opetu:

I ddnt, we were both medical students nd she wasnt young, infact d whole pregnancy issue , she sure wanted it may b to trap me down, it was a one night thingy..yes i knw dats enough to get anyone pregnant, the marriage was sumthing she was happy about also.. Even in Our NYSC after marriage she started misbehaving saying i was cheating. it just a calamity marriage ..tnx..wud pray towards it

You should have prayed before you married. This is why the true churches of God discourage sex before marriage.

The sex clouds your judgement.

What you should have done then is what you should do now. PRAY.

deeptesting: It is really difficult to advice married couples because majority of us got married for the wrong reasons,most marital decisions were made out of sentiments,emotions,infatuation etc. When the reality begins to unfold matured adults who in the presences of tens,hundreds,thousands or millions of friends,brothers,sisters,parents and well wishers as the case may be consented and say "yes" I do begin to act like toddlers. When two adults consentualy decides to live as husband and wife,they must understand that you will loose some certain things and gain some certain things...The question is what are you ready to gain and loose?.OP stay tuned to be continued!

Well said.

There are two sides to a story.

To be married is one thing but to SUSTAIN it is another task. We all need the help of God to survive in everything we do and marriage is no exception.

Anyone who beats a woman to submission is an ANIMAL including all those who 'liked' such violent action.

J3da: ....how i wish they knew that their drooling at the sight of a well endowed woman is cruel not only to the victim of that gaze,….

Here, I bring list of things I don't like in guys
1. Having the biggest ego: Ever wondered why men hate taking directions and prefer hunting out the place on their own, even if it means 2 hours delay and waste of gas. Well, the answer is the big ego they walk around with. This was the pettiest exemplar of a man’s ego, which gets hurt at the drop of the hat and needs a massage whenever possible.

2. Living with a ‘selective memory’: They’ll not only remember the name of every cricketer and football player on the planet but will also know their scores by heart. But, the moment the deal is about remembering birthdays and anniversaries of people close to them, their brain suffers an ailment called ‘selective memory syndrome’.

3. Ogling: ‘Men do stare at women’s breasts’ has been stamped as official by a world wide survey. But how we wish they knew that their drooling at the sight of a well endowed woman is cruel not only to the victim of that gaze, but also to the woman sitting beside them. Yes, they don’t miss any chance, even if it is when they are on a date!

4. Being overtly possessive: Where in the world did men get that insecurity from? (Their mother? ) They blame women for being jealous but a mere mention of another man from their girl can turn them into an ever clinging magnet.

5. Taking pride in their hypocrisy: Men can’t get more cruel than this! They love hanging around with the coolest and sexiest babe in the town, but when it comes to meeting mom, it’s a ‘homely’ girl they start hunting for. You loved her dressing style and carefree attitude when she came for night-outs with you, what’s with that marriage material hunt now?

6. Showing extra care: How does it feel to take his ‘where-about’ calls every 15 minutes after you step out of the home? The care in that gesture goes out of the window and irritation takes charge. Don’t they realise that we lived safe, sound and perfectly well in this world before they came into our lives. Hope someone is listening.

7. Throwing their ‘superman’ self everywhere: Yes, it feels nice when men are around for some help. However, their ‘I-can-do-everything-under-the-sun’ attitude does more harm than good, especially when they think themselves to be exalted beings - a plumber, electrician, carpenter and a financial adviser all rolled into one.

8. Consider emotions to be crap: Women might be emotional but having a constant practical point of view, like men doesn’t, score well always. Men will become better beings for sure, if they stop making fun of sentiments and ignoring them as useless.

9. Being the friend worshipers: It is very torturing for women when men don’t learn to priorities their life post marriage. They blame her for being a clinging vine when she asks for his time, but how sane is it to have a bunch of friends in the backseat on a long-drive, which was planned to be a romantic one?

10. Being the sex monster: Undoubtedly, women love zest in bed, but it’s very cruel of men to demand their partners to play the porn star they saw in that flick last night. It’s better to let her be herself in a sexcapade rather than putting her in an uncomfy situation and then blaming her for being non-cooperative

11. Men give importance to a woman's body than her mind. They think women don’t have intelligence, so they have to look beautiful. Men objectify women.

