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I have a girlfriend and she loves me very much

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AfroKnight:
I suspect those phantom monickers were created by some misguided feminists who want to score a cheap irrelevant point.

Most of those stories don’t read like a guy’s point of view. The whining, needy, illogical approach reeks of a feminine touch.

While multiple phantom monikers can be created by mischievous females and males to post these stories for whatever reasons, the level of simping, and white knighting among a lot of our males makes me believe that a high number of these stories are true.

You need to get out there to see the embarrassing number of low self-esteemed, self-loathing manginas out there. Don't let looks or the boastful posturing of some of this men deceive you. Most are weak inside.

DenreleDave:
I don't understand why we guys are the ones weeping over ladies and for God sake, this statement seems to be common in every guys thread;


"This is a girl I love so much and planned to spend the rest of my life with."

I have been on nairaland for long and I have hardly come across a lady saying this statement. Like very hard to see a lady say this.

Moreover, why are guys the only one coming to lament of being heartbroken by ladies... What is happening in this part of the world? Are we losing our sanity Cox of these women?

Na WA ooooo.
Imagine every guy that comes here to lament will surely say; This is a girl I love so much and planned to spend the rest of my life with.


Spits

Cc: martinez29, seems ur red pill isn't effective anymore

Martinez29 go kill imsef over pesiin wey never ready to get sense?

If Ubunja and Co begin advise dem on how to handle issues as man, dem go begin call dem "women haters".

Sometimes, it's better to make them learn from experience.

Las las everybody go dey alright!

pansophist:
True. I wrote about this in detail here.

https://www.nairaland.com/5561958/real-men-dont-fall-love#84582369

Furthermore, Gynocentrism is universal, or at least, predominant in societies that freely digest western values. The places that I have seen that do not have a masculine crisis are the non-western inclined Societies like China, Belarus, Turkey, Vietnam, etc. As someone that is well-traveled, I observe a strong correlation with liberalism and degeneracy. The looser a culture becomes, it inevitably becomes riped to be usurped by western liberal values that seem to hate traditional masculinity, and effeminate men. I know few people that lived in the aforementioned countries and announced how happier they felt, as they could just be a man and express their natural behaviors without opprobrium.

Nairaland is doing a good job in fumigating those beta and simpish behaviors from the few that visit it regularly, but for it to go mainstream, a messiah has to start red pill wisdom on platforms such as Instagram and Facebook and relate with Nigerian men in the language they best understand. They are already a lot on the internet, but they are westerners focusing on the western audience, there should be the Nigerian version. I love women, but I understand them.

You are right.

For the bolded, it's a challenge!

pansophist:
Truly masculine men do not fall in love, but love (there is a difference). ''in love'', and ''to love'', often used interchangeably to mean the same thing, but they are different. By nature, men express love (to love), and women fall in love (in love).

To love is sacrificial, its to put yourself out there to protect, provide and premium the interest of your beloved, it is putting ''them first'', as opposed to ''me first''. It is the kind of love expresses by Jesus Christ when he died on the cross for mankind, even though many do not appreciate his death and sacrifices. To love is unconditional, it is a decision and less of emotions, its altruistic and not based on reciprocity. This is how men are to love women, and the kind of love instructed by the bible that men should love their women. (Ephesians 5.25), mind you, the bible did not instruct women to love men, but respect men.

Now, women do not express love to men, like the way men express love. Women are ''in love'' with men. The kind of love women have for men is the kind of love men have for their careers. You love the career as far it satisfies your financial needs and interest, it is a romanticized, egoistic kind of love. The love is only retained as far it satisfies your need, it is opportunistic in nature, and will leave when it doesn't fulfill its purpose and has outlived its usefulness. Women love men in a practical way, that is, she will be in love when he is useful to her, by lavish spendings, his high status which strokes her ego and making her feel physically and financially secure.

Men love flows two-step downwards (to his wife, and then to the kids), while women love flow one-step downwards (from her to her children). Women love (to love) children in the same way men love women and children. Women are in love with men, in the same way, men are in love with their career. Got it?

Men are the only altruistic animals out there

AussiePlayboy:
Simply put. I think you need to put this in a fresh post. Lots of men think it is better out there.

Women hate being accountable for their actions. The very fact that in comparison, when a Nigerian woman cheats, you simply kick her ass out of your house, meanwhile a foreign woman will cheat, and divorce you for whatever reason she makes up, while you pay alimony and child support pending when she remarries - is enough reason to be wise.

