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I don't even know what to say.

Just move on love, cry if you have to. But, don't cry too much because he's not worth it. Don't be surprised God just saved you from making a very big mistake.

I'll advice you on what works for me. Prayer. I've been able to overcome so many problems through prayer. Before and after work, pray to God for the strength to move past this situation.

Whenever you feel like thinking about him, kneel down and pray.

Stay away from social media for now and anything relationship. It'll help you heal faster.

[quote author=Dapcity007 post=96117358][/quote]Na so!

Hello from my club Mr Penis Envy

IamD18:
I need some accolades for being patient enough to read this rubbish.

Lmaoooo

jornwhite:
I don't work under anybody, you can either believe am a brokeass or a boss on my own.
seems you have comprehension issues, the question is if a woman can answer to her boss then why should it be a problem answering to her husband. incase you havent heard ned nwokwo is about taking his 6th wife, intimacy gadget is not for men

And this woman never told you she had any problem answering to her husband.
As she's answering to that boss, she's making her money in turn. At least she's working for it, she can be able to boast of six figures in her account, courtesy? Her sweat! You get now? Not sitting at home and receiving stipends and at the end of the she gets maltreated and trampled on.

The difference between those two is "the harwork" and I've seen men who gets bossed around by their female bosses too! It's all about the mulla. So shush it.

As for Ned Nwoke and his concubines, well not every woman wants to be worthless in life.

Dapcity007:
Every man lust are you saying women too don't lust, they don't have sexual desires, I know that some of my bros might seem inconsiderate too the plight women face so many women bashing articles on nairaland,women also bash men online but that does not justify our action,I apologize for our general insensitivity, but don't make matter worse ,lets engage with dialogue and not result too offensive language

Mr Peace maker. I see you. Abeg!

Go to every thread on this romance land and even other sections and see the threads they make about women. Go there and preach your peace to them.

jornwhite:
you are the one whose needs to STFU, you're the one nagging, i am not the one who has a problem with hierarchy.
If formal organisations men built have a structure & chain of command why will God's creation be an exception, i understand & accept in life i will be above some and below some.
I am answerable to my boss cos CoC gives him/her the authority, hypocrisy is when women slave up @ the office buh get home to their husbands n start nagging am not your maid. if you can't submit stay out of marriage. simple & short

You're answerable to a boss so is a woman. What's your point you confused creature? Lol. Kai

A woman makes her money while answering to a boss, and so do you. You're actually the one angry and nagging here. If you can't stand a woman who answers to a boss, go get a intimacy gadget you can control. Lol men!

Dapcity007:
I don't why you have these preconceived notion bias to validate your argument,picking on the MASCULINE EGO syndrome which is actually counter logical every one has ego,every one lust ,everyone has one time been envious over another success don't make these a gender issue

Point of correction "every man lusts"!

I'm picking on masculine ego? Lol you ain't seen nothing yet. The way you're fidgeting right now is how most women feel when y'all come here every day to make all sorts of derogatory statements towards them.

And no, it's no gender issue. But your cohorts have made it so.

Akinbahm:
Bro, I like your courage sincerely you took your time to explain things for her but sadly am 101% sure she will still take ur write up out of context. Well, it's not her fault nature is working on her side instead of her to admit and cut her loss but she will rather drag u and/or result it to abuse...

Note: No point arguing with a lady who think through emotions b4 logic

Lol you wanna talk about emotions now? That's your last card huh. You'll see a big ass woman and your dîck rises immediately, you beg a woman on a daily basis just to insert your third leg, you're afraid that a woman will leave you if she starts fending for herself! And you dare come here to talk of emotions?! Ha! You're the sissy here my brother. A fvcking chicken. That's what you are

Notateflonguy:
We thank God you're not a premium beans or yam or whatever you think you are. Having read the very long story you wrote i expected it to be somewhat logical but you all are the same.

The fact that some ladies out there actually act properly still does not mean a guy should not equip himself with what it takes to be a real man. What's the probability that he'll meet a lady that's not a premium beans( using your word) like other ladies?...in life there are good ones and there are bad ones. It's not my business on who is good or bad. What matters to me and what should matter to any reasonable guy is to seek ways of how to improve his self worth and also understand how interpersonal relationships work which can only be learnt from legends like ubunja and the rest and other profiting books.

So young lady, focus on having a good life and stop involving yourself in the masculine world you have little or no idea about.

Lol kid, your self worth is diminishing day by day. By the time you know it, you'll start beginning for crumbs from women.

jornwhite:
Quiting fooling yourself or flattering yourself rather, i tired of all these i make my money noise, please do, buh we all know @the end of the day. you will want to settle for a man that as more money than you and can provide for you.
If feminity undermines what you stand for simply marry money cos marriage is not for you.
In your office were you slave for money, does your boss respect you, don't you get insult doing ur job. all these women there husband will talk one they'll reply twenty go to there offices n see the insult & disrespect they embrace from there boss. keep fooling ya'selves

Please shut up. You're delusional. As if you don't answer to a man in your office too. Nkita ara.

