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lincsnuel:
Look, I'm just being realistic here. What you wrote up there is an ideal situation in an ideal marriage but we all know that no marriage is ideal/perfect because it comes with ups and downs.

In Nigeria, most married women don't get the respect they deserve from their husbands or husband's family unless she gives the man a child (which is the number one reason most people marry around here anyway)

I agree he should tell her if he's no longer interested though but you get my point?

lincsnuel:
Alright then, so what do you advise she do in this situation??

lincsnuel:


If she's no longer interested in the marriage and have made up her mind, then she should file for a divorce. Since she doesn't have kids yet, she could be "lucky" to marry again (i.e if she's still interested in marriage)

But in all honesty, she should weigh in a lot of options... If she's 27 without a child, she should understand that time is not her friend and it could be a contributing factor to her husband's cheating ways (especially in this part of the world where child bearing is the priority and in this age where early menopause is now a thing)

Hallabee1:
can you pls explain the last paragraph... i love your write up but the last one me no understand

RealEzee:
Haba don't reflect ur negative vibes on her na, y u like dis, who burnt u dis bad kwa?

manual no dey dis love thing, to all Dia own, mine na trust and respect, it's been easier that way to classify dem ladies around me Sha

HalpyBee:
He said his wife doesn't treat him right. In my mind I was like "what's my own? Na you go marry am"
All his claims were false.

lordaltruist:
You are definitely one of those girls that has made it difficult for me to trust girls thus finding it difficult to fall in love again; for your INFORMATION, love is not all about SEX AND MONEY.
There are still some of us who want to love for love and be loved back. We want to explore the fun and joy that love brings; we want to have a companion not a partner, we want to feel and not to think, we want to share not give and we want to give and not take.
Do you even know what love is?
Have you ever experienced true love?
I doubt it otherwise you wouldn't have said that.
To the Op:
I share your fate but in my case I had experience love and it is something I am craving for more than anything.
To say I knew how and when I fell in love with her, I can't tell because it was genuine; you will never know until you find yourself in his arms, laughing your rib out, jumping like a baby and having an unexplainable feeling inside you then you realize that you are definitely in love.
My Advise:
Don't bug yourself looking for it rather give yourself to it, it will surely come.
Stop looking at the wrong places and start looking at the right place.
Stop expecting it to be a particular person rather allow it to lead you to the right person.
Handsome/Not-Handsome is not love neither is money nor sex.
It could be close to you or far from you, just give it a chance.
Don't look down on her (love) when she comes knocking cause you never can tell what it has in store for you.
Finally my dear; live life and let it live you, love all and love none; look inward and outward you never can tell, be sincere to yourself and let your character define you then and only then true love will find you.

dataking:
Na the curse of Bmc crew dey worry you. 30k monthly to betray your unborn generation

collinsuchendu:
Ok. But is it online/offline biz?

Just curious please

collinsuchendu:
Sorry to ask, what do you do for a living?

No offense

collinsuchendu:
Lol.. this gal sef

nwaezeemmanuel:
I remember how 'boys before flower' created commotion way back in school. A lot of girls seemed to love it.

tarantino1:
You subscribe to the doctrines of the Catholic church, fine. People who subscribe to that of deeper life or even their own understanding of the scripture would condemn your picture. You'll try to defend yourself and tell them not to judge as your beliefs differ.

Same way it goes with other things in life. Some people believe in different G(g)ods; Jehovah , Allah, Krishna, Buddha etc. And even in these religions, there are different sects.

Same way other people do not believe in a God as well and live their life according to how they deem fit as long as no one is hurt.

My point is that people should try to reduce that subconscious desire to judge people according to their own perspective. Even me myself, I'm guilty, rather we should focus on the things we can change.

I'm talking about normal things like the way of life and stuff like that not greediness, selfishness etc. In that case, you deserve to be judged lol

I don too over talk, come be like sermon

MrTAnonymous:
Lol, I should leave you alone keh? when I am not holding you

It was your moniker "gender sign." that portrayed you as a female so I know you were referring to men in your post and your previous comments seems more like you were generalising about men.


Incase you don't know na me talk

MrTAnonymous:
Stop generalising, every gender is liable to not being sincere.

Haven't you heard of girls who play guys too?

Or haven't you heard of guys who suffered heartbreak from selfish and self centered girls?

Where in my post did I generalize anything?



Incase you don't know na me talk

tarantino1:
I know die hard Christians who will look at your picture and point at least 3 - 4 wrong things inside. Lol

So just live and let live as long as no one is being hurt or taken advantaged of

Perfecttouch:
madam, I take God beg you, free me.
Happy Sunday

Sixfeetbelle:
What about loving someone and having it reciprocated in that mature spousal way?

The giving to family and less privileged is different from the one you give to your spouse. In my opinion. I want to believe it comes with a sort of fulfillment when it happens abi it's oyibo feem that is messing with my brain?

Your middle line is my dilemma. Since I've never been in love before, I don't know how strong I am emotionally to keep going through love and heartbreak until I find the right one. Can I survive after the first person? After 10 persons?