I'll do that soon.

CAPSLOCKED:
THE SAME WAY WE SPEND OUR WEEKENDS, AND OTHER PUBLIC HOLIDAYS.



I DON'T KNOW.
BUT REPORTS SHOW THAT UP TO 99% OF ALL THE EVIL DOERS IN NIGERIA SUCH AS CULTISTS, RITUALISTS, ARMED ROBBERS, ALFAS, PASTORS, AND POLITICIANS ARE EITHER CHRISTIANS, MUSLIMS, OR TRADITIONAL RELIGIONISTS.

IT JUST SEEMS LIKE THE MORE RELIGIOUS A PERSON IS, THE MORE DEVILISH HE/SHE IS.

True. It's not just a banter.

80% of the world's most religious countries have high crime rates since poverty and a high level of religiosity often go together.

dermmy:
I said amen to this in the year 2000 well let me say Amen again.

Hustle, so that your child won't also be here to say amen!

Nigeria is long gone!

Martinez39:
I don't demonise women, I only speak the truth about them. I am well aware of the biological and evolutionary rationale for hypergamy. I hope you don't follow the brainless bandwagon to call me, Ubunja, and the likes women hater/basher?

I'm red-pilled as a motherfûcker! Lol.

I'm surprised that you only picked the "demonize" part! I didn't mean demonize in a negative way. Please, don't get me wrong. I lacked a better word to use on that paragraph. Don't take it seriously. I've corrected it so that some readers won't term it as hating women or being an incel.

We share the same manosphere mandate of liberalizing men from the shackles of their ignorance.

Martinez39:
The women filed for divorce hoping to finalise everything in 2019 so that they can get alimony for 12 years. They did not want to wait for 2020 or beyond it because it would mean alimony for 5 years.

As expected, the main stream media never reported this but it begs the question, how did the women, in great numbers, get to know of this change in law? Seems they have secret WhatsApp groups or some secret communication networks hidden from men. #sisterhood

Martinez39, you have got to respect the Sisterhood/Pussy Cartel. They are the masters at scheming without elements of violence and aggression typical with male type. Plus they have existed for the beginning of our evolution as a specie till now.

Like Ubunja would say, learn from the best (women) and I have seen results learning from their mode of operation including those who are outcasts of the sisterhood (prostitutes). They always watch out for each other and for the "best deal" (genetic and financial hypergamy).

As much as we love to vilify them for their scheming, hypergamous attitudes, it's an evolutionary biological element for women to seek for the best mate (in whatever they judge as best) to carry on with our specie and this makes them highly opportunistic. In our wild primate cousins and as far as wild herbivores, like Zebra, their hypergamous demands are more stringent and brutal before a male can get a chance to mate.

We are more lucky that the improvement in the quality of life as a specie gives men more choice in mates than ever. However, they(men) must learn that for their rational pattern of thought (men are more rational), Women are highly incapable of loving men like men would do and expect in return. This means that women are by nature, opportunistic.

For the OP, Madlov3, expecting a better experience from women in one of the most gynocentric nations on earth where women are fiercely independent and can chose to be loose sexually, is setting himself up for disaster. He is better off with a "tameable" hoe from Nigeria from the "wild" ones in the west.

Madlov3:
I broke up with my EX some 2 weeks ago, But I feel like sharing my story with y’all guys so y’all will learn and be careful especially with Nigerian girls.
So i dated this girl for roughly 1 year and 10months. She appeared as a wife material but i never knew she was a devil incarnate.
Am a young guy living very well, own a nice ride and have my own apartment and work in a very noble profession. Am relocating to Canada very soon and my plan was to get married to her before traveling abroad then send for her after settling down.
There was this guy in her former lodge I was always warning her about. According to her they were just friends but my instinct wasn’t comfortable with him.
Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life.
I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved and i would never have accept her back if Sex was involved Because i met her as a virgin.

Fast forward to few weeks ago, I discovered from my sources that she was actually having Sex with the guy in her lodge i warned her about.
I Initially confronted her but she denied but after showing her sufficient evidences, she confessed it was true because she knew i was already well informed and she said they had sex multiple times.

I asked her what i did wrong to her! According to her, she said this particular guy “Tries Childish stuffs with her and am too matured! Am senior to her with over 5years so am too matured to relate childish things with her. I asked her if that was a ticket to open her legs for the guy she said she actually did what she did because SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER GUY.
Honestly i felt disrespected and betrayed. This was someone that I was planning to get married to in 2020 and take to Canada o!
She begged and begged and begged but i told her i will never accept her back even though i forgave her, i just can’t accept her back again.

