work out or solid.bro QUE SERA SERA

goodluck.

hkidola00:
pls and pls, day by day, anyone reading ur signature can break off dere relationship and God doesn't like dat...how can u say love doesn't exist publicly and married people do come on dis forum

tell yourself the truth, you know deep inside of you that it doesn't.
both singles and married am sure most if not all knows love doesn't really exist.
if am to ask you, am very sure you must hve been into more than one relationship of which you must have prophesy love to each other before parting ways, so what happened, did the love die, dissapeared or wasn't there in the first place?
God already said it, love thy neighbour as you love yourself but thia days, everyone only love themselves n forget thy neighbor.
so bro the only love i know of is God's love for us and every other love is fake and can't be called love cus it will only contradict the trhe meanig of love.

HINT; finally we claim to know, feel, and pray for love to come and when it does we don't put its true meaning into practice except for our selfish desires n urge..goodluck to those who still believe it exists in we human till they see the truth and accept the reality of life.

misspicy:
Wetin concern you

everything concern me

hahaha

samblack:
My girlfriend was getting dressed for work this morning and she asked me to close my eyes I said 'NO' then she picked her wrapper cover herself and face the mirror which was placed directly opposite where I was sitted,very wise abi.Believe me I've never had a better view of her until today lol,the mirror made it clearer.smiles

she went to work but no work for you or what?

she will soon dump your lazy ass if you don't find something better doing than coming here to tell us about her going to work everyday

curvysola:
smh

as in eh, the thing just keeps getting annoying with every single thread like this..they wont tell us when they started dating, they won't tell us when they started kpashing, they won't tell us who the moniker of the person they are dating, they will come her to tell us the fight they are having as if we really care to know..this are the kind of people they need to ban not people like me that tell them the truth all the time

truth is this, she has more experience than you considering the age gap coupled with the amount of relationships experience she must have had and she is using it against you.

1.the mistake you made at first was starting a fight you know you can't win.
2.is bad that you have fallen hard for her and she knows this now and will keep using it to her advantage.

my advice.
ignore her even though it will be hard considering the amount o love you now feel for her but just ignore her and give her that space..if her senses doesn't come back then count it as her loss and not yours, after all you have no plans of getting married anytime soon.

space booked

this land is not for sale

Rexhenrex:
Thats a very illogical thing to do and it makes no sense in trying it on your partner only if and only if you suspect them cheating on you.but aside that why do you need testing your spouse when they have never done anything to arouse the contempt of your trust for them....an ex did that by sending her bestie to try and know if am loyal to her by dating me. trust me the bestie sold her out by actually dating me and it tore my bae apart but she cost it and i dated her bestie without an iota of pity,because it didn't warrant it because i loved her but it hurt me because she had doubts of me. Everyone has a weak point no need testing there loyalty till the need warrants so to me its a capital NO trying this is using your own hand in ruining your relationship because when your spouse find out it might not go down well.

sharap you failed her test by dating her friend so don't justify it.

queencalipso:
I realised that most Nigerian women answer their hobby/bf sir when called. To me I believe its not appropriate because sir is meant to be an official word, so I feel irritated when ever I hear a lady answering sir to her man. Just this morning I heard my neighbour answered the same thing, and I wondered if its just me or there are people that share same thought.

Whatever happened to; yes darling, yes honey, sweet heart etc.

Just wondering why people use an official response as "sir" in intimate r/ship . Not romantic to me.


Romancelanders what do you think?

go and get your own bf or hubby so you can call him what you feel like

motive:
Hi nairalanders!!

Pls I av somethinq botherinq since.. My gurlfrnd broke up with me few mnths ago, though we both stil in good term we do communicate sometimes but not as back den, she nomarlly call me ask how am doinq this that bla bla.. She is a student, she got admission last year I knw things are not movinq fine for her, I do send her some little money to take care of her self.. There is one thinq she av been disturbinq me to buy for her, a laptop the fact is that I promise her a laptop if she got admission cuz it wil be helpful to her in skul, but that was when we are stil in relationship...

So I need u guiz advice if to stil buy her the stuff!!! She is disturbinq me about it..




Tnx..pls no insult

seriously you must be sick in the head, don't you know the meaning of the word ex?

she is using promise to blackmail you...ask yourself this question..didn't she promise you stuffs or affection and at the end, did not fulfill it?.

is obvious she broke up with you cus you can't stand on your words .

Pumpkin34:
I have so many messages that I can access, it's not easy accessing my messages.

o okay if you say so...when ever you get it fixed, the msg is there.

COME TO THINK OF IT, IS IT A MUST YOU MUST DATE?
YOU CAN STAY SINGLE, BE HAPPY AND IF NEED BE, FIND A MATURED FRIEND TO SATISFY YOUR URGE WITH NOTHING ATTACHED .THAT WAY YOUR HEART WON'T BE TAMPERED WITH.

THAT DRESSING MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL...LOOKS ABSURD TO ME AND SOME WILL STILL PUT ON UNDIES AS WELL..GOSH.

DoPeRoSa:
Hey guys..I need your advice on this

I've been dating this guy for over a year(distance relationship), our relationship has been amazing so far, though we do have issues but we are still going strong. About a week ago I noticed he isn't really the himself,so i asked what's wrong,he said it was due to stress from work,I accepted...but his attitude change even more and I insisted he tells me what is really happening,after much persuasion ,he agreed to tell me what is actually wrong when we chat online,I said ok.

Two nights ago we chatted, and I asked him to tell me what is wrong,because his mood and new attitude has affected me alot....To my greatest surprise he said his baby mama is around and she is giving him a tough time,I just thought he was playing around until he said he is serious,saying the girl is not in his life.. This is a guy I've loved with all my heart,The most painful part was that he never mentioned it to me,I could recall a time we were having a discussion that he asked "what would I do if he had a baby mama?" I just laughed over it and asked him if he had one,He said no, Tears alone cannot express how I feel right now,he has been apologizing ever since then saying "I'm the one he loves,he's going through hell without me" This is a guy I truly love

Should I move on with my life or continue the relationship??
cc:lalasticlala

op there is a lot to worry about, don't answer that trapqueen.why didn't he tell you from the on set?
i won't be surprise if you are his side chick cus distance relationship is a no no...you can't even confront him or go see things for yourself cus of the distance..i really pity those in distant relationship cus is more or less like a deceiving game being played by both parties..my advice to you is MOVE ON

only 1 of the ladies try, the rest i don't even know what to say..they only have two things in common, black and endowed.

i thought i was the only one with such ideology

Pumpkin34:
Hmmmmm, she's not ready to be committed. I understand her plight of been in need of her school fees but she went too far by uploading pics of she and the other guy, she's not remorseful for cheating. Tell your friend to move on.

i replied your msg, check your inbox