We have only seen 8 mins of their lives.
Even fragile egg when put inside boiling becomes hard

[center]Wisconsin woman loses $2,000 after being 'completely fooled' by wallet scam[/center]

[url][/url]http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/09/05/wisconsin-woman-loses-2000-after-being-completely-fooled-by-wallet-scam.html


BROOKFIELD, Wis. – She thought she had discovered a wallet with $150,000 in it, and she decided "finders keepers," but what she thought was good fortune turned out to be a huge mistake.

"I was completely, completely fooled," the woman, who asked that we not reveal her identity said.

The woman said she's filled with regret.

"I just regret being a part of it," she said.

She said she was walking through a parking lot on Bluemound Road in Brookfield when a woman called out to her.

"She asked me if I had dropped anything," the woman said.

She said the woman held up a wallet filled with cash.

"It was brown and it almost looked like the size of a brick," she said.

They called over a third woman to take a look, and decided to keep the money -- splitting it three ways.

"Well, finders keepers then, huh?" she said.

The woman who found the wallet said she worked at First Weber Realty. She said her office had a money counting machine, and that her boss would help them draw up paperwork to keep the money legally. The three women drove together to the office, parked in the back and the woman who found the wallet walked inside.

She came back out with unbelievable news.

"That there was $150,000 in cash in the wallet," she said.

But in order to get the money, she said all three women had to provide some cash to prove they were financially responsible, so they drove to Educator's Credit Union.

"I walked to the bank and withdrew the money," the woman said.

Back at First Weber Realty, they parked behind the building again, and the woman said one at a time, the other two women walked around the building and came back with stacks of what looked like real cash.

Then it was this woman's turn.

"That's when she hit me that something was wrong," she said.

Inside First Weber, no one knew what she was talking about. Meanwhile, the car and the other two women disappeared, along with her $2,000.

"The whole thing is horrendous," she said.

Brookfield police say they are investigating the incident. A spokesman told FOX6 he'd never heard of this type of scam before. FOX6 also spoke with First Weber Realty, which says no one by that description or name works for them.

The victim said she spent three hours with the alleged scammers, and while she's broke, she's grateful she wasn't hurt.

This happened in the US but I have seen it happen many times in Lagos. This cultural practice is very dangerous and can cause aspiration pneumonia and death. Please, do not let anyone force-feed your baby!

[url][/url]https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/a-crying-baby-woke-up-a-napping-nanny-so-she-force-fee-her-until-the-child-died-police-say/2016/10/26/efee4b74-9b8d-11e6-9980-50913d68eacb_story.html

A crying baby woke up a napping nanny. So she force-fed her until the child died, police say

By Lynh Bui
A crying baby woke up a napping nanny who then force-fed the child until the child became unresponsive and died, police said.
Oluremi Oyindasola, 66, of Glenarden, Md., was arrested Tuesday and is charged with second-degree murder, first-degree child abuse resulting in death and other related charges after 8-month-old Enita Salubi died in her care, Prince George’s County police announced Wednesday.
A home surveillance system recorded Oyindasola, a live-in nanny, napping on the couch of a Glenarden home when she was disturbed by the crying child, who came up to her in a toddler walker, according to police charging documents. Oyindasola tried to feed the child while she was still in the walker but was unsuccessful, police said.
Oluremi Oyindasola is charged with second-degree murder, first-degree child abuse resulting in death and other related charges after 8-month-old Enita Salubi died in her care. ( Prince George's County Police Department)
Oyindasola then pulled the child from the walker, held the baby around the child’s chest, removed the nipple from the baby’s bottle and “proceeded to pour a large amount of white liquid directly inside the victim’s mouth,” police charging documents state.
For 25 seconds, the child “appeared to squirm and aggressively resist as the defendant continued to force a large amount of liquid inside her mouth,” records state.
After the first bottled was drained, Oyindasola then forced the child to consume the contents of a second bottle.
During the feedings the baby “displayed difficulty breathing and signs of medical distress,” records state.
After the second bottle, the child became unresponsive and at about 4:10 p.m. was rushed to the hospital and pronounced dead.
An autopsy revealed white liquid inside the child’s lungs, police said. A medical examiner determined the baby died of asphyxiation and the child’s death was a homicide, police said. Oyindasola was the only person watching the child when the baby suffered her fatal injuries, police said.

Relatives of the baby declined to comment when a reporter knocked on the door of an address listed for both the nanny and the child.
It is unclear whether Oyindasola has an attorney, and her family could not be reached for comment.
Oyindasola is in custody of the Prince George’s County Department of Corrections.
“Babies are defenseless, and what happened to this child is absolutely tragic and heartbreaking,” said Christina Cotterman, a spokeswoman for Prince George’s County Police.

