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tpia:
The thing is- friendship doesnt need to be labelled. Only a gay person would think otherwise, because for them, friendship almost always tends to have a sexual connotation.  Its the sad truth.

Romance tends to involve sex. Or an anticipated sexual fantasy/strong emotional non-platonic attachment. Thats why I think the word Bromance must have been invented by a gay person who doesnt understand the idea of non-sexual male communication.

Eros as opposed to platonic relationship, is whats being muddled here.

True friendship shouldn't be labelled and this isn't about that. It is about what you do, how you conduct yourself in the confines of the friendship.

Pray tell. . .
What kind of friendship do you have, if you can't hangout alone together?
What kind of friendship is it, if you have to watch your Ps and Qs?
What kind of friendship is it where you can't express yourself?

I believe if guys are open with their feeling with other guys. . . they won't have a problem showing their tender side with women because if you really think about it, the reason men aren't expressive is for fear that other guys will mock them or see them as wussies. BROMANCE does not only help man-man relationship, it also the woman-man relationship.

Any woman out there who is tired of her man never showing his emotions will join me in saying YES TO PROPOSITION BROMANCE FOR NAIJA GUYS!! 

Seriously, though a gau didn't come up with the word. Men who were tired of walking on egg shells around their friends did. They said "Eff this, we're guys, we love each other and we are not GAY"

tpia:
the thing is men are different from women, and besides, anyone who knows something about the gay lifestyle, is aware that there are many body postures and signals they use to communicate with each other. The average person may be ignorant of such, but the gays understand themselves. Especially abroad. Maybe not so much in Nigeria ( yet), but definitely overseas.

If ordinary[b] toe tapping in a public toilet [/b] is a signal to other gays, how much more hand holding and the like. In the US and the western world, if you see two guys holding hands and acting all lovey dovey, your refusal to acknowledge their gayness, only shows you as blinding yourself to reality.

Anyone whose husband makes a habit of holding hands with other men (especially abroad), had better watch that husband before he springs a surprise announcement that he's leaving her for another man. Or before she catches him having sex with his gay partner.

This is how some women can be married to a guy for so  many years without realising he's on the downlow. Because they may be ignoring the telltale signs. After the secret is exposed, then some women realise it may have been obvious all along.

A guy who makes a habit of brushing against some other guy/s at a party or nightclub, is also a warning sign.

I agree! That's why I think it's time to take back GUY LOVE from the Gay side. Why should guys miss out on having deep meaningful friendships just because some people might thin it is Gay and what happened to not living your life based on what others think?

Oh yeah, I think time to embrace BROMANCE.

KarmaMod:
Dont know why Naija men are playing themselves. They are the biggest offenders of bromance

Hugs, tapping each others butts, holding hands. If a person wasnt Nigerian, just by looking at campuse,s you'D think they're all gay.

They tried to transfer it to the Argentines at the Olympic football game. Didnt work

LMAO! Thank you oh! This is why it's amusing to see 'em have their Bromantic panties in a bunch.

Missy B:
You misunderstood  Ihuoma.

The first part of the statment you quoted wasn't made by her but by sm1 else.
She didn't quote the person but typed wha d person wrote.While d 2nd statment is hers.
She's actually the person who says der's nu'n wrong wit holdin hands wit a fellow guy.

Thanks, I modified my post, although I can't find the original post. . . or maybe I really do need those glasses everyone has been telling me I need.

Oh come on Guys! Clear your minds of all the corrupted beliefs about two guys sharing a deep friendship and see what what Bromance is really all. Being in a BROMANCE indicates a level of trust hitherto only witnessed in female friendships. Aren't you tired of living life on egg shells??!!

Bromantics are not Gay!!

tpia:
tomato, tomahtoh.

LOL. . . oh yeah? Why do you think so?

lexicon:
2) Dining together across a table without the aid of a television is a man date

This one na lie. when i dey school, me and my room mate dey eat like that without teli, _{and we no bromance anytin}

Are you sure? Come on. . . it's okay to admit it you know?

KarmaMod:
JD & Turk

Typical Bromance aka Guy Love  

https://bp3.blogger.com/_N_VcgmGUMVQ/R0SX20JK6XI/AAAAAAAAAjE/_CbH4l0t2eo/s320/turkJD.jpg

LMAO! THANK YOU! God, I love Turk and JD!! 