12. Men are chauvinists. They think they are superiors. They never practice equality. They take women for granted. Why can’t they even come home on time? "This makes women feel neglected and ignored."

13. Men think they know things better than women. When women want to discuss, men try to solve problems. They always don the role of helper. Men think they are always right, therefore don't take corrections.

14. Men are pretenders. They always pretend what they are not. They always want to impress women. They think they know everything.

15. Men seem to act overtly macho. All the time they try to look strong and act as protectors. They are over possessive and never want to let go their tough-guy image.

16. Men never give importance to what a woman really wants, all they want from women is submission. Men expect women to sacrifice lots of things for the sake of family, but they never give up anything.

17. Men are not sincere when it comes to maintaining relationship. They cheat "on" their girlfriends and their wives. They don’t understand women’s feelings.

18. Men are unpredictable. They hurt women but a while "later" they try to become "angels" and wipe their tears. But why "do" they act insensitive in the first place.

19. Men interpret women’s love, care and support as pestering. Whenever women show concern for their men, they say they want space. But the truth is they can’t handle commitment
Guys grow up...

Brilliant list. Good English. Good grammar. Clear and succinct.

Real honest and full facts especially the point about worshipping friends.

sweetestguy: d one I created, got very little comments

....because it's not about sex, women or men....This is not a forum for intelligent discussions.....

dancrux: Is true sha buh some will take u 6months b4 u see pant....

....Small guys like you give 'real' men a bad name...

edorhe14: DAT stuff beats me..Most ladies think guys always are sexfreak..
That's not the case..
I will take myself as a case study..I once dated asked a lady out before she said Yes she gave me the condition of no sex.
I agreed only for her to start misbehaving,I don't no who gave her this deluded idea that she could toss a guy around cos she hasn't given it up.
Until one fateful day I just couldn't take her ish anymore ..I had to cut her loose..
Till today she still begs for a second chance.
#Moral...Ladies its not all abt sex to every guy out there.
Y'all should be grateful DAT a guy is plucking Ur cherry.

...super story. ...

kenwood002: Because women are stupiiid.

...Including all your female relatives. ...sister, mother etc

...your brain is upside down for making such a silly comment. Without a woman where will you be? You are obviously not from a good home if despite all the input from the female relatives in your life to date you are on a public forum calling them stupiid.

NL need to set up a separate forum for teenagers like you!

Alexpetra: or maybe he his using d media to preach d word of God to d dying world
have u guyz ever for once visited his FB page??

Is there FB in the Bible? Is God on FB? Is FB a Christian tool or invention?

God is not a man. He looks at the the heart not all these superficial things that man worship.

Soloter: The Man hasn't compelled you to stop celebrating Christmas. He has simply said Christmas is not Biblical and so him and the ones he's shepherding can't observe it. it's left for you to search the Scriptures and see if what he said is true or otherwise.

Religion is a personal decision. Let every one celebrate Christ how they know. Our personal encounters with the Lord are not same so why should we all celebrate the same way.

No one can stop the world from celebrating the birth of Christ.

Christ will live long after all these human doctrines and thier owners are long gone. Christ lives in the heart not in all these propaganda.

PAGAN 9JA:


I believe God exists but I dont believe a jewish man like jesus can be a God.

.....I refuse to be drawn into a discussion with someone who is clearly not normal. Since you only believe in yourself, please enjoy the rest of the year in the doghouse.

My own thing is that you get off the thread and stop wasting your time. Your pretence is not funny but shows evidence of advanced dementia.

smurfy:

alla.h the light? Don't make me laugh. Your alla.h is the source of 100% of the world's problems.

Religion of peace my foot!

That pagan naija always displays symptoms of someone whose brain was sold off at birth. No one is asking you to convert to Christianity but on every Christian thread he is the first to vomit garbage. He is not normal and needs to be donated for experiment.

PAGAN 9JA:



Allah is also a Pagan God. you should stop worshipping Allah.

