Carcholce:


It is not childhood trauma. OP is appearing too needy of sex. It’s a turn off for women. Women secretly yearn to want sex else they get turned off. If OP had played his part really well, the wife will be the one calling family meeting on him because he does not touch her as much as She wants.

One bottle of chilled gulder for this bro

advanceDNA:


Bros i nor jump .....i read ur post.. u said she reduced it from 3 times to twice a week.

See...only rare breeds of women that over-like sex or are used to fvcking for money will be open to sex more than 3 times a week, no matter how good u are...

Once a woman has good orgasm today..before she go enter naturally become hoŕny again...e go take a while....

baba...twice a week is not a bad ........ i dont know how ur body is ooo...but most guys say frequent/next to everyday sex nor dey sweet ...a short period of absteinance, like 3 to 4 days makes the climax sweeter.....

You're perfectly correct bro. I can't even have sex twice a week on a regular. If my husband gives me space I may have sex back to back then sometimes for another 1 or 2 weeks. There's no time table for this, just common sense. I cause troubles too if the sex is too often, but with little space here and there I'm enjoying sex now. If you give a woman little space she will naturally want sex during her ovulation. But frequent sex will not even let you know when ovulation is around the corner because of wear & tear

addmole:
Move to frontpage. I need constructive responses on what to do.

Sex twice a week is perfectly OK. Please I beg you to save your marriage, give this woman the time to heal and she will come around. Send a direct message to me so we can talk. I have first hand experience of what's wrong with your wife. If you give her space for like one month, she'll come for sex. Buy lubricant from sex stores, it really made a lot of difference .

GEEBITE:
48 real age. Her daughter that she gave birth to in 1993 would be 30 this year.

You are right

PinUp:
Happy birthday to her but I think she should be more than 44. All the actors and actresses of that time are in their 50s and early 60s now.

Exactly my dear. She should be around 48. She reduced her age

Tinubu is too old to be our president simple!

I voted Labour party. Two gentlemen directing the affairs of this great nation

Obi

You are 100percent on point Op

Tokskob2008:



If you can't understand, learn and do what your partner likes and want in marriage then you don't have any business being married in the first place.

I hope her husband does the one she likes too . Well I have nothing to say until I hear the full gist.

Jackanda1:
I understand that good looks definately have advantages, but this thread will only discuss the disadvantages.

I am also aware that been less attractive has drawbacks. The fact that I am discussing the problems of beautiful people doesn't mean ugly people don't have problems. Let's focus on one aspect today.
I have a relative who is very handsome. We grew up, lived and schooled together (nursery-university). We are very close. The points in this thread are from observation.

For some reasons let me add: He was diagnose with anxiety and depression. He had low self esteem and was mostly a loner.

1.People are mostly insecured and intimidated by good looks. So they tend to react defensively against, subdue and humiliate you.

Its the same thing when people know you have a first class grade. You'll hear all sorts of degrading comments. Insecure people people will do anything to put u down, if you've got something they don't have.

2. Most people think life is easy for you,you're getting away with things and you don't have difficulties. So they deliberately decide to treat you with disdain. They think they are bringing about justice.

3. People stereotype you to be arrogant, proud, vain, stuck up, opportunist,mean,dumb etc anything you do or say, people find a way to relate it to the judgement they already have about you.

Thats why people say things like ' Does he have a good character' when discussing about gudlooking ppl.

So they decide in their mind: ' I won't pay any attention to anything he says', I won't give him any validation or pay him any complements etc.
This gives them since of victory over you.
You might notice they make a

31. You are afraid of loosing your looks since its the only thing people value about you.

This is 100% correct. It's the story of my life. Could remember someone who's meeting me for the first time telling me I can't be a science student, that my type are for office. Smh

You're a very unreasonable child. You can't serve your mom but you expect her to serve you. Old woman for that matter.

"We have all witnessed the activities of the group take a violent dimension in recent times"

I don't think you guys read this post line by line. Meaning the activities of the group was never violent before it was proscribed. Which way Nigeria

WoundedLamb:
OP, if you're fighting with someone to the point that you guys aren't talking, it's only logical that the person wouldn't want to make love to you. I mean, how exactly do you expect the person to just open her legs for you, look the other way while you have fun? She is not a prostitute, making love to her involves body contact and also emotions, and I don't see how someone who's pissed at you can possibly enjoy it. I think it's only logical to discuss the issue before doing it if it's that serious.

