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"'Open to what"?

honeric01: Can you read at all or you have issues with comprehension? we are talking about WIFE/WOMAN here NOT a CHILD. chai!
I know you're a woman but i can bet that my last sibling is more "beautiful" than you and yes he's a MALE

So the person who risked her life to give you the son you are so proud of is worth less than the son. You are not making sense.

I have to be a female to understand women's plight. You are the only male on the planet who doesn't have a female relative. You all expect all men to treat women with disrespect . This is a new decade where you are accountable to God. As you treat your wife so it is another worwor Niger man would treat all your female relatives.

Super worwor Niger man!

honeric01: It seems you want to talk today abi? hehehehe itching fingers right?

For a start, what does a woman do for me that's from her own free-will without any pleasure going back to her in return?

Why would any woman want to go out with a selfish man is beyond me. So to do anything for your child you will expect some favour back? Your child is your blood. You and your wife are one says the bible. If you don't understand something so simple, then talking to you is like talking to a 2 yr old . Typical worwor Nigeria man (@poster Mrs Chima)

alj harem: Most Nigerian ladies don't respect their men. In fact it is fashionable for a woman to cheat on her husband now. Very indiscipline set of women I must lament.

This WOMEN RIGHT rubbish is the cause of all these IMO. Women when they have too much power it gets into their heads. High divorce rate because women are now seen as lords over men (western ideology) and because of this Nigerian women sheepishly follow without realising how much they have destroyed the institute of marriage

Stupid generalisation. Stop being a bitter divorcee and let God choose for you next time. Next time you may just be happy if you show love and support rather than harshness which a lot of guys favour. Women respond to love not a dictator!

tintingz: LMFAO! can you show me where Jesus wash a woman's feet, carry her, hug her, cook for her, go to farm for her, buy things for her etc in that your bible. . .since Jesus is a bachelor all his life time how can i get a marraige/family example from him, how do i know the way i should treat my woman from him. . .the muslims knows better in family guides(respect for women) than the christians do

Are you claiming to be Jesus? Are u claiming to be a Muslim? Ignorance . Common sense is not common.

honeric01: Please show us where in the bible it was stated that we should do all that to our wives.. thanks in advance!

Where in the bible does it says woman should do all the things they do for you.

I guess common sense is not common.

born2fuck: Cook for her is impossible because I don't even know how to cook, why will men open door for lady when hands is not paining her, most of these mentioned are gbewudani things, why not include watch her pants and bra, oyinbo don turn unda head to kainkain, if I come marry 3 wives nko?

Why would you be ''watching'' her pants and bra ? You need your head examined.

Timijo: She is not just a woman, but your wife i.e. part of you.

Waste not your breath! Many don't even understand the vows they took before the altar of God.

ceeceeco: Over pampering a woman is not wise else she's gonna take u 4 a ride...Take note guys.

please define over pampering? I take it you are a church rat. Please speak for yourself.

Rooneyboy: my point is ,
DON'T PAMPER THEM.

What you sow into your madam is what you will get back . If you care, you don't need to be told what to do. A lot of women know difference btw the boys from the men.

lukaino: I tried No 7 and regretted it because the few things i did to help out automatically became my duties; if i don't do them, nobody does so i stopped doing 'em.

Employ a maid. No woman is born to with a particular duty in their hands. It's both your home if you can't maintain it, then employ a cleaner.

Rooneyboy: U don't seem to get it bro, be it wife, girlfriend, concubine , anything u feel like calling it , a Naija lady would take u for a BIG RIDE if u pamper her this much.

Then marry a man who won't take you for a ride. Is it by force it has to be a woman?

Cutex01: I disagree with m0st of ur points, haba!! na wetyn nao, if i d0n do all dis boy boy finish y i n0 go turn mumu 4 her face. All those tyns wey u menti0n n0 b 4 guy- man lyk me

Another so called 'man'. You need to marry a housemaid. Don't bother with marrying a companion you can love and support. How can Love equal slavery ?

[quote author=Ogidi-Olu]Am I the only one that thinks NL's front page topics are just repetitions and are becoming monotonous? [/quote]Hmmm. So what interesting topics have you posted?

mmmustapha: Dis writer wanna make guys house boys, u will never satisfy. How can u be doing all dis shit alone, r we slaves

Good example of so called 'men'...if you show love to your madam , you are deemed to be her slave. What ignorance. But they expect Madam to love them at all times with all of their being. They sow potato but want to harvest apple!!!

Lexoria: my hubby does some of the things here and others that aint and I appreciate it a lot,infact I do somethings for him that he knows Is impossible for me to do but I go against all odds to do it just to show my appreciation.
Any girl who likes mean and wicked needs spiritual,psycological and mental evaluation.Mean and wicked is why I have issues with most nigerian men...they are mean and wicked,especially the ones on this forum.

You can say it again. A lot of the men on NL are money miss road blackberry carriers . Why anyone would want to be emotionally attached to this yeye men beats me. certainly won't call all of them 'men' lets be clear about that.

[quote author=e.dynasty]If i cook for her and do the role of a boy boy what then will she be doing in my life....poster wake up to reality...women hate men who pamper them more than their dad's did. Its a fact![/quote]Loving your wife and showing you love her by helping in the kitchen is not boy boy. If you have kids, can you not cook for your children when your wife is away? You may be married to the wrong woman but many nigerian women respond to genuine love in all essence not sex motivated love.

MOBBDEEP: I just don't fathom it! Why a lot of people don't only lack diplomacy, but they in addition pack caustic tongue join. We can't share the same view on a controversial issues like this. But then, there are refined ways of contributing your opinion or view. Even if the OP was outright wrong, politeness&courtesy still demands not being desirive. I get pissed frequently seeing people passing very damaging remarks on people as if they are talking to robots with no psyche. Aha!!!

