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Op the only advice is for you to give your life to Christ and take care of your unborn children..

Use this one to learn your lesson and don't kill yourself so that those Ladies you impregnated won't suffer it alone and for your children to have a father...

[quote author=crackkhaus post=90111908]In this progressive era of sexual freedom and marriage is not important sermons, you're doing very well...

Sexual freedom.... Spiritual bondage
Let's call a spade a spade

Though love conquers all but is not total enough....no matter how much you love someone as a guy and the person refuses to respect you with time your love will start waxing cold
So love and respect is what will sustain marriage...cos someone you love you can easily trust..

I think why you are feeling this way is because of the popular increase in design with your smartphone...but dear is not about everybody is doing it, just look for something unique in the same line and perfect it, since is your passion fine a problem in the graphics word and photography and solve it...


Then people can pay you for value provided....

What is your reason for saying that?
If you can make your reason known to us maybe we can render help where necessary and explain some things that you seem not to understand

Start by saying hi to your colleague at Your work place
Most times the things we face growing up makes us to build protective walls and keep things to ourselves...
He that wants a friend will show himself friendly.... show yourself as friendly forget all these temperaments stuff and breakout of your wall...

And please don't end your life

OsuIgboIpob:
This is stupîd!
Always use your brain.

No be to dey always do the bidding of every thing wey get hole in-between legs.

For your information Mr, you that always use your brain apology doesn't imply that you are wrong but is a sign of maturity for peace to reign....
If you are married and have a good home or you came from a good/great home you will understand what it means to strive for peace to reign in your home not just for your wife but also for your children's sake and for your own sanity....
There is nothing as great as having a good home...

merahki:
This is a really cool and mature advice. It encourages purpose, drive and caring all at once. And it is the plain truth. I like it.

Thank you sir

Naija246:
mumu, I for use plank break your head if you said this near me
Spineless man!

Mr man stop seeking attention by trying to be savage you would have made your point without calling someone names
Mr man try and think twice next time before you talk

This is the best decision ever...thank you for taking this bold step
First I want you to have this understanding that God is your Father and that because of Moezzy1 he sent his only begotten son Jesus to died because he so much loves Moezzy1..and because you are his son
You are already his son but all you need is to believe it and never doubt it
Wherever you are now please say this:-Lord Jesus please come into my heart and take control...and I believe you died for me..from today am yours, guide me on every step of my life in Jesus name Amen
You are now a new creation...old things have passed away all things have become new... Glory be to God!!!
Talk to him as you talk to your friend and involve him in everything you are doing...
He hears everything you have Said even when you are typing this message he's aware of it...
Talk to him from your heart and mean every word you are saying
As for the Bible ask him to teach you to understand and believe and trust that he has heard you then read your Bible...you will definitely understand it...

Just4test:
I really apreciate this your advice..it really gives me relief

Is well...you will soon get over it.. just start your planning now

My dear is just for you to keep praying and use Bible verses... Matthew 18:18 Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
And please confess this Scripture and don't stop Psalm 118 v17 I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the Lord in the land of the living...
If it doesn't stop please see your spiritual head

Government and CRS

Op helping your family isn't bad but when is dragging you back please cut the access
you can't raise above your present state.. cos for you to help them first you must establish yourself if not you remain in the same mess with them and never achieve what you desire
The only solution is for you to build yourself first...a blind man can't led another blind person so you need to be financially stable before giving them the kind of help they want if not ..in the process of you helping you might end up struggling so be wise

Disowning him won't solve any issue cos he will still be around the environment
But I think you people should take him to psychiatric hospital for the last time and use prayer to back it up and when he comes out... please change his environment because it also affects him
If you have an uncle or someone he listens to the person should always talk senses into him...this won't be easy but give it a try

LinLinGentle:
Once again, neither of us was saintly back in Nigeria. I visited from abroad one time and discovered she was on dating websites and attempting to be with men amongst other disgusting things. This was one of the
reasons why we almost got divorced. Her family elders went with her to our family house to beg me and my people not to proceed with the divorce cos I had actually filed and sent the petition.

