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Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

Bro...truth was that your parents ain't to be blame in all of this, yes they made decisions on your behalf, but you failed to capitalise on the fact life presented you with a soft landing...

There are many kids like you, caged and somehow protected from the outside world, but they made use of there introverted nature to read books and learn so many positive things on the net, my wonderful friends Sani, Gideon and Ice comes to mind, these guys are extremely good with computers and programming currently outside Nigeria racking thousands of dollars at will, I knew the term Bitcoin from Gideon far back in 2010, but from my understanding of your post, you ventured into pornography and masturbation (The negative side) and yet you went ahead blaming your parents, Lol... that's laughable, perhaps you could have been a drug addicts, or A cultists or a chronic chainsmoker without their tutelage and close marking!!

Well... At 24years, you are still fresh and young to readjust your live, at 24 some people are still looking for admission into the university but your case is different, so it's time to restrategize and stop the blame game...Iife still has a lot of goodies to offer you, Good luck bro...!!

Michelle70:
i think its very immature of me to say this but i hate ur parents.

he only has himself to blame and not his parents...The parent did a wonderful job in his upbringing but he chose his path!!

Jashub:
Of course I can. Are you aware that hookup girls are far better than these vultures forming chaste ...?

A woman who is publicly known as a harlot has a totally different orientation on life . Psychologically, she feels she has lost all hope of marriage and motherhood . But just imagine if she is given the chance ...what do you think will happen ?

I shall give you a hint : if someone escapes hellfire , will he ever want to go back there again? Stay safe

Oga calm down...do you think you can ever satisfy such lady?? Imagine bringing your banana to a cucumber fight, it's automatic defeat on arrival, therefore she will continue to go outside and look for someone good enough to match her size or better still returns back to one of her ex...

OgaDeyVex:
500k na money Bro?

Can you compare your kidney with 500k

This Is The Reason Why Oga Just Dey Vex Now

Lol...read the total benefits I stated bro...

OVB123:
You have said it all. The young man decided to ignore the red flag because of big yansh and breast.

I swear...we have seen there type

Carndidlaydee:
Poor girl don't know what she got herself into. This gender ain't to be trusted


The day you touch or even think of anything sinister that day you will lose your life OP




Same way your sister(ireject it tho cos she a lady like me) will need help and they will take advantage of her and ENJOY THE FREE KPEKUS



Dead gender

At the bolded...Aspa Amadioha wey you be abi

This is one reason I neglect any news coming from the North due to the Stockholm syndrome, I have never in my life seen nor heard where most people are deeply in love with there oppressors other than this Country Nigeria...Even slaves are constantly looking for escape routes but not this country!!

A country where people are still rooting for APC after 7 solid disastrous years, what a big shame....!!! Even APC would be very surprised if they come second in 2023 general elections...

Alusiizizi:
I will never present myself as a spokesman for my people, and you are wrong, my opinion does count. One more thing, I am not the only Igbo man that think and feel the way that I do. I know that there are many more out there, but as they say, the emptiest barrels make the loudest noise. What we are seeing here is noise being made by empty barrels, empty barrels like you. I advanced legitimate question. Why are some of my people even taking this degenerate lesbian seriously? Did the queen play any role in the actions of her country in the Biafra war to deserve such a personal, vile vitriol directed at her? You believe that this so-called professor gives a damn about the Igbo man? Fine, then explain the subject of this thread: [url] https://www.nairaland.com/7326341/throwback-igbomen-suck-dry-not [/url]

Ahh Nwanna...is that you, I even thought it was one of this Agbadorians whom the word "Igbo" is living rent free in their respective heads, apologies for my earlier post...

Well, the number 9 and 6 can be viewed and interpreted by different people from different perspectives, Therefore I still retaliate Prof. Uju said the minds of millions of Igbos out there, take for instance, some Irish, Indians, Jamaicans, Scottish, S/A all had some ill reservations about the Queen for similar issue Prof Uju raised, doesn't that rings a bell?? but you can claim she doesn't have a hand in all that happened but you cannot underestimate her indirect involvement either by proxy or body language...

