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Vinnie2000:
You are 28yrs of age and still calling yourself softboy

its just a username
focus on the topic

xendra:
Question is : what are you offering in return?

You have heigth requirement, so does she

Financial and education; so does she

Emotions; so does she

And you do realise it takes certain effort to get a stranger to fall Inlove with you right?
Seems like you are expecting people to love you for whatever you have to offer but your own standards must be met.



And don't let ignorant people deceive you, finding the right person is not as easy as they claim, there may be many fishes in the ocean but they of different species

i understand that i have to put n efforts to start and maintain a relationship that's sure but i can not control what some one thinks or feels about me.

any lady thats is in a relationship with me stands to gain a lot. my convictions are strong, what it means is that she will have rest of mind, no fear of cheating or troubles in relationship, am damn romantic, and i also believe in taking care of my woman for myself. this means financially, emotional and spending time together. not forget to add that am good on the other room. maximum satisfaction. am all about pleasure. i have a saying food and sex go together, add wine if you like.

i never thought it will be difficult for me,its not really that am asking for too much. a brief summary of what i really want in a woman is someone that loves me and someone that i love also. is that too much to ask?. am asking for too much?

My name is..., lets just call me z. am 28 years of age, graduate and currently working even though it's a small job i got, it atleast take care of my bills, we have a lot of family men who is doing my job, its customer service agent job, am writing this today because am having difficulties in finding A SERIOUS GF/ FUTURE WIFE . it has always been my desire to marry when am 30 years and enjoy my life and family in my youth. but it seems that plan is failing as i currently have no person am dating after trying to get for 3 years now. single to stupor

the girls am meeting nowadays, its either they like me and i don't like them or i like them and they dont like me, ever since i left my past relationship. getting a serious one has be nearly impossible, don't get me wrong, getting a girl is not difficult, or getting sex. what has been difficult is getting someone that meet my requirements.

this requirements which i consider as 'very important' is what i want to share with you all, i really need advice, is there anything i need to chop off the list. am i asking for too much. check out my list.

1. RELIGION AND CONVICTION ; for religion i want some that believes in God and fear God. a good or fair Christian. not over religion, not a church goer, just normal regular christian, what i mostly interested in is your conviction, what do you truly believe in, take for example do believe in purposely hurting other people just to help yourself, cheating by all means, to have your way, what do you think about yahoo, good or bad?. those kind of things.

2.EMOTION : i think they is where am having much issues because one of my criteria is that i most like you. as in love you and i must be sure that you love me too. as much as i love you or even more than, but what i get to discover is that when i meet a girl i like, she doesn't like me or not as much as its required, that makes me too back down because i have seen relationship where the girl doesnt like the guy, maybe she just with him for some gains or something, it doesn't end well, and even if you go ahead with the relationship, you won't enjoy it, YOU ENDURE IT!. i have also had girls that likes me like mad, some practically worship me and will do exactly as i asked them to, but the truth of the matter is that it can't work, i know it cnt i have tried it before, the babe go dey annoy me even when she has done nothing wrong, i can't show her off and i dont believe its even a relationship, the last one i try i had to break everything off cos i notice it was affecting her. and i know it's going nowhere, ever since then i promised never to do that again. this was 3 years back. the thing wen a girl likes you and you like the girl, you but can build together and trust each other

3. PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTE i am also having a big issue with this one, the thing here is that, i want a tall or fairly tall girl, reason is that am not a very tall guy and i want someone complimentary. i can't marry a short girl, no matter how much she tick the rest boxes, it can't happen, i need some my height or a little bit taller than me, but the problem am having now is most girls like tall guy s. me finding a tall girl that likes me seems to be a mission impossible.


another thing is a fine girl, here am attracted to fine girls, i don't need to deceive anyone, that's what i want, but on the part she don't have to be over fine, just don't be ugly is fine, am a very fine dude facially so... we are good.

another thing is ass,boobs yes its on the list too, i don't like big boobs once a girl has big boobs she is not an option. ass is what i like but not those over big. monstrous ass. a good big ass, i always say it's not about the size but the shape. so that it, medium boobs, big ass, nice shape, fairly fine facially,

