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Pic dis-free booze, free food, pretty vunerable chics.
Dats an irresistable combo

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no one has come close-I pay my heart guards very well.

this topic is classic am actually cracking up , 4evayoung is a clown and see hw all d girls ar queuing up, trying to sucker up to him- guess it says alot abt the peeps commenting.
if u rili wnt wife mtrl go yaba, or marina, any local market u go get am plenty plenty.
anoda wierd tin i dnt c girls saying stuff abt being tagged as wife matrl- were is ebonyeyes wen u need her.

p.s
i dnt wnt to hear abt girls crying that they have been scammed afterwards oh!

apache77:
@TAI, just stumbled on your thread n though 3months late, i just have to drop a few lines, well u made sense most of the way, but I would have been much happier if you brought your philosophy home, as in how u r presently controlling your own woman now, dat would assure me it has worked for u, the proponet, u may just have lifeted all dis from a book u know? weda it has worked for u or not, i agree wit most of your tenets though sum r outslandish, i am taking wat applies to me though,
But den, going thru your post i still dont know wat sort of control guy i am, i see many atributes, failings from all 3types u hav articulated.am i a crossbreed?
my present gurl, av been going out wit her pushing on 5years now, i am her, longest relationship though atimes we break off for like 2 or three weeks before coming bak again, since she met me, she hasnt taken on a new boyfriend though i know she sumhow still runs things with the man in her life before me. I also feel she may have ssshaged two or three other blokes since we started going out- and she gets propositioned by d day, she is hott,pretty sexy, curvy, bosoms, arrrse and all, so its always an issue fending off men, at d club men wont giv me space,, even gurls, lesbians kip hitting on her, i no know wetin dem see for her body.

