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never kiss anybody until you see the results of their STD test, yuck!

thinking that you are the only person with a good heart is like thinking the earth is the center of the universe,

there are alot of good people with good hearts in this world, believe it,

but know the different between falling in love AND falling in love with the IDEA of falling in love, there's a big difference,

Its smart to carry condoms and even smarter to get tested for HIV and STDS often,

Never let somebody trick you into unsafe sex, never feel guilty about protecting your 1 life, because nobody can replace it,

Richvkunt:
The world would be a much peaceful place if every one knew and accepted their role in this journey called life.
Men are meant to be providers.Women are meant to be submissive to their men,in the bedroom and in the kitchen.
That is natural.
The problem is women refuse to accept their natural role and this is the cause of tension all over the world and on this forum NL.
Men are by nature polygamous,there is no man that can stick to ONE woman,except you are a virgin or a sanctimonious fool,pretending on NL,with the hope that one of the females is gonna hook up with you.
Men and women shouild accept their natural roles created for them by nature.Trying to go against this creates tension and war of the genders.
I wish the men and women would stick to their natural and proper roles:the world would be so peaceful.
Please I do not hate women as some females on this forum always try to suggest,the simple fact is I do not take them serious at all;
Women are created to be playthings for men,they should please know their roles!
Rant over,am out!

That must be the logic of a r-a-p-i-s-t,  Who else wants to control another human being? in the bedroom?, grow up!

Nature doesn't have to be declared, it just is, 

If a man is what he thinks he is then it will be reflected in his mate. A weak man is bound to have a weak woman.

I love an intelligent woman that can challenge & stimulate me mentally. An educated woman will keep me motivated to be more educated.

Life isn't about food and sex! You are a fool to summarize a human being as a cook and a sex slave, when she could be so much more AND your loving wife,

nothing is wrong as long as she has alot of money,

Reanaa:
Wat's with this spiritual stuff?
then a woman shud,nt live in the same house with her hubby during her flow or wat?

where else is she going to go? he has to deal with that for decades he better figure it out!

all a woman needs is her maxi pads and a little bit space for a few days, if she using the right pads she probably wont stain her panties, but thats something her mother should have taught her,

kandiikane:
This is not about washing underwear but washing it with blood stains on it. . .

Its spiritually unclean

Oooooooooooooooooo!In that case, never!, we call those "period panties" and they should be thrown away!

Any stained underwear should be thrown in the garbage especially if its stained with blood, otherwise that extremely nasty! yuck!

First thing, #1 rule in a relationship is "you should never have to wonder", if you "ever have to wonder" then your mate is guilty, because an honest person always has the power
to clarify a situation, but when they don't try, or if they try to make excuses instead of shedding complete light, then consider them a liar,

You should be offended that he has lied to you over and over, Asks yourself, why do you want to be with a liar?

It also seems that you were taking advantage of by an older man. Im curious to know what his age was when he first started dating you.

You have your whole life ahead of you. Get an education, exercise, eat healthy and live a positive lifestyle and good men will always beat at your door.

deal with a broken heart the same way you should deal with any emotional pain, Head on!

its okay to face the facts of what happened and KNOW that it wasn't meant to be,

its okay to admit what you loved the most and miss the most and its okay to be hurt about it at the same time,

just KNOW that you guys had your time and now that time has passed, another chapter to log in the journey, keep it moving,

Never Ever ever, let a failed relationship tear you down, Do whatever it takes, if need be, to remind yourself of your value and true beauty and you'll feel much better!

i could, relationships should be filled with washing each others underwear,

anybody that basis manhood on a piece of fabric is weak,

alj_harem:
who cares even if u are obama

secondly, fraud is a universal thing so it should not amaze u in any form

it amazes me to think u can express your amazment

The Nigerian Stock Exchange is a joke in regards to hiring this clown, that will never happen in America.

And yes it amazes me how far American credentials can get you in Nigeria, real or fake, and thats a shame. Its a shame that in a country that "hates" Americans you contradict yourselves by praising anything with an American stamp, even at the hands of your own criminals, smh

he is a weirdo, i advise you to leave him alone, sounds like he was going to r-a-p-e you in the hotel , very suspect, leave that guy alone

", he just left"

As a Black American, it amazes me how much fraud comes out and to Nigeria, It really is a shame

Love is always true, its the people that are false,

If she's happy then let her be, If African Men cared about her happiness then it would be nothing else to think,

JW believe in the sanctity of marriage. They believe in the chaperoned system whereby there's always at least another person during a date.
They don't believe in fornication and they support their beliefs with action. JW are Christians that have very strict dating customs similiar to devout muslims.

Im not a JW.

Araboy:
I don't think I can carry a conversation with someone so out in touch with African reality its pathetic that you call South Africa a racist country when the country is ruled by the ANC and the black majority maybe instead of looking for African women you need to get better education since more these African women immigrants are attending Ivy league School in Harvard Princeton and Columbia Universities  Bro you such a joke and African women are out of your reach and league

I think you are correct and in a different "league" and we shouldn't continue this conversation if you think that segregation by wealth and class isn't a problem just because of the ANC. Thats like me saying that Blacks in America control all the wealth in America just because Obama was elected to Presidency.

