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CelebritiesRe: Jidekene Achufusi Covers Tushmagazine Issue 27 by selfdefence: 4:15pm On Jun 30, 2020
AMI3:
How useful is this info
its useful to many, maybe not you, well do you know you can open an account and operate it from the comfort of your smartphone just by dialing *737*0# ? now how useful is that for an info? wink
FamilyRe: Bride Price Or Marriage List:which Is Worse? by selfdefence: 4:10pm On Jun 30, 2020
Plead:
“Culture is culture and should be respected”
Do you realize killing of twins was once a culture in this country? Why was it stopped? It should’ve been respected.

Some traditions are outdated and shouldn’t be practiced in this modern era,marriage list and bride price are among them.

I wonder why it is even called bride “price” ,the price attached to the bride makes it look like she’s being sold or she’s some form of trophy or stuff like that.
“Culture is culture and should be respected”. Yes but definitely not all cultures, i will never be in support of the killing of twins but i see nothing wrong in pride price or dowry, forget the name, the idea behind it is what matters the most, a wife is something of value and to get one must have a price, nobody is selling anybody, its not slave trade, its marriage, one that was asked for by man to the woman, and she willingly agrees. So if you believe your a wife is something of value, Pay for it, you are not buying a property and thats why some cultures tell you that you can never finish payment of a price on their daughters head, the idea is you are paying a price not buying anything.
EducationRe: How Does A Boy Who Doesn't Know How To Cook Survive In The University? by selfdefence: 8:04pm On Jun 28, 2020
If you can afford to buy already cooked meals then it's quite easy and would save you time, just like carrying out all your payments from your mobile phone when you dial *737#.
SportsRe: Dj Cuppy Switches To Man Utd: Gets Official Welcome From The Club by selfdefence: 8:00pm On Jun 28, 2020
Lol, she's highly welcomed
SportsRe: Boko Haram Kills 10 Soldiers In Damboa, Borno by selfdefence: 4:50pm On Jun 28, 2020
Sad one undecided
FamilyRe: Once In A While, Do Something Crazy! by selfdefence: 4:50pm On Jun 28, 2020
I wouldn't really call it stupid per say, more like "Daring and Exciting". Do someone exciting like making all your transactions from your phone by dailing *737#. There's so much to you can achieve with that.
FamilyRe: Bride Price Or Marriage List:which Is Worse? by selfdefence: 4:46pm On Jun 28, 2020
Plead:
Lately a lot of people have been calling for the scrapping of bride price because it makes women look like properties to be bought and sold while this is correct I don’t agree with the other reason. The other reason is men see their wives are inferiors and treat them like trash because they paid bride price.

How much is bride price? Within 20naira - 5000. Why will any man treat his wife like trash because of that amount?doesn’t make sense.
I believe the male folks who treat their wives like that because with the excuse that they paid bride price are mistaking bride price for marriage list.
Why won’t a man feel like you’re his property after your folks have given him a list of 2m+ before they’ll endorse your marriage?
Why pay to marry a fellow human being like you?
The real culprit is the marriage list not the bride price itself.


Some folks argue that bride price is symbolic hence it shouldn’t be scrapped, what about marriage list? What is symbolic about marriage list?
culture is culture and it should be respected.

A man's attitude towards his spouse is not dependent on the amount paid as either bride price or marriage list, it's dependent on the type of man himself. A man that will treat his wife bad bcoz he feels he bought his wife for 1 million naira will still treat his wife bad even if he spent just 1 naira, it's not about the price paid or spent but the person. There are men who used millions to marry their wives and the wives have been treated like queens everyday.

Be it marriage list or bride price, it all depends on how you see or value it, someone will happily pay a lot of money to marry a girl just to show how valuable she is to him while the other will frown at it cos he feels he's not buying her after all, it all depends on person.
FamilyRe: God Saved Me From Thunder This Morning by selfdefence: 4:35pm On Jun 28, 2020
Carchoice:
e nor go pass tecno and her sisters
wetin TECNO do you na? I dey use Camon 12 air o and the ride has been smooth so far wink
CrimeRe: 6 Rifles Uncovered In Christ Holy Church, Delta State, As Police Arrest Pastor by selfdefence: 4:29pm On Jun 28, 2020
Hmmmm

PoliticsRe: Buhari’s CPC Seizes Control Of APC Party Structure - ThisDay by selfdefence: 4:28pm On Jun 28, 2020
North and Politics grin.
PoliticsRe: Whistle-Blower John Okupurhe: AGF Refusing To Pay After I Exposed $1bn Account by selfdefence: 3:21pm On Jun 28, 2020
Lolz, the Govt will tell you "they don't negotiate with SNITCHES"

CrimeRe: Police Arrest Two Highway Robbers On Lagos-Ibadan Expressway (Picture) by selfdefence: 3:21pm On Jun 28, 2020
Dem don enta grin
ProgrammingRe: Why Do Self Taught Programmers Over Exaggerate by selfdefence: 3:20pm On Jun 28, 2020
I think the whole idea is not just looking down on someone studying the course but challenging themselves that irrespective of whether they attended the degree course in University or not they can do much with what they learned outside school, it's just like me wondering why someone would stress themselves going to the banking hall for a transaction knowing fully well I could comfortably carry out any transactions from the comfort of my home by dailing *737# on my phone.
Nairaland GeneralRe: See The Python I Killed In My Street This Morning by selfdefence: 3:15pm On Jun 28, 2020
DenreleDave:
But u can kill a man with sex abi?? Harder harder harder harder...