Milk allergy?
Is surprising that both a dermatologist and a pediatrician did not recognize this relatively common infantile skin condition. Infantile seborrheic dermatitis. Oyibos call it cradle cap although it affects more than the scalp.

Doctors are not exactly sure what causes it but we know the skin heals over several weeks or months and no one will ever know the child had it.
The discoloration likely worsened because a steroid cream or ointment was used to treat the rash

1. All take, no give. [/b]Any relationship in which you experience withdrawals of energy without deposits will leave you in the negative.
2. [b]Feeling drained. If, instead of feeling happy and productive, you're always mentally, emotionally, and even physically drained, it's time to re-evaluate.
3. Lack of trust. A relationship without trust is like a car without gas: You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.
4. Hostile atmospher[/b]e. Constant anger is a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should never be around hostility because it makes you feel unsafe.
5. [b]Occupied with imbalance. A one-sided relationship can never run smoothly.
6. Constant judgment. In judgmental relationships, criticism is not intended to be helpful but rather to belittle.
7. Persistent unreliability. Mutual reliability is important to building trust and is at the core of any good relationship.
8. Nonstop narcissism. If the other party's interest in the relationship is really just a reflection of him or herself, it's impossible to achieve any kind of balance.
9. Loaded with negative energy. It's almost impossible for anything positive to come out of a relationship filled with negativity.
10. Lack of communication. Without communication, there is no relationship. Period.
11. Continuous disrespect. [/b]Mutual respect is the first requirement of a good partnership.
12. [b]Ceaseless control issues. If one person is in control, or a constant tug-of-war is going on, you're probably spending too much energy navigating the relationship.
13. Never-ending drama. Good relationships improve your life; they don't make it messier.
14. Diminishes your self-worth. When you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't acknowledge your value, it can be hard to see it yourself.
15. Lowers your high standards. Toxic relationships can cause us to slowly begin accepting what was once not acceptable.

Source [url][/url]http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/35-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-business-relationship.html

Apologies for the spelling errors...

The short answer is yes.

All medical test including DNA testing can be wrong. That is why scientist speak of probative predictive value, false positive etc.
With DNA teasing becoming more common socially and legally, I think it will be helpful to know when a DNA test can get it wrong.

A human being who is a Chimera can fail a DNA test. A human Chimera caries two different DNA inside their body. Some Chimeras actually have body parts from a different human inside their body. They can also have two different blood groups.

We believe the most common reason for genetic chimerism in humans is the what is nicknamed the "Vanishing twin syndrome".... one twin dies in the womb and their DNA gets absorbed into the twin that survives. Other potential causes are miscarriage (babies DNA gets absorbed into the mother), bone marrow or organ transplant.

You can read about some human chimeras here [url][/url]http://pictorial.jezebel.com/one-person-two-sets-of-dna-the-strange-case-of-the-hu-1689290862

As genetic testing becomes more sophisticated, more human chimeras will be identified. We do not know how common human chimeras are because the test is not ready to be used for testing large populations. Because of the high rate of twin pregnancies amongst the yorubas, it is possible that they may have more human chimeras than other tribes.

However, the US just got it's first case of failed paternity test due to genetic chimerism [url][/url]http://www.buzzfeed.com/danvergano/failed-paternity-test-vanished-twin

Lydia Fairchild, a human chimera, was accused of welfare fraud when DNA test showed she was not the biological mother of her children.

[url][/url]http://qz.com/581088/why-nigerians-cant-use-their-bank-debit-cards-outside-the-country-anymore/?utm_source=YPL

The story of how Nigeria’s then Central Bank governor Sanusi Lamido Sanusi, in August 2009, shook up the local banking establishment is well told. He bailed out five banks and dismissed their chief executives and introduced reforms like capping the duration a bank boss could stay in office to ten years.
But something else happened as a result of his intervention—the centre of gravity of retail banking in Nigeria quietly shifted. The sudden realization that some of Nigeria’s banks were effectively insolvent triggered a kind of flight to safety. The banks which were untouched by ‘Hurricane Sanusi’ became very safe in the eyes of customers.
The most upwardly mobile and footloose Nigerians bank with names like GTBank, StanbicIBTC, First Bank, Diamond Bank and Access Bank these days. They go on holidays to Dubai, shop in London and take their kids to Disney World in Florida now and again. Unlike, say, the UK where the idea of travel money is cultural, Nigerians over the years have come to rely on their debit cards anytime they are outside Nigeria. The exchange rates are generally decent so as long as you have naira in your linked account,it’s always more convenient to pay for things in Debenhams with your bank card.
There’s also the coterie of Nigerians who run a variety of web-based businesses that require them to pay for things like server space and web hosting in Europe or America on an ongoing basis. Many of these people use their debit cards to make payments online.

