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BlackfireX:
what is wrong with this Christians sefff, don't they know this is a Muslim country...




I implore the Army to.arrest them all, with the help of the hisbah police

Adamsy2536:
Please any hope for me, I scored 25% in my Npower Test?

Michelle55:
Inukwa.. Do what you feel is best for you guys biko.
Lemme coman be going

Meanwhile, op is the vacancy still available? I mean the customer service position.

DonSmith123rr4:
So i met this babe in January 2020, we started getting along, she visited and went but in March during Covid 19 Lock-down, i told all my staff to work from home which most of them ignored. She came visiting and due to the lock-down locked down with me. She began to assist me in some works like taking calls, sending mails and so many, then I realized that she had talent in customer care and gave her job in my company as a customer care support. Meanwhile she had a job that was paying her 55k as a chef but i offered her 70k then she accepted.

Then i noticed she doesn't want to go back to her sister's house where she used to stay but i let her live with me because she was adding value by working with me not just the girls kind of occupying a man's house. Along the stay i saw her pushing in love and to become more than what we were, i decided to confirm her genotype before i could reciprocate since am AS and must settle with AA to avoid SS saga, but disappointingly her result came out AS as well . I tried all my best for her to see reasons why we can't be together as husband and wife but she refused to take it referring back to our parents who got married without knowing their genotype and still lived fine.

Well we continued staying together and me pretending like i was happy because she's really doing her job in my office. Whenever we are mating, she complains that condom is painful and going fresh then pulling out to cum is maltreating her cos that is when she cums too and enjoys it more (wahala). Truth be told, we aborted twice till the 3rd time when we found out about an unborn baby genetic test which cost 300k to confirm the genotype of your baby.

Meanwhile before the 3rd pregnancy, i had to get her a conducive and luxury mini flat of 700k with total package of 1.3millions just for us to keep distance and for her to find a suitable AA suitor but shockingly, i never knew she was pregnant and decided to keep it to her self but surprisingly scan confirmed the baby's heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks which means the baby is dead and needs evacuation. We evacuated the baby last week and she as been acting weird because i have been denying her sex.
Flashback to December 2020, i increased her salary from 70k to 100k starting January 2021 based on her new position as the company HR. Due to the stress and expenses getting her an apartment and furnishing it plus she has been spending from me on 100% of her personal expenses including tfare to work since we were still together before she moved to her apartment, I decided to pay her 50% of her january salary (50k) but shockingly to me she went gaga saying i have to pay her full payment and when i refused, she tendered a resignation letter.

Please I am yet to respond to her resignation letter because I am confused. WHAT DO YOU THINK

1. Sell my ego and plead with her which i believe is what she wants but the aftermath result wont be funny.
2. Accept her letter and retrieve all i got her from the apartment, interiors, phones, laptops, human hairs, designers, etc
3. Accept and let everything go

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders.
Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.

I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills).

Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back.

Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.

Thanks.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

November1857:
Propaganda from Daily trust Aboki Newspaper, trying to bring my beloved state to their Almajiri level !

jlinkd78:
Is Nigeria really cursed?

Owajigarrisson:
Idiot Akwa Ibomite bastard parading himself as a Riverian!!!

All these your stupid projects are no match to what Rivers have!

PoloG:
Igbos should take their biagra thing to south east

barnny:
We all know getting a job in this country is another hell graduates is going through till date, talk more of getting a dream job.

I will try to be brief as much as I can.

Haven applied for so many jobs and attended some interviews, I finally saw one graduate trainee job (my kind of dream job tho) as at January this year. Although is a banking job which is actually my dream job. I wrote their aptitude test which I passed. We were eight that was invited for their interview out of over 70 candidates that applied and I was lucky to be part of those eight. To the glory of God I scape through at the first stage of the interview. At the Final stage of the interview (One on one interview) was where my righteousness or should I call it "Being Truthful" deprive me of my dream job. You may ask how did I know, but the truth is, that is what deprived me of getting the job. I don't want to explain further on that just to cut the story short.

The question they ask me that lead to my disqualification was: "Do you know anyone in this bank?" And my reply was "Yes". And truly I know someone working there but he wasn't even the one that ask me to apply. I only came across the job and I applied. But I never knew I'm suppose to say NO, I also never knew the answer will snatched the job away from me.

After all the sacrifices, sleepless nights on night journey from one town to another, After almost getting an accident on these our bad road, not to talk of the time and resources I have invested in getting this job. look at my life?
See where my righteousness has brought me into?