4. finance and education: i need some one who is goal driving and fight hard to get what she want. some who strives to be successful. and who can be an asset instead of a liability. it's that simple, and last some who is educated to tertiary level or have a brain like that.


so what do you guys think? is there any pace i need to adjust. am in my firends wedding as am typing this. my man done rush marry, lol

my own father have disown me because i didnt respect his first son

as you watch get your PVC

yes sure...

it sha never be well with any body that will vote for APC....
yes it has gotten to that.

what is now the value of life in Nigeria

reno is working hard for his money...

as you and i, nothing for us so you better vote wisely, and forget this reno guy supporting a northerner after 8 painful years of buhari

Update...

So today is Saturday, I was waiting for her to come, and she actually did, she called me around 12 pm that she was around my area. And would love to see me. So I directed herto my house.

As someone said in the comment section here,she came but she came with a guy.
I don't know if I should say am disappointed o, it's not like I have any ulterior motives or any thing like that.

So we talked, I allowed them do their preaching, she was all smiling through out the discussion. For her mind she don win soul. I was practically free and not doing anything so I just let them entertain me. But to honest the babe knows her onions.

So they later invited me to their "church cell meeting" holding by 5 pm. We prayed and then later went their way.

4:50 pm my phone starting ringing. Me that am sleeping. I just quickly put in on silent mood. After about 30 mins. I heard knock on my door. Went I opened omo. Na this same preacher girl. I wanted to get angry buy I remain calm. Seeing the effort that she is putting in. I told her I won't be to come. But she insisted. She paid my bike fair I we went there together. Do you know that this girl refused to enter same bike with me. As in eh. I boarded another seperate bike. When I asked her. She said I should not worry.

We go to the cell meeting. Omo I thought the first girl had yansh. Until I meet their cell meeting leader. Omo see yansh and see what she wearing Gon!
Omo make I no lie, my head burst. So after they cell meeting. They assigned me to another girl. Due to my location. She said we would long to me to come to church tomorrow . That she will come to my house to pick me up.

Am just giving this update but I promised to.so you guy know how it went. Am indifferent about the whole issues.

Royalty83:
This is really interesting. Like Tinubu, like Shettima.

These are serious guys who care about nothing other than competence and result. They don’t care about your religion or ethnicity. They bring people who can get things done together.

I’ve been asking for the names of Peter Obi’s commissioners and appointees since without getting any response. That guy has not supported or mentored anyone since he became governor. He’s just all about himself and nothing else.

Peter Obi Pandora is a national disaster that is waiting to happen. Dude doesn’t even understand the diversity and complexity of Nigeria. A bigot like him must never be allowed anywhere near Aso Rock.

you are fool and you know it!

Softboy001:
I was coming from work, I Don't have money on me to take Keke back home so I decided trek, I was walking when one fine tall girl stopped me,

She said she wanted to talk to me, damn! She is not really fine just average but she got the body as in eh... I didn't actually notice at first, I only looked at her face but after she said what she wanted to say and was going back, that's when I look back and saw the ass. Omo... Well that's not what I want to discuss

...well like I was saying I didn't look at her face so I kinda gave her a cold response when she said she wants to talk to me, the truth is that I was in a hurry and from the looks of things she wants to preach to me.

I first asked are you Jehovah witness, she said no, then I said you can proceed, she laughed and started preaching as we walk. I was in hurry and I could tell that she cant keep up with my speed so I just manage to slow down.

... So she started preaching o, preach and preach and preach that I should give my life to Christ. I told her am a Christian and I have already gave my life to Christ.

Now this is what shocked me and why am bringing this here.

The babe said she would like to have my number and come to my house to share the word of God with me when am free....?

Omo everything became suspicious to me, I didn't say anything Sha. I said okay and then gave her my number. But am just thinking about all evening like that girl try sha. Somebody you don't know before. You to go to his house and share the word of God. Na wa o.