So, i asked myself after reading your thread am i a no control guy, articial control or true control guy wen it comes to my woman? she is very refractive, very difficult to control, infact her mother defers to her, because once you try to exert a hold on her, she slinks off, if the mother decides today to strt exerting overdue influence on her, i know dat gurl-she would pack her things quietly and leave her house, and she will have dozens of options where to stay, men kip begging her by d day to come into dia houses, to marry her. her mother is a widow so she didnt exert any hold on my gurl at dos crucial times in a gul\s life- at around 12-16, so now at 23, her mother cannot tell her what to do. she doesnt disrespect her mother or anything like dat though, but the woman cleverly avoids confrontation when it comes to issues they think differently. like why shd my gurl sleep outside her house or go partying without her say so. My girl is at loggerheads with most of her uncles because she feels they try to tell her what to do. as a consequence, she doesnt cal, them, doesnt ask them for anything, behaves as if they do not even exist, to her, it is better for her to go hungry than have any uncle trying to tell her what to do, dats the kind of woman i am saddled with.
controlling dis sort of woman is damn difficult, she is sexy, so men r always begging to do her favors, give her money, marry her, so long as she f***ks them. A woman like dat knows hse has plenty of options too if she decides to be promiscous. so a guy trying to control her is up to his head in work. i profess plenty of love to her, show her care, at times even go out my way to please her, so dat shd make me a no control guy abi? but, den such guys shd be d wimps not so? am no wimp. i still stamp my feet on the ground wen i feel its necessary. wen she tells me she loves me, i ask myself, does she want anything from me? when she behaves over lovingly, d red bells go up, is she setting me up as a sitting duck, she's pretty, i may love her, but i take verything she says with a pinch of salt, no control guys r not supposed to do dat, do they? plus after five years, she still hasnt left me, yes, we've had our own fair share of fights n disagreements, she has walked off with a guy right infront of me be4, av seen her in d club with d other man who was (or prbably still is, in her life), but by and large, i account for atleast 70% of her time. d remainder she shares with her friends, family, and the other men in her life. And its not as if she is waiting for a better man i always wonder. she has dozens of options. She gets propositioned countlesssly by men, many of them over the last 5years- richer, more well to do (maybe less swagger or ayajj) but definitely wit more to offer, atleast in d short term (dats wat many women look at anyway) , many of dem from her tribe(she\s Ibo) but sum how one way, we have stuck, sumhow, i feel she may have even been tempted or tried to date one or two, but it may have come unstuck, ders nobody she is seeing consistently, I shd know because i stay in the same house with her in Lagos (we dont live togther, but their flat and mine r in the same compond). Now, av temporarily relocated to a Abuja she has also relocated to meet me after 3months. So, i always wonder why she has seen many men, but she doesnt go off with any of them, when i know atleast 3 who have tried to buy off the mother with money but she hasnt caved in, yet it doesnt seem as if she sends me dat much.
And dont think am an articifial control guy either cos, am not rich, just a struggling bloke, today i have money, next tomorrow I dont, i have always been my own employer since i left school few years ago, so i dont have a big office to show off, neither a big flat or sumthing, i stay in a simple mini flat, though i can still afford my dstv subscription anytime i have money. Wen we started i had nuthing, no car, no money, i was squating with a friend but she still liked me even then.infact i feel she liked me more then when i had no car and could not even afford to give her d 5k or 10k for hair as i do now. And dont think she doesnt like good things- she does, being fair, she is the bling bling sort of gurl who likes gold, flashy clothes and champagne. She is flashy, very flashy, but without totally managing to giv her all dis, i have still managed to kip her from thinking i dont giv her nuthin.
So I dont think am an artificial control guy either.
She always went out with me almost all the time, afternoon, evening, night etc her faimly and even friends started complaing they didnt see her enuff. i didnt always like her friends hanging out with us cos of money, without them, it was lesser bills to be paid, so i kept all of dem at bay. she always had diz rich men after her, u know how loud Ibo men can be naa? we'l walk into the club to meet a guy who was toasting her promising her heaven on earth in the same club. we'l look at dia table full of 40k champagne bottles and chops, but on my own, i'l buy her her smirnoff nad nurse my own one bottle of beer till we left.it never pushed her to leave me till now atleast, and she\s still here.
Her birthday is 2moro and i have to take her and two or three friends partying at one of the clubs around. she knows and i also know dat at d kind of places i like and she also likes, we cant drink beer there, so i told her we'l buy a bottle of champagne outside and take it along, dat was our style in Lagos, we'l go to obalende around 1am, buy a bottle of Hennesey for 4k, she'l put it in all diz dem big handbags and we'l take it inside d club cos inside, a bottle of hennessey was 25k.even if i have 25k, ders no way i'l use money like dat for champagne, atleast for now. wen i told her we'l do d same thing ere, she merely shook her head and said, ah, ah, so i have not stopped dis my lagos life, guy must put up appeararnces naa, except i take her to one road side beer parlor.
Am I True Control Man then? I dont think so. am not supposed to tel her I love her abi? I do telll her, perhaps more times than she even tells me. I call her more often than she calls me. But then because we always lived togther since day 1, calling her was never really an option. She was always in my place in the morning and by evening we always went out together. Ours is a mix massh really. I moved her from Lagos to Abuja, n wen she came, it was her money i was spending, she was d one buying me beer, buying food to cook for d house, and all cos i was damn broke. She never really complained much though.
On d 15th day here, we were at home, den she left around 8.30pm. wen i called her around 9pm,she said she was around,she went to buy sumthin-wen she has a houseboy to send. i suspected she had gone to see one of her toasters. i waited till 10pm wen she came back. i simply threw her things out, and refused all entreaties dat she atleast pass the night. Dat may have seemed hardline abi? but a woman a man has under his control cannot leave his house for one and a half hours at night for wateva reason, can she? dat was a month ago. i have since gone to beg her and say sorry, she initially said it was over between us, i threw her out into the night in a town she knew nobody. she has since relented, weve hung out a couple of times and shes now staying wit her aunt, but she has still refused to pack her things and come back. i guess der, she eats free food, doesnt pick any bills and is comfortable. my place wasnt that bad, a big house, with dstv and a houseboy she could boss around, though the house is my friends and we share bills. and its not about Koboko control really, i guess some guys have ssshagged her better dan I have or ever could, but dey r nowhere around her today.
So, i fill am not totally in control, i dont have her on a leash as I would have expected so i'm now wondering if am d no control guy at all sef.
I think why dis gurl hasnt left me since may have to do with psychology.Fine, she has ner own indisetions, has all d chances to be promiscuous and kip jumping from man to man, but so far, she hasnt done dat. where i have a hold on her is d mind, i think av bin able to create a feel good factor around her wen we r togther. i tell her wat she wants to hear, i increase her sense of self worth and make her feel good about herself. Her sense of vanity is inflamed, so i shore dat up n give her assurances, she frets endlessly about her future and i always give her positives to look forward to. I feel dis is wat has kept her to me since cos i know its not about money, koboko, or assets. I think its d mind, dats d basic difference between me n all d other men in her life.
You r d man who knows it all, so wat type of control man am i? I wish I could say i was the true control man but am not, wish i were the articificial control man, but i lack d capacity, but, will a no control man kip a smouldering, sexually active and very much in demand woman wit him for 5years? So where do i stand wit d control thingy, my man?

