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It say wife submit yourself to your husband and not girl submit yourself to your boyfriend or fiance.

onila: hey nothing negative abt this thread
just an observation!

Your observation are correct. But you need to correct yourself, it's not all girls. But you can say most girls. Even some comes out to be Lesbians.

Fulaman198: Well you make a thread about how "girls are becoming sluts by going to school" which may be true (that's the case in every Westernized country). Since a lot of Nigerians abroad have Westernized mentality, this is what is happening.

That said, you don't see us men bashing ourselves or making threads about ourselves that produce negativity.

It's not girls going to school. It's about girls that went to girls school.

I hate it when people just throw insult at people without no good reasons at all. No one forced you to comment on any post, just because you have the internet you just decide to do anyhow with it. Pls stop it.
Some matters are important but you can see people giving nonsense response to it.
Same we do to others, that's what others will do to you own thread too. Do what you will like others to do to you. Its that simple.

bright007: You that cannot travel to Kaduna because of security challenges is now guaranteeing d safety of innocent corpers.
If boko haram strike now,ťĥĕ only thing u will say is ''we are on top of d situation''
Mscthewwwww

when we know that they are under the situation. May God see us through all this.

oneakj: Can somebody give a link to confirm names of university dat are involved?...u guys are just mentioning names

dailytimes.com.ng/article/nuc-suspends-licences-seven-private-universities#.T_VBarnTnfE.facebook

cog1: @OP,for me,it would be honesty,transparency,empathy & above all hardworking & God fearing.
I don't need any one sitting around,cricizing all the time.
The moment a man decides to lie & I discover its goodbye forever and a day.
Thanks for the nice thread.

I hope you don't lie miss. Ever oh. Not even for any reason would you lie to him. If so fine by me.

dasparrow: Indeed!

But wait a minute, so women no longer tie scarf or head-tie to church in Nigeria? Mehn, things have really changed in that country. Anyway, interesting pic.

God will help us oh. No more covering of hair man.

'mide eniafe:
They dnt cheat with plastics, do they? They cheat on their patners with women. Women who lure them. Simple. Besides no man is immune to cheating only if he choses not to

same with the ladies miss.

cindyrella: This is one question that has no reasonable answer!

you are correct dear. If men are cheats then women are cheaters.

Please are your parents trying to recover the money they used in training you in school. Please tell them that time waits for no man. Cut you coat according to you size. They should try to understand both of you. Tommorrow might be different for you guys. You must not start as rich family. It's one step at a time. Thanks.

Naijaklef: @poster,
Dis is part of d problems parents create for their daughters!
I'm sorry to say dat ur parents are already creating an impression dat they are POOR and HUNGRY!!! Remember, first impression last longer!

When it comes to marriage, all parties involved have their personal interests...
Wat matters most is ur husband to be and u!

Try talking to some reasonable people in ur family dat can help u to talk to
Ur parents. If that fails then I will advise u get pregnant for him....
They will b left wit no other choice than to start chasing the guy to come and marry u.....

GOODLUCK.

They want to recover the money they used in training their daughter.

jennykadrry: Well you see, I was in your shoes as well. I simply increased the number of men I slept with. I was doing 5 to 6 men but the money was not enough. I had to buck up and service 10 to 14 every night to get the money to marry. My husband Mr. Kadrry is just a mugu so he could not contribute much. You may have to do likewise.

pls if you don't have what to say, stay out. This is a sensitive matter and you are busy saying nonsense here. Pls!!!

You like him, and he likes you too. Then can you tell me why he went ahead to ask your friend out instead of you? So confused now. So now he wants to use you to replace your friend. I've got news for you girl. It will not work. And I hope he will be willing to marry you at last.

AJJ: Well, i hope she wont die of waiting.

she better not. If she does, I will kill her for the second time myself.

Thank me: Letter to my future husband I say may God punish ur present girlfriend....

Very funny. And punish the present boyfriend too.

Pls try to meet with him now. Not to go and pay him a visit in his house oh. Because something might happen. And the guy will see that you are loosed.

Lord_Reed: No it is not. Most times people are looking for a one night stand or a booty call. Girl you don't want to be one of the statistics.