You keep on with your trumpet talking about how rich, fair and equal South African is, keep on preaching that propaganda! Cause its false information which is obviously what you can here to share,

Underestimating the value of intelligence in a relationship is worse then underestimating the sexual connection.

See eventually you're going to need more than a "body" for companionship and calling her an "idiot" inward or outwardly is going to be frustrating.

In fact, settling for 2nd and 3rd place is why so many people start to cheat,

If you can't honestly ask yourself why you want to be with somebody that is stupid, then I suggest you consider just being good friends.

toyemz:
@poster
$50,000?
you dont have anything to do with that money
pls come and marry me and we can divorce just before the last cent is spent
think about this proposal please
im dead serious

Its people that will do it for $15,000,  I wouldn't tarnish something that special unless we talking at least $1,000,000, lol, Im sorry, Im a contractor, I can make 50,000 in 3 months,


I was just curious and I appreciate the feedback, but this will be last thread that I will ever start of this subject matter.

However, I do welcome positive networking with honest people.

Araboy:
@ OP you need to get schooled about Africa Arabs never colonized or been in need of African resources
North African countries are by far the most rich and developed countries in the continent they have the highest GDP along with South Africa

The same so called "African Arabs" that have the wealth don't believe in sharing but killing and defiling poor women and children seems to meet their funding agenda.

You speak of South Africa as if its the blacks with the money, as if the people that have been their for century have any real money, You are a joke! Until the north and the south does more for the middle you will always sound ridiculous defending greedy racist countries.

Mrs.Chima:
You also can use the quote button that is above each chatter post when you are replying to them.  FYI.  

Yes, China is a trip though.  I was watching CNN along with a few people you should hear what they are calling China now.  It is not nice I will tell you.

Thanks for telling how to use quotes,

Broke my last Plasma watching the Bulls game so No CNN for a week

That is exactly right! It is the UN-Americanized African woman that has the swagger Im interested in.

Excuse me, if you thought I were referring to the Kin of African sell-outs and tricks driving taxi cabs with no drivers license, because I wasn't.

Black American men with nothing to show are usually the ones with the most to say and I see not much is different over there in Africa.

Why go to Africa?, I would never travel to Africa JUST to find a woman, that's not the point, Nor was I singling out Nigerian women, Nor do a prefer uneducated women.

I would never date a woman on a vine and that lives her life naked.

Haven't you experienced enough exploitation by European nations to be throwing daggers at your "own"?


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Invest in my "own" ghettos ?, The ghettos in America are filled with every race of people and NONE are turning down help, You sound stupid to be encouraging Black Americans not to support Africans, while your country's resources are being raped by Europe the Arabs and now China,

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If this negativity toward black Americans dating Nigerian women is everyday then I look forward to dating in Nigeria!

Yea, that's true in alot of communities,

But see Black Americans and White Americans have come a long way since our grandparents, but America has not changed in the same amount as a whole.

I think all immigrants in general are put in predicament of choosing a side and that choice is often made on the basis of the old days.

Also, blacks in general don't have the natural empathy towards anybody outside of their own "box". There's natural motivation to the history behind the man, we instead settle
for what only "seems to be" without the historical context or without a modern working knowledge of whats really going on in 2011,

I love my American sistas don't get me wrong but I definitely don't view African women through the negative stereotypes I grew up around.

More importantly is to introduce Inky as one positive sistas to another positive brother. Maybe it will be our children that the romance is meant for,

Okay, this is interesting discussing,

My experience is that black men are marrying outside of their "own" more without resistance in America, but I think more Black Men prefer a Black Woman of any shade,

Its funny and ironic when I recall some of the womanizing discussion I had with Nigerian men right here in Chicago. Its contradictory for an African woman to infer "baby mama drama" is
the reason not to date a black man, when so many Nigerian men are popping out illegitimate children left and right. Oh well, thats another topic,

I love this forum, it has so many challenging topics that need to be discussed,  I appreciate you all and I look forward to more.

Im a Black American man that lives in Chicago, IL,  I love my brothers and sisters throughout Africa, and I love the poise and beauty of the women there. But there are tremendous barriers between us.

#1. distance
#2. culture & tradition
#3. stereotypes / generalized negative perceptions ( so much distrust)
, the list goes on and on,

I wish that the things that keep us apart were fewer than what could keep us together but it is not so.

What are you guys thoughts? Good and Bad.


(FYI - my future investments in Africa will NOT be based on Romance but for the faith and love I have for the motherland and its people)

@tpia, i'm not offering, i just wanted to know what the numbers were based on a debate I was having outside of this forum, ty 4 ur feedback

Okay, it seems obvious whats going on with the African men marrying Black American women, but what about African women marrying Black American men?

From what I see, African women don't do it nearly as much as the men do. Also, its rare to see African women with black American men, regardless of income or beauty.

Well first of all, the Africans that tend to marry the "fat ugly" sisters are usually fresh off the boat and of course older people. But young "attractive" africans that immigrate to America can marry American born "nigerians" or anybody elses that shares a positive opinions about their looks, there chances are as good as any.

I personally see the beauty in all blacks in all countries and think its ridiculous for people not to see their brothers and sisters as their own, across any ocean. In that context, this issue(marrying for citizenship) is more about preying upon the weak and desperate.