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Na one chance be dat.

Sahara reporter, please monitor and ensure this is not swept under the rug.
We need a new Nigeria where institutions and laws work.

Don't mind her.
In a round, If they change from missionary to doggy and later to rocking horse she counts it as 3

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
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Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Be nice to her as though no problem.

Try do things that she appreciates.

Give her gifts.

Talk gently to her about these problems.

Be prayerful and tell GOD give you wisdom to endure the marriage while you try subtlely to turn things around since you don't want divorce.

Don't you think this man is lying to us again.
As for me, I don't expect any truth from a lying Mohamed
He is trying to cover up for INEC .

Sylvanus Okereke submitted his voter's card data and he got 10k.
Question 1.
What will APC do with Sylvanus Okereke's data ?

Question 2.
Will Sylvanus Okereke get accreditation during election ?

Question 3.
Will Sylvanus Okereke be able to cast his vote during the election ?

Please educate Nigerians if you know answer to any of the questions.

The beginning is already shaky. Companies that operate like this 70% mostly do not do well.
They exploit workers and send worker back to the unemployment market.

After your period of probation you would be scored low so that you remain in that 70% salary.

Did you try to find out what happened to the former employee ?

If your present company is structured,
In my perception I would advice you stay with your present employer until you get a better one.

I will take it to the police.

I think we Nigerians have not suffered enough to stand up against the national assembly. We are in big trouble under these politicians. Their rejection of local government autonomy is enough reason for you not to vote for your current assembly members and returning governors.

Tinubuwins2023e:
We go press the neck of those bastard ipob miscreants well in Lagos until that neck break.

Try not to be offensive in your language.
It is not do or die.

I believe the gambler must be waiting for call from Tinubu now so that he can cash out.

GOD IS SHOWING US ALL THE SIGNS.

Where is "ministry of water resources "? We need to review and audit our budget for the past 30 years and bring to book all who collected money for any project on the Benue River.
Nigeria is getting worse every day and it is time we vote for a visionary leader
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Do not vote for old and sick people.
Be Obidient

APC is a disappointment and I will continue to campaign for a replacement.

After all our campaigns, if APC wins the next presidential election, it would mean Nigerians have not suffered enough to warrant a change.

If all these are agberos , how do we still have enough agberos on lagos roads today?
Don't you think some of this crowd must have been imported from other nearby States?
Don't be fooled by the size of the crowd.
Remain Obidient .
We won't allow Agberos to continue ruling us.
Say No To APC.
Say No To PDP.

Yes To LP Obidient.

That man that risk his life and drove a burning oil tanker from a residential area to avoid killing many Nigerians in Delta state was forgotten and many others that did great things for humanity .
We really need a revolution in this country and replace all these selfish politicians who do not mean well for us.

Where is the sauce ?

faceland:
Everyone has two kidneys and those bandits are requesting 100m person, when that person has two kidneys worth 100m each.

The bandit can easily sell one of their kidney and be rich and stop terrorising innocent people.

If I knew this long ago, I would have sold my liver and became a millionaire .

Wike will help PDP to loose.
Buhari's free and fair election promise will also help APC to loose.
The best thing for wike is to move with his structures to Labour Party since it appears Labour Party is most likely to win the presidential election.

You APC members, try to sell Tinubu who appears to be not sellable at the moment.
Peter Obi is a human being and not infallible.
It' seems all your work is sit and wait for what Peter Obi says and find ways to fault it. This will not help you.
Whether you fault lt or not, we say no to old and sick people .
Whether you attack him online or not, the Obidient movement is growing..
It is time you people stopped this nonsense.
How much do you get or promised or you think you can get to try support Tinubu.
You may be doing this to show to your employer that you support Tinubu but I know that people like you will vote for Peter Obi in a secret ballot .

Tell us the good about APC in this country?

Ddeliverer007:
This is a very stupid decision. Im voting for Obi but my friend, you have to better your life and destiny and you don’t do that by throwing opportunities away.

An Obi won’t do that for you.

However, Obi2023

I disagree with you.

This young man has made a very good decision.
Why Okowa making special assistant on youth matters now that his second term is almost gone. This man wouldn't have rejected this offer at the beginning of Okowa's government.
This young man is an Obidient and wouldn't want to be a sycophant like many in Okowa' govt but will vote for OBI.
I congratulate him for the decision

We need more rejections and decamp from the pdp and apc to send the message to the apc govt that the masses have woken up to choose who govern them.

Go to government hospital and let the doctors there do their work.
Follow their instructions and prescription and wait for their medical judgement.
I wish you get over it quickly.

Yes it is true but the touch on the ordinary people is with pain. APC promised us change but the change is negative change. Increasing poverty.

We are waiting for campaign to kick off in September to hear what APC and Tinubu will tell us.

I see Tinubu losing the election.
I see PDP winning Lagos.

Take it to the nearest police station.

I bought livestock @ 1.90 and I don't know what to do with the stock now @1.25.
I need advice as I am loosing so much already.

Truthisunique2:
We no know the idahosa for Edo here o

It actually shows tilumbu is a fool, for kwanwaso who is a fanatic to pick a pastor just like buhari have been doing

The North would go for "One Nigeria" they really care about the tension in the christian south now

Try to be civil.

You don't need to say Tinubu is a fool even though you don't like him.

People like this should be traced investigated and made to face the law.
Peter Obi followers are progressives young and peace loving who want things to change for good.

The man in the video is not a Peter Obi follower.

I believe he must have been paid to do the video to smear the Obidient movement.

The background is not Nigeria ( listen to the video very well)
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Why delay justice on arrested boko haram or Iswap members.

They have killed and they should be killed as quickly as possible.

If they have been killed , this wouldn't happen.

I suspect the Nigerian government has hand in all these.

Why were the experience soldiers guarding the area redeployed 24 hours before the attack ?

Bad boy jam bad boy.

nairavsdollars:
Our lawyers are going mad

Supreme Court trying to set Nigeria on fire.

Nigeria has no state religion.

It is not everything a begger collects. If the Muslims know that it is unislamic and not accepted in Islam, why did they accept the gift from the giver.

We don't need to dwell on this . The Muslims can easily set fire on them and case close.

If they were dumped in the mosque, the police should investigate and arrest the culprit.