Now there is a little thing that happened and I was suspecting that maybe she knows me before or something. So when I gave her my number, she asked for my surname. I gave her. It happens that she knows my younger sister. We got to know this through the name, now let me explain why this is impossible or rare.

My family is in Benin, I am the only one in Lagos. And also I have not been to Lagos for like 10years. I came some months ago. I schooled in auchi, my your sis and this girl schooled in unn. I have never been to unn. I don't know any of my sis friends. Could it that she recognized me from maybe my pics on my sister's phone. But my younger sis graduated years ago 2017.

I am just thinking about this since I got home so I said let me share with ers.

updates....

so Saturday came and went, she did not come, and i didn't have her number or anything like that. i have even forgetten about her self but yesterday, she called around about 5-6 pm, she introduced her self and i quickly remembered so she said that she wanted to come to my house that very time to pray with me. unfortunately i was still at work, i was just closing and haven't even gone home yet, i told her i was busy and that am still at work so we rescheduled for on Saturday cos thats when i can be free.

KristaPretty:
A stranger asked fir your surname and you mentioned

Women are powerful sha

lol she came preaching the gospel naw

no need to feel that way, everyone goes through a development and re-development stage.

what your friend need now is to gather confidence with a little bit of packaging and try as much as to really study the business he is in charge of.

tips try and always much use of people in the know.

SmartPolician:
There are many dedicated girls in Pentecostal churches in Nigeria. They often ask for your details so they can follow up and convince you to join their church.

Saying she will visit you may be a strategy she uses to get young guys to drop their contacts. Afterwards, she won't visit you. Instead, the church will be calling and sending you text messages to worship with them.

if she actually do come to my place, i am going to be disappointed in her...
considering the situation in the country now that is bad move to just see a guy on the street you dont know before and then you follow him to his house in the name of evangelism. that is careless and risky.

Iamicekid:
Wait make she call first, and after that, wait again until she comes to your crib first alone then u can start having all this unnecessary ideas in your head

i am not even having any ideas in my head but then again anything can happen

Silentgroper:
She didnt get ur address, so she definitely isnt coming..

she asked though, i just told her the place and then told her when she is ready she can call me. she asked when i said Saturday and then we agreed saturday
so on saturday we will see what will happen, i will keep you guys post. hopefully she not reading this

I was coming from work, I Don't have money on me to take Keke back home so I decided trek, I was walking when one fine tall girl stopped me,

She said she wanted to talk to me, damn! She is not really fine just average but she got the body as in eh... I didn't actually notice at first, I only looked at her face but after she said what she wanted to say and was going back, that's when I look back and saw the ass. Omo... Well that's not what I want to discuss

...well like I was saying I didn't look at her face so I kinda gave her a cold response when she said she wants to talk to me, the truth is that I was in a hurry and from the looks of things she wants to preach to me.

I first asked are you Jehovah witness, she said no, then I said you can proceed, she laughed and started preaching as we walk. I was in hurry and I could tell that she cant keep up with my speed so I just manage to slow down.

... So she started preaching o, preach and preach and preach that I should give my life to Christ. I told her am a Christian and I have already gave my life to Christ.

Now this is what shocked me and why am bringing this here.

The babe said she would like to have my number and come to my house to share the word of God with me when am free....?

Omo everything became suspicious to me, I didn't say anything Sha. I said okay and then gave her my number. But am just thinking about all evening like that girl try sha. Somebody you don't know before. You to go to his house and share the word of God. Na wa o.


Now there is a little thing that happened and I was suspecting that maybe she knows me before or something. So when I gave her my number, she asked for my surname. I gave her. It happens that she knows my younger sister. We got to know this through the name, now let me explain why this is impossible or rare.

My family is in Benin, I am the only one in Lagos. And also I have not been to Lagos for like 10years. I came some months ago. I schooled in auchi, my your sis and this girl schooled in unn. I have never been to unn. I don't know any of my sis friends. Could it that she recognized me from maybe my pics on my sister's phone. But my younger sis graduated years ago 2017.

I am just thinking about this since I got home so I said let me share with ers.

