₦airaland Forum

thats the only good news av heard abt Davidoo....hope its true.

i dont trust ur motive for this post....
Its not true among the yorubas, inbreeding commoner in the north, in iceland and the jews and historically among the royal families in europe and pharaohs of egypt.

na garri joor...

patience...

AmBeautiful: Single!

Till now?!

'as in'...got stuck for some seconds after realising i'd used it during a presentation.
'its a lie!'...females! Even when the truth is ryt b4 their eyes!
I get pissed when i hear 'whatever'...so annoying.
OBJ...*clears throat* cant remember any interview without him clearing his throat.

zinosleek: From all your comments, its seems like I will save more, maybe by december I will be able to afford a decent relationship.

LWKMD!
Guy send ur account number make we follow contribute.

Relationship is sometimes like business...you need start-up capital and strategy. Starting can be rough and demanding but when the initial gra-gra has cooled, u discover that the things that make u happy are not really the expensive ones but the everyday things that we sometimes take for granted.

Deedee49: I dont think i want to date a Nigerian man, if ur ideas of a relationship, is what u guys talk about here. U dont know wat love is, and dats why u guys can't stay in peace in the country. Wen love is for sale, it's no longer love, but a transaction!

Where are u from....MARS?!

AmBeautiful: single.

And searching.

Juzzybabe: Where is d values n ethics u speak of? Look @ our society today n tell me if der's notin wrong. Look,if u are sincere to urself u will agree wit ds guy dt marriage is becomin a curse. Like u said pple marry for different reasons,bt in ds case were majority are getin married for d odd reason,wat do we do? Pretend n lie dt we stil av societal values...lets face d truth inorder for us to conquer. Even in d church today,pple married based on wealth,fame,n family invention.how den can we have a happy home wit all dse? Av visited several marriages, dt av so madly discorage me abt getting married bt i wud rather learn from their mistakes. Lets stop hiding our shame behind ethics n values!

People av always married for different reasons...it dint start now and wont stop tomorrow! Forget churches, they are a reflection of ow bad things are.
Now the values...the fact that they are being eroded does not mean they are not relevant. We still value marriage, relationship, hardwork and yes responsibilies. The societal measure of progress in life, at least on this side of the world is...
Birth>School>Graduation>Job>Marriage>Procreation>Prosperity>Death!
Deviation from this norm is viewed as abnormal...
Now the order with which they are achieved might be different but deviation or inability to navigate a stage successfully is viewed as 'abnormal'.
There are lots of things going wrong with the world...marriage is just one of them!

sigmundfreud: I beg to disagree!
i wonder where u are or the part of the world that u reside to have acquired such a jaundiced view of marriage.
People marry for different reasons...cultural, religious, social (delineating between such can be different at times) and in fairness to Nigerians our societal values,albeit unreasonable at times, are more protective of the marriage institution.
Yes...people are sometimes pressured into making the decision by factors e.g. Parents, peers, age etc that does not mean they are a farce! Our forefathers had arranged marriages and it worked for them...as far as the societal context was concerned then.
On divorce...i dont feel people should be trapped in a marriage and give reasons such as the ones you gave but i feel we are being too 'western' in our approach to some situations. Every relationship is bound to have its conflicts and finding a reason to stay sometimes help people to work things out. i believe if divorce is not encouraged, people will be more careful in selecting their lifepartner and try harder when things are difficult rather than the 'trial-by-error' model that is now being adopted.
What u av heard on NL are the extremes...i believe marriage is a beautiful relationship when the right people, for the right reasons decides to spend the rest of their life together...or at least try.

That was in response to the first two posts.
To answer the question...yes. People do get married for the wrong reasons but its not peculiar to Nigeria. Marriages av been arranged to strengthen kingdoms and consolidate power long before now...and other reasons in our time, the silliest being because others are doing it!
Yes...society, especially but not peculiar to, ours attach a symbol to married women.
Staying single shd not be so bad...but its better if its by choice and not as a result of circumstances, that way one is better adjusted to it.

I beg to disagree!
i wonder where u are or the part of the world that u reside to have acquired such a jaundiced view of marriage.
People marry for different reasons...cultural, religious, social (delineating between such can be different at times) and in fairness to Nigerians our societal values,albeit unreasonable at times, are more protective of the marriage institution.
Yes...people are sometimes pressured into making the decision by factors e.g. Parents, peers, age etc that does not mean they are a farce! Our forefathers had arranged marriages and it worked for them...as far as the societal context was concerned then.
On divorce...i dont feel people should be trapped in a marriage and give reasons such as the ones you gave but i feel we are being too 'western' in our approach to some situations. Every relationship is bound to have its conflicts and finding a reason to stay sometimes help people to work things out. i believe if divorce is not encouraged, people will be more careful in selecting their lifepartner and try harder when things are difficult rather than the 'trial-by-error' model that is now being adopted.
What u av heard on NL are the extremes...i believe marriage is a beautiful relationship when the right people, for the right reasons decides to spend the rest of their life together...or at least try.

while the creativity should be acknowledged ,the deprivation that brought it about is lamentable!
Their mates are playing with ipads and writing apps...
We still av a long way to go.

ogugua88: Sholly, I dey your backa, but I no go open mouth on this matter. Please don't bother opening mouth on religious matters, especially when you're an outside or lone voice, MOST MOST especially with Nigerians. I've learned this lesson ages ago. I never talk religion, especially with Nigerians lol. Both sides may have their points, but no one will budge from their beliefs and stances. So, yes, go back to your books lol <3

Me sef, I've got school soon.

Very sensible! There is no point arguing on religion, we are all fanatics of our faith and wont listen to a convincing arguement.
My own is, as long as urs does not affect mine...keep doing it. Shikena!

Shollypopz: He is not!!

Maybe I resemble Ijebabe, he'll tell me!

*hope i understood that Igbo lang. right sha*

Finally! Something u both can agree on. Now kiss and make up...and stop this e-fight.

Dondav: Jobless!

Walahi!
*buries head in a book*
Btw shollykillz and sexpopz should get a room...er..sorry, thread, to settle their differences!

Shollypopz: That's what dat Christian sexkillz should hv said, "my religion forbids it"......
Not calling atheists confused...

@Sexkillz: Btw, be ready to leave NL!

*gives her a chill pill*...okay now?
the way pple argue abt religion and ethnic sef...na small line separate them from BokoHaram!

dont think i can...
my belief forbids it. But av met people outside my religion that challenged my convictions.

brainless people making people headless!
'he who kills in the name of god, kills god, kills man. He who kills in the name of god, leaves god without a name'...WS

guy probably has mental illness. Will bet he is cannabis and/or alcohol.

shameless e.diots!
Why people no separate them now?

u mean u go into a relationship and expect to be beaten up someday?!
dont xpect the Bash Alis to own up anyway.

hardbody: You guys are all off point. I have the answer but would not tell you guys. The bible said that in this end times, people will grope in search of knowledge. Keep groping and searching, at the fullness of time, I will manifest the explanation given unto me by God through the bible, LMAO

Stop the NOISE, we are in church!

now kids av ibrain and parents incure idebt!

[quote author=Okija_juju]F@(*k FIFA...

I played that game a few months back and was so pissed off.. PES is still KING...

KONAMI for LIFE
[/quote]Started with FIFA 08 and thot that was the end of the world until i played PES!
Now on PES 12...and am really addicted!
i hardly play anything else but planning to go into them soon

is there anything this T.B cannot do? Next na to turn Nigeria to America!