You two are so beautiful. Happy anniversary.

That's what men are known for "gold digging"

Chii59:
First they claim they're alpha males who know how to play the field to their advantage.
Then they claim women need to be subjugated and put under especially emotionally through mind games so the man remains in control.
Now they are worried about independent success-driven women and seek to coerce them to "dumb it down" so as to retain "feminine energy".
All in a bid to keep the man as the prize to be won. Hehe
Why does a woman need to "dumb it down" anyway? Seems the alpha males aren't so alpha anymore since women competing for success with them shrinks their manhood.

They're delusional, I tell you. Mind you, these people are not alpha males. Just a bunch of scared chickens. A woman's success scares them, seeing a weak and vulnerable woman is what they want. It is their strength, so they'll flex their masculinity and answer knights in shining armour. That weakness makes you a prey to them, it makes it easy for them to control and steer you like a ship. Since you can't provide for yourself, they decide when and how you'll live. They decide if you'll breathe or not. SMH.

And as they're doing this, they make a mockery of you. When you speak up, they remind you they pay the bills and take care of you, so shush it! They live life the way they want, while you suffer all because you're female.

They're are now peeing on their pants because these dumb and vulnerable women are going extinct. They're losing their control and grip. That is why they come here every day to write all sorts of baloney to remind themselves they still have it. Lol delusions!

Dapcity007:
I will not lie or decieve you I'm his disciple and have been following as a guest on so many of his topics ,although he results to extreme traditional ideologies which seems outdated, archaic,but there is a fundamental truth in his advice for those who have deep understanding, in his message ,he his not against an educated woman playing a pivotal role in society but rather how will these modern world allow for such women to thrive in these competitive times and still retain her feminine nature ,yes on the surface he seems anti-feminine in his approach in passing his message across but the real content should be understood subjectively so that chao,aberrations, negative virtues won't replace compassion , empathy, love ,humanism ,peace of mind ,hapinesss, godliness and attaining your set out desire(goals) for yourself(male or female) ,which we are seeing in the case of LGBTQ and abortion,I get your greiviances and understand where you are coming from and understand what you mean ,ubunja crudeness in his methodology of passing his misinformation has a tint of misogynism in it which I would not deny even as his disciple,but his broader message is all about the advancenent of all individuals (including you and me) as a redpiller,and ubunja follower I apologize for their amoral rethorics which on the surface can be interpreted as woman bashing or hating but deep at its core want the best for all humanity

It isn't a woman bashing. Trust me, it is an outright degradation of the women folk. If he had bashed women as they usually do here, I wouldn't have bothered creating a thread about it. But he completely rendered women useless and incapacitated. I sincerely pity any sane woman that will adhere to that poppycock.

And there is no way you'll twist it that it'll make sense. You want to clamp the wings of a woman because you're intimidated by her success and her achievements, because you'll no longer flex your "masculinity" on her. Because you will not have the impetus and the courage to call her a farm tool, olosho, etc. It scares you that you'll lose your grip over her if she finds her voice right? Well you should be scared.
Quiver like a chicken.

I'll speak and be heard, i will earn my money, I'll be bold, outspoken, and successful. I'll not allow myself to be disrespected and treated like a bag of garbage all In the name of femininity.

Delusional set of people. Give birth to your own daughters and turn them into toys for men, not other people's daughters who were highly raised.

angelfallz:
I believe you didn't understand ubunja's post.

You seem to be from the school of thought that says women who work are always appreciated by men.

there are many career women that are unappreciated by their husbands or men. Having a job sites not insulate you from men that won't appreciate you.

First of all, lol, why would a woman work just to be appreciated by men? I'm working to make money bruh.

Dapcity007:
Ubunja is not implying that women shouldn't be productive in the society, rather he is against radicalized Feminism which we are seeing from these mordern Feminist who believe in LGBTQ ,abortion ,and other ideologies which are not morally(in the case of abortion ) or naturally(in the case of GAY) OK,and are used by such individuals to advance gender equality in the society.Although he is very traditional and conservative in his thinking,he is not against the progress of women in the society,he wants the institution of marriage ,family, the home,gender roles in the society to be better understood ,women right and empowerment these 21st century is a must but it shouldn't be at the cost of destroying our biblical,cultural,societal values and allowing for moral depravity,abnormalities, vices, all in the name of societal evolution and modernism

No bruh, this is your narrative not his. Go back and read that write up again.

bmasz:
@op.

I feel that you did not have an understanding of the article. It showcased the influence of the extremities of life on masculine and feminine energies in a relationship.

I don't see the article as toxic, I feel it's expository enough for its intended audience. Being a cobbler doesn't necessarily translate that you may exude a predominantly masculine energy. But, becoming the best cobbler in Nigeria may mean that you would abandon some of the emotional feminine wiles that ladies deploy to ask men for "urgent 2k" to embrace the more logic aspect of your persona. This way, you become more attuned with your masculine side.

