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The "Nigerian girls are useless" crew won't see this one.

Only a gay guy can be friends with a lady.

I've befriended so many guys, but it never worked.

3 mins into the friendship they're already begging for "just the tips".

Women are doomed.

I can give you sniper. Knife won't be fast.

ValCon888:
This girl actively hunted this guy down and got him. Lesson to all girls, if you like a guy, shoot your shot with boldness and confidence. However, you need to show him you have so much more to offer than sex.
Once you do this, he'll begin to see you as a woman worth settling down with.

Rubbish post

OGWILLS123:
If you are not happy with your job then what is stopping you
from resigning.

A Virginia citizen must always come up with some irrelevant excuses

Don't be daft, did I tell you I wasn't happy with my job? I'm only saying that it can be a hindrance to one's happiness. Y'all think with your dîcks and not your brain most times. Always read to assimilate before commenting. Orangutan.

Patriarchy001:
.. they sleep with men for money and claim they are "no longer depending on men"

Interesting!


..oh, and last time I checked, Nairaland is a forum where anyone is free to create threads on whatever topic they wish.
You can always avoid topics that don't interest you...
Quit being childish.

Who sleeps with which men? Lmao. This is y'all last card every time "sleeps with men for money"
I don't know where you see these women that sleep with men for money, but not every woman is like your sisters.

And you're the childish one. Face the business that pays you and allow women to be whatever they want to be.

omooba969:
The only beneficial thing is for you to appreciate and love us more as this animosity won't pay you a dime.

@Op, if you check some of Pocohantas comments, the chick dey gather Likes well well like garri and na bcoz she dey make sense.

That's one girl wey her senses reach No.6 after some jewels in the Food section.

Who is us? I have no animosity with anyone Mr man. Anyone who doesn't agree with y'all bs have animosity with you. Please gftoh my mentions.

Delete this thread, please. No one cares whether her post is liked or not as long as she has delivered her message.

The guys on this forum only like the idea from their fellow men, they don't like any woman's opinion, they're toxic and full of hate. Just drop your opinion and go, fvck their likes.

nwaezeemmanuel:
@the bolded Partly true

But no woman is mandated to raise a family, no man should be mandated to as well.

Happiness isn't tied to that, the channel for it extends beyond having kids and the likes.

There is nothing partly true about that.
No one's happiness revolves around the other.
Men who are slave to their bosses are miserable also.

When you're not comfortable with your job, you're prone to be unhappy. It is not a gender thing.


Every day this gender create threads upon threads to debate on women. So pathetic.

I hardly see women create threads like "why men are unhappy" or "how to be more cruel to men" or something like that.

In this life, do whatever makes you happy. Getting a job and taking care of yourself, shouldn't be a problem, but if being jobless and becoming a beggar to men is what you want, so be it.

It's just so amusing because women are now waking up and fending for themselves and no longer depending on the "superior" gender. It's beginning to bug them. Stay pressed motherfvckers.

Everyone has got one thing or the other on their minds. Maybe they'd want to be alone as at that time if you feel they're not adding anything to your life, block them and move on.

No need for nagging. I really hate that.

Lmfao. What a joke

Nobody spread any lies to him.

Most married men are good emotional manipulators. They know what they'll do and say that will make you falling head over heels for them. They know the right button to push, and the right game to play.

Even unmarried guys do this too.

He has had his fun, and he's tired and want to move on to the next emotionally weak girl.

When they profess love and whatnot to you, don't take it seriously. Just chop whatever you're chopping, and when you're done, you move tf on. Simple.

I thought they've already gotten a vaccine for this?

OGWILLS123:
He shouldn't talk to her, let him just keep the ball
rolling and pretend as if he doesn't know what is going
on

Don't follow this advice. Y'all ego will put you in trouble.

Sit someone down and table out your concerns and you want to move with the flow abi? Ok then. When they chase you out of the house, don't come and open another thread o

Even 50-year-old men don't wanna be addressed as sir.

Druise:
Thanks for your contribution.

Lives in lagos

Right. Talk to her about it, nicely though.
People don't know the importance of communication.

CuteMike01:
Are you sure your wishes wouldn't change 5 years from now?

Nope.

CandyOps:
I don't know about you but sitting a woman who has a crush on me down and asking her to stop crushing on me has never worked.

What you're saying is You're asking a young inexperienced man to sit a grown-ass woman down and talk about how he's not cool with her affection and obsession towards him? especially when such feelings aren't vocalized yet.

There r no concrete evidence just a couple of subtle glances, not-so-innocent body contacts, and other choosing signals she's been throwing him? It's a hopeless tactics

Bruh, every woman isn't the same. And how many women have crushed on you that you put off?

