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dreeldee:
I'll be getting married soon to a Nigerian abroad so

Have no fear!

I'm bet you will be getting a speedy intervention call from members of The Nigerian Men Against The Union of Nigerian Men In Diaspora with Nigerian Women in Diaspora Association or NMAUNMDNWDA ^{hey why did I think of numbnuts while typing that? I tell ya, The mind is a crazy thing ain't it}

The question is this - Do you love her enough to ignore their warnings? Do you? By the way, not to butter you up so you can pick her over them or anything, I really think you are one of the very few good guys left!

Semper fi, Lone Ranger. . . Semper Fi  *salutes*

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=155971.msg2590852#msg2590852 date=1217550351]Sweets, I was only trying to stress what the bible said o! Abi you no be christian?? Did you not hear submit?? Abi did you not also see the meaning of submit?? You can rant and yell if you so please, it was not my opinion. But if we look back to the marriages of old, the women were more submissive (I think its because they never got to watch Oprah or travel abroad) , so why do our yankee chicks feel so larger than life.[/quote]Honey bun, please do us a favor. . . I mean those of us who went past JSS1 CRK and don't attribute that asinine statement about women not needing to think for themselves to the bible, mmmmmkay! Thanks Tooty fruits!  

Now that I know you don't really understand the Bible, I won't hold it against you. How's that, babycakes?



Hmmmm, Tooty fruity, Honey bun & babycakes

Gah! Now I've made myself hungry!

HCH3COO:
You can be the head of your household and still love your wife as you love yourself.  The women in question here are those unwilling to submit.

Action -  Reaction, mah brother! Action - Reaction.

Think about it.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=155971.msg2590755#msg2590755 date=1217548757]
Why would you want to think for yourself when you are supposed to be submissive?? The fact that I want you to be submissive does it mean I don't love you?? You speak of insecure manhood, why are you women trying to elevate yourselves to the same level as your husbands??

Maybe if you were submissive which is what is required of you as a woman, then we wouldnt have need for this thread.[/quote]Why would a woman want to think for herself when she's supposed to be submissive??!!!

ROTFLMAO! OMFG!!

Surely you jest? I'm sorry but how old are you?

Why would a woman want to think for herself when she's supposed to be submissive??!!!

Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha! I'm so sorry, I am so sorry but I can't get past that! No way I can respond to your post now, apart from not knowing where to start from, I can't stop laughing!!!! Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Jeeebus! I go die oh!

I imagine some of the sensible guys on this forum are reading your post, slapping their foreheads and going. . .

"Somebody get that kid off the battlefield, right now coz he is soooo losing the war for us with statements like that. Jeebus, don't they go through man training anymore?"

Why would a woman want to think for herself when she's supposed to be submissive??!!!

Yeparipa! mi o gbo ru e ri! ROTFLMAO!

My daddy sure will be mighty pissed off when he finds out he wasted money sending his daughters to school!      

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=155971.msg2590580#msg2590580 date=1217546707]@ Topic

I will use this bible passage as quoted by brother H₂O as the main reason why I cannot marry a Naija babe abroad.
Nigerian chicks have a very interesting brain. When once they sit on any flight that takes them out of Naija, even if Na Benin or Togo, they all of a sudden become oyinbos and Ajebutters. Can you imagine a husband coming home to KFC chicken and fries for dinner??

How can you marry a girl that is virtually bigger than you. Naija girls wey don jand and yank are different from the Naija chicks at home o!. It's like when once they breathe oyinbo air, their brains will just format, they loose all they were taught in Naija. Can you imagine a wife turning off the T.V set and telling him to go do the dishes, ^{she smoke weed??} . When once they go abroad they start watching Oprah and Tyra and their lives becomes janded. All of a sudden they can quote everything in the constitution about women liberty, they start talking about female empowerment, gender equality, and all that other rubbish. Imagine you telling a yankee based, Naija chick to go and pound yam for you, that day she'll show you explain to you that the marriage is 50/50. When once you marry them it is goodbye garri, ewedu, ofe Nsala, Pounded yam _{(Not yam flour o!)} , ugba and opkoroko, everything tradition flies out the window, in comes Subway, KFC, Pizza hut, Macdonalds, Starbucks, e.t.c.

_{Chukwu ekwe kwa na ka ngwere gba aghi.}

Their yawa too much my brother. Instead go back home, travel to your village, and pick a wife. sho ti gbo![/quote]Uncle Janded, I know your Bible did not end there oooh, what about this part

[size=15pt]25. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.[/size]

Seriously, why do you all conveniently ignore the part of LOVING YOUR WIVES AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF[/b] when you rant and rave about submission! You can deny at all you want but it is what it is.