Well, Uju's reservation was solely judged based on her choice of sexuality according to you, but a wise man once told me... "Na only preeq fit talk wetin e see inside "Otu" but unfortunately, preeqs can't talk..." therefore, it's only Uju Anya that can give a full account of what she saw in her marriage in the hands of that particular Igbo man she got married too, there are many bad eggs everywhere irrespective of race, religion, tribe, nationality etc but that doesn't mean we should throw away the baby together with the bathing water...

Uju Anya is our baby and she has marked her name historically as a courageous woman who put her life, career, achievements, networks, degree in jeopardy just to speak on behalf of her people, this is the point we are coming from...!! Meanwhile let it be on record that she told a world richest man to "Rie Nsi"

And who made you speaker of the Igbo people?? Well your opinion doesn't count nor matters, so kindly take your opinion and shove it up your ass...

A brainwashed and a finished fellow...!!

This political class and entitled mentality... it's well shaah

Even with polling unit at his street, he won't even get up to 5 votes...

ChangedMan1999:
It won't work.

UK law states that the donor must be a relative, or a person who can prove that the donee has helped him/her in the past, and he/she wants to compensate with the kidney.


This girl is not a relative.
This move is not to compensate any kindness done to her by the donee.

Anyone can donate as long as it's compactible, I think she said her relatives ain't allowed to donate because it's in their gene or something of that nature...

Meanwhile, about the compensation issue, that's in U.K tho, but when they get back to Nigeria, Ekweremadu should just jejely credit the donor #50million, A brand new car and a fully furnished house with a job that pays average of not less than 500K per month...

Security agencies are just careless in most of their dealings... shooting at a petrol tanker, inexperience at it's peak.

Wordsfrombimpe:
You see this talk of when men says I don't have enough money to settle down

Na lie

If you wan settle down you fit settle

Just have an understanding partner

And that include make use of birth control as you dey think marriage

To pity innocent children

The best thing that can ever happen to a man is a good marriage even when money no dey

An understanding and a supportive wife

People wey marry for Yankee you no the house Dem dey live make we no talk Africa

You start small

And then with time it will get better

copyright Digital Bimpe


You see when I said with time it will get better I implied

Patience will be needed and endurance

The best phase of an individual life is the ability to endure before you enjoy that way you can appreciate what you have more and stop bothering about what you don't have

In marriage

You need to understand there are days you will enjoy and there are days you will endure

You have to have that mindset put in place

No be everyday person dey chop chicken

Some days you will eat egg and some days you will eat fish

So is marriage

If you end up with a materialistic partner who believe in I must live large and look large to suit societal Standards

Then it's your business to deal with life situations when it get hard

If you end up with a non materialistic partner who enjoy simplicity

Simple lifestyle

copyright Digital Bimpe The Coach

The big question you should have asked yourself before posting this is "how many ladies are understanding in this era" ??

Let it be on record that Uju Anya told one of the world richest man on Earth to "rie nsi" instead of asslicking his wealth...

A courageous woman worthy of emulation...

Sitwalkstand:
A lot of venomous beings would be disappointed

How does one family in the name of Monarchy Lord over the entire common wealth.

King Charles will inherit 500 million pounds for just being born. Tax payers money.

He will soon start touring commonwealth countries, these countries will spend billions to host them. Just to go there and wave hands. As what?

Food for thought...

Amb1045:
lol things dee happen for this country

what a country...

Well...I wonder why people should welcome him, for what exactly?? After 7 clueless and incompetent years of leadership

6 useless cultists with one rusted iron pipe...and instead of the police to simply say they arrested them by mere "if you move I shoot" they called it engagement just to glorify there efforts...

NL ans fake news shaaah

candidtalk:
What Tinubu did, as first runner in the Lagos masterplan marathon, is a lot even if you wish to pretend that the reality is otherwise.