This is all well and good when it works but right now all the major banks are dealing with the same problem at the moment.
Nigeria is running against strong economic headwinds right now with oil prices below $40 and foreign reserves below $30 billion—enough to pay for maybe six months of imports at most. The Central Bank governor, Godwin Emefiele, has introduced ‘demand management’ in response to the challenges he’s faced with. In practice, this means stifling demand for foreign exchange by declaring certain imports unworthy of expending Nigeria’s precious foreign reserves.

Certain things have been discouraged from importation with the country’s foreign reserves—toothpicks, some types of steel, wheelbarrows, even Indian incense. This is effectively a ban if the importer doesn’t already have their own foreign currency in banks abroad or under a pillow somewhere. This has been accompanied by nationalist rhetoric about how Nigeria shouldn’t be importing things it can produce. If you can’t access foreign currency through official channels, you are left with no choice but to use the black market at much higher rates. At times, it does feel like the Central Bank is determined to burn down the village in a bid to save it.
International nightmare

So what does this have to do with the retail banks named above? They have been hit hard by the demand management policy. Buying dollars from the Central Bank to settle international payments for their customers is a nightmare these days. The banks typically don’t have many customers who export—mirroring the wider Nigerian economy which depends on oil for the vast majority of its forex earnings.
All of a sudden, having so many upwardly mobile and jet setting customers is not that much fun anymore for the banks. Almost on a daily basis, people have been getting emails from their banks telling them the daily or monthly or annual limit dollar spend on their debit cards have been adjusted—almost always downwards.

Free floating naira?

What to do? There are no easy answers. But it surely must be counterproductive to arbitrarily shutdown legitimate economic activity in the name of demand management. The more these restrictions go on, the more they open up gaps for corruption to flourish and for the well connected to game the system. History teaches us this – from Venezuela to Argentina where the new president, Mauricio Macri, is now drawing 12 years of ‘El Cepo’ to a close.

Nigeria has to earn its keep in other ways by producing things that other countries want that are not crude oil. This is obvious enough but by no means easy—infrastructure is terrible to non-existent and productivity will take time to build up. It is tempting to pray for oil prices to rise again to give the country some breathing space but it is more likely that the country will simply return to its old spendthrift ways.
Should foreign exchange be made available to people who simply want to go shopping and enjoy themselves in Dubai at a time when it is scarce? Asking questions like this leads to all sorts of dangerous places. What exactly is legitimate demand? How do you curb ‘illegitimate’ demand without hurting people who are genuinely trying to run their business?
The only answer to this is pricing. Freely floating the naira will allow the market determine what is the real value of the currency. But the political appetite for such a policy move is exactly zero. Politicians are just not going to accept that the currency is something they have no control over.
I fear that things may be this way for a while yet. And the longer it goes on, the more damage it will do to the economy and ordinary Nigerians. Will it be worth it?

The "magic" of Universal access to Healthcare

[url][/url]http://news.yahoo.com/cuba-becomes-first-nation-eliminate-mother-child-hiv-204407630.html


Washington (AFP) - Cuba on Tuesday became the first country in the world to eliminate mother-to-child transmission of HIV and syphilis, the World Health Organization said.

"Eliminating transmission of a virus is one of the greatest public health achievements possible," said WHO Director-General Margaret Chan.

"This is a major victory in our long fight against HIV and sexually transmitted infections, and an important step towards having an AIDS-free generation."

Universal health coverage, improved access to tests and increased attention to maternal care were credited with the success, defined by health authorities as fewer than 50 cases of mother-to-child transmission of syphilis or HIV per 100,000 live births.

A small number of cases are allowed to persist, despite the certification, because antiretroviral treatment to prevent mother-to-child-transmission of HIV is not 100 percent effective.

Rather, WHO and the Pan American Health Organization (PAHO) define the milestone as "a reduction of transmission to such a low level that it no longer constitutes a public health problem."

