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It is usually a long road to success. No short cut. You must be ready to persevere. You must also be sure that you are on the right track because some long roads too are long because its the wrong route. To achieve this, you must interact contnuously with real neutral people who are doing well in their relationship or marriage to guide and nurtute you. It is not a one off solution or advice.

Take note of "neutral" . By this, I mean avoid advice from people whose advice can be tainted or biased for some reasons= ties, religion etc.
Lastly, you need to relax, what do you mean by broke guys? you must be open minded to try new things. Thats when you learn first hand.
Goodluck.

Pls call or mail the attached
Domestic violence n sextual abuae response team at Alausa, Lagoa

Ireboya:
Death is inevitable..we all are gonna die

Since you know this, go and die nau or what are you waiting for? As if you wish to die anyhow, anytime and anywhere or under any circumstance.

My sincere condolences to the family of the victims.

May their souls rest in peace

My former landlord at international airport road, ajao estate.

Sun re o

And you could not state the location(s) of the said free school(s).

Instead posting the location/address of the Church

What kind of reportage is this?

fafaafrica:
My dear, let the truth be said, he scammed you, my case is quite similar to yours. I was living with him in Australia, was tricked in coming to Nigeria for the holidays that was in 2014, now I am divorced, my visa cancelled. So my dear if you still have your UK visa leave o! Before depression set in, talking from experience. Cheers!

How can she leave when she has 3 kids to tske of?

Hangulsaram:
What was a mistake, Please how do you guys define that word mistake?
Simply it was a past and beside she and the boyfriend separated at that period unless she is lying.
@ Op, pick his call and know what he has to say. If he talks about having relationship with you whether open or secret, then run away from the guy and also make sure you let your fiancée know about it to avoid story and the fulture.
I know your fear could be that you lied to your fiance that no one ever shine ur condo during that period that you guys seperated and now how can you tell him that you did then.

And yet you are asking what was a mistake

worworbabe:
Dont pick his call ooooo. why is he calling you?


He can record your conversation and use it against you. He has no business with you and should not be calling you.

Does not matter if he records the conversation so long as she is careful what she says and uses it to set the record straight

I suggest you pick his call and make sure the conversation is recorded. In the alternative, you can let the conversation be on a chat, maybe whatsapp, but if he is smart and have ulterior motive he may avoid chatting with you on it.

If his intention during the conversation is genuine and understanding, then no cause for alarm but if he is trying to blackmail you or betray his friend, then you can use the recorded message or voice call as evidence against him before your fiance. It is only at this point that you should tell your fiance.

Now, after telling him, he has to choose between you and his friend and I believe he will choose you moreso his friend has betrayed him.

It very difficult and if not impossible for a guy to be with a wife that his friend/relative has slept with. It is totally different if the friend was wooing you or had only dated you without sex.

It is good that this came up before your marriage, so brace up and sort it out now.
It is better to loose him now before the marriage than after the marriage. And remember there is someone perhaps even better than him out there.

Never again in your life should you have sex with someone you have no feelings for when you are not a prostitute.

This man cannot and should never be trusted again by you if you know what you are doing.
So keep him at a safe distance from now on so that you can get your life back on track.

Also note that travelling up and down from one country to another is not the solution to your financial needs. Otherwise, your previous stay in UAE should have proved me wrong. He is now in UK and the situation has not changed but rather worse. So why do you still think it will if you move to Canada? Later you will think the solution is in Australia. Getting a job either, can only give you minimum wage that will lead you no where. So find something you are passionate about, be very good at it and concentrate on it as a business. Thank me later. If you must travel out, it must only be to get more skills or visit or for business
I can mentor you as per business and you can't go wrong. And never expect that I will ask you for your 1 naira. [color=#000099][/color]
You already have 3 kids and that's a full hand already. So you have a lot of work to do.

I know it will be difficult to forget about this man but in the circumstance it is the best thing to do not just now but finally so that you can break the yoke.
A wrong marriage will only produce wrong results.

I didn't know its so bad that criminals could wear full police uniform with hilux pick up and station by road side in broad daylight and kidnap people without being detected, challenged and traced.

I believe the high command of some security agencies may be involved.

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planetx:
America and Western countries in general are set up for you to give back the system the money you made. Desperation of living in America for decades with nothing to show probably forced her to turn to crime.

And now also force to do the time

Many erroneously think America is so easy to make money, if so, why would this lady who lived in US for over two decades still involve in drug trafficking and fraud?
Truth is, anywhere in the world you find yourself you must be ready to work hard legitimately to break even. There is no shortcut to real success.

Now the lady has messed up her self as well as her tribe, Nigerians and Africans as a whole.

Pls don't break up with her simply on the account of this confession. Don't get carried away either, into believing that she truly loves you to have willingly made the confessions without you asking. If you can handle it, since she started it, ask her all that is still missing concerning her past so as to be able to understand her issues and advice her properly.
Focus more on your present relationship with her and what the future holds for both of you and not on the past because everybody sure have their own baggage.

If with what you have said, you still don't know what to do at this point. Then I won't bother myself telling you what to do because I am certain you won't do it.