I know we normally use the expression "she's denying me sex" but that doesn't apply here. If you guys are in good terms and she wouldn't let you touch her, then she's denying you sex. But if you're fighting, you're simply fighting. That means you're not talking or doing other things you used to do together. Don't isolate sex and make a deal of it as if she was meant to keep doing that even when you guys aren't talking. If you're fighting with your spouse and she's not talking to you but the thing that matters to you is that she's not opening her legs, then there's a bigger issue in the marriage.

I know you're likely to be the breadwinner of the family but you're not commercializing affection. I am just saying you should address the main issue first and everything will follow. Just an opinion. Best of luck!

How can I like this post 100times

Saintmary:
It's obvious that a lot of males are afraid of women. They don't understand women. Whatever you don't understand, you get suspicious of, and seek to destroy. That is what's happening here.

Sexism is evil. How can you treat a fellow human as a lesser being?

Ababbio:


https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/you-wont-have-good-home-if-you-join-feminism-oyedepo-tells-women/%3famp

Nonsense. Feminism means equal rights. I stand with it anytime!.

mariahAngel:


Let him what? If I may ask...
Does how she felt at that moment not matter at all?
Is that how marriage works? “Do it whether you feel like it or not?” Scary!
Imagine having to give in to sex to a drunk super smelly man just because he’s your “husband” and has “every right”...

Don't mind them jare. I say it everytime, women are not slaves, it's only slaves that summit.

Our society needs a lot to be put in place in order to protect the weak. Women are not your slaves guys beware! The earlier you erase the notion that your wife is under your authority and must submit against her will the sweeter the Home.

baby124:

Don’t mind the idiot. Very stupid small boys with dehydrated brain on this site. I pity who takes the comments and advise on this site seriously. If you see wetin your advisers look like, you go beat yourself.

I swear down

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

When will Nigerian men grow up.

Annoms:
I'll try to make this short.

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria.

What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds?

She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper)


It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now

Pls advice accordingly. Thanks

Pls my dear, don't listen to advice from most of these young guys in this forum. They value their ego more than their happiness. I think mods should find a way to tackle this gender biased fights from nairaland "chewing gum' boys.

Pls discuss with your woman, you know your pocket. If you can do trad & white wedding separately to make your woman happy, go ahead and do so. Forget about lodging people in the hotel for the trads except you don't have your family house in the East. Try as much as possible to reduce cost during trads. Just go with your kinsmen/women residing in the East. Anybody that wants to attend the trads can come at his/her expense. That was how I did mine. You can aswel fix the date during festive periods when almost all the uncles/ aunts would be at the East.

Come back and plan your white wedding when you're ready. You may aswell tell your fiance to try and save up her nysc allowance to foot part of the wedding bills.

Your fianceé's demand is not out of place at all. Just have a discussion with her on how to cut cost. It could be that she know you're rich

They are not legit. I lived in Abba Johnson Estate at Adeniyi Jones , be very careful while job hunting. That of Omole I'm not sure, but pls forget it

This guy is always on point

Some people will die on top of this matter . What a woman survives might kill a man

LastProphet:


Okay but the currently accepted polygamy improves science and technology?

InvertedHammer:
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Real feminists are only interested in the fun and convenient aspects of being a man. Take them to dinner, they expect a man to pay except the fugly ones whose problems are just frustrations. They hate people not just males.

I am yet to see a beautiful feminist.
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This is one here. Beautiful in and out, A woman with power and affluence

Oladoyinipede:
If men had not subjugated women in the first place,there would have been no need for an ideology such as Feminism.

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Women are forced to abandon their academic ambitions,so that they can marry on time and not become 'an evening newspaper';a cliche commonly used by anti-feminist men here on nairaland.....

When she gets married,she is forced to stay in an abusive marriage.why? because no one will take care of her children... because of the shame of returning to her father's house or living on her own and be labelled a loose woman.... because of the men out there who see it as their duty to exploit unmarried women....

At work,she will be accused of using 'bottom power' even when she has worked hard and deserves the promotion...

So,you see these and many more are the pains of a woman..

If you CANNOT BEAR a woman's CROSS,LET HER BE with her Feminism!!!!

What some women go through,all in the name of being a weaker vessel;a lesser being; most men will never understand,only a woman can.

As for me, I stand with females!!!!

I love you

I'm a feminist. Happily married. We share responsibilities here. No human being is greater than the other. Stop massaging your ego. You are still dragging roles, in this Buhari's time? How much do you earn? Do you think only you can foot the bills in your home if your partner is not supportive.

That was not his mom abeg. How can you conclude when you don't understand the language. They were telling him "hapu onye ahu" does that sound as if they were referring to his mom? I'm glad the youths dealt with him because on no circumstance must you beat up an elderly woman like that.

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

I'm laughing at your immaturity

This news sweet me pass the ex wife because I know everything that happened