Oh please. This lady is about 28-31, obviously not an immature school girl.

The best thing would be to call her, sit her down, and speak to her.

Look, manner of approach matters also, there's a way you approach people and talk to them, they'll understand.

"Ma'am, I need to discuss something important with you" start with that first.

"Why are you so free with me?" Jokingly.
"It makes me kind of uncomfortable".

She might ask you why you're uncomfortable and then tell you why she's free with you.

There! You've got your answer.

I wish to get fuckingly rich. And also a cute dog.

That's more like it.

Congrats Rita.

Time doesn't matter, as long you find what you're looking for.

CandyOps:
Girls and nonsensical ideas. This'll sound like good advice till you try it. You'll be shocked at how much it'll turn her on. DO NOT sit a woman down and calmy tell her you don't wanna get down with her. It always has the opposite effect esp when done indoors.

Guy I know how it feels to be a pretty boi and a private person. everyone likes you. shit can be so annoying. Like... you get stared at a lot. Going outside is usually a war if I'm not driving. Younger girls are a bit subtle with their approach but not married women.

Those bitchez with their overflowing hormones can't hide their admiration one bit. Omooo to be fine boy no easy for this country sha



My advice- just keep forming distance. with time she'll go into her monthly period and won't be that friendly to you as before. 2nd option is to ask for a week's leave. Take a broken book a room or go visit friends. come back just days before they go back after the holidays

How's communication a nonsensical idea? You men's problem is that you make everything a gender war. To me, I'll prefer someone comes to me and tell me what's worrying him, or bothering him. Or what's on his mind. I will not condone you giving me an attitude, or going to the Internet to discuss our issue.

Table out your matter with the person involved and get your feedback.

This is why y'all jump to conclusion assuming things that are not there because you refuse to communicate!

Druise:
Well, i became a houseboy cause i am an orphan, who is also ambitious, having no one to cater for my needs, i need to look for something doing, in the best possible way.

I am an avid reader, so the quality of education i had, never affects my literacy.

The way i compose myself also earned me the position i am in the family, no one treats me like i'm nobody.

No, not even in the entire neighbourhood.

Nice. Where do you live?

I don't know why it's so difficult for y'all to sit someone down and talk to them. Rather y'all will come here with your tales by moonlight.

Communication is everything. If there's any decision you want to make or any step you want to take, talk it out with her. That's it.

These things you're feeling, and trying to give a gap between you two, talk to her about it. Tell her everything, her response will tell you your next action.

Rubbish post. Nigerian men will do anything to force down their beliefs on people.

Everyone isn't wired the same way. What is good for you, might not be good for the other.

I can only manage a white niggar anyway. Won't waste my time on any Nigerian man.

Stupidîty is creating threads day by day just to bash women.

I wonder why y'all still follow these women, lie and spend your last cards, just for "the tip".

I pity Nigerian women seriously. If only the women in your lives will come here and see how y'all humiliate them on a daily, they'll up their games and leave your asses.

What a beautiful thread! Wow sis, I love I love this!

Because men can't keep their third legs in one place. They'll continue to be used by these ladies.

C'est la vie.

And so are their husbands. Lagos marriage na open marriage.

LordKO:
From your far-reached resolution and connotation of your submission, you don't believe in altruism/love, then don't sponsor her immigration via a spousal visa. You'll be better off having a contract marriage with her or any other woman, for your peace of mind in particular and sanity of the both of you in general. I expect you to man up and tell her boldly that you don't believe in love, instead of taking to disingenuousness in relating with her, and allow her to decide whether or not to continue with whatever that exists between the two of you.

However, assuming that you're a proponent and practitioner of altruism/love, I don't see anything wrong in one sponsoring his fiancee or wife's immigration via a spousal visa; all the news about betrayal happening and flying around notwithstanding. The reason is simple, whatever cause I believe in, I give my best, and I don't condone anyone who doesn't meet my set ethical standard.

So, anyone I vetted and chose as a lover/wife, I've always accorded her the privilege of being part and parcel of me as a proponent of oneness, while staying a discerning step ahead of her, of course. You need to master the art of giving everything without losing anything and walking out like a boss when things turn sour.

Meanwhile, opportunism and its peripheral vice aren't female gender exclusive, because personally, in an issue like this, I have suffered more betrayal from fellow men; well, that's because they've been my major beneficiaries. My motto in this regard is simple, betray me, shame on you; outsmart me, shame on me.

Love remains a sign of strength, not weakness.

You're smart.