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herbie27:
Plz!, remind me. Cos have never posted anything that's personal.

hmm

herbie27:
it has already been modified b4 you quote me.

remember when i told you that post of yours will make people think ill of you n give you a bad name, well that's it right there with the guy calling u when it has nothing to do with u..so they will drop lies n rumors about u..

yori:
Where you there?

Do you know her??

Do you know what arrangement they had

Why come here and just type without thinking

God forgive you

you that was there what makes you think she isn't one of those girls that tell a guy no sex until marriage, and the poor Innocent guy still stick to it just to prove how much he loves her and wants to be with her and the only way she can pay him back is by leaving him for someone else.

jaybillionaire:
Chaiiiii . Try and av sex? Creates more bond? No, u r wrong it only creates more bond when u r married to d girl Buh outside that context, bro,it creates more space, like she'l loose d flavour. Come to even think of it, u r not yet married to a girl and u've gone to Israel, seen Jerusalem and u've even reached d Canan land, Travelling back n forth from d Canan land. Ah! So when d girl marries, Wt is left in the juice? Since d guy has sucked d juice dry n nothing new anymore

so all this marriage we have been seeing on NL are fake or what, let me guess the couples didn't have sex right?

the idea of sucking juice dry is just kid's story we hear every day and in the end we still chase after the girls.

hahaha this post just remind me of the good old days, that makes the whole sex crazy n mind blowing.

Rexhenrex:
not all guys are same and for your info i have never had sex.

ABIA, YOU EXPECT ME TO BELIEVE THAT...ABEG JUST SHIFT JARE CUS NOW I KNOW WHY YOU CREATED THE THREAD.

IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU NOT BEING ABLE TO KEEP UP WITH A RELATIONSHIP BUT ABOUT YOUR GETTING MORE LADIES FROM NL WITH THE THREAD.BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME

Rexhenrex:
i soo much detest and hate it thats a very quicker way for a break up.

don't b angry bro but if you can't then you are not ready for a relationship because that is the main ingredient in it..is like not putting salt in your food at all, which is the basic ingredient.

although you might find a girl(5% chance) who will share the same mind set with you but bro she will still cheat on you if the urge comes since you won't satisfy her sexual urge and still claim to love you.

I still don't or won't believe you don't do it, don't bkame me but I don't believe such easily, especially if one have tasted the forbidden fruit, is very very hard.

the cap spoikt everything but all the same she looks great, cool concept.

Rexhenrex:
thank you sir,would put this into consideration but the sex aspect i can't,

why if I may ask?

I guess you are not ready for the word RELATIONSHIP if the thoughts of breaking up keeps coming to your mind after a month or two and if care is not taken, it might affect your marriage.

my advice is this, ask yourself what do you want in a relationship? leave the issue of marriage out of it cus you can't handle it yet.

am sure you learnt one or two in your previous relationships, try to avoid those mistakes and learn to open up to your partner. communication is one of the basic keys in a good reparationship.

finally you said you don't have sex, I don't know how true that is but if is true, then please try and have sex cus it helps in creating more bond between partners.goodluck

EVERY MALLAM WITH OWN KETTLE

soberdrunk:
........and one guy man chop this 'food' without even printing "handbill" . THE FOOLISH THINGS WE DO IN THE NAME OF LOVE SHA!! NA SO ME SEF GO PRINT T-SHIRT THAT YEAR LIKE SAY I WAN CONTEST ELECTION, NOW SHE DON MARRY ANOTHER GUY ****CRYING***!!

AS IN EH, THE GUY GO JUST THEY ONE CORNER THEY LAUGH..IF ONLY WE GET AS MUCH KNOWLEDGE WEY WE GET NOW ABOUT LADIES BACK THEN

you go get sense for Lagos

ah

safarigirl:
i stated my opinion like your daddy did. Just because i'm not some Mummy GO doesn't make my opinion any less relevant

If you don't like my opinion, read my siggy please

well, be glad i don't exchange words with ladies not my thing but i will say this to you..your opinion does not count and is meaningless cus it doesn't change a thing and as a matter of fact, it won't go beyond this forum, after all it is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt of it.
obvious to see what a wife and good mother you will become.
concerning that of pastor chris n his wife which you used as reference to bill gate, have this at the back of your mind that marriage is a respecter of no man or woman so the issue of divorce can affect anyone including u n me.so do not think your point is relevant cus it won't change a thing.