Are you guys really that insecure in your manhood, you can't allow yourself to love, cherish and respect your wives? Are you such wusses that a woman thinking for herself sends you all scampering into a shell?  My God! That is so sad but what's sadder is that you guys don't know how sad it is.

Instead of trying to force submission. . .  how about you do what is required of you and spare us the hysterics.

KarmaMod:
Dont know what "aboard village" you live but Nigerians marry themselves here all the time.

People need to stop making up lies

LMOA!

Maybe Viggini &  West Viggini

I 'ear them peoples there are villager like.

LMAO!

What Asi ri?

You don't know nothin'.

Lmao!

I love how you guys are going on the assumption that the student in question is smart.

Suppose she's one of those By force Promotion after 3 tries student and she's repeated one or two classes at least twice. . . and please don't tell me it's not possible. I was 12 in JSS2 with a 15yrs old. Goodness, this girl towered over all of us, it wasn't even funny. Anyway, back to the topic. . . So while the average student finishes secondary school at 16, our lolita could very well be 18/19, which isn't that bad.

Okay, that was my attempt to make OP look less like a Pedophile and more like a good guy who won't let intelligence. . . Or lack there of, come in the way of true love.

[I]* Long Dreamy Sigh*[/I]

Romantic, no?

And if it doesn't hold water. . . Then I blame it all on the green apples I've been forced to eat. Gah!

Now I am absolutely convinced Abuseay is a chick.

I had my suspicions with the last thread but this confirms it.

Chat2MeBac:
Couldnt have agreed with you more dear. The diference between us is that we think with our heads, while they do so with their 3rd arm. I give people the benefit of the doubt all the time, if I have reasons to believe you are doing somthing fishy then, may God help you. I may be petite but I have my own way of getting revenge.

I think the poster should have a nice "sit-down" with her boyfriend and talk things out. Lord help us women,

ROTFLMAO!

In the beginning, my friends used to think I'm a fool or something, I didn't even bother explaning. When they saw I was a "fool" and what the "fool" did. . . I went from from being called fool to being Psycho in 10 secs flat. LMAO.

dreams200:
The guy Kev-d about summed it up excellently. However, I would also like to add my humble take on the dialogue from some other perspectives. I think that a comparison on who has the greater talent between both actors may be akin to comparing apples to oranges. Both entertainers ply their trade in entirely different genres, each of which requires distinctly different personality types. Will, is a go-lucky fun loving sort of guy while Denzel is a more introspective individual with greater intellectual depth. Wills natural niche or forte lies in light comedy where he is considered a master of the art. Will Smith starred in arguably the most hilarious sitcom ever produced on TV “The Fresh Prince of Bell Air” which ran for six seasons. Comedy in itself, let alone, comedy at that level - requires extremely high intelligence levels to keep people continually cracking up with laughter. Will was a brilliant student in his younger days and reportedly had the opportunity to get enrolled in MIT - a foremost college on this earth.

A defining difference between both entertainers is depth (call it maturity, intellect or whatever else you wish to call it). Wills personality lacks the depth of a Denzel, or a Morgan Freeman, Russel Crowe, Al Pacino, Robert de Niro or a Jack Nicholson.

I don’t think Will should venture into acting intense character roles; as he probably wouldn’t do so well in them and this would affect his career adversely. Besides, he is now too old to develop required traits for these roles

Tom Hanks for instance can act very convincingly in a wide range of characters and roles, and that’s the skills-set type the Oscars generally gravitate towards. But you can’t take it from Will, he is talented, and has been quite successful in three different entertainment areas: music, movies and comedy. However, when GREAT actors are listed, I doubt if he is reckoned with. His name only crops up when SUCCESSFUL entertainers are mentioned!

Why do you think Tom Cruise, Keanu Reeves, Stallone, Schwarzenegger etc. are unable to bag the Oscars.

Gah! Too bad marriage between Human Beings and Words is not possible or I'd marry this post!

Brilliantly Stated!!!

Hannibal:
DO NOTHING!!!

Lawd-a-mercy!!!

I agree with you? What. . .what the heck is going on here?

What did you give me to eat? Answer me!!!!