On the other hand deal with this your issue of feeling "guys have no truth" because good opportunities may just pass you by.

you are correct. With these on her mind, she will just miss her Prince.

RIchibabe: i don't get u ? With my eyes open as how?

if you are going into that, keep your eyes open very well. Don't just let your heart do the thing for you, also allow your head too. If you don't wanna end up heart broken. Secondly, when you meet him, don't go to bed with him. If you do and anything happen, pls put the blame on yourself. Thanks

Dating another man as a married woman, very bad. Its a sin in the sight of God. What example will you be showing your kids?

Check at the quality of the two movie industry. Both have their ad and disad. But I still prefer Hollywood movies. Nigeria movies is something else now. I only enjoy the comedy aspect. Actors like Ibu, Sam Loco. Etc

Just leave the relationship aspect and do other things for now. Love will find sooner than you can imagine dear.

kristofa09: @OP:read ur story n i felt u.my dear,av bin there.giving ones whole heart to sme1 n tht person ends up breaking it 2 splinters....but i stil blivd tht i wil find sme1 tht lovs me cos i 4 one ws able 2 "love".just open ur heart(corteously though),n b non judgemental...lov wil find u,n u wil find lov.n refering to a post abov,when getin into any rltnship,make sure d end point is mariage..k.wishing u d best of luck.

weldone for this comment.

wola44: Hi,

I will advice you not love for now, but like until you get married, you can now love the guy so much.

Why will she marry someone she don't love? Not fair at all.

Godmother: I dnt know what is wrong with me. I find it hard to fall inlove. The last time I loved a guy was 3 years ago. He hurt me badly n I haven't been able to love again.

I have a bf now whom I like and respect but I dnt love him as much as I have tried to. Its like my ability to fall inlove dried up with that guy 3 years ago.

Its making me lonely and scared. Need advice pls people. I'm thinking of letting this guy go cos I dnt think I'm being fair to him.

Mature responses needed pls

just let it be, free your heart miss. That pain is still inside of you and you might be feeling unsecured with anyone right now. Maybe you still think that they will still do like the other ones.

edakedkay: i'm 29 and married but that was harsh you know. I mean your comment about women close to clocking 30 but seriously what would you have her do?

pls don't mind that person saying that. If you don't have any advice, stay out. You must not comment on any matter you see.

latest: It's the lady's fault, what does she need a house help for at this time when her marriage is fresh nd have got no kids that will require bringing in a help to take care of them? She's made the mistake of keeping a girl for a lonely hubby in her home forgetting the fact that men are like Rats.... you don't dare block their holes with a fish.

you are right, what does she need an house help at this time. Not that I am taking the mans side, but I am just making a point. No kids and you taken an house help already. She must be lazy then.

cap28: same old same old, nigerian marriages - no love, no respect.

Only married for 11 months and he can't keep his trousers zipped up, if he's like this after just 11 months who knows what he'll be like after 11 years thats if the marriage will even make it beyond 1 year.

if she stays with him she will never get over this humiliation, my advice - move on and find someone who actually respects and loves you.

how do you expect her to move on just like that? That scare will be there always because she won't want to get into any relationship easily and she will think that all men are the same. But most of all, the Bible is against divorce. Luke 16:18.

KINGwax: saint of nairaland, here u come again. Alwys playin d better side...there are some circumstances dt will make u do d wrong thing so tell d fool d truth. What kind of a foolish job will not allow u be a woman and still u talk like it's all good. The man might be a cheat like me but still won't be able to go dt far as to let d lady knw. Have u come to think it cld be aborted without d wife knwin? But here, d man aint givin a fucck anymore!

But the man can still make love to his wife with a condom. But its not so easy as we see it oh. But still, the man shouldn't have done what he did. It's a adultery. And it's a sin in the sight of our Creator.

pls just pray for God to see you through. The man should have known what he was getting into before he married her. It is not way her fault for him to impregnant someone else. He must be checked to see if he is alright.

bini girl: I beg i get one question 4 all these ppl wey post all the above comments...na which gender una partners be?

you already know the answer to that miss.

cindyrella: Thanks for the tips!

you are welcome miss.