A man walks past a poster reading, "Zero new transmission from mother to child", on Decemb …
Health authorities have been working in Cuba since 2010 to "ensure early access to prenatal care, HIV and syphilis testing for both pregnant women and their partners, treatment for women who test positive and their babies, caesarean deliveries and substitution of breastfeeding," said a WHO statement.
"Cuba's success demonstrates that universal access and universal health coverage are feasible and indeed are the key to success, even against challenges as daunting as HIV," said PAHO Director Carissa Etienne.
"Cuba's achievement today provides inspiration for other countries to advance towards elimination of mother-to-child transmission of HIV and syphilis."
Each year, 1.4 million women living with HIV around the world become pregnant.
Left untreated, they have a 15 to 45 percent chance of passing the virus to their children during pregnancy, labor, delivery or breastfeeding.
But the risk of transmission is just over one percent if antiretroviral medicines are given to both mothers and children.
The number children born annually with HIV was 400,000 in 2009.
By 2013, the number was down to 240,000 in 2013.
But intense effort is needed to meet the global target of less than 40,000 new child infections per year by 2015, health authorities say.
"It shows that ending the AIDS epidemic is possible and we expect Cuba to be the first of many countries coming forward to seek validation that they have ended their epidemics among children," said Michel Sidibe, executive director of the United Nations AIDS agency.

National Assembly Budget: What You Need To Know About Allowances
by Sahara Reporters, New York

The incredible amount of money Nigerian lawmakers make is even more ridiculous considering that the country’s monthly minimum wage is only about $90 USD a month.



While the N8.64 billion-wardrobe allowance provided for NASS lawmakers has been making headlines, similar provisions have slipped away unnoticed.

The most lavish of these provisions include furniture, housing, and car allowances.


Furniture Allowance

Senators will be provided with N6, 079,200 each for furniture through the budget of the National Assembly while the Senate President and his Deputy will receive theirs on the bill of the National Government. House members will receive N5, 955,637 for their furniture. The total sum to be paid from the NASS budget to the 107 Senators is N650, 474, 400. The cost for the House of Representatives comes to an outstanding N2, 132, 118, 225 for all 358 members.


Housing Allowance

Annually, the budget allocated to each senator for housing is N4, 052, 800. The total is a hefty N433, 649, 600. Members of the House will be paid N3, 970, 425 each adding up to a total of N1, 421, 412, 150.

Vehicle Loan

Senators will be permitted N8, 105, 600 while members of the House will be entitled to N7, 940, 850.50. The total sum to be paid to the 107 senators will be N867, 299, 200 while the 358 House members will get N2, 842, 824, 479.


According to BudgIT, a startup dedicated to the mission of making National Assembly budgetary information accessible to Nigerians, Nigerian legislators are among the highest paid in the world. The annual salaries of Nigerian legislators fall between $150,000 to $190,000 U.S. dollars annually depending on exchange rates. Until oil prices plunged recently, Nigerian lawmakers were the second highest paid lawmakers in the world.

The incredible amount of money Nigerian lawmakers make is even more ridiculous considering that the country’s monthly minimum wage is only about $90 USD a month.

On the other hand, President Buhari’s income will stand at N14.4 million, an equivalent of $70,000 USD.

Although the pay cut Buhari took is in line with his anti-corruption campaign, the government he will be overseeing will stand as a stark contrast.

[url][/url]http://saharareporters.com/2015/06/17/national-assembly-budget-what-you-need-know-about-allowances


The Chairman of Revenue Mobilization Allocation & Fiscal Commission needs to know we cannot afford to this jamboree any more especially when States cannot afford to pay salaries.

DALLAS (Reuters) - Four members of a Texas family have been arrested on suspicion of beating a 14-year-old relative to induce an abortion two years ago after she had been raped by a member of the family, Dallas police said on Wednesday.
Cedric Jones, 27; Sharon Jones, 45; Cecila McDonald, 25; and Lonnell McDonald, 27, were arrested on Tuesday and charged with engaging in organized criminal activity, according to online jail records.
The girl was about eight months pregnant when the four beat her for six hours, repeatedly kicking her in the abdomen, police said. The Dallas Morning News said the teenager gave birth to a stillborn baby hours later. The body was thought to have been burned in a charcoal grill and buried at an unknown location, police said.
"Several family members took matters into their own hands," Deputy Chief Gil Garza told reporters.
Before the beating, police said the family had tried birth control pills and cinnamon tablets to abort the pregnancy, police said.
The relationship between the victim, now 16 years old, and her relatives was unknown but police described them as "immediate family." The suspects are being held at Dallas County jail with bail set at $150,000 each.
Robert Cayald, 22, the victim's cousin, was also arrested Tuesday and charged with aggravated sexual assault of a child, police said at a news conference. His bond was set at $25,000.
The young girl told police she became pregnant after a sexual assault by a family member but was too embarrassed to report it to authorities.
Police said the four relatives discovered the teenager was pregnant and used various methods to terminate the pregnancy out of fear that Child Protective Services would remove the other children living at the home.
Police said a woman who witnessed part of the incident took the girl to a station last month to report the assault. The woman was not identified but could be charged later for not initially reporting the crime, Garza said.
The teenage victim is now under the care of Child Protective Services. Police are still searching for the remains of her child.
(Writing by Jon Herskovitz; Editing by Bill Trott)

[url][/url]http://news.yahoo.com/four-texas-family-members-suspected-beating-14-old-155117285.htm

Very sad to see many young BOYS talking about beating their wives as if they are in the stone age.