What do you mean by what is wrong with guys holding hands. If you see your husband holding hands with another man, don't say anything about it, just encourage him to continue, very soon that hand he his holding will turn to something else and i hope you won't say we didnt tell you.
Its okay for girls to hold hands but guys, its totally unacceptable.

Oh my God! Are you serious with this post? A man holding another man's had us wrong??!!! Please tell me you are joking! Even our great great grand parents who didn't go to school are not this ignorant. . . no offense. What is WRONG is how our minds have been so CORRUPTED, we start reading vulgar meanings into innocent gestures.

Do you have brothers? Did they have friends growing up? I'm sure at one point or the other, they held hands. . . and except you can show us evidence that your brothers and their friends are now gay, then your theory does not hold water!!!

[quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=165342.msg2727586#msg2727586 date=1220065817]Moremi, alias Senior Advocate, OP said he IS IN LOVE WITH A GUY, and you say thats not what he meant.  Please tell me thats one of your sarcasm at work   

Mechengin, your opening statement is muddy, please clarify.[/quote]

StephenP:
What?! Are you being sarcastic again cause he clearly said he was "always in love with [his] fellow guy".

LMAO! Oh my Goodness, I can't stop laughing. This is not sarcasm. . . not this time. I know he said IN LOVE but I don't think it's gay love but BROMANCE!!

It's sad how men are shortchanged when it comes to friendship. Women can openly hold hand, sit on each others laps, fondly touch each other and no one makes a huge deal but guys have to be careful. It's so not right and it's high time we set things straight!

Let's discuss Bromance. . .
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-165719.0.html

What is Bromance?

Unlike MAN CRUSH which is a one-sided feeling one guy for another, BROMANCE is described as. . .
1) The intense love shared between heterosexual males.
2) A close relationship between two bros to such a point where they start to seem like a couple.
3) This bond is normally only shared between two males that have a deeper understanding of each other, in a way no woman could ever realize.
4) Guys in Bromance don’t have a problem saying “I love you” to each other because they know the words can be said in a totally non-sexual way.
5) Guys in Bromance don’t have a problem going on man dates.

What is Man date?

1) It is two guys meeting for the kind of outing a straight man might reasonably arrange with a woman.
2) Dining together across a table without the aid of a television is a man date
3) Taking a walk in the park together is a man date;
4) Attending an ordinary move (i.e nothing overtly manly or chick flick) is a man date.

What is NOT Man date

1) Eating at a bar is not man date
2) Going for a jog is not man date
3) Going to see your favorite team play is not man date.

Guys, are you man enough for BROMANCE?
Ladies how would you feel about a guy BROMANCE?

Again Bromantics are NOT GAY.

OP here, I got the lyrics for you and made the neccessary adjustment to fit your need. My comments are in the upper Subscript.

GUY LOVE
Let's face the facts about me and you, A love unspecified.
Though I'm proud to call you "Chocolate Bear,"
The crowd will always talk and stare.

I feel exactly those feelings, too
And that's why I keep them inside.
'Cause this bear can't bear the world's disdain,
And sometimes it's easier to hide,


Than explain our Guy love,
That's all it is, Guy love,
He's mine, I'm his,
There's nothing gay about it in our eyes.

You ask me 'bout this thing we share,
And he tenderly replies,
It's guy love Between two guys.

We're closer than the average man and wife,
That's why our matching bracelets say ^{[Your name and your guy friend's name]}
You know I'll stick by for the rest of my life.

You're the only man who's ever been inside of me.
Whoa, I just took out his apendix ^{(or however else he's been inside of you )}
There's no need to clarify,
Oh no?

Just let it grow more and more each day.
It's like I married my best friend,
But in a totally manly way.

Let's go! It's guy love, Don't compromise,
The *feeling* of some other guy,
Holding up your heart, Into the sky.

I'll be there to care through all the lows.
I'll be there to share the highs.

It's guy love, Between two guys.

And when I say, "I love you [insert friend's name here],"
It's not what it impies.

It's guy love Between Two Guys!!!!

Good Luck my brave Naija brother who is not afraid the express his love for another guy. God Bless you! 