@ Topic
Honestly, I wouldn't do anything until I have a real reason to. You don't want to come off coo coo now do you and that's what will happen is you accuse without real evidence. If he is cheating on you, trust me, it won't be long before you have concrete evidence. See, guys are. . . to put it nicely, not that bright and not that bright guys who are cheating, well forgerit. . . Bulb ti o ti jo na, n ya ju ni wan. So sit back and relax, your time for action will come.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2589290#msg2589290 date=1217532583]u just want to be served, will u serve him too?[/quote]Do I hafta?

onyinye2:
(rolls eyes and sips drink)

Hey, stop hugging the bottle now.

Is it chilled? Purrrr-fect! Just the way I like it.

Abeg pour some for me oh jare.

So where are the[i] boyboys[/i]. . . did you tell them to wear the pink sarong like I suggested? Nice!

*Takes a sip and puts feet up*

Aaaaaaah! This, right here is the life. . . I tell ya, there is nothing better than have a cold drink in the middle of the day, with guys in sarong serving you!

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2589071#msg2589071 date=1217530348]Sisikill, u are rvery right, however, submission has no other name but submission[/quote]Aah! Submission, . . my, how I love that word. I’m gonna assume that we’re throwing this word into the mix because is in the bible, right? Okay, fine. . . God wants us to submit to our husbands, we get that, trust me we do but what about the part that says husbands must love their wives with the same love Christ showed the church? How did Christ love the church? With compassion, mercy, forgiveness, respect, and selflessness.

You guys don’t get it do you?
You can’t treat your wife like crap and expect submission.
You can’t have little or no regard for her and expect submission.
You can’t demean her and expect submission

It doesn’t matter if a woman is a CEO/CFO/President of a freaking continent all rolled in one, if she has a husband who loves her, respects her, someone she knows come rain come sunshine she can depend on him, she won’t have a problem with submitting to him.

Sadly, men think being the head means being a dictator, a tyrant who must rule with a heavy fist or he won't be a man. They think if their wives have a voice, she's disrespecting them.


Honestly, how sad is that. . . . to have something as little as your wife making more money, having an opinion or not needing you as much as you want her to, destabilize your entire sense of self? Oh my God! Now I feel sorry for men! Gah! No cool, at all. . . the last thing I wanna feel for guys is pity.

HCH3COO:
It is not as simple as that
Why you take style dey ask me ? If the girl living overseas does not display the familial chracteristics he finds appealing to him, he can look elsewhere.

Take style dey ask you?
LMAO! I swear to God, I don't know what to do with you anymore.


[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588890#msg2588890 date=1217528622]It is a weak man that will not want a lady that already has it all, a lady that could take care of herself, please, we are not more in the 1920s, a lady that has it all will make life so easy for the man, because that means when they both combine what they have, they are big man and woman be that, however, the lady can't let all she has get into her head, because no matter what, they are just propty.[/quote]A weak man is a man who lets where/what/who a woman is in life define how marriage worthy she is. If you have a strong believe in yourself, what does it matter?

A weak man is a man who constantly has to tell everyone he is THE MAN. If you really are something, you wouldn’t need to tell anyone, because they will know

A weak man is a man who goes around demanding respect forgetting that it is earned. If you constantly have to remind people you should be respected, maybe it’s because you aren’t doing something respectable.

A weak man is a man who thinks doing something that might be considered a woman’s chore, will put a dent in his manhood. Oh the sweet savor of inferiority complex!

I guess what I am trying to say is. . .

REAL MEN do not whine about how women are this and that, what A REAL MAN will say instead is “Okay, she this and that. . . . So what?" Why would they say that, you ask? Simple - Because they are Abso-freaking-lutely, Positively SURE OF THEMSELVES!

Let’s take a roll call shall we. . . Real Man? Real Man? Anybody? Nobody?

Yeah, that’s what I thought

Intimidation pure and simple!

A girl living[i] “in abroad”[/i] probably has her own car, lives her own place and has a job. Men don’t want that, they want a girl who will come and ask them for money for Sanitary Towel, so they can tell her she should buy tissues instead, since Sanitary towel is a luxury and not a necessity. I’m not saying these girls are suegbes, it’s because they don’t have a choice. They can’t work because they have no papers, they can’t drive because they have no papers, they can’t travel because they have no papers. I’ve seen it so many times, women brought to America by their hubbies…for the first year or two (even longer) these women are completely dependent on their husbands for everything. They get weekly allowances and if they happen to run out before the end of the week, too bad!