Clearly, we Nigerian parents need to do a better job raising up [b]MEN [/b]for our daughters to marry.

2005 to 2010, Nigeria terrorized by militant groups in the Niger delta area..........kidnapping, bank robbery, rapes, extortion, bombings

2011, Jonathan wins election. Amnesty for Niger delta militants........reduction in terrorism activities in south-south

2013 to date, Nigeria terrorized by militant groups in North eastern region....kidnapping, rapes, bombings, extortion

2015, Jonathan running a re-election campaign. Openly associating and campaigning with ex-Niger delta militants (now millionaires and billionaires). Victims of Niger delta militants.............. shaking head in dis-believe. Asking "where is the resource control we suffered for"?

2015, APC candidate Buhari wins presidential election

2016, Militants in North eastern Nigeria granted amnesty.......reduction in terrorism activity in North eastern region

2019, Buhari running a re-election campaign. Openly associating and campaigning with ex-North eastern militants (who are now millionaires and billionaires). Victims of North eastern militants....................... shaking head in dis-believe


Nah like this we go dey?

Instead of giving us a summary of the report, why not release the entire report to the public.
Abi no be our money again?

"The treatment is thought to work because applying sugar to a wound helps to draw water away from it and prevent bacteria from multiplying, thereby starving the bacteria of what it needs to grow so that they die, drying out the wound and helping it to heal faster."

Would not recommend this because it can easily lead to an overwhelming wound infection.
If the sugar concentration is not very high, the bacteria that has colonized the wound use the sugar for food and make millions of copies of itself resulting in infection.

Better off using honey

I would like to believe this was just beer room banter amongst friends with Uncle Jona trying to crack jokes

Read and be cautiously proud.

If this first case happened in some other States that we would not name, the story would have been different.

A big thank you to Lagos state. The State with the best health infrastructure in the country. A lot of improvement still need sha.

[url][/url]http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/09/nigeria-contains-ebola-outbreak_n_5959442.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592

DEAR ABBY: When my daughter was 20, she met a guy who one minute showered her with roses and the next would beat her up. She stayed with him thinking she could change him, and became pregnant. On her 21st birthday, she tried to get away from him. He chased her up the road and went to punch her in the stomach. When she turned to avoid the blow, it landed, hitting the baby in the head and killed the child.
Abby, once a beater, always a beater. I hope all women in abusive relationships will see this letter. My daughter is fine now, married and expecting. I pray for the women and girls out there who are going through what she once had to. -- PENNSYLVANIA MOM
DEAR PENNSYLVANIA MOM: I'm glad you wrote, because your letter reminds me that it has been some time since I printed the warning signs of an abuser. Here they are:
(1) PUSHES FOR QUICK INVOLVEMENT: Comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone." An abuser pressures the new partner for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
(2) JEALOUS: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone"; checks the mileage on your car.
(3) CONTROLLING: If you are late, interrogates you intensively about whom you talked to and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.
(4) UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: Expects you to be the perfect mate and meet his or her every need.
(5) ISOLATION: Tries to isolate you from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble." The abuser may deprive you of a phone or car, or try to prevent you from holding a job.
(6) BLAMES OTHERS FOR PROBLEMS OR MISTAKES: It's always someone else's fault if something goes wrong.
(7) MAKES OTHERS RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OR HER FEELINGS: The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I am angry," or says, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you."
( HYPERSENSITIVITY: Is easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings when he or she is really mad. Rants about the injustice of things that are just a part of life.
(9) CRUELTY TO ANIMALS OR CHILDREN: Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry. Sixty-five percent of abusers who beat their partners will also abuse children.
(10) "PLAYFUL" USE OF FORCE DURING SEX: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; finds the idea of rape exciting.
(11) VERBAL ABUSE: Constantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you with relentless verbal abuse.
(12) RIGID GENDER ROLES: Expects you to serve, obey, remain at home.
(13) SUDDEN MOOD SWINGS: Switches from sweet to violent in minutes.
(14) PAST BATTERING: Admits to hitting a mate in the past, but says the person "made" him (or her) do it.
(15) THREATS OF VIOLENCE: Says things like, "I'll break your neck" or "I'll kill you," and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really mean it."
[url][/url]http://news.yahoo.com/check-warning-signs-potential-abusers-050113351.html

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7. Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8. Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. Be willing to take her sexually, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13. Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14. Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15. Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17. Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18. Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19. Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

(From the Editor: We wish to thank Joachim Cabanyes for sending it to us for publication, Joachim Cabanyes is an honorary member of Authors-choice blog.)