from the lenght of your post- u ar obviously a "No Control" man, she is more in control of the relationship dan u ar- U care more she cares less, but ur glimmer of hope is dat she obviously fancies sumtin abt/in you.

Bukydaniels:
House pls i need your advice.
I'm a student of chemical Eng. In one of the Nigerian polytechnic scul,a secod yr student (ND2).
Pls i need advice on this particular course.i mean wat level of cert.do i need to have so as to compete with others out there.
Plz can sm1 help me with a good relaible website where i can learn more on things that involve chemicals. Or a website where i can source out information for my project.
God bless u all.
Buky2daniel@yahoo.co.uk

u r in a polytechnic so am sorry to say u can graduate as an engineer- u"ll probably graduate as a technician or a technologist @ best- to be an engrg graduate u need to attend a university.

working seriously hard to look serious

Moyola:
Tenk yu!

u r so welcome

lets put the topic in another context- wu wud u rada want alive right now Yaradua or Da grin.
if u can honestly answer this then u knw wu u actually miss more.

i'd prefer Da grin cos d death of Yaradua has a serious positive effect on the future of our country hopefully it would bring about infusion of new ideas not naija PDP politics as usual

jaw dropper, heart stopper, hot

i start my own oil coy- no militants to worry abt.
@topic u cud go back in time?

luv ur makeup and d hair tis unbelievable

dis-tattoo

smack

blurry by puddle of mud

lastpage:
Okay, enough of this noise jooo

I love YAMS and because l can see a few other people also do, l am going to share my little secret with ya'all.

The rick is to eat soft, succulent dissolving YAM! HOW?

1.) Put your tubber of YAM in the freezer, let it freeze rock solid (best way to preserve yam, even for months!)
2.) bring it out the night before the time you want to dagger it (Say 10-12 hours earlier).
3.) Let it thaw naturally by itself.
4.) Peel and cook in enough water

The "Physics" is that when it freezes, the water in the Yam freezes but in doing so, breaks the Yam down!

And it is never the same again, now its as soft as "otuu-yelleeee, isu-epoo"

*'shakes head and brandish a Dagger to damage that Yam on the kitchen table'*

Just try it and report back to the house.
Y'ALL OWE me o!

BTW: Its a silly topic for front page

SSCE, ND,HND, B.Sc, MSc, DSc,PHD, Prof Emeritus lastpage( YAMming technology) I hail o!

In a statement describe how u knew/know u had/have met d "one", ur soulmate

i knew she was d one wen i saw my children in her eyes

He probably likes u, but tin is guys like a challenge and am sorry u've bin conquered.
U sound worth keeping but doubt if u look it else he'll b scared of loosing u.

AjanleKoko:
There is an Nigerian prof at Stanford, Kunle Olukotun. A notable name in the computer tech industry, particularly in multiprocessing and web server performance.

the guy is hot(intelligent) i am highly motivated.

chin chin-baby, hw u dey?

two long legs

bye bye beautiful-Nightwish

DENEUTralize

curbing my hard on

have dinner

tyra banks

Hello! Wu is dis

Jessica alba

It aint abortion its MURDER plain and simple and d blood wud b on ur hands forever.
Congratulations! 2d latest papa junior on NL.

Sack my P.A

@post
let me get dis straight d guy is kissin, smouchin and even fuckin d girl witout using d L-word,
can u give me a reason y he shud now use it, dat wud b ovakillin it-init!