Iru is the name of my village
Iru Egbede but I still don't like this iru...


I never group up with it

May buhari never happened to Nigeria again
May tinubu never happened to Nigeria
May APC never happen to Nigeria

Get your PVC! Vote wisely

Romanoff:
Section 204 of Nigeria's Criminal code.

I actually did my findings just to be sure and I can tell you for a fact there a big issue with the constitution. Dear southern Nigeria, Nigeria is not for you and your future generations.

Romanoff:
Blasphemy against any religion in Nigeria is punishable by a 2 year jail term.

We are all for learning, show us where it is in the constitution

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Please where in the constitution is it written that blasphemy is a crime?

What happened to freedom of speech in Nigeria. That fact that some northern people are justifing the killing is worrisome. Blasphemy, to the best of my knowledge is not a crime and we live in a country where the constitution is supreme and religion laws does not and will never be biding on citizens. This worrying. Is Nigeria is country or a Islamic state? Blasphemy is not a crime!!!

What I want to understand is why will a religious law be a biding law to people who do not practice the religious.

My worry is that these belief is widely spread in the north and seen as supreme above the constitution. So people who do not practice same religion as the Muslims is compel to either obey their religious law or die.

It's worrisome because it's what these people believe to be absolutely right! And justice. And nobody is saying anything about it. The North and the South has different believe system.

Don't study Engineering. Do economics and statistics. Start a YouTube channel. Focus on business. Don't trust your family buy bit coin

Fair enough. I have heard. Thanks

I have been nursing a business idea for a long time (6 months) now and I have have been saving towards. Currently I have save up to 220k.

I must say through my study I have come to discover that this business is all about location. Last month I tried looking around for a place but all the place I got doesn't not fit the business. And I know for a certain that the business won't do well, if I decide to put in any of those places.

So when i was nursing this idea, there is a particular store i wanted, this store checks all the boxes for my business to thrive

Space
Accessibility
Availability
Market.
School
Less competition

But the issue now is that, there someone already in the shop doing. One of d business I will like to add to the main business I want to be doing there. Although not the main business I want to do there. So the business I want to do on d store is actually 3. The man is doing just one.

So recently, 2 days back April 24th. I saw the man that occupied the store packing, I asked why he was packing. Neighbors told that he family don't want him to stay there because of his drinking habit. ( The place is close to a bar,The man dey waste he life) well that's not my business.

So as at yesterday, I went to meet the landlady of the place to acquire about the place.
So she gave me the break down.

Rent is 150k total package is 250k.

And as it stands now I only have 220k. I can hustle round I get 30k. But after that I would need another 150k to set that place up and running. ( I have already bought some equipment, in preparation of the business).

My issues now is should I go ahead and take the shop, am kind of scared because that my life savings and what if I don't get d remaining 150k.
What now happens?
These things are running through my mind, I can't sleep.

Please nairaland business gurus what do you think?
I have a friend he said I should take the shop first and then use 1 month to look for the money even it's to borrow. Currently I work as a costumer service agent. My salary can't cover it. I can't get 100k in a month talk less of 150k. My salary is just 45k. Per month.

Please I would like to know what you guys think. I have just today or tomorrow or someone else will take the shop.

Please, if you can't help me with money, help me with good advice, I will appreciate it.
I will be in the comment section.

i have asked this question but nobody answerwd me...
meaning you have to searched for things you self, go to the market and find out things for yourself

guys any advice?

i currently work as an intern, in a big firm, its a big firm both my pay is very small, 45k finding a good job has been very difficult so am planing to go into business but i dont want to make mistakes.

i have manage to save up 400k, and am looking for a small business that i do to get extra income added to my salary job i am not looking for any online business

so far 2 businesses idea have entered my mind, i want to know what you guys think about it. any ideas, or advice or comments
for people already on it, please i would love to hear from you

1.keke napep {daily payment}

2.game shop.


am more interested in the game shop, i have done my research very well and i have a very good location. but i need some advice from people that are already on it... please whats the con of this business, what are the challenges i should expect