SpicyJosBabe:
Well, at the beginning of this thread i emphatically noted the fact that hausa/fulani women are usually spoiled with luxury by their husbands who do all the hard work.

Hausa women usually stay indoors to pamper and maintain their complexion and skin, most of them hardly come outside. Their men do all the hussling.

obviously they were not given birth in fair completion..aii that answer that
the issue of the ladies from average family, you didn't address that cus most of those ladies are using iphone6(180k) that ain't average and since they are not allowed t go out work , how are they able to get it?
quite alright, northerners are pretty same with all tribes infact everyone is beautiful, the most important thing is money and maintenance.
basket mouth,a.y,linda,wizkid,flavor, n so many others we know today, if you take a look at their old pics before the fame and wealth you will see clearly the difference..so my dear, i respect the fact you did your research and came up with this but is the same everywhere.although i won't mind dating a northerner cus i v a thing for them and if you can help with that, thanks.

safarigirl:
Let his children marry each other and leave other people's kids out since the message is solely for them

Wetin concern me sef? Dude was just exercising his right to an opinion. Everyone that has slammed it did so because RCCG members posted the news on the internet. So, it was his kids that broadcasted it in the area, not people listening in, correct your logic. If someone didn't post it online and if RCCG wasn't broadcasting, no one would even hear of it. Same way the Pope of the Catholic church states his opinion on world affairs and Protestants carry the matter on their head

1 hour prayer did not save Oyakhilome's marriage, but Bill Gates and his wife have been married over 30 years and they don't even believe in prayer

and you think you are making sense with all the stuffs you wrote up there..pls face your own religion or church and stop speaking on issues that does not concern you in anyway

ITbomb:
So, why are the guys so dark?

SAME THING I WANT THE OP TO ANSWER, IF THE GUYS ARE DARK (95%), THEN HOW COME THE LADIES ARE FAIR?

MORE OVER MAJORITY OF THE LADIES UP THERE ARE FAR FROM AVERAGE FAMILIES... PLS OP EXPLAIN THE ABOVE THANKS

chinnasa:
Thank you guys for your comments, question and advise.

My brother raised 3 points.
Age ( that we are both age mates and everything will change after marriage he spoke on respect and all sorts) secondly Genotype and the issues of child bearing, complications and crises of a sickle cell person. Thirdly Tribal difference which is not really an issue but the children will end up being too English speaking children that do i wonder why majority of men from the South west no matter what happens or every tribe they date end up marrying their own tribe even an Edo man will not settle down with any tribe that all his staff (men) who are Edo play around with other girls from different tribes and end up with an Edo woman though he was quite sentimental there.

guy! this girl has crying since Sunday evening and i am really heartbroken to see her cry even if i have consoled her over and over.

hmmmmm i don tire

wow i get your brother point and i won't say he is right but if am to rate his percentage then i will say he is 60% right

1.age: he seem to have a point there cus the age difference is really an issue although some people will say is a number but bro is better to marry someone younger but if you feel the love you will still have for her will remain the same even after 5yrs, then you can overlook it and don't use it against her when she start looking like her age except if she is not the lazy type who won't keep fit.

2.genotype:am not a doctor neither am i God, what i will advice you is this, go to a good hospital and meet the doctor, explain things to him leave out the emotions so the doctor won't b sentimental and ask him for the best advice he can give to you..me personal would not want a situation were my kids will be sick all the time all because i took a wrong decision.so if the doctor said it is not a big deal, then that aspect is solved but if he says otherwise, pls do the kids a favor and save them from future pain.

3.tribal difference: to me that is not an issue, the most important issue is the background of the girl, some families have history be it good or bad, so make sure you have done a good background check..you have edge cus you are the guy so she is coming into the family and not the other way round.

so bro just pray about it before you finally take that final decision cus marriage is a life time decision..good luck

Sugarhugs:
I travel bfr

maybe cus i stopped seeing your comments or maybe cus ur gender was not showing.