LOL! I think there is a semantics problem here. I don't think the poster is saying he is in love with a guy, just that he likes them very well. Remember when you were young and your mind was still innocent, how you felt about your friend? I believe that's what OP mean.

@ Topic
Sadly, from the responses. . . it's obvious society does not allow guys will be free with their emotions for other guys, except guys who are really secure in their manhood like my brothers and their friends.

GUYS TAKE THE SHACKLES OFF YOUR FEET AND DECLARE YOUR GUY LOVE! ^{You'll feel better, trust me}


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL4L4Uv5rf0

Hee! I didn't know we could post long ones. My all time favorite can't call it a quote because of the lenght, is from JFK

"The Warren Commission thought they had an open-and-shut case. Three bullets, one assassin. But two unpredictable things happened that day that made it virtually impossible. One, the eight-millimeter home movie taken by Abraham Zapruder while standing by the grassy knoll. Two, the third wounded man, James Tague, who was knicked by a fragment, standing near the triple underpass. The time frame, five point six seconds, determined by the Zapruder film, left no possibility of a fourth shot. So the shot or fragment that left a superficial wound on Tague's cheek had to come from the three shots fired from the sixth floor depository. That leaves just two bullets. And we know one of them was the fatal head shot that killed Kennedy. So now a single bullet remains. A single bullet now has to account for the remaining seven wounds in Kennedy and Connelly. But rather than admit to a conspiracy or investigate further, the Warren Commission chose to endorse the theory put forth by an ambitious junior counselor, Arlen Spector, one of the grossest lies ever forced on the American people. We've come to know it as the "Magic Bullet Theory." This single-bullet explanation is the foundation of the Warren Commission's claim of a lone assassin. Once you conclude the magic bullet could not create all seven of those wounds, you'd have to conclude that there was a fourth shot and a second rifle. And if there was a second rifleman, then by definition, there had to be a conspiracy." - Jim Garrison.

and

Back, and to the left,  back, and to the left,  back, and to the left.  -  Jim Garrison

Lmao! This tread dicerve to be tread of the yer and all the kontrebutors dicerve medalls for astanding work and oreginul poster decerve a haword for startining this tread and Seun decerve an nobul priess for criating nairaland witch is why oreginal pster culd startining this tread and kontributors culd kontribute. A rand of appluese for everibodi.

Whoa, what an appaulling desplay of appluese. I am desapionted.

knotty:
wath is rung in spelling miskate? sometaims the problme is typing msitake especially whne yuo are in a hurry because of internate cafe charges.
so, cut the chase, we are an educated lot here jo o.
by the way, who appointed you judge over us? what an appaulful assumptuous

AM laffing to mush lafter ere, they wuuld soon firing me oh.

pleese AM beg yuo, stop now and don't bee abusining on him.

Law enforcement officials have designated the trend as the most serious issue affecting Igbo families in America, informing that the fights erupt because of stress brought about by unrealistic expectation of economic gains and pressures by relatives back in Nigeria.

Father Lord in heaven, thank you for real experts who actually know what they are saying.

How someone can even attribute these senseless murders to something as benign as Nurses claiming to make more money and not being educated, is completely beyond me. What these men went through is called a catathymic crisis or Catathymia and the common link between them is not their nurse wives but that they all come from an extremely patriarchal society. 

Thanks for the article.

[quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=164200.msg2722326#msg2722326 date=1219977890]Sensei walks to Sisi with his arm extended out to her,
she reaches up with her hand into his,
he pulls her up from her position

Aiye a ye o,
Oju o' ni ti e,
Ire a to e wa,
Bi o sen lo, to n' bo
Alafia, emi gigun ati Idunu ko ma yi e ka,

Sensei, pulls Sisi close in his embrace and presses a kiss to her forehead.

You are a reincarnate and from today forward I shall call you "Moremi"   [/quote]Sisikill Preening like a peacock

Moremi? I like it!! 

sistawoman:
well Amos called his other three brothers and sister (sister and brother in Nigeria, brother in London and brother in Italy) and they all called me.  They told me he would be home w/in the hour and that when he arrives i should give him my back until he begs for forgiveness.