I will be relocating to Canada in 2020 so i have officially closed my door against Nigerian Girls! I know there are good ppl and bad ppl everywhere but i want to open my mind now to other persons. To Canadians, Americans, Britons etc.
I used to have this mentality that an African man is not complete if he doesn’t marry an African woman but hey, that has changed now! Am now open to love from any continent.
My deal breaker in any relationship is Cheating! We can work other things out but you see cheating?? NO NO NO

So my fellow Guys shine your eyes o! That soft spoken and calm looking wife material girl may not be what she seems to be. She may jus be a devil incarnate

There is no doubt that a good number of Nigerian girls are worthless leeches, but your experience is not enough to mix them all in a puddle.

Nothing wrong with seeking a virgin, but I think that you became a victim of your high moralistic expectation from a sexually-active girl in her hoe phase (I doubt her talk of being a virgin. Girls lie about that a lot) who has decided to play virgin to soothe your ego.

Stop projecting these girls to some special standards of purity, immorality and equality. It puts you in a state of weakness with all that "Not all women are like that" or "My woman is special" bullcrap. See women for who they are, as opportunistic, hypergamous scheming lots. It will help you spot their bullshît from afar and cut off the useless ones quickly.

It's good that you dump her lying ass off but with western girls, you wouldn't fair better.

The Canada that you are talking about is a highly gynocentric country and girls there are likely to be more sexually-liberal, fiercely independent and "careless/morally-loose" with laws that protect and encourage their depravity than the average Nigerian girl. So, your moralistic expectations won't fly over there. The only thing that makes them a little better is that they may be less demanding than your hungry Nigerian girl.

pocohantas:
Majority of those threads are bashing centers, disguised as lamentations. I really do not take them seriously.

However, humans will always be humans. Some of you are only angry because the power of indifference which you hold against women is losing grip.

Men will always seek women and women will do same. Even a factory load of red pills can NEVER change the average humans quest to seek love and do things for love. We would only wail when the other person doesn't reciprocate, but at the point of doing it- it was what you thought best for yourself and lover.

Some of you carrying the matter for head have purposeful relationships offline, but you come online and try so hard not to talk about them- to avoid looking weak.

Make una face una lives. NL is just a mirage. People have myriads of problems in this country, problems that red pills can't solve.

Merry Christmas to you all...

Your epistle still doesn't negate the fact that a high number of men in a society like ours considered patriarchal, are losing their grip on positive masculinity and responsibility. It may be of considerable advantage to the world of women but a lot of women are beginning to find it repulsive too.

For the few ones who try to act "alpha" (or whatever they call it), it always borders on the negative like foolish, misguided aggression and always reeks of insecurity, hypocrisy and weakness.

DMerciful:
Lately, there has been an increasing number of threads dedicated to lamentations by guys with regards to their relationships with ladies whom they are dating, friending, marrying etc.

This trend is becoming worrying because it is clear we are having an increasing number of effeminate men! Men are supposed to be tough, they are meant to suck up tough situations and move on, they ought to know when to call it quit and stop taking nonsense however they come here to ask silly questions of what to do when in unhealthy relationships.

Where are these sissy men coming from?
Inspite of all the miseducations by Ubunja and co!

I thought I was the only one who noticed this.

You took this right out of my mind. I wanted to create a topic for this too and I'm glad you did.

I think a lot of our men have stopped playing their "position" as it is expected. Several factors like globalism, liberalism, mass media and general ignorance contributed to the male race being "emasculated" over time.

Sadly, nature harbours vaccum and movements like feminism are filling this void.

kurupt1:
All these Lamentations are getting worse with increasing poverty.Money gives a man options to choose another woman when his woman is messing up

I do disagree with the money part.

No doubt, money enhances your confidence and better ability to making more choices with women but once you don't have a dominant masculine frame, with your billions, women would still mess you up.

That's why you see some rich men being played and abused by women and broke, jobless and unambitious guys having success with women.

No wonder these dull teachers ended up raising a high number of ignorant youths in our society today!

AreaFada2:
They will say one yahoo boy has more money than Dr. Igwilo. They will say even one common councilor wey know him way has more money.

So everybody pursues money.

Las las no expertise to take us forward long term. Best brains leave in droves.