All kill na kill sister gringrin
grin grin grin
CelebritiesRe: 'I Didn't Know Hushpuppi To Be A Criminal' - Daddy Freeze Replies His Critics by selfdefence: 3:14pm On Jun 28, 2020
Kriss216:
With all your self acclaimed intelligence, you didn't care to ask What or Who he's influencing?
you can imagine sad
PoliticsRe: Secondus, Obaseki Receive Copies Of Attention Magazine Adorned By Dr. Maduka by selfdefence: 3:13pm On Jun 28, 2020
Ok
PoliticsRe: Edo 2020: Igbineweka Emerges APM, Governorship Candidate (Photos) by selfdefence: 3:11pm On Jun 28, 2020
Congrats to him.
SportsRe: Cristiano Ronaldo Vs Hushpuppi: Who Wore It Better? by selfdefence: 3:10pm On Jun 28, 2020
People will definitely look way past the cloth to the person wearing it, remember it's Cr7 we're talking about here grin, whatever ever sha the cloth costs some cool money and if you want to get one of such you could easily make your transactions by dailing *737#. wink
PoliticsRe: Ajimobi's Burial: No Social Distancing As People Struggle To Get Food (Video) by selfdefence: 3:05pm On Jun 28, 2020
People are hungry and you're talking about social distancinghuh
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Sheffield United Vs Arsenal: FA Cup (1 - 2) On 28th June 2020 by selfdefence: 3:04pm On Jun 28, 2020
StepTwo:
Squawka

Sheffield United had not scored a goal since football restarted.

Then they played Arsenal.
that life happening
PoliticsRe: Abiola Ajimobi's Health Condition Worsens After Days In Coma by selfdefence: 8:14pm On Jun 22, 2020
I wish him quick recovery, when we see things like these it makes us appreciate all those you have donated in one way or the other or reduce the effect on this Covid19 on us.
PoliticsRe: Who Are The Public Figures In Nigeria You Still Respect Dead Or Alive? by selfdefence: 7:36pm On Jun 22, 2020
The late Dora Akunyili
BusinessRe: Igbos In Cross River Shut Down Shops Over Kidnapping Of Their Brothers by selfdefence: 7:35pm On Jun 22, 2020
The kidnapping rate in the country now is becoming really alarming
HealthRe: Abia Discharges 93 COVID-19 Patients by selfdefence: 7:32pm On Jun 22, 2020
Very good news
PoliticsRe: Protesters Storm APC Secretariat Abuja, Demand Sack Of NWC (Photos) by selfdefence: 2:41pm On Jun 22, 2020
wow
PoliticsRe: ECOWAS Endorses Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala For WTO Job by selfdefence: 2:40pm On Jun 22, 2020
nice one, this is great news
PoliticsRe: General Otiki: Caught In The Web Of Sokoto Election Politics! By PRNigeria by selfdefence: 2:38pm On Jun 22, 2020
omo, no be small thing o
agabusta:
He claimed he was not feeling fine during trial.
RomanceRe: Don't Ever Date A Broke Girl by selfdefence: 2:37pm On Jun 22, 2020
fair point i wont even lie
Iceyjayz:
Stay away from broke girls, run as fast as you can if possible, if you are earning good income monthly stick to high class ladies that are earning good income too, so that you can both complement each other.

I've learnt the hard way and I can never repeat such stupid mistake again.
SportsRe: Undertaker Announces Retirement From Wrestling by selfdefence: 1:25pm On Jun 22, 2020
grin grin grin
nairamaniac:
He is free to leave the Scene.

We wouldnt miss him one bit, cos these guys have taken over.
PoliticsRe: General Otiki: Caught In The Web Of Sokoto Election Politics! By PRNigeria by selfdefence: 1:25pm On Jun 22, 2020
why is he on wheelchair ?
agabusta:
Don't mind them! Despite the state of the nation, some people will still be using politics to thwart every sane move by the govt to punish graft.

This dishonoured Otiki is both a thief and an actor.

Look at him borrowing the act of political thieves during his court martial.

The punishment is even light, he should have been demoted to a major before being dishonourably discharged!
Jobs/VacanciesRe: At What Age Did You Make Your First N100,000? by selfdefence: 1:21pm On Jun 22, 2020
I haven't earned that at once, though i just open a new account with *737*0# solely for the purpose of saving, if I cant earn 100K at once i should be able to save what i am getting now for a better future still.
AgricultureRe: Lagos To Establish Fruit Orchards In 20 Secondary Schools by selfdefence: 1:18pm On Jun 22, 2020
this is fantastic, it of benefit both educationally and economically

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