The post in summary says women should be dumb. Why are you twisting the write up? There's nothing right about that write up. If you as a man expect a woman to just sit at home and become useless just because you're intimidated by what she can achieve as a woman. Then you need to work on your esteem.

You are an overly emotional freak who can't define the difference between logic and what feels right. What are you angry about. Why are you so pushy and annoying. I need just a simple advice and you taking it to heart. What's wrong with you. Please, you have given your opinion; let it end there. If you don't have anything more to say apart from your misguided and awfully prejudiced comments about me, please don't comment again.

You're a child. Grow up

Trump admit? Lol that's not admission o. Trump is very stubborn. I wonder how next year will be in US. I hope hands over peacefully.

Erojepromise:
it is of utmost importance that ladies brace up and start accepting the truth. be it hard or bitter. l totally disagreed with ubunja miseducation and because l refuse to miseducated and misled l was in my masculinity according to him. lol me that is a girly girl

Like seriously! So a woman taking care of herself now is masculine? Lol! The whole thread wreaked of toxic masculinity. I hope women learn. I hope they realize that they're heading for damnation if they sit and expect men to spoonfeed them. They'll be maltreated and treated like a piece of trash.

In this life, paddle your own canoe.

Pacecar:
Haha... So men will die of sexual starvation if it was left for you. So you haven't had sex before. Don't you enjoy sex? You are just an extremist. And extremist are boring and not cool to be with. And besides, I am not a teenager. I am probably older than you.

You're a teenager for you to bring this pathetic topic here.

And yeah, I'm adding extremist and boring to the list of names.

Erojepromise:
l love love this write up , shortyy more grease to ya elbow, more ink to your pen, more oil for your head. we need more smart females like you in womankind..

All these for me ?? I'm blushing o. Thanks ma! I needed to create this thread so ladies don't get deceived by that write up.

Look at people that call themselves men. Oh my God.

I'm too sophisticated

LINTUNE:
haha...ok o ...u look nice by the way

Thanks BTW

LINTUNE:
...was only quoting ur friend though...anyways thanks, i can see u are not as bitter as she is towards nairaland men

Lol which friend? No one is my friend here.

LINTUNE:
lol...no joy... like someone above said , we nairaland men can only star in horror movies.

But you're not bad looking na. Go and Starr.

DimplesLikeWow:
Pls. indicate where I used the terms "boyfriend duties" in my first post (in which I quoted you). You replied that post with "When you don't table out your needs from onset, why won't they demand boyfriend duties?" and I responded accordingly, so how am the one who "brought up the boyfriend duties talk" when you did? You obviously don't comprehend your posts, let alone others'.

I'm not a man, neither am I justifying his actions. I'm merely looking at this from a logical standpoint while you're being unnecessarily emotional. They're both adults having consensual sex; there's no force nor trickery involved, more so, if she's going over to him for sex.

You're talking as if she cannot communicate with him to ask him what's up. If she can be opening her legs, she can open her mouth to inquire for her own sake, but since she hasn't bothered to, OP can do the needful.

And besides, this guy was the one who brought the topic here which means it was worrying him. As the girl hasn't bothered about it, and he's bothered. It's safe he talks to the girl about it because he won't get any answer here.

And please I'm not being any emotional, I could care less about what those teenagers are doing, because I've lived this way, and I've realized that's not how to live life. That's why I said I blame women. Left for me, men will die if sexual starvation.

I've been called rigid, stubborn, cold, and whatever, because I don't fall for all their stupîd games.

DimplesLikeWow:
Pls. indicate where I used the terms "boyfriend duties" in my first post (in which I quoted you). You replied that post with "When you don't table out your needs from onset, why won't they demand boyfriend duties?" and I responded accordingly, so how am the one who "brought up the boyfriend duties talk" when you did? You obviously don't comprehend your posts, let alone others'.

I'm not a man, neither am I justifying his actions. I'm merely looking at this from a logical standpoint while you're being unnecessarily emotional. They're both adults having consensual sex; there's no force nor trickery involved, more so, if she's going over to him for sex.

You're talking as if she cannot communicate with him to ask him what's up. If she can be opening her legs, she can open her mouth to inquire for her own sake, but since she hasn't bothered to, OP can do the needful.

I can't go back to dig that. This has gotten longer than necessary. Whatever rocks their boat.

Look at this one. You o, your nephew o, all of you are selfish. You expect her to be happy? And why blaming pastor? What wrong did he do? When they tell you people to abstain from premarital sex you won't agree.

Go and pay your bride price, it is the right thing to do.

Stupîd thread. I thought you people agree with ubunja or whoever that women shouldn't work but depend on you lots for financial help? Ehn. That's what they're doing na. So stop complaining and enjoy the femininity of women.

(Please if you don't understand sarcasm, don't quote me)