We must never forget also that Tinubu conceived that masterplan and ensured his successors stuck to its holistic delivery and success.

If you have seen a similar model in the history of Nigeria then kindly bring it here because all I have ever seen is one step forward and 5 step backwards for most States of Nigeria.

That Tinubu can conceive the masterplan, to then run his race well and hand over the baton competently to others, is supreme testimony to his ability and credentials that will make him a great President.

He is showing one big area of talent the best and most superior leaders have. Supreme man-management skills that lends to the actualisation of supreme overall project delivery. Buhari does not have that and neither does Atiku, Obi, Kwankwaso or even the likes of Ameachi, Osinbajo etal in my opinion.

In a project, sections will have effective and talented leaders , which I think is the level of many Nigerian leaders, but the supreme leader is the talent who knits them all together to get them delivering optimally towards the central goal.

Nigeria being the project and her President being the supreme talent I am talking about.

This lie you all keep concocting will surely bring the downfall of Tinubu, That man did nothing, but let us keep the lies coming...

Some Agbadorians will still come and attack Peter Obi...

Very very overpriced and overhyped place...

Normally naw...they would be forgotten, but there exploits can never be erased from history or internet...

Just negodu marriage of few weeks old...This man must have ignored all the red flags in the world just because of big breasts and big ynash, some women will surely embarrassed you...

The man knows nothing upstairs, nothing about education, nothing about economy, no idea about anything...God go punished that man for trying to imposed himself on Nigerians...

Zydote:
I have seen/heard what Peter Obi said and while it is unfortunate, I will focus on the important which is the message he claimed is from a "Tinubu group". This is campaign season, there are lots of nonsense groups flying about and people talking a lot of nonsense.

There are also people who are not affiliated with candidates saying their own and you cannot hold the candidates and/or party responsible for that. But if what they do and say relates to the candidates, you can say they are similar.

On the issue of the eastern port, I can personally say Tinubu has always been a believer in opening the eastern ports for business. And I can prove it.

On June 1 during the campaign for primaries, Tinubu visited Calabar and he promised to dredge the Port there. This is not just hearsay but newspapers reported it (see below)


https://guardian.ng/news/tinubu-promises-functional-port-in-cross-river/

Also after he won the primaries, he mentioned it again and this time on video


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LmMx7B2ovbE

Listen from 15:50 minutes.

I haven't seen any candidate that has been so upfront about the Calabar port as he has and it is weird to think that some people will claim Tinubu is running a campaign tellig people if Peter Obi wins, the other ports walk be opened and investors want come to Lagos anymore since that is what he himself wants to do!


If we cry, lets also see. This recent diversion by Peter Obi is simply emotional blackmail that was not well thought up and it is sad.

Peter Obi has being accused multiple times of being a trialist and he is leaning in that angle more and more. I don't want to believe he is but some things are beginning to slip out

You don't have sense oO...2022 you still want Nigerians to believe in "I will..."

I was very annoyed while reading this... Anyways, you can never advise a man nor a woman in love, all I see is that you will surely learn the hard way some day...

A wise man once told me ""My son, if you don't use your head to apply wisdom, someone else will make use of it..."

phorget:
Use the 5m play 2sure odd game...

I knew someone must suggest this... NL never disappoints

siofra:
I'm not going anywhere. No man can pursue me from this forum. I'm just really busy at the moment.

Our residents NL feminists... deep down we want you to stay...

Chioma4eva:
I've barely registered on this forum for a week and the Misogyny I noticed on this forum, most especially the Romance section is terrible. Little wonder there are very few active female members on this forum. I think the guys should do better or else many females will simply stop being active here. From the type of comments I got from some guys on my last thread its just terrible. So females can't express themselves anymore without being slut shamed? Well I guess I'll have to go back to IG and Twitter.

well...I guess this is the only place where your gender don't get to collaborate and decides who gets blocked or suspended like they did to Shola and Andrew Tate...

A rare case of many are mad, but only few are roaming the streets...