[url][/url]http://afterjujuman./2013/08/23/my-advice-to-married-couples-after-divorcing-my-wife-of-16-years-by-gerald-rogers/

"That, it was an order from above is not enough reason to deny an elected person of his legal rights as prescribed by virtue of Kwara State Pension Law of 2010, Third Schedule, Section 2 (3) paragraph H"

Are the security details attached to him employed or paid by Kwara State government?

A State cannot make any law over a government agency/unit it dose not control. The NPF belongs to the Federal government and therefore the FGN has the right and the responsibility of making rules/laws for this agency.

If Saraki's argument is "all senators are entitled to X number of security details from the NPF and dem no give me my own", then we can look into it further. If not, he should hire and pay for his own security like all Nigerians do.

CHICAGO (AP) — A U.S. judge sentenced a longtime fugitive to nine years in prison Thursday for leading what was one of the world's largest heroin networks, extending from suppliers in Thailand to distributors working out of a boutique in Chicago.

The sentencing of Musiliu Balogun highlights a seismic shift in how heroin gets to the U.S.. In the 1990s, when Balogun was in his heyday as a drug trafficker, most of the heroin originated from Southeast Asia and got to the United States through couriers. Now, most of it is smuggled across the southern border by Mexican cartels.

The hub of the network Balogun oversaw was the Women's Affair Boutique, a clothing store on Chicago's North Side. Balogun lived in a $2,400 Bangkok apartment while other traffickers "worked for peanuts," one suspect complained, according to court documents.

Standing in the Chicago court Thursday with his legs shackled, the 53-year-old Nigerian fumbled with a folder in his hands and repeatedly bowed to U.S. District Judge James Holderman during a brief statement.

"I sincerely apologize for all the pain I have caused," the native Yoruba speaker said in a soft voice. Once nicknamed "the policeman" for the discipline he imposed on subordinate traffickers, Balogun added in court, "I've learned a lot and I'm a changed person now."

In imposing sentence, Holderman said the harm caused by the trafficking drugs into the U.S. "has been momentous."

Statistics suggest heroin use in the U.S. has soared. Numbers of people who said they used heroin in the past year rose by 66 percent from 2007 and 2011, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration reports.

While Balogun trafficked pricey Asian heroin injected with a needle, today's Mexican- and Colombian-made heroin is more potent but cheaper and easier to ingest in its powdery form, said Jack Riley, the Drug Enforcement Administration's head in Chicago.

"What's scary is we thought we had heroin licked. And look where we are now," said Riley, who as a young agent in the mid-'90s worked on the investigation that eventually brought down Balogun's network.

For at least some Mexican cartels, heroin trafficked to the U.S. is now their No. 1 money maker, Riley said. While the majority of heroin in the United States comes in via Mexico, Asian heroin and heroin from Afghanistan still makes up the bulk of supply to Europe, China and Russia, Riley said.

Balogun, of Ogun, Nigeria, initially faced a life sentence, but a plea deal in June following his extradition from Holland meant the maximum was just nine years. Defense lawyer Raymond Wigell said his client could be out of prison in as little as 2 ½ years with time served in the Netherlands.

Asked outside court if a few years behind bars would be appropriate for someone who played so central a role in the massive network, Wigell said, "This ring has been dead for 15, 17 years. ... He's out of that life."

Based in Thailand and Cambodia in the 1990s, Balogun was adept at recruiting couriers in hotels or airports, and they would then smuggle the heroin to the U.S. aboard airlines — sometimes swallowing it in small bags and expelling it after reaching Chicago, Riley said.

"This guy was a genius, including at recruiting couriers," he said. "He also had ties to the Thai government at the time and with its military."

Among the other key figures in the network were Nigerian women working out of the Chicago boutique shop — dubbed "queen bees" by investigators; they received the kilos of contraband from couriers, then distributed it in 100-gram containers to local street gangs, according to court documents.