I forgave her for the sake of our children. They're my usual weak point that everyone uses to box me into a corner to get me to do something stupid. We resolved all issues and she and her family made several promises regarding her behaviours. I thought that it night be time we started planning on their relocation abroad as eliminating distance would be best for us all, only to get to this country and started dealing with even bigger sh**t

So there is really nothing like "Ask for forgiveness for all you did in Nigeria". I wasn't bashing or maltreating this woman. She is tougher than someone that could be maltreated sef. I have my occasional outbursts every now and then when I'm at my wit's end, but that's just about it.

I understand everything you said but if you really want peace to reign in your home ask her for forgiveness...even for the things you don't know you did..most ladies are like that
Then make her understand that you most things available are yet to be paid for and that if you mistakenly are sent back to Nigeria that she with the children will suffer cos they have not mastered how things work over there...
Most importantly is prayer never relent in praying for your family and everything

Have you asked her for forgiveness regarding to all you did while in Nigeria??
If not ask her and make her to understand that you are now a changed person... send your family members to go and meet her people to abeg them to pled with their daughter to forgive you and stop all these... before they bundle you back to Nija o
Most importantly give God a chance both in your life and family...put everything in his care through prayer...your wife's heart is in God's hands and believe me you will enjoy her....
What about the Pastor she listens to while in Nigeria??

Ma you have already made the mistake of getting pregnant for a married man please don't hurt that little soul she know nothing about all these... please keep her if you can fed for her or you can give her for adoption
Killing her will not solve the problem because that will be the beginning of your doom
Please don't harm yourself cos this is not the end of life...cos in at the end of each tunnel there is light...God have a better plan for you...

Once the child is doing perfectly fine where she is please leave her until she matures well to take tangible decision..
I think you should beg the mum(your ex) to allow you to visit the child once in a while preferably at school to prevent dead emotions coming back to live

Op why don't you talk to your Dad about it
Tell him how you feel... from your post you have not really been a good son.. apologize to him
He loves you and want the best for you "whom the father loves he chastised"

Please apologize to her and promise her and yourself never to raise your hand on her again...make sure you don't tell her your total income again.. maybe divide it by 3 and tell her one part cos must times we might earn high but after all expenses and saves,you realize that the money is not as big as we think...
Tell her how you want her to cut away from her friends so as to face her marriage...cos they are impacting on her negatively...

Sir look for something that she loves doing and let her do it as a job to keep her busy and let her channel that strength of talking/gossiping into marketing her busy
You can't change her but she can Chanel that passion of Gossip into something better/productive
Also make her understand and reason with you on how that relationship is toxic to her marriage...make her your FRIEND

First is not good to call your children degrading names cos it makes them feel inferior and suffer from low self-esteem
But one way for you to be free from it is start seeing yourself as you want people to see you,add value to yourself by reading books,always try to be confident in what you do..
Try to acquire skills and knowledge of what other people lack..they will add value to you cos you are now a solution to their prayer..
Secondly is that you can find peace and love from the word of God(Bible)....God has given us the spirit of boldness and Peace...
I understand all your are passing through but if you do the things here you will see change in your life...
If you can talk about it with your mum when she is in good mood it will help as well

Dear I understand everything you just said but let me quickly inform you that Jobs aren't the real thing in our present world..l prefer you go and learn a skill while waiting for your service so that after service you won't start afresh looking for another Job....cos so many lost their jobs this period cos of the pandemic....and people that have skills are still making money...give a man fish and he will be satisfied for sometime but teach him how to catch a fish and he won't be hungry for the rest of his life...

My dear if you have tried going through dialogue with her and it didn't produce any results..why don't you try taking it to God and talk to God about it and pray for God to touch her heart to start loving you
Please keep showing her love no matter what cos one day, you will be shocked that deep down in her heart she really appreciate everything...
And also I think she has a high expectations from you but you need to focus on God to be able to achieve it cos by strength shall no man prevail
Please keep loving her cos love covert all things