Sugarhugs:

so u r still very much around

most of all this pics are Photoshop used by bloggers just to draw traffic

LuvU2:

no need to get upset, just change your belief that's all or better still, try not to make people get a wrong impression about you..aii take care then

LuvU2:
Why? whats wrong wif that.

maybe cus i have always hold u in high esteem but this thread just ** le me don't say.just do what makes you happy, i just hope you don't regret it even though i have a feeling you are only saying this just to see people's reaction

chinnasa:
Hello Guys,

All protocol observe,

I will go straight to the point. I have being dating my gf since the past 6 years and i planned to get married this year ending, all things being equal. From the first day we started she give me rules like, NO BLEEPING till marriage and BLINDLY ACCEPTED (thou not a priority to me)and on the long run i was really discipline and focused on my goals in life.

fast forward; Just yesterday we decided to go see my eldest brother to seek his consent as part of tradition(South East) and seek his consent. After the usual pleasantries my elder asked my gf the following question;

Where do you work?
How old are you?
Where are you from?
How much do your earn?
What your phenotype?

Her Answers

Secretary XYZ company
31 years old
Edo State
80k monthly
phenotype 'SS'

Same Question to me

IT Manager ABC Company
31 years old
Imo State
60k
Phenotype AA


My elder Brother called me later and gave the lecture of my life and told me that if i go ahead with the plan I should count him out and he will wash his hands off me.

I have not being myself. Please guys what do i do ?


Matured minds please Thank you.

Oga Lalala front page abeg.

what are his reasons he gave to you, bcus for him to have told you not to go ahead with the marriage plans, then he must have a good reason. so what are they?

she should meet their pastor or better still both of them see a doctor..as for me, before any marriage plans will start to kick of, i must make sure the belly is out n confirmed cus d amount of dnc some ladies do this days smh, only heaven can save one from falling prey.

it looks padded to me just like the NASS budget padding

emuje:
Something happened to my sister about a week ago which I would like to share here. My sister live in Akure, Ondo State. She was in a relationship with this young guy (photography attached below) for some months. This young guy claimed he works with GTBank plc Lagos branch; Abiodun Joseph by name as he claimed (because all his details are yet to be confirmed except his photographs). He visited my sister once in a while. About a week plus, he visited my sister in her private resident at Akure as usual (because my said sister is single lady).

Moreover, this last visit caused a lot of broken heart after the guy disappeared. He took almost N200,000 in her apartment and he also went with her phone and some documents that can be used to trace him. Not only that, he later used my sisters' phone to buy recharge cards/data amounted to almost N50,000 from her bank account thru mobile banking.

That was how the guy disappeared till date. Am writing this, because of our young ladies out there to be extra ordinary careful when it comes to dating and relationship. Shine your eyes!

BEWARE LADIES... SO MANY SCAMMERS AROUND PRETENDING AS A POTENTIAL HUSBAND...
His mobile number: ‭+234 814 113 3597‬

is it just me or is someone else having the feeling that this thread looks fishy...anyway, is one side of the story and i won't be surprise if the guy comes out tomorrow to deny the allegations.

LuvU2:
*musing-* For real i cant stand a pot-bellied man for long
I cant stand a scruffy looking man for long
I cant stand a smelly man
I cant stand a man who is wealthy but looks messy.

Why would a man be wealthy and erm unappealing to look at? If anything, he should look the best.

He can afford to gym. He has time too. He is in the best position to always eat healthy and stay fit.

Why would he want to look like my dad after 2,3 years of marriage?

If ive planned to look good even after having kids. Why not him?
Yes i plan looking good like my mum.

I remember my dad started to grow belly fat in his early 40s and my mum wasnt pleased. She didnt voice it bt my dad sensed her displeasure and hit the gym asap, continuously, until he trimmed completely. Till today, he still visits...

Well, if my hubby would be insensitive, I will try to caution him, if nothing works, its not i may cheat, i would cheat on him.