They said that they expressed their concern and disapproval at the way he has been behaving to me and that if i did not allow their brother to return that he would be the only one to blame.  his sister also told me that she would have never taken him food to eat while he was staying at the apartment, she would have let him continue to find his food in the street.  But doing so showed that i really was sorry for lying and that i loved my husband enough to continue to provide for him even when he was misbehaving.  She also told me should he act up again i must contact them to set the matter str8.  i told her that i wanted to work this out between us with Amos help but that he was not listening to Amos.

They really do care about me and sure enough my husband was home w/in the hour. 

My son's party was yesterday and he showed up an hour ahead of time to beg me for forgiveness that he acted like a child and to please accept his apology and a small gift from him to me.

I have been telling him i don't like driving the truck that he brought and just want a car and told him that i fell in love with the Jetta.  Last night I got my wish, a brand new Jetta fresh off the lot in my favorite color blue.

We talked and talked and talked and talked.  We aired alot last night and ironed out so many other things that were boiling below from both of us.

My husband has returned home and i am happy to have him there.

Sisterwoman, there's a thread on the Lit section that needs you attention.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-163890.0.html

I think your story will fit quitely nicely there. 

quadrillio:
The one that really cracks me and a friend of my up was a company's Bill board in front of the company reads

WE DEVELOP SOFTWEAR  instead of software.

when they can't spell it, how can they develop it.

Na God go save us from quack professionals

LMAO! Now that is funny!

Really cracked me and a friend of MINE up.

Does spell check 20 times before submitting.

If origunal poster said nobodi is abuve mistack, then what is the propose of this tread? 

stillwater:
This is more than obsession. Pathetic!!!

LMAO! You too you see, right? I really want to know what Kanu stole from him.

Rotflmao! Kanu Nwankwo again?!!

Okay, OP please tell us. . . what has this man done to you?

KarmaMod:
e jo o. Sisi, RichieBlack is not of the "baale tribe"

E ma bu wa bayin

Bwhahaha! I hope you don't mind if I borrowed this. . .

ABAAAAAJO!!

Emi naa ti ro ti ti, depression was starting to catch me.

Thank you, aah!

[quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=164200.msg2722060#msg2722060 date=1219971412]hmmm,   

Richy, come on click to another room, ; politics, religion, culture, , somewhere,    Abandon this and let it go,    mesmya is a woman.  Nna, let it go, it would be different if you were faced off with a man. [/quote]Hmmmmmmmmmm

Slowly going my Knees

Sensei, Mojuba!
Jeje ni mo wa si yaju yin la oni
Ewu Ogbon ti ewo koni fa ya oh.
Okunrin to ju gbo awon Okun Nairaland lo.
Oruko omo lo n ro omo
Omo ajanaku kii yara
Omo ti eya ba bi
Eya lo maa jo
Omo Ologbon nko?
Ah Ologbon lo maa jo.

Moju baaaa oh!


Falls face to the ground.


If I mistakenly insulted you in my forced Yoruba, please forgive me

RichyBlacK:
Look at this nama ugwu awusa, aren't you one of the many bitter biatches that keep shouting "men and women are equal"? Fool. So, if I can insult a guy, why can't I insult you? Don't even bring that tired "we are the weaker sex" talk here. Zombie!

Eeeya, this is really sad oh! It's not about women being weaker sex, it's about respecting yourself now. I have this image of you in central market, tying your agabada very well, tapping your feet on the ground and clapping while shouting insults.  

How will eyes see it or ears hear it that a baale ile is outside trading insults up and down with women,  Baale ile is what the call it fa, not omode Ile.    

Okay, why am I feeling sorry for RichyBlack? I mean seriously, there's something about the way he is here trading insults with women that breaks my heart. I almost feel like crying and I'm sure I would be if I wasn't laughing so hard.

How do you expect a man who does not see anything wrong with a guy leaving his wife and her kids without transportation and money for 3 days, to see the hypocrisy in insulting a woman while telling her not to insult a man. Not because the man being insulted does not deserve it but because he is MAN. My God! I feel sorry for some people's wife.  

I agree. . . insulting a man is WRONG. However, it has already been established brotherman is not a man. I don't know what he is, I mean I used think he was a child but his behavior is way to childish for a child. I thought, okay maybe a baby, I'll call him a baby but I this afternoon, I saw my cousin's baby and I felt bad for insulting cute innocents babies. So whatever he is, Mr. Ungrateful does not deserve any respect.