But truth remains that some of those who come over from naija may still come and make friends with those born here and at the end of the day become worse. An Igbo adage says that a a sheep that does not eat yam will learn to uproot the seed when it becomes buddies with yam eaters

One woman I know cried like a baby when she found out her husband used to buy her clothe from thrift stores. When she was in Nigeria, she was a tailor. . . an up and coming designer, she came to America and started wearing thrift store clothes. She saved enough money and got herself a sawing machine. . . one of those you’ll find in a Home Economic class. She started sawing and pretty soon, she had her own income. . . went from doing nasty, ratty looking hair to doing really good hair. She, as the Yoruba say, [i]tu ran se [/i]and you can guess what happened, suddenly her husband started to complain that she has become Americanized. Seriously, looking clean, well-dressed and presentable is now Americanized? Her business really took off and the issue of getting a place where she can have a showroom came up and this guy said NO. She begged and begged, brought elders to the house to house to help her talk to her husband and the idiot said, she can do anything she wants as long as she's ready to move out of the house. He accused her "changing" from the girl he married and just basically rubbished her dreams, she didn't get her showroom and just stopped sawing all together. She works as a Teacher's Aid at a daycare center, she is way more intelligent than the teacher she's aiding but the beauty or best part of this is. . . She HATES him with every fiber of her being. She can't stand him, when he travels, she jokes about being free from bondage for however long he is away.

Lovely Marriage, huh? I guess you guys don't care that if she could get away with it, you wife would murder you while you slept because that's how much she hates you, as long as she cooks your food and wash your clothes.

You don't understand what is meant by preference. If it's the guy's choice to marry from home, he is not wrong for choosing to do so.

If it’s their preference to go to Nigeria to get married, then it is their preference! How then it is “Abroad living girls” fault?

onyinye2:
God has answered your prayers.

Come and Join me sing hallelujah,

My prayers have been answered today. (2ce)

YHU is shorthand for YOU?

But. . . but they are both 3 letter words.

If it's gonna take the same effort to write YHU as it will to write YOU.

So why not just write YOU instead YHU?

YHU get?

onyinye2:
Go and pray for 90 minutes about it.

Bwahahahahahahahaha!

Straight away Sister/Mother!

A little off topic and I apologise sincerely but what does YHU mean?

Abuseay:
hahahha skillllllllllll OMG u make me ROTFL, thanxxxx

My Pleasure!

Missy B:
Probably deir prayers re being answered nd that is y sm men aren't gettin 'em.

Not men. . . nah, nah just the one who is looking for a prayerful woman, besides if they don't meet men at all, it kinda defeats the whole purpose of praying. Except of course, you mean there is no such thing as a GOOD, HONEST, WONDERFUL, SPIRIT-FILLED Man. Hmmmm, didn't see it that way.

My God Watson! I think you have solved the case!!!

Missy B:
LOL
Dey all re probably busy prayin or
he who is d PRAYERFUL one isn't doin what he ought to.
*jst surmising*

Tee hee

Or they are praying for a GOOD, HONEST, WONDERFUL, SPIRIT-FILLED Man and their prayers are being answered. . . if you know what I mean.

@ Topic
Have you considered that maybe it is because prayerful women are. . . prayerful, You haven't met them?

Just sayin'.

Studentet:
Hey Sweetcherry  I hope you like that cute name tooo.

Sweet Cherry? Uhmm. . . Okay, I was thinking nicknames along the lines of Slutina Bitchinski McWhore but this will do too. . . I guess.

Typical Naija man, just when you think you’ve got a handle on them, they call you Sweet Cherry. I suppose I can live with that but I’m so very confused coz Sweet Cherry sounds.  . .sweet and nice and sweet! This is so not what we’re used to. 

HCH3COO:
sisi. . . cherry?   

Funny!!
Ah! E pa te wo fun Boda wa!
You got jokes, eh?

Diamond of Africa?

I'm all for standing by your man and whatnot but. . . errr. . .  isn't that kinda pushing it a tad?

Except of course you are being facetious. If that's the case, I say carry on, carry on.

Why. . . I'll even add my own.

Nigerian men are the top dawgs. They are Goldest of all gold.

Best thing since sliced bread? Forget that, they are breakfast, lunch and dinner wrapped up in non-fattening appetizing package.

The most romantic man in the world has nothing on them. They know what to say and when to say it.

And those little cute nicknames they give us women. . . just beautiful.

Seriously, how do they come up with that? I say it speaks highly of their intelligence.

I bow and submit myself to the Naija man for he is King of the castle, Master of his domain and captain of his ship.

Without the Nigerian man, the world as we know it will cease to exist.

All hail the Nigerian Man.

Olowo ori wa, oko gbo gbo awon obirin laiye, Awon Boda she e fe ti won mo ori gbon, Ikun le ni mo waaaaaa oooooooh!


Jeebus! I hope I didn't over do it oh.