The first breaks for investigators in the 1990s were the capture of couriers, who then revealed telephone numbers they were ordered to call upon arrival in Chicago. Authorities used that information to work their way of the chain of command, he said.

Dozens of his coconspirators were arrested worldwide in 1996, but Balogun evaded capture until his arrest in Amsterdam in 2006. Dutch authorities extradited him to the U.S. in February.

Balogun, who holds a business degree from the University of Lagos, elicited smiles by some court officials when the judge asked what career he intended to pursue once out of prison.

"I want to engage in transportation," he said. "I have experience."

Later, his lawyer explained to reporters that the married father of four ran a legitimate trucking company from 1996 to 2006 while on the lam from U.S. authorities.

[url][/url]http://news.yahoo.com/sentencing-highlights-change-heroin-trafficking-182346787.html

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I have always believed that is the youths of today that will expose the hypocrisy of our generation. Be fearless and keep speaking up for yourselves.

Don't let the limited imagination of our generation stop you!

@OP you mean "the dangers of verbally abusing your kids"

Let us call a spade a spade.

Verbal abuse for humans results in emotional and psychological problems.

To those single and still searching: if you meet someone whose parents verbally abuse dem, ready yourself to deal with the consequences.

To parents: if your goal is to raise emotionally stable children, refrain from verbal abuse.

To those who live abroad: although you were raised in a culture where verbally abusing your kids and others is acceptable, this can get you in more trouble with the law when you decide it is normal to verbally abuse the "cousin" you sneaked in to help with the your kids. Read the stories of all those convicted for "slavery". The evidence of verbal abuse (goat, bush animal etc)was used to convinced the jury.

So the President is now hearing voices....wahala dey

N55m Xmas Gifts, Sex Scandals Rock Ekiti House Of Assembly

Posted by: Our Reporter on January 26, 2013 in Exclusive Leave a comment

The Ekiti State House of Assembly is presently enmeshed in sex scandal, involving the Speaker, Dr. Adewale Omirin and the House Chief Whip, Mrs Wunmi Ogunlola and another N55 million scandal.

As the story goes, N55 million was allegedly approved by the State Governor, Kayode Fayemi and released to the House for Christmas and New Year Gifts.

Multiple sources alleged that the Speaker cornered the fund, releasing a paltry sum of N50,000 to each of his colleagues in the House.

Workers in the House that ought to have been paid Xmas bonus from the N55 million were also not paid a dime.

A source said only the Chief Whip, Mrs Wunmi Ogunlola benefited immensely from the fund as she was the one who was in charge of supply of Hampers. Each of the hampers allegedly cost N40,000.

A few days ago, news went viral on social media that the Speaker was in London with the Chief Whip and the Chief Whip’s husband.

Source said Tunde Ogunlola, a retired Court Registrar was once married and that he threw his first wife out of the house because of Wunmi, who is now the House of Assembly Chief Whip.

Wunmi was ferried out of the house on Monday by Taye, the Speaker’s driver.

Worried about the whereabouts of his wife, Ogunlola, a retired Court Registrar had gone to the Jibowu Hall, Govt House, Ado-Ekiti where the ACN Women Wing was holding a meeting.

He had excused the Speaker’s wife out and asked her the whereabouts of his wife because the Speaker’s driver identified as Taye came to the house around Bank Road in Ado Ekiti a few days ago and took his wife away. The Speaker’s wife asked the “lawmaker’s husband” if he could identify the said man that came to his house, and the man answered in the affirmative. Mr Speaker’s wife then called some government drivers and without wasting time, Mr. Ogunlola instantly identified Taye as the driver who came to pick his wife!

There and then, Mr Speaker’s wife descended on Taye, pounced on him before stripping him naked! As if that was not enough, sources also said that Mr Speaker’s daughter called in from London to tell her mum that a “strange”
woman had taken over their home in London.

Though no official statement has been issued by the Speaker and the Chief Whip, some ACN supporters claimed that the duo’s trip to London was official and that another member of the House, Hon. Segun Erinle was also part of the trip.

However, contrary to this claim, our investigation revealed that Hon. Erinle travelled out of the country before the end of December, 2012 and has not returned to Nigeria since then while Mr. Speaker and his Chief Whip travelled out of Nigeria to London on Monday, January 21, 2013.

Source: [url][/url]http://pointblanknews.com/pbn/exclusive/n55m-xmas-gifts-sex-scandals-rock-ekiti-house-of-assembly/

Milan Piqué Mebarak

Always fascinating to see the Spanish culture (Spain and Latin America) use the father's surname as their middle name, and the mother's surname as the child's surname.