Just yesterday some of my colleagues got invitation for their medicals. And since that yesterday I have been so deeply down. I feel depressed. I feel like just giving up. Why me? What is really wrong somewhere that I don't know?Just imaging the kind of opportunity I have missed even when I know age is no longer on my side when it comes to this kind of job...

Honestly I'm tired. I feel like not going to church today. I am confused and feel like it's over.

Juliusmalema:
FFK....Reactance.....Reno.... Capacitance.

This issue of south and north is a case of Stupidity taken too far.

Benue transporting their foodstuffs to different states, are they not northern state? Same as Taraba and good people of plateau state.

What I read is that north blocked transportation of food to South west after their union had a meeting.

Is South west now the new name for South If we may ask?

They blocked their foodstuff, if you have oil block it from reaching them than shouting south up and down and dragging others enjoying relative peace to a communique that has nothing to do with them...

Stop wasting time Reacting , turn off the valve of the oil than shouting South to other regions who are sleeping against tomorrow's Sunday service because the gate of hell will never prevail against the church.

Yungstallion:
Have you ever wondered about the history of the origin of beads? Their origin is traced back to the African community, especially those with kingdoms like Nigeria and Ghana where women in the royal families wore them and people would use the different patterns, sizes, quality and length to differentiate their status.

Having said that, these are some reasons why women may want to put on beads. Here are some of the reasons.

1 Fashion, Fashion is what every woman desires to have in their life. A fashionable woman is a darling to everyone.

2 Weight watch, Majority of women would use the beads to watch if they are gaining weight or they are loosing it.

3) Cultural Heritage.
Some communities among the Indians value this type of beauty and they always keep it as a value addition.

badmusatari:
I was convinced by a topic on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6433385/how-saved-brother-marrying-into/1

I went to Nigeria to bring my wife some years agom ever since we arrived it has always been money, money, materials, materials especially money. At some point my wife accused me of trying to separate her from her siblings. I told her that a time is coming she will be begging me to help her stop them. It has happened and is now happening. As a matter of fact I even brought her dad for a visit from Nigeria. Her dad was a God fearing person but the moment he started living with his oldest shameless and jobless son he has been brainwashed that her daughter and her husband owe them especially me. It's always about money, money, money. The oldest son is a jobless and shameless irresponsible man that impregnated a woman and they now have four kids. I have even got a job for him from here but he refused to go and work there in Nigeria.

Not minding the fact that he even have other siblings in abroad. One of those in abroad is always in support of this stupid irresponsible oldest guy but the other one is a very intelligent person and knows the whole truth.

If you send money to the dad now trust me he will request another in less than a week which obviously the irresponsible was the one telling the dad what to say. There was no time my wife or me or we call the dad that the irresponsible will not pretend he's not there but will put the phone on speaker so he can listen to our concert with the dad. All he's doing is yahoo and Yahoo. The second born there with him is a little bit fair but they all the same.

They always have this strong believe that their sister who is my wife owe them because they always says they took care of her. This is one of the reasons their sister who is my wife and the other siblings in abroad are yet to build a house for their dad. The oldest irresponsible always cause trouble, tell lies and create issues that the dad will be telling his children abroad that he's gonna curse them if they don't build house for him or send certain mount on so so so date. I am really tired and confused. Enough is enough because I also have my own family to look after. Even a bike I never buy sef.

I am beginning to regret getting married in the first place. I love my wife and we have been together for over a decade and half even before we get married. But my wife is now their enemy because she always turn them down now. Infarct of I mention the irresponsible man's name or talk about se don't a penny to them she will go mad for days. Everythinf about them is money, money, money, build house for our dad, etc. The guy is now a yahoo + man over 40 yrs with no future and still unambitious.

My wife and I have wasted a lot of money on his travelling but he doesn't even care. Imagine all the siblings in abroad have been sending money for their dad's house rent only for the landlord to tell us that this guy's has never paid a kobo for almost two years. All he's about is to drink fvck and club.. very dirty hungry looking guy. They never appreciate anything indo for them, instead it's always more more and more. There was a time this guy tried to fight me but I just ignored him.and since then I never talk to him again till now. But they are bullying my wife emotionally that she cries almost everyday now uptill this morning when I asked her what happened and she told me that her brother the irresponsible man sent a nasty message to her.

But the other ones in another will always tell her that she and them need to take care of their dad and must send him money regardless of who highjack it as long as God knows they did the right thing, please how does this make sense? I need opinion on this in particular. How could you be sending money to the dad when you know that the idiot is the one that will collect and spend the money because he's with the dad's ATM card? Does that make sense?

I only pity one of the two siblings in another country that always support him and that one's wife have started complaining to my wife too because they gist a lot.

Sad

eedimo:
Who's talking?
I haven't heard of that name before?