*How a man looks matters a lot*

your first thread and this is what you came up with and to make it all worse, you said you can cheat and still love the person

op just be smart is all I will say to you..

the fact he sponsored your education doesn't mean you should pay him back with sex and if you want to, then do it out of your own free will but bear in mind that you are hurting another lady.if she gets to find out, that will b the end for you and the guy and funny enough he will have to cut you off to save his marriage plans.

the issue of rape, am really sorry hearing that.try and talk to any elderly and matured lady you feel would help you come out of the trauma cus you still have the mentality that since you lost it without your will then you might as well give it out anyhow.
pls take that out of your mind, there is still a whole lot ahead of you and if you can make it pass that stage then am sure you will end up being a a strong and independent lady.

I don't understand all this people bring stories here for advice..I thought the guy said he has moved on, what advice does he want again..

Babztemmy:
I have being married for 5years and sadly I still dont feel so close to my husband. I got the bible says when two come together they become one. That is that become friends, right? But sadly it doesn't feel like it. My hubby is the kind that likes FULL time respect; greet me when you wake up in the morning, great me when I come back from work, (yes wives please greet your hubbys oo) am heading somewhere with this please dont judge me yet, don't go out without telling me, don't put your hands in my pocket, what are you looking for, don't talk
while am talking (that is even understandable tho) many more I can't mention. Don't tap me on my shoulders of you want to talk to me, don't,don't,don't. He also isnt romantic, he hates me bin romantic around him, it gets him upset. Its bin 4years plus and we still argue ALOT. I thought they said the first 3years is the time of misunderstandings but its 4years now and still nothing has really changed. Sometimes i try to make him talk maybe am not doing something right, and he just always seems to find a fault. Either I don't have respect or I don't have respect or I don't obey him everything calls to respect. Well it's not like I don't respect him or I just wake up in the morning and start disrespecting him. No, it's always in the cause of an argument so while am trying to justify myself or win the case, the disrespect sorts of crops it's way in, but fews hours later you will see me back all over him, trying to make peace but by then I have lost all my worth. he is way closer to his mum and sister than even to me.he prefers to shares all his secrets with them then with me. Last two weeks was like the saddest day of my life in this marriage journey. He bought a car for his mum,he didn't tell me,the car slept in the house over night I didn't know, on my way back from my outing I saw my hubby in a new car driving down with his mum, In amazement I came down to ask whose car it was and howcome I was kept in the dark, then his mum said "it's my car didn't you know?" I felt like a stranger all over again. I called his mum on the phone few mins after I left the embarrasing scene to ask why her son didn't share the good news to me knowing fully well an not against him buying her a car. And she said my husband said i didn't greet my hubby the night before and also that morning. Yes I remeber not greeting him the night vefore cause we had little ish and i just tot to do small shakara, then my not greeting him that morning wasn't intentional, I even apologised immediately my husband cautioned me and I thought we were fine. But I guess we weren't. This is where friendship comes in marriage. No matter what you patner does( as long as it's not adultery or some other serious things I know some women can do.) I feel you should still be able to still give her the respect due. Abi I really wish out vind could grow stronger, it's bin 4years andmy hubby doenst know my dress size, or shoe size or favorite artist or favourite food, my choice of music, my choice of anything, he hardly laughs at my joke, I can't tickle him or throw a pillow at him he will term it as lack of repect, I can't call him "ode"while joking he will say am rude, Its plenty ooo. I tot marriage was more you both becoming friends. Don't you think life is too short to be rigid ALL the time. My husband is very rigid it scares me alot if I would be able to go on for long.. I love him very much than anything in the world but he doesn't feel that way or that much for me. Not like he doesn't love me. But I think I love him more. So we are probably not on the same page. i want to be the one he can run to anyday anytine, share his secrets with, want to be the one that has the power to put the best smile on his face, but each time i try, i fail. WHY?? Is there still hope. Anyone in the house who has testimonies of marriage getting better after 4years. Cause i feel if you fail the first 3years you may never get it right. Mhen ladies you got to get it RIGHT from the beginning to avoid stories..

OP DID YOU SEE ALL THIS SIGNS BEFORE THE MARRIAGE AND IGNORED THEM OR DID HE CHANGED OVER NIGHT?

DO YOU GUYS HAVE KIDS, CUS I FEEL THAT SHOULD CALM HIM DOWN...