Where are the psychologist in the house, especially the child specialist ?

@ Idi-Amin(I guess your username/ID is even giving some people an eerie feeling), we can't say you are wrong or right. Here are the facts :
* A lot of what culture & norms imbibe on us are just baseless & without reason e.g not using your hand to touch rain, pregnant woman attaching/fastening pin to their cloth before going out in the day etc
Hence the culture in some tribes, at least I know of Igbo, may be without reason.

A point of digression, if not for Adam & Eve in the Biblical Adamite Creation story, I guess all of us will be naked by now. Hence, you can simply say clothing is a fallout of man's original transgression with no sexual tone to it.
Which is why the name 'Pudenda' which is used for private part has its root word to mean 'shame' - which refers us back to the feeling Adam & Eve felt in the garden. There's no more to it than that.

If I get you right, we are trying to weigh the effect/influence of this behaviour on your children. Are their any negative(or positive) on the children.
Capital no.

1. There is what we call imprinting. Those children will naturally grow without even taking into cognizance that 'something' is unusual/funny/out of place/strange.
For the contributors who are of the opinion that the effect is gender-based, it is far from the truth. There is no marked difference between a boy-child & girl-child except for the physical trait & some trace cognitive functions. As a matter of fact, you can raise a girl to behave like a man & vice-versa.
In fact, studies have shown that a parent is more likely to raise unusual curiosity in children when you are TOO OVERTLY conscious of your nudity. ( How many of the smartalecs in the house can testify to that remembering asking our young curious minds question on why mum & dad are locking themselves in?)

But then, that is where it ends.
I do know that in this setting, it is easier for the ugliness in an abusive/irresponsible/unstable parent to reap its head.
Equally, since it is becoming a sort of rigmarole between you & your wife ( and I assume in this scenario, it should be easier for you to bend/adjust to her voice than for her to change), for the sake of mutual peace & love, you should try to adjust. Not necessarily because you are doing a bad thing, but because you want peace to reign.
Hope I won't get insulted!

Long story. Too much grammer. What exactly is your point lecturer?

timbros: You just forced me to comment on this thread.
Must you bring religion into this? I hope you know you want to detrail this thread. Jehovah's Witnesses editing the bible? Thats just plain silly. Are there examples you have to back up your claim? The fact that you dont agree with their interpretation of the bible doesnt make them "edit the bible". How are you sure your not the one editing the bible? Afam just asked you a question which you havent even aswered correctly and here you have turned the discussion religiously. Although the sons of Noah shielded their eyes from seeing their father's unclothedness, the question still stands, did Noah curse the other son because he SAW his unclothedness or because he MOCKED his unclothedness?
Just a question and you have changed it to Jehovah's Witnesses editing the bible. @all:
Sorry for derailing the topic a bit. But the quoted pissed me off how he misinterpret Jehovah's Witnesses. If you dont agree with them you dont have to go about misinterpreting them.

Yes, i am one of Jehovah's Witnesses.

You are a Fake Jehovah's Witness. What are doing on a site like this? You are experts are modifying the Bible to suit your needs but am sure even you cant justify such sick behaviour.

You are probably on the site to witness to the poster because I have no idea why you were attracted by the topic.

If you are angered by my response, it proves my logic that you guys are a modern day cult and experts at brain washing.If you are not, then it means you are pals with the sick poster.

You need psychiatric evaluation

Halloween is celebrated by witches. So all witches on NL this is for you. Am off

gwas: Are you okay?

Did you have to ask him what is already obvious ?

[quote author=Plantain_Boy]When they're tired of looking at your's, they'll look elsewhere. Are yu trying 2 seduce your daughters or what?[/quote]Don't mind him. Who knows what he is up to already ?

Sick man!!

You are stealing your children's innocence. Sort out your ego before your stupid judgement comes back and bite you in the face. Sick !!!

andyanders: It is totally wrong. What you wife said is right and should be ad-heard to. Never try that no matter how primitive you are. I have four boys and always warn my wife not to bath with them and she has kept to that.

True talk.

Stunning and dignified. You can show your beauty without stripping off.

Feraz: I'm still surprised with one thing though and I noticed it's a common trend....why must people always strip off the clothes of any thief they catch?? Why is this always the first thing? What's the correlation

In our culture, your nxxxakedness is sacred to you and sex is still seen as a taboo . In the western world you have access to all kind of films and there is no big deal with seeing a naked body. Hence the fascination for some sick Nigerians. It's also to strip them of their dignity so they can't run.

If anything must change. We Have to be the ones to change :

1. Stop TAKING nakxd pictures of your fellow citizens criminals or victims
2. Stop POSTING pictures of victims/perpetrators of crime on the Internet

This is the only country that post nXXked pictures of victims/perpetrators of crimes on the net. It is unacceptable that these pictures were put on this forum of a Nigerian by a Nigerian.. If you have a desire for such pictures please visit all the free porn sites on the net.

God will judge you in the way you do not expect. The fact that they are criminals does not make it acceptable. Vote with your voice and avoid such threads .

kekakuz: Where will this take them to.very skinny ugly tinz.this big brother tin is a rip off of african values.

Why shove 3 pictures into our face. 1 is enough to make anyone ask for a dog bag.

....who can we blame? Too many worwor Niger men (@poster Mrs Chima) ) is pushing many Niger women over the edge. They look like animals!

Who are they anyway?

Drunk: It's a free world. We are who we are

You mean you don't know who you are? I guess the same goes for rapxxt, child molesters, fathers who sleep with their daughters, those who sleep with animals, swingers etc.....they can also claim acceptance on the basis of your argument . Shame on you!