Despite his immense talents, USA can do without Dr Igwilo. Many Asians and others queuing up to take his place. A Nigeria that is serious about progress should be luring all the Dr Igwilos of this world back to Nigeria.

But of course we are not serious.

Aswear!

Politicians building bridges across religious and ethnic divides to increase their influence and wealth for now and generations unborn while ethnic low lives here keep bashing each other over irrelevant issues.

WorWorBoy2:
As if we get light before.

I tire!

etrange:
Lol... this may sound funny but sentiments aside, I think Bob is one of the bravest persons in Nigeria presently. He's like a cat amidst dogs.

Aswear!

Not a fan of his depraved lifestyle but his level of I-dont-give-a-fûck is topnotch. I wish I could have just a bit of it. Humans are stupid

I have a weakness for women in hijabs. So much beauty and sexiness.

Too bad that I'm an infidel.

janettee:
Christians preach hate, even here on nairaland.

Christains hate each other too. Christians killed atheists in the past for criticising their religion. I could go on and on. Even your bible is filled with hateful crimes committed by your god, you Christians still defend it. So please, Christians aren't better.

I'd love to be your friend.

RealityShot:
me too!

i declared no allowee!
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BROKE always sends them running faster than words!

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just say "i never see salary"
maintain it for 1month... Na she go inform you say she dey travel.

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stop fuc3ing her raw!
na pregnancy she go dey plan now.

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and if she no gree do with CD.. Claim STD!
claim tests..then confirm STD

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Jasen1..please repent and stop having sex before marriage.

Pesiin wey don nack d girl belle already! Lol

StagethemTVee:
Unbelievable!!! Americans are a typical case of "the dog that wants to get lost not hearing the whistle of the hunter". They don't even say God bless America like they used to. A nation founded on God now entrenched in moral and religious decadence. I would have said Pray for America but I never finish praying for Nigeria.

You better don't waste your time praying for Nigeria. That one is long gone and a waste of your efforts. Praying for 'murica would be better.

ValCon888:
The guy is worth £500 million. P
WTF do you mean by save for the future?

Typical reasoning of a negro. No plan for the future.

500 million pounds is chicken change to some people and with poor planning, it has gone like a smoke in the wind.

Planning for the future is the best "balling"

CsRockefeller:
Gosh!!

What's wrong with you? Behaving like an 18 year old.

Who told you that you can't live without her and she's the best thing to happen to you? Negodu the epistle you wrote because of woman.

If u don't have money to marry her, free her na.

You are just being worried about nothing.

The most important issue (your finances) is staring u at the face and you are crying over a lady. See, let me just tell you basic reality, you don't really need a woman to love you, what you need is for her to respect you.

That means when she sees you, she sees someone who can defend her morally, financially, be her guide tru wisdom. Has your ego ever been inflated just by a woman telling you she loves you?

Wake up man.

There is something wrong about parenting these days that have turned some of our fine men into weak and embarrassing sissies. Self-loathing fools with low self esteem.

It's not just worrying anymore. It's disturbing.

I always wonder why the most stupid set of nairalanders make front page?

Just imagine a news worth celebrating being turned into party arguments by these crètins!

vecman22:
Tithe payers,come see your money ooo

dukeprince50:
Ronaldo is worth $460m (Forbes) so yes he can buy audi, the market cap of a company is not same as the worth of d owner, Audi can't be worth up to $500m, the owner could b a billionaire, I don't care.

Modified
I just check the market cap of Audi, its 34b
Ronaldo can't buy it

I'm glad that you corrected yourself.

I omitted their net worth intentionally and you are smart to go find out yourself.

Ronaldo is rich and could buy 50 of those cars if he wanted.

If you noticed, I only struck out the "and the company" part.

Ronaldo, aside from his social media and other non-football sources of wealth, is under a contract financed by the company that makes FIAT trucks and Adidas. These footballers and other entertainers who are termed as wealthy are being paid by some people. Those who paid them are those that you guys should learn about.

Ronaldo's worth single handedly cannot purchase the FIAT truck company that pays him. That should tell you a lot.

This is what Nigerians call U don buy market

That kids scratching multiple cars shows that the kid was left unchecked for quite a while. What if the kid got in something life-threatening when the parents weren't monitoring?

kingjrofficial:
Cristiano and CR7brand is still bigger than Audi and Volkswagen

U think say brand na Instagram followership?

I no fit argue ur type.