Allah has 3 daughters - Al Manat, Al Lat, Al Uzza.

so if you worship Allah , you must worship Allahs daughters.

If you disrespect Allahs daughters, you disrespect Allah.

No prophet muhammad or man has the right to speak on behalf of Allah.

Allah is the God of all.

Lots of ignorant people on this thread. You need psychiatric examination. What does darkness have in common with light? What does Christ have to do with Alla..h and his daughters? Did you not read the title of the thread?

Every Jack and Jill tend to jump up and down on NL to comment on Christian threads; commenting on a GOD they know nothing about. It's a symptom of SENILE DEMENTIA.

If you truly believe GOD doesn't exist why bother arguing about something that doesn't exist. You are merely deceiving yourself. No one cares what you think. God has been living forever and will live even after your rotten body hits the grave so please grow up and get a life . Your opinion only counts in the dog laboratory .

NL can be full of rubbish most days.

All of them are maddd and attention seeking bugs.

They need to get a life.

Polio: Apart from what Kumuyi is talking about...Jesus was not born on 25th December, widely regarded as Xmas day, so what the fu..ck is being celebrated?!

Please what is " Xmas"?

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and way of life. In my church and my family we will celebrate the birth of CHRIST ON CHRISTMAS DAY 25TH OF DECEMBER.

We will celebrate God how and when we choose. We follow NO man, doctrine or pastor or opinions. No one has ever seen God so no one knows for sure what the right thing is about Christmas.

Everyone should concentrate on thier salvation. Don't celebrate Christmas if you don't believe in it. Don't force your own doctrines on others.

What a terrible country. Anyone can now go and get some army officers and demolish peoples homes.

No legal proceedings followed. No alternative offered. No support given. No real notice given.

A shambolic nation ran by shambolic people, institutions and government.

.....NL and all its immoral fake stories...
Boring...boring. ..boring

Flee from the maddening crowd.....

What is height without heart?

Every lady of colour appreciates a big heart over a 'big' height.

phr33man: For me, i see nothing bad in marrying a muslim and vice versa if there's enough communication and sound understanding. Afterall, we all serve the same God bt different medium. Never 4get dat ds religious issue started 4rm d sons of Abraham ishmael (son of maid) and isaac (son of sarah) abrahams wife. That's why the muslims believe they are messengers of God/Allah while xtians children of God. If any1 thinks is superior den he/she should leave d battle for his/her God. But i strongly anybody can marry any1 irrespective of their believe. As a mata of fact, dey can get married n go with their different believes.

You are definitely not a Christian. You certainly do not know anything about the Bible.

I am a Bible believing Christian and certainly don't serve the God you described above or a Muslim God.

jammyunn: My fiance is a core muslim lady and we've made our decisions on how things should be.

....I hope you have also made a decision about how you will split your earnings too when you divorce because you are simply storing up problems for the future.


How will your own'two' because one?

Joyeux: A strong fanatic christain cannot marry a strong fanatic muslim.it can only happen if one of them is not strong in his/her faith.

....Agreed. This will only work as one of them is none serving. Which means one of them is a hypocrite.

sandijey: Does not exist!

.. obviously if your mind is saying that it doesn't exist to you. ...then that's how it will be to you. The power of the mind. The mind is a battle field.

Sounds like me. ..Most of the time.

My strength comes from serving GOD. He is my hope so I draw help from that and transfer all my confidence to God rather than human beings or situations.

Zakamori:
na who you dey deceive

... in what sense? All these small minded people who because they have no self control assumes everyone is the same. ....

Roda94:

Loool it's a RCCG one but some others don't/won't agree with my point of view so I guess it's down to the individual. As for me sha, I'm all for 100% courtship God's way

Please keep it up.

bettercreature: what did you expect when someone bought a gun 16k and even got free bullets

.....hmmm

icebebe: somtyms i wonder if dis two are les,lik datin demselves,av neva seen a photo of dem wiv fwends or lovers,jus dem dem dem dem dem dem! na wa o una own twins strong o

Where are the men?