[quote][/quote]He told the crowd of worshippers that God spared the lives of certain individuals in the country last year because of intercessory prayers of the saints, noting “the prayers of some of you minimized death of prominent Nigerians last year, don’t stop praying.”


I have always known it was Nigerian Christians pulling this country back
To all the Saints, please stop praying for prominent Nigerians let God do His work. Why are you keeping them here with your prayers to keep oppressing those of us who are "not prominent Nigerians"?

From EMMANUEL UZOR, Onitsha

A middle aged woman, simply identified as Uchenna is cooling her feet at the Onitsha Police Area Command for breaking her maid’s hand and tearing her private part with razor blade. Saturday Sun gathered that the woman allegedlly used a pestle to break her maid’ left hand and inflicted very deep cuts in her private part with a razor blade in the commercial city of Onitsha

The incident took place at Osuma Street where the victim, Chisom Nwafor is living with her mistress before she was attacked by the suspect. Narrating her ordeal, Chisom, a 10 year old girl from Enugu-Abo in Enugu State said her mistress returned to the house last Sunday morning and started beating her and used razor blade on her private parts. “I was changing her daughter’s dress because she urinated on it.

My madam entered and started shouting on top of her voice and she immediately rushed into the kitchen and collected pestle and hit me severally on my back and she hit me again and broke my left hand, I fell and she entered her room and took a razor blade, tore my pant and started tearing my private part after which she poured pepper inside my private part which was bleeding” she said. Speaking on the incident, the Onitsha Area Commander, Benjamin Wordu described the incident as highest level of inhumanity and said the suspect would pay for her actions.

Mr. Wordu warned parents to always give birth to children they can train instead of giving them out to such women he described as devil incarnates who maltreat vulnerable children under their care. Meanwhile, the suspect, Uchenna shouting from the police cell, denied using razor blade on the victim when this reporter visited the police station.
http://sunnewsonline.com/new/national/police-detain-woman-for-tearing-maids-private-part-with-razor/

Total lack of creativity and band wagon effect done in the name of giving the public what they want.

That is why none of them will be like Micheal Jackson.

Remember, American Pop music videos were lack luster before MJ came with the Thriller video.

Looking forward to seeing the "Steve Jobs" of Nigerian video.....be creative and the people will follow

Boko Haram should attend the next meeting

Apparently in China, bad genes are grounds for divorce — and six-figure fines

"Failed relationships can get ugly," says Ji Lin at the Irish Examiner, but the weird, sad tale of Jian Feng and his wife "really gives meaning to the old cliché." The story starts out conventionally enough: Feng, a resident of northern China, met and married a beautiful woman, and they had a baby girl. That's when things reportedly got, um, ugly. Feng was "so sure of his own good looks, so crushed by the wrinkly ugly mess that was handed to him in a swaddle, that he decided to sue his wife because the awful looking baby was totally her fault," says Madeline Holler at Babble. And then things went from ugly to crazy: He won. Here's what you should know:
How was the ugly baby the mom's fault?
Since the baby didn't look like either parent, Feng accused his wife of infidelity — "because jumping to conclusions about your wife's faithfulness is the obvious thing to do when you have an ugly baby," says Sam Smith at Planet Ivy. After a DNA test proved that the baby is, in fact Feng's, the wife came clean on her little secret: Before they had met, she had undergone about $100,000 worth of cosmetic surgery in South Korea. And unverified before-and-after photos circulating on Western and Chinese blogs do show a marked improvement in looks after the women went under the knife.

On what grounds did he sue?
False pretenses — Feng claimed that his wife misled him by not telling him about her plastic surgery before they wed. "I married my wife out of love, but as soon as we had our first daughter, we began having marital issues," he reportedly said. "Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me." A judge agreed, and ordered the wife to fork over $120,000. Ugh, says Babble's Holler. The wife "should probably file her own lawsuit for even more damages from having married Feng under the false pretense that he wasn't a shitty husband and father."

Who's the biggest loser here?
Well, "it's usually the victim of court cases that you're supposed to feel sorry for," says Planet Ivy's Smith, but who wants to give emotional succor to a "man who is angry at his beautiful wife for being ugly at some point in her life." The wife obviously has to pay a huge amount of money, and got publicly humiliated in the process, but at least she's free of an obviously odious husband. So "if you're going to feel sorry for anyone, feel sorry for their child, who will forever be known as the baby that broke her parent's marriage — with her face."
By The Week's Editorial Staff
[url][/url]http://news.yahoo.com/man-sued-wife-birthing-ugly-baby-110500995.html