Guest007:
Bruv... He could lead what or who he wants but the brick and water belongs to the family. Stop this bs mantra of returning to some man's house or the other!

African women should invest in properties

A man's money belongs to the family. Yes, its fine and ok with everyome but a woman's money is not so, and that's what needs to stop.
As for me, whatever I have belongs to my family-wife n kids. It does not change the fact that its still my house and the things inside it including my wife and kids.

These ones really tried but still got busted even though their prey will still defend them.
Not surprised, you suspend the use of your brain the moment you chase miracles as against working to get problems solved or things done.

Filmewell:
Bros which one is in my house again? So na visitor she be?

Sorry if you feel offended by that. So I change it to "our" or "their" house. But truth be told, the man is the head of the house and it was in that light I made the statement. Afterall, there cannot be two captain in a ship.

I have read your story and I strongly believe your marital problem is beyond what you see or know so far.
Your statement that "we got married in 2013 and she got pregnant that same month" sparks serious suspicion, moreso that was the turning point of your relationship from your story.
I suspect that 1st pregnancy may not be yours and that could be the real reasons for her weird behaviours. So pls my advice to you is to first go do a DNA test on the first child.
If the test confirms my suspicion, then your perceived love for her will die instantly. If the test is otherwise, you then just have to be decisive and take charge of your marriage or there is no marriage. Not violently though, but by standing your ground for what you can and cannot take. Imagine, somebody is my wife, in my house and does only as she pleases. Not possible except you allow it. So man up!!!

I am convinced that in some years to come our great great grand children will look back and imagine how stupid and barbaric we were to have inflicted so much pain on our fellow men,.all in the name of boxing!

festacman:
Trust Teebillz to arrange stuff. Packaging of Tacha has started, from news of websites of radio stations crashing to dead people waking on seeing Tacha.

Let them be fooling themselves

This move only confirms that apart from her attitudinal problem, Tacha is also very stupid for her not to have known that that guy (don't care whatever he calls himself) was very high on drugs when he made that statement. Shior

Any man that does not fear woman is only waiting for his own downfall.
The fear of women is the beginning of wisdom.

LillyVal:
Dear average Nigerian married men, hope you learned something from Mike O Edwards of BBN 4?

Infidelity is a choice.
You are responsible for what you do with your penis.
You cheat or misbehave because you want to or you are a dog, not because you can't control yourself.

Mike lived 99 days with different beautiful ladies of different sizes, complexion, height and shapes.
He saw them in skimpy outfits, shared bathrooms and bedrooms with them, but not for once did we see his boner.

Not for once did he behave inappropriately around any of them.

He respected himself, his wife, his wedding vows and his brand, even though he knows our society would have made excuses for him or forgiven him easily if he had messed around with any of the girls in that house.

Remember this when next you want to make silly excuses for philandering husbands or put the blame on wives of cheating men.

Remember this when next you justify sleeping with the house help, sister inlaw, colleague, neighbour, wife's best friend or your side chick.

Like or hate Mike, he really set a good standard for married men in that house.
He made a point.

Man like Mike!

Mike conducted himself very well while in the house. And he was rewarded by the voters. But let me say that you may be making a mistake if you judge him solely on only what you see on d bbn show because I belief it was all a strategy. Besides, he knows there was camera everywhere. My point is,everybody in that house no matter what at some point, most times, or throughout acted for the camera.
Lastly, he has his queen!!!

Noel1:
Assuming both d poor nd d rich go to hell ( Which of course is d most suitable hypothetical case to reference here).

The rich would have had d best of his time on d earth while d poor would have to suffer twice...

So could u tell me how u came how came to ur conclusion that d "rich loses more"?

I already did. Ok let me put it in another way. Someone who came with nothing, but gathered so much and still left with nothing compared to someone who came with nothing, gathered nothing and of course left with nothing.
All I have been saying is that no matter how much you have, in terms of money and power, you are useless if you do not positively affect lives. I would have respected her if It was about her good works e.g lifting mankind up which can be done in many ways as we see people like Bill Gates do.
Funny enough, In Nigeria, the poor or not too rich people touch lives more than the super rich who does practically nothing to get rich other than being "connected" with the powers that be. And it pains me to see our people celebrate them.
It is the other way round abroad They value life and love unconditionally to the extent that they love even animals- pets.
No wonder they are far ahead of us.
Here we derive joy seeing people around us suffer, we want to oppress others, never ready to share what ordinarily belongs to ALL. Enough said.

Noel1:
The riches of d rich can't take him to heaven, and so is d poverty of d poor.

So who loses more? The poor

I already said it is her good deeds before God that guarantees her making heaven.
As to who loses more? It is the rich who after gaining the world, lose his own soul. He came to the world with nothing and will leave with nothing.

I hope she knows that these monetised awards cannot take her to heaven but her good deeds before God.

Even Big Brother that made money from putting Tacha in the house did not give her 50m talkless of Jaruma. She Jaruma must be high on somthing when she made the video promising to give her 50m

Timi Dakolo, you will grow up one day and realize that this is not the best picture of your wife and mother of your kids to share to the whole world on her birthday.
Beyond the birthday wishes, it is clear that you are loudly saying and portraying other things that are absolutely unnessary and unbecoming of decent a family.